Ben Bidwell - Human Potential Coach

Knowing something and being it are two very different things.

I see more awareness about emotional intelligence and mental health, but I don’t see or feel as much embodiment of that awareness.

The journey of embodied awareness and being the knowing is the deepest work, because it asks you to remove the blocks held deep in the body that keep you stuck in your patterns, beyond the mind’s awareness.

It’s for this reason that my work is increasingly focused towards the body, an exploration that has led me to tools such as breathwork.

Most recently I’ve completed training in Myofascial Energetic Release (MER) with and to give me another bodywork tool for releasing what we carry deep in our fascia.

Our world needs more than just intellectual understanding; it craves felt expression, being the knowing.

My offering is expanding, if you’re interested in embodied experiences through movement, breathwork and deep tissue bodywork, let’s connect.

My intention for you is to create more feeling, more healing, and a rich, genuine, embodied presence. As Michael Brown says in his book The Presence Process “This process isn’t about feeling better, it’s about getting better with the feelings” ❤️

Today (Monday) 5pm, I go live with my MER teacher to talk about heart-led masculinity and to look at how this deep work can help men anchor in more attuned and embodied leadership.

During our training, Nisarga was being such a safe, heart-led, embodied leader, it allowed the room to go so deep into our stuff. It was beautiful to be led by him, and it will be an honour to connect with him today. Please tune in if you’re intrigued (the conversation is not just for men, but mostly about men / the masculine journey)❤️

Last March, my hayfever was the worst I had ever known it to be. I had 3 months of a blocked nose, itchy eyes and sleepless nights. It became such a frustration that I made a commitment to myself that I wouldn’t go through that again in March ‘24.

I can’t say I’ve known too much about manifesting in the past, but a few times now, when I’ve really wanted something at a deep deep level, I’ve created it. This experience being one of them.

To spend nearly 5 weeks working is an honour and a gift to my nervous system. This is an island of such stunning beauty and tranquility, whilst providing special experiences through incredible wellness service. It’s my honour to be out here surrendering into the tranquility, and sharing my heart-opening work through breathwork and embodied experiences.

And so my manifestation and future-self work continues, I’m intrigued to see what I create next. In the meantime I’ll keep gratefully enjoying what currently is 🙏🏼💚

The journey of healing alongside someone you care about can deepen a connection.

You experience something unique together, and find each other in a softer, more open space after. These experiences stay with you both.

This is why .reah , , and I are passionate about making our ALCHEMY events more accessible, by inviting you to bring your people with you.

Introducing the BRING A FRIEND initiative! 👇👇👇

Alchemy is not just another workshop, but a unique convergence of heart-opening breathwork and soul-stirring sounds. It’s a journey designed to facilitate release, liberation, connection and transformation.

Join us for our upcoming event at 10.30am on 9th March in a stunning Central London location. I’ll be leading an embodied breathwork experience, alongside the soulful sounds curated live by .Reah

To join us, find the booking link in our bios, and don’t forget to check out the BRING A FRIEND option! 🌟

Who in your life would you love to share this transformative experience with?

Let’s explore and grow together ❤️

I’m excited to share that on the 17-19th September , I’ll be part of a wellness retreat / festival (a “restival”) to rejuvenate your mind, body and soul @2.0_lifestylefestival .

This will be three days of adventuring into an idyllic haven just an hour and a half outside of London, where a hidden pocket of tranquillity will be providing a transformative experience .

I’ll be offering heart-opening breathwork to drop you deep into your purpose and bring alive the love within.

Alongside that you’ll find a range of captivating talks, immersive workshops, fitness and yoga classes, as well as rejuvenating and playful moments in amongst a breathtaking scenic backdrop.

There are only 100 tickets available to create an intimate experience, and there is accommodation to suit your needs. So whether you want to be closer to nature in a tent or treehouse, or inside a luxury barn cottage, you'll be incredibly comfortable.

I hope to connect with you then for a beautiful few days of inner growth (for ticket info and further enquiries, check out @2.0_lifestylefestival ) 🙏🏼❤️

Love isn’t a thing that is completed or understood.

It’s infinite, because we ourselves are infinite, and as we grow, love grows.

I had no idea that an expansion of love would be a byproduct of my personal development journey, it turns out it’s actually the deepest purpose of my personal development journey.

The same goes for us all, but we’ll only see that as the journey unfolds.

Love is infinite, that’s what makes it exciting, an adventure, spontaneous and passionate ❤️

One of the many reasons I love Breathwork is that it can melt away our internal stories, allowing us to re-connect at a deeper level.

In that place we let go of resentment, and love can be our experience once again.

It’s for this reason I’m now offering breathwork sessions for couples to re-connect to love together.

If you’d like to experience this truly unique form of couples healing, I’m here to guide you both on a beautiful journey🙏🏼❤️

Depth is what resides beneath the surface, beneath our thinking, labels, limitations and what's rational, and into the truth of who we are as a human.

It allows us to see there is so much more to be seen, felt, understood and connected with beyond what meets the eye.

It’s become forgotten, a lost art swallowed by the shallow pulls that limit our purpose and keep us stuck.

For the next 3 days I have an early bird offer on my Breathwork and Human Potential Programme, “Breathe Into Life”, that will take you deeper. Deeper so that you let go of what keeps you from being free, deeper into your expansive potential, and deeper into a powerful vision for your future.

Message me before the end of July (and for the remaining 3 people only) to get 40% off, and Breathe Into Life with me. There’s so much magic to uncover using the breath as our tool, I’d love to take you on the journey 🙏🏼❤️

Love doesn’t tell anyone to change.

Love loves them for who they already are, AND empowers them to see their potential to expand.

Because love is without limit, it’s expansive, infitie in its possibilities.

And in that space, there can be so much excitement, because with expansion, how can we feel stuck?

So the problem is never love, it’s the lack of love, or the lack of the ability to love that limits us.

Love in its most mature, purest form, is liberating and unlimited. An adventure without a destination, a journey constantly unfolding and evolving ❤️

Combining Breathwork with Human Potential Coaching allows me to take you on a deep inner journey that leads you to a more fulfilling, purposeful existence.

If you’re curious, then you can work with me in the following ways:

- “Breathe Into Life", October ‘23 = 15 week Breathwork and Human Potential Group Coaching Programme, to uncover what's holding you back and align you with your desired future (this programme can also be done 1-2-1).

- “The Wealth to Fulfilment Blueprint" = 6 month 1-2-1 deep dive using multiple tools to take you on a complete journey of self-discovery.

- 1-2-1 transformational breathwork = A specifically curated breathwork and human potential integration session, that leads you to where you need to go.

- “Alchemy”; a monthly online sound () and breathwork workshop to empower you to let go of what no longer serves you. Run on the power of the full moon each month.

More info on each option is in the link in my bio.

Ps - ill be sharing all my news, events, emotions and opportunities through my newsletter, so if you want to stay connected please sign-up at benbidwell.com ❤️

We talk about mentors, people who inspire us, lead or guide us to become better, more of our true self.

Well I think I might have found my best mentor yet.

Because this young pup is showing me every day:

Whether it’s to feel my emotions, so that I can express my authenticity and let go of holding onto things.

Or if it’s to show me the true meaning of unconditional love, by starting from a place of love and aiming to live from that place.

Or if it’s to remind me of the power and intimacy of trust and how beautiful it is to feel how much someone / something truly trusts in you.

Or if it’s the ability to be grateful, time and time again, even if it’s for the same thing. The excitement doesn’t have to dwindle.

And so much more, because Koji lives in his heart every day. He has no fears of judgement, and seeks no other purpose than to show up and enjoy this journey he’s experiencing.

He’s my teacher, my friend and my love, and my aim, as shown by him, is to be grateful for every second I get to share with him ☺️❤️

One of the complications of love is the contradictions it asks of us…

A safe and comfortable love is a beautiful thing,
but is it enough without a sense of adventure and growth too?

An adventurous and developing love is a beautiful thing,
but is that possible without a secure and respectful container in the first place?

Sometimes we seek the simplicity of the reliable hand we know and trust,
but what’s even more magical is to join that trusted hand into the unknown, so that more can be uncovered.

Love asks for contrasts, and in contrasts is great expanse ❤️

No one showed me what it meant to be a healthy man. Not that there is one set way.

What I do know, is that as I began to try to become a better man, there were times when it felt incredibly scary.

I feared how I would be perceived, I feared losing friends, I feared no longer having an identity that was accepted and celebrated by society.

But looking back now, I can see that deep down, underneath the friars that kept me stuck as I was, there was a deep desire to be free to be myself.

I wanted to feel liberated, I wanted to become more of my authentic self.

To do that I had to let go of the version I was shown to be, and stop making myself wrong for being who I learned to be.

Instead, I had to look at the root causes of what made me the person I became.

And that’s where I sit with masculinity.

We need to look at why men find themselves choosing toxic values, rather than making them wrong for consistently choosing them.

We need to celebrate healthy male role models, not question their strength when they express their raw vulnernability.

We need to welcome and create safe spaces for the healthy expression of anger, creativity, love and kindness.

We need to help men rediscover how to connect to their hearts, because men aren’t bad at their heart, they just aren’t taught how to listen to it 😔❤️

I know this might be a tough one to agree with.

Because I understand how healthy it can be for love to be conditional.

But that’s to talk about love in a romantic form. Of course that requires boundaries, not all behaviour is ok, and we can’t always continue to love romantically.

But love as an energy, as a way of being, is different.

Because, what if we consider our connection to each other without judgement? What if we met each person, in that moment, where they’re at?

Is there any reason not to love someone now?

Because I believe love is our starting point, it’s who and what we are before we learn ways that take us away.

So you might argue, but why would I love someone for no reason?

And I’d respond, because that’s the most liberating and natural thing you can do ❤️

The beautiful thing about love is it doesn’t judge.

It will create boundaries around what is needed, but without getting wrapped up in the story of right and wrong, good and bad.

Because beneath every action that we witness, are many truths we probably aren’t aware of.

Love is understanding that, because that is what’s mostly deeply true, and love is what is most deeply true❤️

I received some sad news today, the loss of a beautiful soul.

I’m not sure if it was that or not, but something triggered a need to rant, a need to express the dark frustration within.

And I know we aren’t supposed to hate.

I couldn’t bring myself to hate another person, but sometimes there’s deep frustration for life, our world, and just being sad doesn’t feel enough.

And sometimes that energy can boil over and spill into areas of life that now we see with dark coloured spectacles.

Today feels like one of those days 🥹❤️

Whenever I come to write about what is love, I always come back to love being truth.

Raw, unfiltered, deep truth.

But raw, unfiltered, deep truth is always kind and compassionate, because that is what is raw and unfiltered within us.

The blaming, shaming, making others wrong, and all the judgements that can get expressed as our “truth”, isn’t truth, it’s the stories we create on top of the truth.

We have to go deep to find the real truth. We have to be able to listen beneath our thoughts and even beneath our emotions and see what’s there.

When we learn to re-connect with that place, love becomes a choice again. Not always an easy choice, but a choice. And that in itself is empowering ❤️

As men’s mental health week comes to an end, once again I’ve seen a lot of reflection on the need for men to open up and talk more.

A principle I agree with.

But things won’t ever change if that’s as far as it goes.

Because I’ve been that man who felt totally uncomfortable sharing my emotions, my fears etc.

And however much anyone told me I needed to talk more, my deep rooted, unconscious fear meant I wasn’t going to do that.

My perception was that, because it didn’t feel comfortable, I just wasn’t someone who wanted to have those conversations, that was just who I was! So leave me out of that stuff!

So I know that we need to go deeper in this conversation.

We need more male role models who are celebrated for their openness. We need to be educated about our emotions at an early age. We need to learn to have better space holding skills so we can all feel comfortable having the important, open conversations.

But beneath that we need to go deeper still.

We need more acceptance that we all have our limitations and our flaws, things within us that we unconsciously hold onto, that stop us being emotionally free.

So we need to welcome more men’s circles, more men working with therapists, coaches, councillors, more men working on uncovering the power of their mind to live more deeply.

Until we do this deeper work, men will continue to live in a way whereby it feels uncomfortable to speak more, however much we keep saying it 🙏🏼❤️

When I hear someone say they find love restrictive, that is ties them down, I wonder how it is they perceive it.

Because love, true, meaningful, deep love is what can set us free.

Free from our fears, from what keeps us small.

Because with love comes the freedom to uncover more in every moment and every person.

Love is a never ending journey of exploration, discovery and self expression that carries no bounds ❤️

Love is a great paradox…because it asks for contrasting things.

Without strength and clarity there may be no safety without boundaries. But without softness and flexibility there my be limits to the connection.

So to embrace love, it requires a strength to speak our truth, and a softness to deliver it lovingly ❤️

Ps - Tomorrow I get to deliver a workshop to open up hearts and let more love in. I love that I get to do this job 🙏🏼❤️

- Love exists in multiple forms. It’s not just an emotional experience, our thoughts and actions can definitely be loving too…

But my experiences of relationships that are disconnected to emotion by one or both people, is that they can only go so far. They can only fill us up so deeply. They can only nourish us so much.

For love and powerful intimacy to come alive, to feel it so strongly it brings tears to our eyes or joy into our bones, just from the meeting of eyes, it has to be deeply felt.

Ticking boxes satisfies the mind, meaningful love nourishes the heart ❤️

It’s a clique isn’t it; “follow your heart”, but if you’re like how I once was, then the difficulty exists in knowing what that means. How do we even know what the heart is saying?

Well, that for me is doing the inner work. Letting go of what takes us away from ourselves, so that we can hear the truth of our heart again. And once we’ve learned how to listen, can we find the safety and strength within to now make the courageous choices. The choices a part of us has always wanted to make, but we’ve found it easier to listen elsewhere.

I believe, in fact I know, that following our heart is the path of love, truth and freedom. It’s not an easy journey, it takes huge courage, vulnerability and compassion, but when we find it, the path of the heart is everything we’ve ever longed for ❤️

I call my retreat and 1-2-1 human potential programme “Find your Freedom”, because I want the people I work with to be free.

Free to reach their full potential, free to live aligned to what is most deeply true, free to live a purposeful existence, free to be their most authentic selves, free to love, create and express. Free to LIVE BIG.

It’s not easy work. It’s easier to hide behind our perceived limitations and stay stuck in line with our current identity. It’s easier to stay in our comfort zone and repeat the same behavioural patterns.

The work I do can be challenging in the short term, but deeply rewarding and fulfilling in the long term.

I now have space for 2 more 1-2-1 clients. If you’d like to join me to fulfil your potential and live a more purposeful, meaningful and liberated life then let’s talk 🙏🏼❤️

- I’ve just finished 5 magical days in Greece hosting my retreat “Find your Freedom”.

My heart is full of love, having opened up the group to find their inner freedom so that they can love more deeply, and live more purposefully.

Despite only knowing each other for a few days and coming from different backgrounds, with different passions and interests, the group let go of limitations and created bonds that come from feeling seen, heard and valued.

Author Ralph Nichols one wrote, “The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood”. I feel that so strongly today…

When we seek to understand, and gain more clarity about ourselves and each in doing so, we knock down the walls that block love and connection and experience the world in a different way. It’s powerful, magical and beautiful all at the same time ❤️

- Being selfish has got a bad rep. It’s a red flag for some, but for me, not being selfish is more of a concern.

Because I believe love is wanting the best for those around you. And for them to be their best, they must choose themselves.

So if I truly want to offer someone love, my intention is to help them be the version of themselves that they most deeply want to be. To do that, they’ll need to make “selfish” decisions, and that’s a beautiful, loving thing.

I should add that I’m not supportive of selfish choices that don’t serve their best future self. That’s self sabotage and now we’re talking about something very different..❤️

Im so happy, excited and honoured to be joining Laura and Russell Brand for what is going to be a magical and unforgettable 3-day festival at COMMUNITY 2023 from Friday, July 14th to Monday, July 17th in Hay-On-Wye.

I’ll be part of a panel discussion on masculinity hosted by , as well as offering a breathwork workshop to facilitate deep mens work.

If you’re interested in insightful conversations on spirituality, wellness, healthy living, and environmentalism, or you want to take part in yoga, Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, musical performances, meditation, and experience the ice with then grab your tickets now!

Summer is coming - I’m so excited to be part of incredible experiences like this. I hope to meet lots of you there! 🙏🏼❤️

For a long time breathwork has been a tool I’ve used to go deeper into my psyche. Using the breath, it’s possible to create physiological change within the body to bring new internal connections and a deep sense of clarity about who we can become and what matters most.

In other words, breathwork has the ability to reconnect us to our heart. Powerful, beautiful and liberating inner work.

I’m fortunate that I can combine my work as a human potential coach with breathwork to create new visions and possibilities for those I work with.

Whilst I love providing online sessions, there’s something extra special about powerful experiences in person. There’s extra emotion, magic and meaning when other people are around you, sharing the journey.

That’s why I’m so excited to be back at this May, where I’ll be offering a free talk / workshop before going deeper into the work in a longer session (ticket link in my bio). The event is running from 26th-29th May at London Olympia, and ill be running both my workshops on the morning of Monday 29th.

If you’re intrigued, Im going live (here on insta) with tomorrow (Tuesday) 12pm to share a little more and answer any questions, come join us then! 🙏🏼❤️

I grew up thinking love was something I had for my parents and something I hoped to do with someone special.

I didn’t realise love is something I can be on my own and something that I could bring to everything I do. Because love is, first and foremost, something to be, not just to have or do.

Being love isn’t easy, particularly in a world that teaches us otherwise, but it remains the ultimate goal and is the expression of our deepest potential ❤️

Slow down.

Create time to reflect. Notice, be curious, listen.

Listen beyond the thoughts that swim at surface level and, over time, beyond the impulsive reactions that take you away from you. Listen so that you can respond from the depth of your heart; calm yet still passionate, kind yet still firm.

Stay grounded, so that you don’t lose yourself to the noises around you. Know yourself best, and listen with an awareness that not everyone gets it.

Choose you, but what matters most ahead of what entices you now. You only love once, but this life unravels to greater depths when we choose with a vision for who we want to become.

Make meaningful connection - with the people who matter to you, with nature, animals, life, what it means to be alive.

Govern the rhythm of your life by reclaiming the tranquility and inner peace you deserve. Make your heart your guide, nature your friend, and your existence your purpose ❤️

I used to tick boxes in relationships. Say the right things, do what made sense, buy the nice things, go for the nice dinners. What more did they want?

I learned that they want to feel me, my love and my curiosity, so that they felt like they mattered. They wanted to hear what was going on for me in the inside so that they could understand me better. They wanted me to share my emotions so that could feel into me to and connect more deeply.

And so it became more about the little things, not ticking boxes as such, but connecting at heart level, a deeper, more meaningful place.

Being felt can be expressed through the smallest of things, as long as they come from the heart. For them to come from the heart we have to connect to the heart ❤️