Raw-Femmes

Embracing change and thriving through the unknown 🌟

| Growth happens outside the comfort zone.

Sharing my journey of transformation and resilience

🌟 How do you handle change in your life?

Do you embrace it or struggle with it?

Share your tips and stories in the comments below! Let’s inspire each other to grow and adapt.

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Why do we worry about things that don’t really matter?” 🤔

🦧 Evolutionary Background:Our ancestors lived in environments where being constantly alert to potential dangers was crucial for survival. This heightened sense of vigilance has been carried over into our modern life, even though many of the threats we face today are no longer life-threatening.

2. Cognitive Biases: We humans have a tendency towards certain cognitive biases, such as the availability heuristic, where we give more importance to things that are easily recalled, often because they are recent or emotionally charged, even if they aren’t that significant.

3. Perceived Control 🥺Worrying can sometimes give a false sense of control over uncontrollable situations. By focusing on small, manageable concerns, people might feel like they are doing something proactive.

4. Social and Cultural Influences: 👫Society often sets us certain standards and expectations, leading people to worry about meeting them. This included concerns about your appearance, success or social
status, which might not be inherently important but are given weight due to all the cultural pressures

5. Psychological Factors 🧠 Anxiety disorders and other mental health conditions can totally 💯 amplify the tendency to worry about minor issues. These conditions distort the perception of what is really important and lead to so much excessive worrying.

6. Distraction from Larger Issues: Sometimes, worrying about small things can just be a way to avoid facing our larger, more difficult problems. It can be a coping mechanism to divert attention from deeper concerns that are so much harder to address.

Understanding this can really help in developing strategies to manage worry and focus on what truly matters in life ✨ Techniques such as mindfulness, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), and stress management practices are effective in reducing unnecessary worry.

🌟 Embracing the Power of Control 🌟

In life, we can’t always control what happens to us, but we can control how we respond. Focus on your actions, your mindset, and your attitude. Let go of the uncontrollable and find peace in what you can change.

✨ Control what you can:
- Your thoughts
- Your reactions
- Your effort

✨ Release what you can’t:
- Others’ actions
- The past
- Future outcomes

**”What Do You Want, More Than Anything?”** 🤔

Tony Robbins was in the middle of a powerful presentation at an exclusive retreat in an exotic location when he asked his audience, “Yell out what you want more than anything!” The crowd erupted with enthusiastic responses.

Amid the noise, Robbins quieted the room, pointed to a particular man, and asked him to repeat what he had just said. After hearing the man’s reply, Robbins invited him up on stage to share with everyone.

The man joined Robbins on stage, and their conversation went like this:

**ROBBINS**: Could you repeat for everyone what you want more than anything?

**GUY**: I want to close a deal.

**ROBBINS**: That’s it? More than anything, you want to close a deal?

**GUY**: Yeah! That’s what I want. It’s my dream, so f*ck off!

**ROBBINS** (laughing): Great! So what does closing that deal get you?

**GUY**: I’ll get a $200,000 commission.

**ROBBINS**: That’s awesome! So if you had to choose between closing a deal or getting $200,000 cash, no questions asked, which would you choose?

**GUY**: The money.

**ROBBINS**: Okay, so what you really want is lots of money, right? What does that money get you?

**GUY**: I’m gonna buy a car. A Lamborghini.

**ROBBINS**: Got it! So you don’t actually want to close the deal or the money. You want a Lamborghini. What does that Lamborghini get you?

**GUY**: Women.

**ROBBINS** (chuckles): Okay, you want the babes!

**GUY**: No, not babes. Just one woman. I want to find someone and get married. You know?

**ROBBINS**: Okay, I think I understand. More than anything, you’re not after the deal, the money, or the car. More than anything, you want to find a woman. A partner. So... what does that woman get you?

The guy fell silent for a moment. When he answered, his voice was hushed and breaking.

**GUY**: I guess I get to feel loved.

**ROBBINS**: NOW I see you! Now you know what you REALLY want!

My girl is working for a living ❤️

The Shocking Story Behind The Photo Of A French Woman’s Head Shaved In 1944 - Daily Viral In 1944, amidst the jubilation of France's liberation, numerous photographs emerged that captured a stark and haunting scene: thousands of French women

Someone said to me recently that „ They never would have believed what I’ve been through because I carry myself despite it all,so confidently“

It suddenly dawned on me,that’s it’s not what you experience in life that can make or break you so much, but more about how YOU handel it!

I’ll remember that moment 4ever! 💪🏻

💔💔💔ℝ𝕖𝕝𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟𝕤𝕙𝕚𝕡𝕤 𝕒𝕣𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕣𝕖𝕗𝕝𝕖𝕔𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟 🪞 𝕥𝕠 𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕥𝕣𝕒𝕦𝕞𝕒𝕤.

ℙ𝕖𝕠𝕡𝕝𝕖𝕤 𝕓𝕖𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕚𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕥𝕠 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕚𝕤 𝕕𝕣𝕚𝕧𝕖𝕟 𝕓𝕪 𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕚𝕣 𝕠𝕨𝕟 𝕔𝕙𝕚𝕝𝕕𝕙𝕠𝕠𝕕 𝕨𝕠𝕦𝕟𝕕𝕤 💔𝕠𝕗 𝕒 𝕝𝕒𝕔𝕜 𝕠𝕗 𝕠𝕣 𝕡𝕠𝕤𝕤𝕚𝕓𝕝𝕪 𝕥𝕠𝕠 𝕞𝕦𝕔𝕙 𝕠𝕗.

“𝕆𝕟 & 𝕠𝕗𝕗” 𝕣𝕖𝕝𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟𝕤𝕙𝕚𝕡𝕤 𝕠𝕗 𝕒𝕝𝕝 𝕜𝕚𝕟𝕕𝕤 𝕣𝕖𝕡𝕣𝕖𝕤𝕖𝕟𝕥 𝕒 𝕡𝕒𝕣𝕥 𝕠𝕗 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕟𝕠𝕥 𝕠𝕨𝕟𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕠𝕨𝕟 𝕣𝕖𝕤𝕡𝕠𝕟𝕤𝕚𝕓𝕚𝕝𝕚𝕥𝕪 𝕗𝕠𝕣 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕠𝕨𝕟 𝕝𝕚𝕗𝕖.

ℂ𝕠𝕕𝕖𝕡𝕖𝕟𝕕𝕒𝕟𝕥𝕤 𝕨𝕚𝕝𝕝 𝕠𝕗𝕥𝕖𝕟 𝕓𝕝𝕒𝕞𝕖, 𝕤𝕙𝕒𝕞𝕖 & 𝕞𝕒𝕟𝕚𝕡𝕦𝕝𝕒𝕥𝕖 𝕠𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕣𝕤 𝕚𝕟𝕥𝕠 𝕗𝕖𝕖𝕝𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕘𝕦𝕚𝕝𝕥𝕪, 𝕗𝕠𝕣 𝕝𝕚𝕧𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕝𝕚𝕗𝕖 𝕋ℍ𝔼𝕐 𝕤𝕙𝕠𝕦𝕝𝕕 𝕓𝕖 𝕝𝕚𝕧𝕚𝕟𝕘.

𝕎𝕙𝕖𝕟 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕔𝕣𝕚𝕥𝕚𝕔𝕚𝕤𝕖 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕡𝕒𝕣𝕥𝕟𝕖𝕣𝕤 𝕒𝕓𝕠𝕦𝕥 𝕒 𝕟𝕖𝕖𝕕 𝕪𝕠𝕦’𝕣𝕖 𝕟𝕠𝕥 𝕘𝕖𝕥𝕥𝕚𝕟𝕘, 𝕣𝕖𝕗𝕝𝕖𝕔𝕥 𝕗𝕚𝕣𝕤𝕥 𝕠𝕟 𝕨𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕚𝕥 𝕚𝕤 𝕪𝕠𝕦’𝕣𝕖 𝕟𝕠𝕥 𝕘𝕚𝕧𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕠 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣𝕤𝕖𝕝𝕗 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕟𝕖𝕖𝕕!

𝓢𝓱𝓪 𝓵𝓸 x 🌹

The sun ☀️ ☀️ ☀️ came out today so I took the moment to capture a selfie .
I’m smiling not because life has been easy , perfect or anything great of which I’d anticipated for this year, but because I choose to be happy in that very micro of a minute for all the good things I have and all the problems I don’t yet know are coming 🫣

𝘾𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙙 𝙖𝙩 𝙛𝙞𝙧𝙨𝙩 -𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙢𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙮 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙢𝙞𝙙𝙙𝙚𝙡 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙨𝙪𝙙𝙙𝙚𝙣𝙡𝙮 𝙜𝙤𝙧𝙜𝙚𝙤𝙪𝙨 𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙚𝙣𝙙 !

𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙡𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙡 𝙤𝙛 𝙛𝙚𝙖𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚.

𝙏𝙝𝙖𝙩’𝙨 𝙬𝙝𝙮 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙩 𝙯𝙤𝙣𝙚𝙨 𝙚𝙭𝙞𝙨𝙩.

𝙔𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙖𝙡𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙨𝙚 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨 𝙨𝙪𝙧𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚.

𝙄𝙣 𝙛𝙖𝙘𝙩, 𝙣𝙚𝙪𝙧𝙤𝙨𝙘𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙝𝙖𝙨 𝙨𝙝𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙪𝙣𝙘𝙚𝙧𝙩𝙖𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙮 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡𝙨 𝙨𝙞𝙢𝙞𝙡𝙖𝙧 𝙩𝙤 “𝙛𝙖𝙞𝙡𝙪𝙧𝙚” 𝙞𝙣 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙗𝙧𝙖𝙞𝙣𝙨. 𝙏𝙝𝙖𝙩’𝙨 𝙬𝙝𝙮 𝙨𝙤 𝙢𝙖𝙣𝙮 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙖𝙫𝙤𝙞𝙙 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙪𝙣𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙖𝙗𝙡𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙖𝙨𝙨𝙤𝙘𝙞𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙗𝙚.

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I’d never, never tell anyone that they have to quit Netflix to be focused on your passion & dreams …. Never.

BUT….. 😉

I do tell them that once they find their passion or connect to a bigger & better purpose, Netflixen or (instagramming even) your way through life certainly becomes less appealing .

Once you’re writing your own story you don’t need/ want to “dissociate” because numbing feels dead 💀 increases procrastination, which fuels our guilt evenmore ,which then causes more procrastination & guilt because of the pile up on your desk. 💻

If your body and soul are no longer suffering then you won’t need to dissociate 🧠

EVERYTHING feels just better because Netflix-ing becomes an appreciation NOT an addiction. 💊

If you can’t get settled to do what you need to do ,go for a big walk in the cold 🥶 and “ Play”The cold & fresh air will stimulate your endorphins which will make you incredibly relaxed and take away any anxiety .

Our New Year’s resolution for 🥳2️⃣0️⃣2️⃣4️⃣🥳

Be more PAW-SOME than last year!

When people fight, what they’re normally fighting over is …
1. Power & control
2.Intimacy and care
3.Validation and respect

Can you identify what comes up for you in your friendships, work relationships & partnerships!

Ain’t that the truth 💯

Honestly, when I love I go “all in” .

There’s no pussyfooting 🐈 around in my World but I’ll admit ,when I noticed my Ex Partner wasn’t present in the relationship,instead of becoming curious as to “why” I became self centred and focussed on me … Ouch!

I took everything soooo personally because I thought I’d invested so much time, love & energy and that didn’t give him the right to suddenly withdraw … hmm? 🤔

We need to ask the right and sometimes uncomfortable questions to get the answers we need to go ahead.

𝐃𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐚𝐧𝐱𝐢𝐞𝐭𝐲…

𝘍𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘰 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 𝘭𝘶𝘮𝘱𝘦𝘥 𝘢𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘢 𝘣𝘢𝘥𝘨𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘰𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘳/ 𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘵𝘺

𝘚𝘰 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘮𝘦:
“𝘛𝘩𝘢𝘵’𝘴 𝘴𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘢𝘳𝘦”

𝙈𝙮 𝙖𝙣𝙨𝙬𝙚𝙧 : “𝙄𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙛𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩 𝙡𝙤𝙣𝙜 𝙚𝙣𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙡𝙞𝙢𝙞𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨, 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙜𝙚𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙠𝙚𝙚𝙥 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢”

𝘔𝘺 𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘫𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘯𝘦𝘺 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘵 4 𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘐’𝘷𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘺 𝘩𝘢𝘥 *𝘢𝘯𝘹𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴.

𝘐 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘪𝘧 𝘪𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘳𝘢𝘻𝘺 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘳𝘭𝘸𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘩𝘶𝘶𝘶𝘶𝘨𝘦 𝘣𝘶𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘣𝘰𝘰𝘮 💥 𝘪𝘯 2018/19 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘵 23 𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬 𝘩𝘢𝘥 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘩 𝘪𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘭,𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘴𝘶𝘥𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘴𝘰 𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘺 .

𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘯 2020 𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘦 🦠 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘭𝘰𝘤𝘬𝘥𝘰𝘸𝘯𝘴, 𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘶𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴,𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘰𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘪𝘥𝘥𝘦𝘭 𝘰𝘧 𝘪𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘭 & 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝓉𝒾𝓂𝑒 𝑜𝒻 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳,𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱𝘴 𝘣𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘶𝘱 𝘢𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘮𝘦,𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘺𝘢𝘭𝘴… 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘺 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 ❤️‍🩹 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘢 𝘣𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘬𝘶𝘱.

𝘐 𝘸𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘪𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘭.

𝙄’𝙙 𝙖𝙨𝙠 𝙢𝙮𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙩𝙡𝙮 “ 𝙃𝙤𝙬 𝙙𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙙 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙖𝙜𝙖𝙞𝙣 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙨𝙤 𝙛𝙖𝙧 𝙖𝙬𝙖𝙮 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙬𝙝𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙤𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙬𝙖𝙨?”

𝘚𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘹𝘪𝘦𝘵𝘺 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 & 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘯𝘰 𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘤𝘤𝘦𝘱𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵. 𝘠𝘦𝘴, 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘥𝘰𝘸𝘯….𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘥𝘰𝘸𝘯, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘐’𝘭𝘭 𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘶𝘱-𝘛𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘐 𝘥𝘪𝘥 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘐 𝘣𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘸𝘰𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳 𝘪𝘧 𝘐’𝘥 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘴𝘦𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘮𝘦?

𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗻….𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝘁 𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸𝘀, 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝘂𝗯𝘁, 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗺𝘆 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗲𝗺 𝘁𝗼𝗼𝗸 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗲𝗲𝗽𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗯𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝗮𝘁 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗽𝗼𝗶𝗻𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜 𝘀𝗮𝘄 𝗺𝘆𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝗮 𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗸 𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗲 🕳️ 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝘂𝗿𝗹 𝘂𝗽 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗲𝘅𝗶𝘀𝘁.

➶➶➶➶➶ But still….I pushed forward in tiny,tiny steps-tapped into everything I’d ever learnt.

𝘔𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘶𝘱 & 𝘥𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘣𝘩 ,𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘱𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘤𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘬𝘦 🍰 …𝘉𝘜𝘛… 𝘐’𝘮 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘤𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘴𝘰 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 ….𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦’𝘴 𝘴𝘰 𝘮𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘐 𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘥.

𝘋𝘦𝘦𝘱 𝘥𝘰𝘸𝘯, 𝘐’𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘣𝘶𝘵𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘢 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘦𝘴, 𝘪𝘵 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘐 𝘢𝘮.

𝐌𝐚𝐲𝐛𝐞 𝐈’𝐦 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐬?…𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰𝐬…🤷🏻‍♀️

𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬,𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐰𝐞’𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐬𝐨 𝐦𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐬𝐞𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐲.𝐓𝐨 𝐚𝐜𝐭,𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤,𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐤 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐚 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 *𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡* 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐚 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐚 𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐨𝐟.

𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 𝐨𝐫 𝐝𝐨𝐮𝐛𝐭𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐚 𝐜𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧, 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐛𝐲 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 *𝐜𝐮𝐭𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐬” 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐢𝐬 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞,𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 . 💫

“𝐁𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟” 💫 “The reason that we desire more is simply because we know we ARE calpable of so much more .The reason we don’t create more is because we fear we AREN’T”🤦🏻‍♀️

Does this ring true for you ?

𝐖𝐡𝐢𝐜𝐡 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐁𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟 𝐃𝐨 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐥𝐞 𝐖𝐢𝐭𝐡?

To understand where you're get hung up on self-belief just ask yourself these questions:

𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙝: Do you value yourself as a human being? Do you agree that you're no worse than any other person?

𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙛𝙞𝙙𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚: Do you feel good about your skills and abilities? Do you feel good about your personal qualities and decision making?

𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙨𝙩: Can you rely on yourself? Can you always trust that you'll do what you say you’re going to do? 🤔

𝘼𝙪𝙩𝙤𝙣𝙤𝙢𝙮: Do you feel free to do what you want to do? Do you believe that no one can stop you from reaching your dreams?

𝙀𝙣𝙫𝙞𝙧𝙤𝙣𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙖𝙡 𝙢𝙖𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙮: When you take action, do you believe that it will lead to the results you desire?

Should you answer a “hell NO!" or were leaning more towards "NO" to any of these questions,then those are likely the areas that hold you back from your ability to believe in yourself and nothing else.

💔𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩

𝘛𝘰𝘰 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘸𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘶𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘶𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱𝘴 𝘵𝘰𝘥𝘢𝘺.𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘪𝘵 𝘪𝘴𝘯'𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘶𝘵 “𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘰𝘴𝘦” 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘧𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦 𝘩𝘪𝘮 𝘪𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘱𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 ❤️ 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘪𝘮 & 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘰 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵 𝘭𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘵𝘩𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘬𝘦𝘦𝘱 “𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦” .

𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙙𝙧𝙤𝙥 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙫𝙖𝙡𝙪𝙚𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙝 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙖 𝙦𝙪𝙞𝙘𝙠 𝙛𝙞𝙭, 𝙛𝙤𝙡𝙡𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙙 𝙗𝙮 𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙗𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙙-𝙘𝙧𝙪𝙢𝙗𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙢𝙞𝙨𝙚𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙘𝙞𝙧𝙘𝙡𝙚 ⭕️ 𝙘𝙡𝙤𝙨𝙚𝙨 .

𝘉𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘯 𝘢 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘳 𝘪𝘴 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘯𝘹𝘪𝘦𝘵𝘺, 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘴𝘯’𝘵 100% 𝘰𝘯 𝘣𝘰𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘴𝘺𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘮 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘱𝘪𝘳𝘢𝘭 🌀 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘶𝘥𝘥𝘦𝘯 𝘱𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘤 𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘢𝘤𝘬𝘴 & 𝘣𝘶𝘳𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘰𝘤𝘤𝘶𝘳.

𝙄𝙩 𝙩𝙖𝙠𝙚𝙨 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙪𝙢𝙖-𝙗𝙤𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙙 𝙗𝙧𝙖𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙖𝙘𝙘𝙚𝙥𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙨𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨, 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙖𝙘𝙘𝙚𝙥𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙢𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙗𝙚𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙟𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙖𝙣 𝙚𝙢𝙥𝙩𝙮 𝙨𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙡 🐚 𝙤𝙛 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙤𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙬𝙚𝙧𝙚.

𝘎𝘦𝘵 𝘤𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘰𝘯 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘯𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱 𝘉𝘜𝘛 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘺 …𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘤𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘰𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘖𝘞𝘕 𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘯𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘪𝘮 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘬𝘦𝘦𝘱 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘵𝘶𝘤𝘬 𝘪𝘯 𝘢 𝘤𝘺𝘤𝘭𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘰𝘹𝘪𝘤𝘪𝘵𝘺 .

𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖 𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙪𝙢𝙖-𝙗𝙤𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙙 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙡𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙨𝙤 𝙞𝙩’𝙨 𝙞𝙢𝙥𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙜𝙚𝙩 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙬𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙣 ✍🏼 𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙤𝙣 𝙥𝙖𝙥𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙧 𝙙𝙤 𝙞𝙩 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙖 𝙩𝙧𝙪𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙛𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙙.

𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘦𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘰𝘯 𝘠𝘖𝘜-𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 -𝘈𝘓𝘞𝘈𝘠𝘚 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 💫 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘯'𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶, 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘠𝘖𝘜 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘱 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 .

𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐜𝐫𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐥𝐚𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬….is in “No WAY”a lack of motivation .

𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐚 𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐧 𝐨𝐟 𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐝𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐚 𝓕𝓔𝓐𝓡 𝐨𝐟 𝐟𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 …

𝐈 𝐠𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐪𝐮𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐨𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐧… 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐭’𝐬 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐨𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 💯

𝐖𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐦𝐲 𝐛𝐲 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐥𝐢𝐦𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐮𝐧𝐟𝐚𝐢𝐫 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐢𝐬 …

𝐉𝐄𝐄𝐙!! 𝐖𝐞 𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬!

Get YOUR seat ! ❤️‍🔥

Als ich mich selbst zu lieben begann,
fand ich heraus,
dass Angst und seelisches Leiden
nur warnende Zeichen sind,
nicht gegen meine eigene Wahrheit zu leben.
Heute weiß ich, das ist AUTHENTISCH SEIN.

Als ich mich selbst zu lieben begann,
verstand ich, wie sehr es jemanden kränken kann,
diesem Menschen meine Wünsche aufzudrängen,
wohl wissend, dass die Zeit nicht reif und der Mensch nicht bereit war,
und obwohl ich selbst dieser Mensch war.
Heute nenne ich das RESPEKT.

Als ich mich selbst zu lieben begann,
hörte ich auf,
mich nach einem anderen Leben zu sehnen
und konnte sehen, dass alles, was mich umgab,
mich einlud zu wachsen.
Heute nenne ich das REIFE.

Als ich mich selbst zu lieben begann,
verstand ich, dass ich mich ausnahmslos immer
zur rechten Zeit am rechten Platz befinde
und dass alles im genau richtigen Augenblick geschieht.”
-Charlie Chaplin- 🎩

A beautiful way to end a crazy, funny Sunday Afternoon 🥰🎙️

A client who refuses to move on and stay stuck in her past, with all her pain, cocooned in a warm blanket of sorrow and tears 😭

It’s become her home of self pity and indulgence and she now uses it as a tool to get the emotional nurturing & validation from the outside World,which she needed as a child.

She cries uncontrollably each time we talk and It’s now become her identity. I repeat to her “ Your past should be a place of reference-NOT a place of permanent residence.”🏡 but it falls on deaf ears.

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“When we get hurt in relationships, whether it’s from our parents or our romantic partners,we often carry so much anger and pain around with us. That means that we end up looking for or attracting the same kind of partner,or we act in negative ways even if when in a relationship with the nicest person in the world.

We sabotage our own happiness because we’re scared that the same thing will keep happening to us. It’s a vicious cycle that keeps repeating until we heal the broken “parts” of ourselves.

It’s uncomfortable bringing it to the surface but holding onto it for ever (unknowingly) and letting it become your default system,permeating all kinds of your relationships is also no life .

You deserve to be happy,not only half-assed happy and it’s from the depths of darkness and real emotional despair that we develop deep wisdom to navigate our future.

Let your past shape you…not destroy you.”💥...