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INSECURE ATTACHMENT IS WOUNDED POLARITY

If there is attraction, there is polarity… Always.

But what that polarity is, and how it plays out, really depends on what is driving it.

Just like a magnet
Attraction is always to an opposite
A feminine being yearns for her masculine
A masculine being pursues his feminine

Attraction is not rational, however.
And, sadly, the nature of this day and age
Has given us more kinks
Than we know how to handle.

The masculine…
So stoic, so independent, so freedom focused
When wounded
He does not know how truly embody this freedom
Instead he pushes away, hides his feelings, becomes untouchable.
In a man, or a woman, we call this:
Avoidant.

The feminine…
So receptive, so intimate, so relationally focused
When wounded
She does not know how to truly relax into intimacy
Instead she clings, overshares her feelings, becomes needy.
In a woman, or a man, we call this:
Anxious

These two poles… avoidant and anxious
They dance together in a dysfunctional tango of suffering
Push and pull
Break up and make up
It’s hot, but it’s also not.

This is a polarity.
The wounded masculine fights for his freedom at the expense of any relationship.
The wounded feminine fights for connection at the expenses of herself.
Together they tear apart any possibility of the true depths of intimacy available.

Because in order to find attraction with our mate,
We always need polarity.
And if we haven’t healed our nervous systems.
Haven’t discovered how to bond as integrated adults.
Then what you will find is this wounded dance.
Where love withers and the petals of hope fall without renewal.

To truly know the possibilities of masculine and feminine polarity though
Is to grow beyond the insecurity.

Passion thrives in Secure Relating.

~Damien Bohler
Art: Finders Keepers

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WHEN PARENTS GET OLD...

Let them age with the same love they gave you as you grew. Listen to their repeated stories with the same patience and interest they showed when you were a child. Let them win, as they often let you. Allow them to enjoy their friends, just as they let you enjoy yours. Cherish their conversations with their grandchildren, for they see a part of you in them. Respect the objects that have been part of their lives for so long, as they feel a deep loss when these are taken away. Allow them to make mistakes, as they did not shame you for yours. LET THEM LIVE and strive to make them happy in the final stretch of their journey. Hold their hand, just as they held yours when you began your path! ❤

"Honor your mother and father, and your days shall be long upon the earth."

The easiest way of catching a flu is by hanging out with someone with a flu. The easiest way to catch bad habits is by hanging out with those with bad habits. Never underestimate the power of association because iron sharpens iron.

You can't be different from those you closely associate with. Your association will determine your acceleration in life. You can be found with people who are going nowhere and expect to go somewhere.

It is important to mention though that it is not only the people you are found with that will influence you but the people you follow on social media, the songs you listen to, the books you read etc. Just because someone is an influencer doesn't mean you should follow them. Learn to distinguish between a positive influencer and a negative influencer. Sadly many are bored in life and have no direction and are therefore looking for entertainment more than education. The truth is some of you have been found in bad situations because of negative influencers. Ask yourself if what you are learning from that person you are following is making you better or it's just putting you under unnecessary pressure and competition. Ask yourself what you would lose if you unfollowed that person. Maybe you are just being used to make money for others.

People who don't increase you will definitely reduce you. Choose people who inspire. Don't follow blindly. In the long run it will be you that will be hurt. Choose wisely.

“I'm now 29 and have 3 kids with my wife, Franziska, who carried and birthed them all like a pro. Here's what I would tell my childless 24-year-old self about how to be a supportive partner during the ‘becoming parents’ phase:

1. Wifey carried baby IN her belly for 9 months. So, you carry baby ON your belly for 9 months every chance you get. Not only does it help her recover but it bonds you to your kid more than imaginable.

2. Wifey is breastfeeding and--while beautiful and fulfilling for her--it's exhausting. So, you change EVERY diaper you can. From diaper #1 onward. You will get over the grossness fast. And you will prevent imbalances and resentment in the relationship; in fact, when all your wife's friends are complaining about how absent and unsupportive their husbands are, your wife will be bragging about you.

3. Make her the decaf coffee every morning. Even if she leaves it cold and forgets to drink it most mornings because she falls back asleep while you're working or (later) taking the kids to school. She was up all night feeding the baby so help start her day in a way that helps her reset.

4. Tell her she is beautiful and help her see that in the moments when she is feeling most self-critical and hopeless about her body. Remind her of times when she achieved goals in the past. Remind her she is a superhero. She literally just moved all her organs around and gained 20 + pounds to give you a child that will be a gift to you for the rest of your life. Help her see past her body image issues and stay focused on a positive goal, one day at a time.

5. Take the heat. Hormones are crazy, both pre and post birth. She won't seem like herself every day and sometimes she will say things she wouldn't say if she didn't feel like she was hungover, caffeinated, and on steroids every day. Remember your job is to be her rock through all of this, so toughen up and keep perspective when her tongue is sharper than you know her best self intends. Normal will return soon and you want her to be grateful that you kept it together when she wasn't, not resentful and disappointed that you hijacked her emotions by making her problems yours.”

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My name is Katelyn Moore and I am 16. When I was in 4th grade, all of my classmates began acquiring smartphones. When I asked my parents for one, their response was “What is your why behind wanting one?”

This question surprised me and I answered with “All my friends have one, I feel left out when they are on theirs, etc.” And while they understood where I was coming from they clarified that they didn’t see the need for one at that point in my life.

While at that moment I was disappointed, looking back I see that they were doing their jobs as my parents to protect me and keep things “age-appropriate”. They were defending me from the threats I didn’t know existed .

I was not given a phone until my freshman year, and I would not have asked for it a moment sooner. Growing up outside of a screen made me who I am today. I have a confidence you can only discover in the real world, not the virtual one and I also have the ability to carry on a conversation while making eye contact. I have many hobbies such as baking, painting, and guitar.

Another thing my parents didn’t allow is social media until I was 16. I am so thankful that they postponed it until I was mature enough to regulate everything that comes with not only such an influential device but social media in itself.

I see my teenage peers struggling with anxiety, loneliness and depression which is yet another reason why I am grateful that my parents waited for me to learn who I am without the world's opinions pushed onto me (beauty standards, life, relationships, perfection, etc).

I realize now I have had a real childhood, one filled with playing outside, imagination, and memories. I also don’t see my parents as strict parents, but as parents who have reasonable restrictions to protect me, and for that I thank them. I was young, naive, and not ready for the world it opens up. This is why I believe we need to let kids be kids a little longer and delay the smartphone!

Thank you, Katelyn !

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The Spiritual Compass with Rebecca Baldwin This page is an exploration of embodied spirituality - for seekers of all faiths.

And on the path of self-acceptance,
These twelve illusions you shall shed:

The illusion of being unwanted:
For, in truth, there is no such thing as an unwanted soul.

The illusion of being unlovable:
For your true self is love.

The illusion of unworthiness:
For you are always deserving of love and success.

The illusion of being weird:
For there is no such thing as normal.

The illusion of needing external validation:
For your worth is never dependent on another's approval.

The illusion of being insignificant:
For your presence impacts all of humanity.

The illusion of being powerless:
For within you lies the strength to shape your destiny and influence the world.

The illusion of not being good enough:
For you were born good enough.

The illusion of being a burden:
For your existence is a precious gift, and your contributions add value.

The illusion of being unsuccessful:
For success is subjective, and your path is uniquely yours.

The illusion of being ugly:
Because that label only ever reflects the viewer being incapable of seeing beauty.

And the illusion that aging decreases your value:
For, in truth, you are not a body but a soul.

Words by Tahlia Hunter

Artwork by Katarína Vavrová Artist

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WHAT IS NOT LOVE

If you need someone to be happy, that's not love.
IT IS LACK.

If you are jealous, insecure and do anything to keep someone by your side, even knowing that you are not loved, and you say that you believe in that person, but not in others, who seem like rivals to you, that is not love.
IT IS LACK OF SELF LOVE.

If you think that your life is empty without that person; You cannot imagine yourself alone and you maintain a relationship that is over just because you do not have a life of your own, that is not love.
IT IS DEPENDENCE.

If you think that the loved one belongs to you; you feel like owner and lord of your life and your body; You don't give him the opportunity to express himself, to make up his mind, just to assert your dominance, that's not love.
IT IS SELFISH.

If you don't want it; you do not fulfill yourself as a man or woman with this person; You prefer not to have intimate relations with that person, however, you feel some pleasure in being next to them, that is not love.
IT'S FRIENDSHIP.

If they argue for any reason; they are dying of jealousy of each other; they don't always make the same plans; they lack agreement in various situations; They don't like doing the same things or going to the same places, but there is a desire to be intimately together, that is not love.
IT IS DESIRE.

If your heart beats stronger; The sweat becomes intense, your temperature rises and falls rapidly, just thinking about the other person, that is not love.
IT IS PASSION.

Now that you know what love is not…
It is easier to analyze what is happening with you and try to resolve the situation or program yourself to attract someone for whom you feel “True Love” that feeling of affection, passion, intimacy and genuine commitment; feeling of emotional and sexual attraction that you have towards a person, and that this person also feels the same for you, so that you can build a balanced relationship, based on true love.

~Nilantha Wanasinghe
Art: unknown

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