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Paul Wadey, May 2024. I I am incensed, humourless, seeking refuge,gathering with others to rechargein a kaleidoscope of colours and sensations,finding solace in red brick sprawland grey-black concrete expanses. I see myself in them, and they in me,denizens adrift, some wearing weary symbolsyearning for redemptive warmth,perhaps the taste of life bursting with spice,...

Those I love Paul Wadey, May 2024. I I am incensed, humourless, seeking refuge,gathering with others to rechargein a kaleidoscope of colours and sensations,finding solace in red brick sprawland grey-black concr…

by Paul Wadey, 10.01.2024 Decoupled in a public sphere Where truth—now a nomad—dwelt, Scales weigh unevenly, Truth became untrustworthy, displaced by Dunning-Kruger’s map, And or Bonhoeffer’s guide to idiocy. That where fleeting glimpses of valid coherence twinkle, Darting, speedy, caught for a moment, Thus we're left to communicate, detached, unanchored, Neither cohesion nor congruence to light our way. Adrift on shifting sands, once firm earth diminished,...

Decoupled by Paul Wadey, 10.01.2024 Decoupled in a public sphere Where truth—now a nomad—dwelt, Scales weigh unevenly, Truth became untrustworthy, displaced by Dunning-Kruger’s map, And or Bonhoeffer’s guid…

by Paul Wadey 02.01.2024 Whispers of time, soft and deep, ache,In relentless pain, unyielding, our children break,Each moment calls for change, so rare,New bells might ring clear, in crisp calm air. Memories hold, old tunes that pine,Unyielding to the new, in time's own line,Echoes break, past stories, lore,New bells might sound change, forevermore. Not just enough, but striving for best,...

The Old Bells by Paul Wadey 02.01.2024 Whispers of time, soft and deep, ache,In relentless pain, unyielding, our children break,Each moment calls for change, so rare,New bells might ring clear, in crisp calm air…

Chesterton's Fence is a principle that stresses the importance of understanding the rationale behind existing traditions or norms before attempting to change or abolish them. The idea was first put forth by G.K. Chesterton, a renowned British writer and philosopher, in his 1929 book, 'The Thing.' The principle argues that we should not blindly dismantle or alter a longstanding practice simply because we don't understand its purpose or value....

G.K.’s Fence Chesterton’s Fence is a principle that stresses the importance of understanding the rationale behind existing traditions or norms before attempting to change or abolish them. The idea was fir…

by Paul Wadey, 07.12.2023 You were Genoveva, the artisan of shadow-laden reveries, and you embroidered your cryptic arras in the chiaroscuro of your cloistered domain. Beneath the polarity of nocturne and lunar radiance, your narrative unfurled—a tessellation of luminescence and obscurity. Your digits, akin to crepuscular arachnid limbs, pirouetted across the loom, each gesture a masked murmur of your concealed chronicle....

Genoveva by Paul Wadey, 07.12.2023 You were Genoveva, the artisan of shadow-laden reveries, and you embroidered your cryptic arras in the chiaroscuro of your cloistered domain. Beneath the polarity of noctu…

by Paul Wadey, 04.12.23 In a realm where twilight spiders a web of shadows, an abode stands, kissed by an ethereal sigh of dusk. Evening descends, not with a sombre touch, but as a painter, stroking the world's canvas with great daubs of introspective hues, reflecting a tumult sea of thoughts churning within its walls. Here financial tempests brew, sculpting landscapes of choice and consequence....

Twilight by Paul Wadey, 04.12.23 In a realm where twilight spiders a web of shadows, an abode stands, kissed by an ethereal sigh of dusk. Evening descends, not with a sombre touch, but as a painter, strokin…

--- by Paul Wadey, 24.10.2023 In your gaze, a trove unveiled— Depths uncharted, yet absolving, While warm summer showers paint my view anew. Still this path, Be clear, my love, Reveal simplicity’s truth. I see gifts within your smile, Like dawn's sunbeams gently waking. Dance the merciful hue of a song once lost, Now found— Misgiving vanished. Amidst the joy your presence brings,...

Soft Ruby Promises (For Sarah) — by Paul Wadey, 24.10.2023 In your gaze, a trove unveiled— Depths uncharted, yet absolving, While warm summer showers paint my view anew. Still this path, Be clear, my love, Reveal simplicit…

--- by Paul Wadey, 24.08.2006 In pursuit of a child's radiant beam, With artful brush, I'd recast the sphere: In vibrant tints of a dreamer's dream, Transforming dread to whimsy sheer. For the smile of a child, that treasure so wild. With hands, scarred yet firm and tender, I'd forge a haven from ruins of yore, Shifting stones of past surrender, …...

For the smile of a child — by Paul Wadey, 24.08.2006 In pursuit of a child’s radiant beam, With artful brush, I’d recast the sphere: In vibrant tints of a dreamer’s dream, Transforming dread to whim…

---Paul Wadey, 22.10.1984 In realms where thought's lone profit doth seem slight, A jest, perhaps, yet holds potential vast; If darkened minds would wed their brooding plight To philosophies where compassion's cast. What faith remains, unsullied by the taint Of cynic's sneer or sceptic’s cold disdain? A shadowed knight in adamant restraint Might shield us all, and not in vain, remain....

Beyond Belief —Paul Wadey, 22.10.1984 In realms where thought’s lone profit doth seem slight, A jest, perhaps, yet holds potential vast; If darkened minds would wed their brooding plight To philosoph…

(To my sister, Ayisha) ---by Paul Wadey, 27.11.2023 In whispered tones, may one impart the sound Of hearts o'erfilled, by fate's own hand so bound? Doomed to rupture, lone, sans witnesses ear, In future's veiled embrace, unknown, unclear. Oh, for the power in mere words to seize This fleeting life's mortality, and freeze. Would that one might, or even strive to gain…...

Goodbye (To my sister, Ayisha) —by Paul Wadey, 27.11.2023 In whispered tones, may one impart the sound Of hearts o’erfilled, by fate’s own hand so bound? Doomed to rupture, lone, sans wit…

--- In this vast expanse, a cloven globe revealed, bare to the core of truth, our essence peeled, where whispers of lone thoughts in murmurs yield, Reflecting the heart's beat, foreign yet appealed. In this quietude, my spirit, in cosmic enclave apart, yearns, not for mere touch, but for the art of affinity's heart. Beneath the solemn dance of distant astral light,...

For dark matter — In this vast expanse, a cloven globe revealed, bare to the core of truth, our essence peeled, where whispers of lone thoughts in murmurs yield, Reflecting the heart’s beat, foreign ye…

Abstract This paper explores Melanie Klein's life and work, interpreting her radical psychoanalytic position theory—paranoid-schizoid and depressive (Ps-D)—as a circular progression of consciousness, experience, and realisation. Analysing Klein's biography and clinical observations, the prerequisite of ambivalence is emphasised in the development of the ‘Ps’ and ‘D’ positions to precisely echo the development of contradiction as the precondition of the thesis and antithesis in Hegel’s dialectic....

Melanie Klein: A Radical Contribution to Psychoanalytic Practice and Dialectic Theory Abstract This paper explores Melanie Klein’s life and work, interpreting her radical psychoanalytic position theory—paranoid-schizoid and depressive (Ps-D)—as a circular progression of consci…

by Paul Wadey Sonnet I: The Cradle of Faith In lands where ancient whispers shape the dunes, And prophets' echoes carve the wind's refrain, A modern tale beneath the same old moon, Unfolds in chapters wrought with joy and pain. Here faith's cradle rocks, in silence bound, By time's relentless march and history's scars, Where olive branches and hopes abound,...

Meta-Sonnet of Recognition and Strife by Paul Wadey Sonnet I: The Cradle of Faith In lands where ancient whispers shape the dunes, And prophets’ echoes carve the wind’s refrain, A modern tale beneath the same old moon, Unfo…

Integrating intuitionism and the moral unconscious, this paper proposes an innovative ethical framework to address depth psychology's dilemmas. Challenging normative ethics' limits, it draws on psychoanalytic theory and moral psychology to advance nuanced discernment. Emphasising conceptual skills and unconscious wisdom, it advocates experiential-evidence-based praxis through critical reflection....

Towards Ethical Intuitionism and the Moral Unconscious in Depth-based Practice Integrating intuitionism and the moral unconscious, this paper proposes an innovative ethical framework to address depth psychology’s dilemmas. Challenging normative ethics’ limits, it …

Remembering 7 October 2023 I In Genesis, Abraham's faith burned as a molten star— Three pyres in Baal’s twilight, beacons in obsidian dark. From Ur's ziggurats to Canaan's dunes, destiny not far— Three cosmic arcs, his covenant leaves its ineffable mark. Shackled in Egypt's grasp, heaven's marvels they beheld— Liberty bought with plagues, and Sinai's thunderous roars. To Canaan's soil, their promised Eden, destiny compelled—...

Snare Remembering 7 October 2023 I In Genesis, Abraham’s faith burned as a molten star— Three pyres in Baal’s twilight, beacons in obsidian dark. From Ur’s ziggurats to Canaan’s dunes, …

"The enduring allure of Hamlet's personal travails—his waning confidence over courage and his emotionality overpowering his rationality—have captured the hearts and minds of audiences for generations. However, to truly appreciate the relationship between confidence and courage in the broadest sense, one might question whether, in recent years, confidence has taken a more prominent position, overshadowing the importance of courage."...

The Myth of Confidence: Examining the Forgotten Virtue of Courage through Psychoanalytic Lenses “The enduring allure of Hamlet’s personal travails—his waning confidence over courage and his emotionality overpowering his rationality—have captured the hearts and minds of audiences f…

by Paul Wadey, 17 October 2023 In the mind's hidden chamber, love's relic resides, A porcelain heart, fractured beneath sable tides. Deceive not yourself; every cardiac form bears a flaw, Weathered by love, irreversible as natural law. What, you ask, is the purpose of this agony? A terminus, or the advent of an alternate symphony? I contend, dear interlocutor, a truth we cannot elude:...

Mending by Paul Wadey, 17 October 2023 In the mind’s hidden chamber, love’s relic resides, A porcelain heart, fractured beneath sable tides. Deceive not yourself; every cardiac form bears a fla…

1. Curiosity & Co-Construction § Introduction: A model for identifying differences in Approach Method and Technique Let’s begin by turning first to Burnham’s (1992) paper, in particular, where he outlined a coherent model for differentiating between types of systemic activity and how those activities might be viewed as relating when working within a systemic practice framework. We will then see whether and how Burnham’s (1992) AMT model might also be useful to understand both the movement of approaches, methods and techniques from Milan (e.g....

‘Approach-Method-Technique’: An Introduction to Milan, Post-Milan and Social Constructionism 1. Curiosity & Co-Construction § Introduction: A model for identifying differences in Approach Method and Technique Let’s begin by turning first to Burnham’s (1992) paper, in particular, where …

My main object in this paper ('Beyond Normative Ethics: Toward an Ethical Intuitionism for Psychoanalysis') is to examine the insufficiency of normative ethics for psychoanalysis. In advocating for an ethical intuitionist framework, I demonstrate my support for a psychoanalytic ethical process that examines both conscious and unconscious elements. My path leads through important ethical concepts like normative ethics, metaethics, Love, the work of Love, integrating ethical perspectives and engaging sincerely with feminist and postcolonial critiques. In comparing relational and rationalist ethical psychoanalytic texts like Drozek's and Lacan's, my conclusions compel a call toward a metamorphosis in the ethical process of psychoanalysis and its resituating as a work of Love. I would welcome your comments and thoughts. Feel free to share and like.

Beyond Normative Ethics: Toward an Ethical Intuitionism for Psychoanalysis ‘The Freudian conception of the process by which the subject is constituted is fundamentally dialectical in nature and involves the notion that the subject is created and sustained (and at th…

My latest poem is titled, 'Howl.'

Howl By Paul Wadey For Allan Ginsberg (1926 – 1997) I On nights when neon burns cold, A lone wolf’s cry rings out, consuming and malign, Not checked by conscience, but avarice’s…

How is our online world reshaping the unconscious? This essay insightfully dissects how perceived anonymity online enables the return of repressed impulses, for better or worse. Blending psychoanalytic theory with ethics, it investigates digital self-expression through the veil of pseudonyms. A thoughtful read for understanding technology's impacts on psychology and society....

The Return of the Repressed: Pseudonymisation in the Digital Age How is our online world reshaping the unconscious? This essay insightfully dissects how perceived anonymity online enables the return of repressed impulses, for better or worse. Blending psychoanal…

"The Raft" navigates existential and quantum quandaries through poetic form, challenging traditional boundaries while exploring love, isolation, and freedom.

The Raft “The Raft” navigates existential and quantum quandaries through poetic form, challenging traditional boundaries while exploring love, isolation, and freedom. Spanning ten stanzas, the p…

'Yet was there not some innocence left in him—some childlike craving for the love every being needs, the familial harbourage that anchors one in belonging? In his naivety he had approached his maker, expecting guidance, nurturance. But on meeting only horror and hate, the soft tendrils of secure attachment withered, unwatered. Now he harboured only the bitterness of the outcast, the fiendish designs of the spurned.'...

The Harvest of Neglect: Stitching Insecurity and Division in Mary Shelley’s Gothic Critique of Human Nature and Society ‘Yet was there not some innocence left in him—some childlike craving for the love every being needs, the familial harbourage that anchors one in belonging? In his naivety he had approached hi…

"While arising from different traditions, psychoanalysis and mindfulness offer complementary windows into the workings of the mind. Psychoanalysis reveals the depths of the unconscious forces shaping personality, while mindfulness illuminates the nature of conscious experience. Integrating these perspectives provides a more holistic understanding of the factors generating suffering and pathways for healing."...

Towards a Mindful Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy “While arising from different traditions, psychoanalysis and mindfulness offer complementary windows into the workings of the mind. Psychoanalysis reveals the depths of the unconscious forces…

Patricia Crittenden's Dynamic-Maturational Model (DMM) of attachment is a pivotal contribution in this domain, which posits that individuals craft attachment strategies as adaptive reactions to their caregiving environments. These strategies, anchored in early life experiences, remain flexible, adapting to present contexts and historical traumas. This paper introduces the crayon analogy to elucidate the manifold nature of attachment strategies. Mirroring a child's choice of crayons for an artwork, individuals use diverse attachment strategies, symbolised by specific crayon hues, to navigate their relational challenges....

Colouring Connections: A Crayon Analogy for Crittenden’s Dynamic-Maturational Model Patricia Crittenden’s Dynamic-Maturational Model (DMM) of attachment is a pivotal contribution in this domain, which posits that individuals craft attachment strategies as adaptive reactions …

Cecchin compellingly argues for reconceptualising clinical neutrality as an active curiosity perpetually generating alternative systemic hypotheses. However, some therapists might critique this stance as impractical incapacitating interventions. Similarly, while an aesthetic sensitivity to patterns intuitively enriches understanding, hypersensitivity imperils romanticising dysfunction emphasising coherence over beneficial change....

Beyond Technique: Cecchin’s Call for Perpetual Critical Reinvention in Family Therapy Cecchin compellingly argues for reconceptualising clinical neutrality as an active curiosity perpetually generating alternative systemic hypotheses. However, some therapists might critique this sta…

In psychotherapy the questions we ask signally shape the therapeutic process. Karl Tomm's inspiring paper ‘Interventive Interviewing: Intending to Ask Lineal, Circular, Strategic or Reflexive Questions?’ provides critical insights into the impactfulness of different questioning techniques. This essay will focus specifically on the role of questioning in relational-based psychotherapy. I want to examine three questions arising from Tomm's analysis: What is the therapist's intention and motivation with each question? How might it influence the client's understanding and the therapeutic dialogue? And does the question respect the client's boundaries and readiness?...

Questioning the Question: A Therapist’s Guide to the Delicate Art of Interventive Interviewing In psychotherapy the questions we ask signally shape the therapeutic process. Karl Tomm’s inspiring paper ‘Interventive Interviewing: Intending to Ask Lineal, Circular, Strategic or Reflexive…

Benjamin argues aura persists where transmissible experience still resists mechanisation. hence the obligation of facing fragile personhood endures beyond digitizing therapy’s surface features. While technology cannot replace moral presence, it may widen therapeutic outreach if guided by ethical care rather than vulgar profit. Benjamin exposes grave loss but also emancipatory openings when historic auras fade. By heeding his insights, we may move more wisely forward as we face integrating the human and automated....

The Work of Therapy in the Age of Artificial Reproduction Benjamin argues aura persists where transmissible experience still resists mechanisation. hence the obligation of facing fragile personhood endures beyond digitizing therapy’s surface features. Whi…

"As psychotherapists, we are neither casual observers nor scientists studying the journeying of the Other from afar. We are fellow travellers, experienced ethical people navigating the contoured landscape of human experiences, sharing insights along that shared path, gently challenging assumptions or biases, and learning from our clients as they chose a path away from the captivity of unhappiness or dishabituation or stuckness."...

Beyond the Pleasure Principle “As psychotherapists, we are neither casual observers nor scientists studying the journeying of the Other from afar. We are fellow travellers, experienced ethical people navigating the contou…

My latest article treats the myth of fear. In the library of literature on human emotions fear holds a unique space in our fascination, and for good reason. For despite its omnipresence, fear is elusive.

The Myth of Fear | W4DEY In the library of literature on human emotions fear holds a unique space in our fascination, and for good reason. It is a fundamental emotion, its phylogenetic roots measured in evolutionary time. …