My Marriage My Destiny

I attended a couples meeting organised by my church many years ago. The topic of discussion at the meeting was on s*x but I can't remember exactly how the topic was framed. While contributing a brother said when you see a man complaining about almost everything in the house; why is this bulb💡not working, why is there too much salt in this soup, who put this chair here, you why have you not had your bath etc 😂. He said those were not his problem, there is a deeper issue, he is not s*xually satisfied. Everyone at the meeting laughed because he sounded funny. 😂

But I picked a point from what he said, which is when a couple have problems with their s*xual intimacy and it remains unattended to or unresolved it leads to other problems and may actually result to separation or divorce.
I believe many handle this aspect of marital life casually for lack of understanding of s*x and the role it plays in marriage.
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Poor Communication is not just a notable cause of conflict in marriage or relationship, but have damaging effects on marriage/relationship.

For example, It leads to;
Resentment between couples
Insecurity
Depression
Lack of emotional connection etc

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One of the things I love about my gender is the power of persistence. It is a special gift from God to us.
Remember the story of the widow and the unjust judge.
Remember the story of the Gentile woman (a Syrophoenician) and Jesus....
There are other examples in the bible.

Delilah used the power in a negative way (in a positive way to her people though) but it was her consistent 'nagging' that made them capture Samson.

So my ladies, married or single, you have it in you.
Use it to the benefits of your marriage and family.
Women were not designed to give up easily. When the bible in Is.62:7 says "Give the Lord no rest until He completes His work" I think He has us in mind knowing how He formed us.

That 'secret' you need to know/have, whether it is from God or man, you will have it if you don't give up.
So go for it girl 😄🥰❤️

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Many marriages are facing serious challenges as a result of s*x related issue. Meet one another's need is the counsel from the bible

Truly so, marriage brings you into a new family and you must love and relate with them just like your first family.
This is not always as easy except you are very loving and accommodating.
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A man of God made an analogy while preaching on anger management, what he said made sense to me.

The man took a pet bottle(bottlewater) that had water inside and turned it upside down. He asked the congregation why the water did not pour out, we answered that it was because it was covered. Then he asked, 'what will happen if I remove the cover?', we answered, "the water will pour out". So he said why the water will pour is not because he removes the cover but because there's content inside, if the bottle is empty even if the cover is removed, nothing will come out.

As he explained I remember when my children were small. They will come and complain 'mummy, sososo is looking for my trouble', I will answer 'where did you keep the trouble. You better go and throw away the trouble so there's nothing for them to look for'. They will look confused 😂😂.
I was using sense to buy peace of mind for myself, asin, I kanot coman kee maisef 😂

What is the koko of all these....

One of the excuses Abusers give for beating their spouse is 'she/he provoked me'. But the truth is that it is you the abuser that actually has problem. Your problem could be either one or all of the following; short temper, being a control freak, insecurity or you grew up in a home where there was violence. So it is you that need help.

Why you need to get professional help;
1. People will feel resentment towards you
2. You might end up in jail
3. You might feel guilty and ashamed of yourself
4. You will be an embarrassment to friends and family
5. You cannot enjoy a healthy and stable relationship/marriage
6. You cannot earn respect of your partner/spouse.
7. If you are married, you might not be able to have as much God's blessings as you ought in your home because the cord of unity is consistently broken
8. If you are a parent, your children will resent you.

Marriage works if you work the work, and the major work is the work on 'Self'.

Watch your words. Many have used their mouth to ruin their relationship/marriage.

My late grandfather told me a story when I informed him that I wanted to get married, the story never left me.

According to the story, a woman visited a native doctor to ask for love medicine. The woman said her husband beats her a lot and she believed it's bcos he didn't love her that's why he beats her. She showed the native doctor all the marks on her body as a result of the beating

The native doctor told the woman to come back few days after so he could prepare the charm. When the woman returned, she was given 'the love medicine' with the instruction that once her husband start his trouble she should put the stuff in her mouth. She should not swallow it neither should she allow it to fall from her mouth. There's a terrible repercussions if the medicine touch the ground.

In other to keep to the instructions, she always tie the medicine to the edge of her wrapper for easy access.

After few weeks the woman returned to the native doctor to testify that the 'medicine is working' and in fact there's so much peace in her marriage now and her body is so smooth bcos no more beating.

The native doctor then told the woman that what he gave her was not any medicine, he just wanted to teach her a lesson. The lesson is that a woman should learn not to talk back at her husband. It is a show of respect.
He said if i had simply told you that when your husband is talking keep quiet you will not listen but bcos you didn't want the medicine to fall from your mouth for fear of the repercussion you were forced to be quiet.
I got the message, and it did helped me

Some wives do not know anything call respect at all especially to their husbands (,this is not in any way to justify a man beating his wife)
Domestic violence/abuse is not only from man to woman and not just about beating. Domestic violence/abuse includes physical, emotional, physiological, economic/financial, s*xual etc.
Some women have used their mouth to ruin the destiny of their husbands. The destiny God trusted you with to 'HELP' to become.
All the insults, the curses; useless man, unfortunate man, wretched man etc, kills the man's self-confidence, self-esteem, spirit etc. That also amount to domestic violence/abuse, the difference is that there's no physical mark or death.

Wives remember that 'husband is the head of the wife' meaning you are the body, so any negative prophecy in the form of insult or curse you say to your husband you are also a partaker of it.

See what God's word say and I bet you, there's no 'love medicine' that is as potent as this, 👇

'.....let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly].
Ephesians 5:33 AMPC

As we can see, no condition attached, so far he is your husband he deserves respect. Selah!

Husbands, beating should never be considered while dealing with your wife even if she is contentious or disrespectful. Seek professional help lest you become guilty of murder or manslaughter. Think about the effects of these on your child/children at the least.

And whosoever liveth and believeth in me shall never die. Believest thou this?
John 11:26 KJV

Lord give me grace to always say YES to your will 🙏🙏🙏

You need life to do marriage

Honestly I don't know how to start!
I don't know whether to say life is a mystery or I should say marriage is a mystery 🤔.

Within 24 hours I've read about the death of two women who died as a result of bad marriages, Chinyere Ogudoro and Osinachi Nwachukwu.

Then few hours ago i had to counsel a lady that is feeling so so depressed and sounding suicidal because she is yet to get married at her age. She is in her late thirties.

All these actually got me thinking.
Is the only reason why a woman was created is for the purpose of marriage?
Does late marriage disturb men the way it disturbs women especially in Africa?
The way we feel or see marriage in Africa, is it same as other continents?

For example I asked the single lady, have you discovered your purpose in life and she said no. Then I asked so why are you not bothered about that.

The two ladies I mentioned above probably wouldn't have died if they didn't try to stay married.

God hates divorce but the covenant of life is superior to the covenant of marriage.
God hates divorce but one can stay away from abusive marriage
God hates divorce but you need to speak up and not die in silence
God hates divorce, that is why you must try to get it right from the beginning, 'look before you leap'
The fact still remains that, there are many good marriages.

For you that are singles, you have opportunity now to make good choices.
For you that are married and the marriage is not what you wished, take it to God in prayers and always seek counsel
For you that are in abusive marriage/relationship you need to run for your dear life.

Marriage is a choice

Dear couples, have you considered this👇

Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity.........:for there the Lord commanded the blessing, even life for evermore.
Psalm 133:1&3b📖📖📖

If you want God's blessing in your marriage, walk in harmony with your spouse, that is, ensure you are at peace with one another
💑👫👬.

Behold I show you a secret 😍