Lilian Mathe

Dangers of marrying an ALREADY MADE man?
You see many girls are more interested in marrying boys who are doing well financially.
To them husband material is one with a good job, car and house.
Most of them do not realize that very few successful young men will bend for marriage.
They do not consider the dangers of marrying a man who's life you have not contributed anything.
You just want to enter there and enjoy all the good things. What a shame !
Dangers of marrying already made men;
1. They don't change for any woman. If you found him taking alcohol, he will continue.
If you found him womanizing he will continue womanizing that comfort zone cannot be abolished by marriage.

2. You will have little say on what he has. When an already established man marries you, he doesn't consider you as a person to value but a property to keep.
He will be counting you among the things he owns.
Many girls are treated like things and not humans because they love material things.
With his money he bought you, with his influence he married you instead of other girls so he chooses to treat the way he likes.

3. You will be eating crumbs.Have you heard girls saying it's better to cry in a Benz than smile on a bicycle?
Those are wives with cosmetic riches.
Broken inside but intact outside.
Hypertension kills them, they dies of depression.
They drive cars but they have no drive within them. No hope no faith.
They fail to step out of those abusive marriages because the day they will go is the day the cosmetic beauty will go.
They are just keeping up appearances.

4. Your efforts will never count.
You'll try in as much as the relationship goes on between both of you, but what you'll ever done will not be seen, because areas in his life counterpart that needed that was already fixed, before you came into picture.

5. You'll never demand his attention but earn.
My dear he may or may not have time for you, you'll always craving for a quality time together but to no avail except he see's genuine reasons why to spend time with you then you earned the attention.

6. He may has a very low libido. You'll encounter challenges of reaching cloud nine, of travelling to the moon on a long run and return with your two legs shaking while reaching your climax, if you as a young lady really want consider marrying a rich man, imagine with your high libido sister, alternatives will not solve that problems throughout your lifetime.

7. You'll have some girls to contain with.
When desperate ladies sense fragrance of money from either directions they'll always fly like bee's towards that route. You'll have to fight sweet, s*xier and younger than you to keep him, Alot of them even without meeting his acquaintance will want to show their admiration even at your presence.

8. You'll always be insecure.
Insecurities will arises in every line of an argument and he'll never change forcefully but willingly and if forcefully you'll be asked to choose between in or out of the house, been that you never wanted poverty of your father house to repeat second time.

9. They hardly stay married.
Most of them hardly prioritize a woman, thereby don't care who stays or leave "in as much as the money stays they called it more life" most of them will never let you experience true love but more gadgets and brand new cars will be given to you as a medium of apology.

10. They may never admit they're wrong.
Simply soft words whispering to your ears I'm sorry would hardly be heard from them,no remorseful, no apologies, always right, because they knew your loyalty and sweet names calling stops where money stops because if really they were broke or poor you wouldn't be there and you're there because he's rich, famous and successful.

Marry a man who is just building himself up. A reasonable and sober man.

A vision driven man, when you build together, the chances of breaking apart will be very low.
Look for the brothers in Zion who are trying to put their lives together and build with them.

It's good to marry a visionary Christian especially if he has shown love for you even though he has nothing yet.

There's no grass that's greener at the other side, every green grass had a consistent gardener who refuses to give up on it so use your hand, hoe and wisdom build into future whom and who you choose, because forever is too long to be unhappy.....

Note: This post is not suggesting that every built up man is the same, it means tread cautiously when confronted by an already made man and be careful not to lust after already made men, most of them belong to every girl you see on the street🥹

REASONS WHY YOU MAY CONSIDER MARRYING A SINGLE MOTHER.
Most folks, especially Nigerian men, do feel they are doing women favour when they marry them as single mothers, but it's a paradox and a social myth that must be educated.
90% of single mothers are also good wives in the marriage market.
Firstly, why do women become single mothers?
Some are DELIBERATE, some are TRAGEDIES (widows) while some are MISTAKES. So if you happen to like a single mother, investigate her motive before you configure the drivers of your feelings.
If it was a MISTAKE OF TRAGEDY, trust me she can be the best WifE you can ever think of.
1. Single mothers that made mistakes do bring total
SUBMISSION to the table of marriage once they know that the man is honest and sincere, because they will see marriage as a classroom where they must correct the mistakes they made in the past.
2. If you want to WIN her, love her child first, and you will see that she will LOVE you with her last breath and blood.
3. Don't forget that as a woman that has put to BED before, there's 85% assurance that she will conceive without toiling from one prayer house to the other to conceive; the baby is evidence of her fruitfulness.
4. Single Mums treat their husbands as LORDS for the sacrifices they make, and easily forgive them no matter the gravity of what they err.
5. If you marry her, do not discriminate the child in your children's budget, see them as equals so you don't sprout the seed of jealousy.
6. If she is a single mum as a widow you may not have problem but if the child's father is alive, both of you should have an agreement from the beginning on welfare and information management. Don't deny the father access to his child but put a password before he can have access to your wife; it implies the gateway should be defined while you monitor the parameters; trust me, the child will grow up to love you as the man that made his/her mother happy more than the biological father.
7. Ensure the child is in the same school with your kids, if not that child's educational setbacks will influence your kids negatively when they play together. If the father supports good, but if he does not be ready to train the child alongside your kids for uniformity of knowledge.
8. If the child is a female child/children, you will have less parenting to do because female children easily relieve parents once the are adult or even get married.
9. 90% of SINGLE MOTHERS are faithful in marriage and wouldn't pull infidelity string to damage the engine of
TRUST in the marriage system; they feel you have sacrificed enough to win their trust and faithfulness.
10. Single Mums are SUPERWOMEN. For a woman to play the role of both parents and bear the responsibility of raising a child/children, don't joke with such a woman, because even if you die in future she can take care of your family.
11. Single Mums are S*X SATISFIERS. They will lock you down in bed for good s*x so you don't look outside to avoid stories that will touch the heart.
12. Most Single Mothers are good cooks and God fearing; the fact that she did not abort the child justifies her SACREDNESS AND GOD'S FEAR.
May God see you through.(copied)

REASONS WHY YOU MAY CONSIDER MARRYING A SINGLE MOTHER.
Most folks, especially Nigerian men, do feel they are doing women favour when they marry them as single mothers, but it's a paradox and a social myth that must be educated.
90% of single mothers are also good wives in the marriage market.
Firstly, why do women become single mothers?
Some are DELIBERATE, some are TRAGEDIES (widows) while some are MISTAKES. So if you happen to like a single mother, investigate her motive before you configure the drivers of your feelings.
If it was a MISTAKE OF TRAGEDY, trust me she can be the best WifE you can ever think of.
1. Single mothers that made mistakes do bring total
SUBMISSION to the table of marriage once they know that the man is honest and sincere, because they will see marriage as a classroom where they must correct the mistakes they made in the past.
2. If you want to WIN her, love her child first, and you will see that she will LOVE you with her last breath and blood.
3. Don't forget that as a woman that has put to BED before, there's 85% assurance that she will conceive without toiling from one prayer house to the other to conceive; the baby is evidence of her fruitfulness.
4. Single Mums treat their husbands as LORDS for the sacrifices they make, and easily forgive them no If she is a single mum as a widow you may not have problem but if the child's father is alive, both of you should have an agreement from the beginning on welfare and information management. Don't deny the father access to his child but put a password before he can have access to your wife; it implies the gateway should be defined while you monitor the parameters; trust me, the child will grow up to love you as the man that made his/her mother happy more than the biological father.
7. Ensure the child is in the same school with your kids, if not that child's educational setbacks will influence your kids negatively when they play together. If the father supports good, but if he does not be ready to train the child alongside your kids for uniformity of knowledge.
8. If the child is a female child/children, you will have less parenting to do because female children easily relieve parents once the are adult or even get married.
9. 90% of SINGLE MOTHERS are faithful in marriage and wouldn't pull infidelity string to damage the engine of
TRUST in the marriage system; they feel you have sacrificed enough to win their trust and faithfulness.
10. Single Mums are SUPERWOMEN. For a woman to play the role of both parents and bear the responsibility of raising a child/children, don't joke with such a woman, because even if you die in future she can take care of your family.
11. Single Mums are S*X SATISFIERS. They will lock you down in bed for good s*x so you don't look outside to avoid stories that will touch the heart.
12. Most Single Mothers are good cooks and God fearing; the fact that she did not abort the child justifies her SACREDNESS AND GOD’s FEAR

May God see you through(copied)

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