Helen Thomas, MA, RCC

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It is your birthright to be loved.

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Artist: Alyse Ruriani Alyse Ruriani

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The body is the key to the mind. You first have to calm the body’s response to trauma, shifting it from danger/alert to relaxed/controlled. Only then can you begin to recognize and process the mental and emotional aspects of the trauma.
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Here's the truth about grief: loss gets integrated, not overcome.

However long it takes, your heart and your mind will carve out a new life amid this weirdly devastated landscape. Little by little, pain and love will find ways to coexist.

It won't feel wrong or bad to have survived. It will be, simply, a life of your own making: the most beautiful life it can be, given what is yours to live.

May all that Refuge In Grief has to offer, the book: It's OK That You're Not OK (https://www.refugeingrief.com/book/), the website (https://www.refugeingrief.com/), the courses (https://www.refugeingrief.com/30daywriting/), and this beautiful community of broken and empathetic hearts, help you find the thread of love that still exists, following it forward into a life that you didn't ask for, but is here nonetheless.

We're so sorry you have need of this space, and we're so glad you're here.

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CHILDREN DON’T HAVE THE CAPACITY TO SEE THIER PARENTS AS AGAINST THEM. ⁣⁣
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it’s not adaptive. it goes against the biological need to connect. to make sure we are cared for, fed, clothed, protected. ⁣⁣
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when we have parents who criticize us, berate us, insult or belittle us, instead of seeing them as mean or ill equipped to be good parents, we defend by taking the baton and shaming ourselves. ⁣⁣
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this can continue for years and years. sometimes lifetimes. ⁣⁣
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my dad spent a lot of energy telling me how i could improve. as soon as i was old enough to self-reflect, my own critical voice screamed louder than his ever could. ⁣⁣
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even after he died, my inner critic and i danced on. ⁣⁣
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until i woke up. and began to understand that i was unconsciously protecting myself as a child by allowing my hateful voice to outspeak his. ⁣⁣
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and it was no longer protecting me. ⁣⁣
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in fact, it was straight up killing me. and it had to stop. ⁣⁣
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the inner critic never rests. and if you listen to it for long enough, you are naturally compelled to repress enough emotions to make you sick. ⁣⁣
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when we know why we do what we do, we become empowered to change our mindset. ⁣⁣
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this is the way to personal freedom. ⁣⁣
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i love you. let’s keep trying our best. ⁣links to mini retreats to help you in my bio. we can do this, guys. i promise. ⁣
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Conforming our child to who we want them to be VS. Celebrating our child for who it is they are.

This shift from projection to appreciation is key to our untigering. 💗
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Posted • “I think it may be an unconventional perspective to see parenting as not a mission to create a human you can be proud of... but instead a journey to learn about this wonderfully unique and amazing human that already exists.” J. Milburn⁣
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HT Responsive Parenting Inspirations

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When your needs are unmet or ignored, you have to learn to recognize your needs, honor them, and safely share your feelings.

You can learn what you weren't taught or allowed to do.

Many of us have done something against our best interests. It's okay; you aren't perfect.

But, you can practice acting in your interest and cultivating peace.

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PLEASE ~ Please forgive every phase of you 💓

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7 Self-Care Practices for When Life Feels Painful Self-care is always important yet easily neglected. These 7 self-care practices can help us show up when life is painful.

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Untigering ❤️

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I wish I could take away all the heartache that you have experienced with dieting and trying to change your body. ⁣
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I know exactly how it feels, as I spent nearly two decades of my life desperately trying to change mine. ⁣
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But we weren’t born hating our bodies, we were taught to hate them by diet culture.⁣
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A culture that makes us believe that are worth is all about our weight, which keeps us so distracted that we don’t have the brain space or energy to pursue our dreams or fight for the things that truly matter.⁣
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A culture that directly profits off our vulnerabilities and insecurities which they created.⁣
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A culture that has a global value of $245 billion (USD).⁣
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Even though I can’t take away the years of pain, what I can do is encourage you to no longer let your life and your happiness be ruled by the shape of your body, and to no longer let diet culture steal any more years, memories, or money, ⁣⁣
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Let me leave this with you. ⁣⁣
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“𝘈 𝘤𝘶𝘭𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘢𝘭 𝘧𝘪𝘹𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘯 𝘧𝘦𝘮𝘢𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘢𝘯 𝘰𝘣𝘴𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘧𝘦𝘮𝘢𝘭𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘺, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘢𝘯 𝘰𝘣𝘴𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘧𝘦𝘮𝘢𝘭𝘦 𝘰𝘣𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦… 𝘋𝘪𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘱𝘰𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘱𝘰𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭 𝘴𝘦𝘥𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘸𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯’𝘴 𝘩𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺; 𝘢 𝘲𝘶𝘪𝘦𝘵𝘭𝘺 𝘮𝘢𝘥 𝘱𝘰𝘱𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘴 𝘢 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘰𝘯𝘦.” ⁣
Naomi Wolf- The Beauty Myth ⁣
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We have way more important sh*t to do in this world than obsessing over the size of our body ❤️


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Truth! ❤️🌹

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When it comes to body image, you may find yourself stuck in ambivalence.

"I know that fatphobia is wrong, and I still don't want to be fat"
"I know that my worth is not tied to my size, and I still want to be a different size"
"I know people in fat bodies whom I love and respect, and I can't imagine loving myself in this body"
"I know that I don't have the power to change my body size in a way that is safe, and I still think about trying"

A whole life surrounded by anti-fatness means years of actively unleaning harmful messages. Stick with it. Body neutrality, acceptance, and liberation take time.

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{People-pleasing is not kindness.}

Living to make others happy often leaves you unhappy. People-pleasing is rooted in not feeling worthy of love, fearing rejection, or unhealthy self-esteem.

You can be in a healthy relationship with others AND take care of yourself.
Healthy people want you to be able to be happy and healthy.

You are not kind to yourself when you neglect your needs for the needs of others.

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https://theconversation.com/amp/wellness-is-not-womens-friend-its-a-distraction-from-what-really-ails-us-177446?fbclid=IwAR2hNR72-6BX-QT_M-2cd50mxXSLVzsvbufK3YbE7fsi_KZyMlk-7ZOFfhI

Wellness is not women's friend. It’s a distraction from what really ails us Yoga, manifesting, and may sound empowering. But wellness blames women, sets them up for failure, and hides the real challenges women face.

I participate in the Parents’ support group, I’m sure this one is very valuable as well 🌹

Offered by Moms Stop the Harm

Have you lost a sibling to
overdose or substance use harms?

Join our Healing Hearts
Siblings Bereavement
Support Group
Virtual meetings held on the 1st Monday of every month at 6:30pm Eastern Time

Please note this group is for 18 years old and older.

To register to attend email us at:
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A sign of growth: acknowledging when you're upset.