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The Power of Slow S*x

Feeling disconnected from your partner? Slow s*x could be the key to reigniting that spark.

Countless couples have transform their relationships by embracing slow s*x. Slow s*x is not just about duration, it's about savoring every touch, every breath, every moment of connection.

For those in s*xless marriages, slow s*x offers a gentle way to rebuild intimacy:

- Start with non-s*xual touch. Give each other a 5-minute hand massage

- Practice eye gazing. Set a timer for 2 minutes and gaze into each other's eyes

- Focus on sensation. Take turns caressing each other's arm for 60 seconds, describing the sensations

- Breathe together. Synchronize your breathing for several minutes before becoming intimate

The goal is to slow down, be present, and truly feel. Let go of expectations and enjoy the journey.

Remember a "S*xless marriage is a dying marriage"

And remember, there's no shame in seeking support. Your intimacy matters. DM me to learn more about working together to revitalize your relationship.

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When your marriage has lost its spark in the bedroom. It's a real problem, and it can make you feel angry, hurt, and resentful. Trust me, you're not the only one going through this.

What can you do when resentment starts building up?

You need to talk to your partner. I know it's not easy, but keeping it all inside only makes things worse. Find a quiet moment and be honest about how you feel. This is not the time to blame, just share what's in your heart.

Sometimes, the lack of s*x is just a symptom of bigger issues. Are you both stressed? Feeling disconnected? It might help to look at the bigger picture of your relationship.

Being close does not always mean having s*x. Sometimes just holding hands or cuddling can help you feel connected again. It's worth a try.

And don't forget to take care of yourself. Do things that make you happy and feel good about yourself. It's not selfish, it's necessary.

Resentment can really damage a relationship if you let it fester. But with some effort and understanding, you can work through this rough patch.

Stop being defensive and manupulative to avoid reality

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Bedroom Habits That Blocks Intimacy?

For many couples, the bedroom can become a place of distraction instead of connection. If intimacy feels distant, here are five simple yet powerful rules to help you in the bedroom

1. Turn off all distractions. Phones, TVs, and tablets can wait.

2. Keep your bedroom sacred. Make it a space only for sleep and intimacy. No work, no tech.

3. Set a ‘do not disturb’ date. Have a weekly time just for you two, no interruptions.

4. Communicate openly. Express your needs positively, focusing on solutions.

5. Prioritize each other. It is about meeting each other’s needs, not just your own.

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Have you noticed how the silence between you and your spouse feels deafening lately because of the lack of intimacy? When intimacy is pushed aside, it doesn’t just affect your physical connection, your emotional bond suffers too. The more intimacy is avoided, the more you start feeling lonely, frustrated, or rejected. Resentment can take root, creating an invisible wall between you and your spouse, and making it difficult for the two of you to communicate, and even reconnect. Avoiding intimacy does not solve the problem, it increases the problem and widen the disconnect.

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Have you ever sat next to your partner, knowing there's something deep and important to talk about, but the words just won’t come out or you are afraid it might cause another argument? Talking about intimacy, especially when it’s lacking, can feel impossible. The fear of rejection, misunderstanding, or even the awkwardness of it all can keep us silent.

But avoiding these conversations only deepens the gap. Many couples in s*xless marriages feel stuck in this cycle, wanting connection but feeling too vulnerable to ask for it. From my experience working with couples, I have seen that this silence stems from fear. Fear of not being enough, fear of being blamed, or fear of damaging the relationship further, Fear of told not today, fear of Time table s*x we had it yesterday not today, fear of No......

What if, instead of focusing on the fear, we focused on creating a safe space for honest communication? When both partners approach these talks with openness and without judgment, real change happens.

Think about this, how would your relationship change if you both could express your needs without feeling judged or ashamed?

Start small. Even saying, "I want us to reconnect but don’t know how" can open the door to deeper, more meaningful conversations.🕺

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Anger in a s*xless marriage is like a silent wildfire, it starts small but can quickly consume everything in its path. Let's face it, when physical intimacy dwindles, resentment often takes its place. Anger can be a powerful force for positive change when channeled correctly.

First, recognize that your anger is valid. It's a natural response to unmet needs and broken expectations. The key is transforming this emotion from a destructive force into a catalyst for growth.

Start by pinpointing the root of your anger. Is it truly about the lack of s*x, or are there deeper issues at play? Often, a s*xless marriage is a symptom of larger problems, communication breakdown, unresolved conflicts, or mismatched libidos.

Once you've identified the core issues, it's time for honest communication. This is not about blame or accusations, but about expressing your needs and listening to your partner's perspective. Remember, you're on the same team.

Next, focus on rebuilding emotional intimacy. Physical connection often follows when emotional bonds are strengthened. Share your fears, hopes, and vulnerabilities. Rediscover the art of non-s*xual touch, hold hands, hug, cuddle without expectation.

Set realistic goals together. Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither is a satisfying s*x life. Start small, maybe it's a weekly date night or a daily 10-minute check-in.

The goal isn't just to have more s*x, but to create a deeper, more fulfilling connection with your partner.

Consider seeking professional help. A s*x therapist or marriage counselor can provide tools and strategies tailored to your unique situation. There's no shame in getting expert guidance.

What's been your biggest obstacle in addressing the anger in your s*xless marriage? How have you tried to overcome it?

✍🏼Remember people turn to have s*x almost everyday when stil in a relationship and start to relax when they get married and that's what killed many marriages. It start as small and grow bigger.....

Close cheating doors and Anger Doors.

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"Glow’a nou so. Ska emela mohlang wa divorce gore o glow’e"

The Question is Why most(not all) Women be Only Glow and become more beautiful after Divorce???????

The Answer is still the Same "Many women Relax and get too much comfortable and developed a mentality of I have Arrived stage"

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How do you know your husband is cheating?

If you don't like s*x and your husband is not complaining, be certain he is having it somewhere. If you love s*x and your husband is always having excuses, he is having it somewhere.

Don't be fooled, men love s*x.

Someone asked and said????⁉️⁉️

So what exactly does a side chick do better than a wife?🤔

This Can be Reality Answers!

1.Alot of married women tend to relax in alot of areas once in marriage, they have that mentality of "I have arrived" so most men go for sidechicks so they can get that treatment from them...

2. Have you Noticed Some Divorcee women are now a side chick to their ex husband 🤷. Now they see the big picture but what is broken is broken cant be fixed again..

Meditate upon this information and use it usefully.. Restore what is broken. Don't throw it away. Fix it... ❤️
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" A Letter to the Married"

⚠️S*X IN MARRIAGE

You can Save your Marriage.
You can Restore your marriage.
You can fix your marriage

NB:Remember when marriage is Broken we fix it, and Restore it and not finish it.Unless is beyond repair and the only way out is to end it🤗

Get rid of stubbornness, Get rid of childish behavior, get rid of yourself and align with the will of God towards your marriage.

Don't refuse s*x to each other, unless you agree not to have s*x for a little while, in order to spend time in prayer. Then Satan won't be able to tempt .

1corinthians 7:5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

"No prayer, nor fasting, nor counseling can fix a s*xless Marriage! "
May you not be the Reason your spouse is tempted because of denying him or her s*xual duty as a husband or wife. ⚠️

Most marriages the Enermy at the beginning was not the Devil but one spouse failed to do his or her duty to another and the devil saw and opportunity to enter and bring temptation thoughts.

Nothing frustrates a man or women who is deprieved to do her or hid duty in the bedroom...

A s*xless marriage is a dying marriage. 👆

S*x Strenthen marriage. S*x in marriage is a worship unto God. Is a soul to soul and is spirit exchange...

Couples that don't have s*x will never found joy on each other.

When couples says "we tried to work our marriage but it didn't work" in most cases was their s*xual bedroom matters that failed to be unresolved. Instead of having s*x they said "Lets pray for our marriage, Lets Go to counseling instead of them to go to their bedroom and solve their problems....

A s*xless marriage is a Marriage in the failing......

⚠️Solutions to many Marriages will be S*x.
Money is not the problem, the problem in many marriages is s*x.

What killed or caused some spouse to chest or entertain certain things is one spouse thinking is doing the other favour by having s*x with him or her....

Dear Man, Dear women may you never be the Reason your spouse is cheating. 🍰

With Cheating (temptation) there is no turning Back..

To the Married " one apple a, day will keep the doctors away"

"One Round a, day can keep the Doctors away"

Satan will always invite himself to the s*xless Marriages and be the third party and enjoy...... Have s*x.

Most couples share a bed every night, every day but their s*x life is like of people who are in a long distance marriage.. Such marriage is affected and the only remedy is S*x.

There are many events and excuses in this life but no excuse must be there to deny your spouse s*x unless your on your periods...

Lot of women are frustrated because their husband deny them s*x, lot of man are frustrated because their wife deny them s*x.

Both of them are going counseling after counseling not knowing the only way to fix a broken marriage is S*x. A s*xless marriage is a dying marriage.

No matter how busy you are. Have s*x.

Some people privately congratulate you and wish you happy Birthdays in private and speak positively about you only to you and they can’t do it publicly because of some of the things they said about you. Remember the people they told you are also on social media, they can afford to loose the image they created about you.

Why are they so comfortable coming to YOU about Gossiping about ME?⚠️

"Here is the Answers"

1. They saw you and recognize you as an easy entrance.

2. They saw you talking(Gossiping) about Me as well that's why they always come to you...

You don't always have to tell your side of the story, God will reveal it for you..

Give everything time. This is life.

People will forget:

•That you were there
•That you helped them
•That you stepped up when no one else would
•That you believed in them
•That you gave them your last
•That you defended their honor
•That you gave them their start
•That they stood on your shoulders

When this happens, practice saying, “Lord, I did it for You. As long as you remember, I’m good.”

Your best friend might be the head of that gossip and rumours about you.

Becareful ✍🏼📙👈

DIFFERENT TYPES OF S*X IN MARRIAGE!

1. RECONCILIATION S*X:- S*x is a most potent weapon for diluting and difusing misunderstanding in Marriage. If you don't use S*X to settle some stubborn crisis, then you are missing out and not maximising it. In addition when you both settle a misunderstanding, the person at fault could initiate s*x as a way to make up to the other who was on the receiving side of the conflict.

2. HEALING S*X:- There are some sicknesses and diseases that are cured by good S*x I mean very good S*x. Healing s*x is gentle, it is full of grace and elegance. You don't rush it. Mbanu. You do it softly and it hits the bull's eye. Please Husbands, don't throw your weight on her if it's for healing, let the bed carry your weight 100%.

3. PUNISHMENT S*X:- When I counsel couples, are times I hear spouses say "Since he did that, I decided to punish him by depriving him of s*x", or "since she refused me, I decided not to touch her again". That is as senseless as saying "since my child failed a Test, I punished him by withdrew him from school". It's foolishness. The wise thing to do is to give your spouse more s*x as punishment rather than depriving him or her. When your husband or wife misbehaves, correct them using s*x. That is the best punishment. Not slapping or fighting or public disgrace. Punishment s*x is very hot. 😷

4. MEMORABLE S*X:- This is a very special kind of s*x that you organise and plan for. Every couple must be doing this once in a while. Honeymoons should be organised at least once is a quarter (once in 3 months). If you have means, do it once a month. You book a hotel for say 3-7 days and retreat to help build your marriage. A kind of Intimacy Retreat. You mustn't go to hotel if you can't afford it. Just send the kids somewhere and make it memorable. Light Candles around and on the blue or green bulb. Use good perfume and the Angels will bear you witness.

5. QUICK SURPRISED S*X:- This is a s*x that married couples should do often to build their love life. One "Quickie" is stronger than 100 Love Charms from India or Kitui. A Quickie is that very fast s*x that a couple does in ODD places or in ODD position. Usually one spouse surprises the other with it. You don't take formal permission quickies. You just start it just like that. MARRIAGES WITHOUT QUICKIES HAVE QUICK PROBLEMS AND BREAK QUICK. Spouses who don't believe in surprise s*x are analogue and expired. Quickies can be done in the car. Drive her to a corner and pretend as if the car didn't start. It can take place on kitchen sink or at the balcony or inside swimming pool or in garden.

6. EXERCISE S*X:- This type should happen frequently especially in the mornings. God did it that the male organ wakes up in the morning erect to greet it's Owner - the Wife. So as much as humanly possible, let every wife answer the morning greeting. God's mercies are New Every Morning. Great is His Faithfulness. Mercy and Faithfulness are co-joined twins.

7. ENCOURAGEMENT S*X:- You use this type of S*x to encourage your Spouse to do something or Not to do something. There are times he wants to do something that you think is not the best of decision, just come in the most seductive way and delay him. When he is exhausted after you have drilled him, speak softly and he will say "I didn't know that was what you were saying before, now I understand you".

8. REWARD S*X:- This is the type that you reward your spouse for achieving something unique or for exceeding expectations. Reward S*x is not just one round but extended over a period of time. Reward S*x is an open check to do whatever he or she loves. It's extra ordinary.

9. PROCREATION S*X:- This is s*x you do purely for pregnancy. When you need child, the best style is the one that gives the husband maximum pe*******on. Support your wife with pillow is you aren't a longman. But you must make sure it is as wet as wetness can be. S***m needs wetness to swim inside the womb. When he releases he must remain inside there for a few minutes. Don't pull fast.
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1corinthians 7:3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.

1 Corinthians 7:4 The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.

1 Corinthians 7:5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control....

WHY KISSING IS IMPORTANT IN MARRIAGE

1. It reminds your spouse he/she is your lover, not just a parent to the children you have

2. Kissing when you wake up and when you sleep make you both start and end the day right

3. Kissing communicates to your spouse that there is still warmth in the marriage. When a couple is drifting apart, one of the first things to suffer is kissing

4. Kissing is part of making out. Yes, married couples should also make out. Making out is the grabbing of butt, fondling of breasts, rubbing of the tip of the p***s, passionately hugging, touching up even when fully clothed; as you kiss deeply - without necessarily making love

5. Kissing welcomes you to each other when you meet each other at home or outside after some hours of being a part

6. Kissing says "I love you"

7. Kissing promotes emotional intimacy. Conversations become more heartfelt when a couple embraces kissing. You bond better

8. Kissing promotes spiritual intimacy. When a couple kisses after praying to say "Amen", they value praying together more

9. Kissing releases the tension and a couple gets to have difficult conversations in a relaxed atmosphere. Imagine talking heavy stuff with random kisses

10. Kissing makes your spouse feel wanted and desired

11. Kissing heightens s*xual intimacy as foreplay

12. Kissing is an activity you do exclusively that makes you both feel special

Sometimes all your spouse wants is for you to shut up and kiss him/her

They can’t clap 👏🏽 for you because they have a knife 🔪 in their hand!!!

🗣️Some People tried to come for YOU this season by attacking, 💥 ridiculing and throwing shade on your name! But God ELEVATED ⬆️ you right in front of their faces & that's why they're Bothered😕

You see It wasn’t just YOU 🫵🏾 they disliked, but it was God's favor over your life that got them feeling a way 😕

📌They didn’t realize that Disliking you wasn’t going to hinder God’s Blessings 🎁 That’s Because your Breakthrough was never tied to their emotions❗️

Speaking to your partner before making a decision is not control, it's RESPECT.

"I am proud of you", "I believe in you", "I thank God for you", "I miss you"... these words are powerful when they come from someone you love "🤞

Small things nourish Relationship/marriage in a big way......" I miss you "can keep smile on your partner..... Even in marriage keep mjolo stunts❤️is more exciting

A woman becomes a reflection of how you treat her. If you don't like how she is acting, look at how you are treating her.✍🏼📱

Don’t EVERRRR forget how they DISRESPECTED you to make SOMEBODY else FEEL comfortable.

Re duma dilo tša batho tše dibotse eupša ga re dume go kwa maima ao ba fetilego go wona gore ba fihle fao. Gabotse re ka loya🤞

✍🏼Everything comes with a heavy price in life

No offence intended.

When a woman who is not married or no lobolo has been paid say she is in a committed relationship, what exactly does this mean? & secondly, if the boyfriend finds another girlfriend, why is the other girlfriend regarded as a side chick? Isnt this a situation where the boyfriend is in the middle and the one lady is on the left and the other on the right. Or is it a matter of who came first and the years the first lady has been in the relationship with the BF?