The Inner Journey Clinic on Harley Street

RELATIONAL GROWTH

Sometimes we fight for an idea of how a relationship 'should' be rather than face what's really here... Part of the human condition I guess... but at some point the truth kicks and kicks until it can be ignored no more... Broadly speaking, there's 3 ways to look at these situations:

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1) YOU ATTEMPT TO MAKE THEM CHANGE...
Good luck with that, and just wishing and wishing is a recipe for limbo. Dialogue can inspire your beloved to stretch and discover for themselves what's true for them... But sadly that's a rare thing and always must come from THEIR true inner desire or is unsustainable and perpetuates the cycle.

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2) YOU LOOK AT YOURSELF...
Look at your dissatisfactions, your issues, your judgements and how they are mirrors for your internal world... That, in my experience, is a great use of the conflict brought on by the growth impulse... but at some point it reaches its limits and demands a relational collaboration... And if the mode of "I must fix myself to make the relationship work" continues... Well, at this point it actually becomes counter-productive and will, most likely, cause you additional suffering...

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3) YOU ALIGN FULLY WITH WHAT YOU WANT...
You get super clear on what YOU want to experience, let go of everything you've created in the relationship and open to where life is pointing you. The challenge is trusting that, even though it might get rough in the adjustment, what you want is also seeking you and life will find a way... with or without them...

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NPA is amazing for bringing you back to you and letting go of outcome, especially relationally. Visit www.JoelYoungNPA.com/sessions if you would like some support with this very challenging situation

Joel x

YOU MATTER

When I was a kid I would say something in a group and notice that the conversation would continue without the slightest acknowledgement that I was there or had said anything.

I was the invisible boy.

I was quick to feel rejection and tell myself that 'they' just weren't hearing me. It was a subtle form of blame... A quiet defence mechanism and an abdication of personal power which quickly seduced me into near total shut down.

"Clearly", I soothed myself "my expression is invisible... My words don't matter... *I* don't matter!" Low self esteem was confirmed, and lack of confidence justified.

The path out of that hole and into the clear knowing that I matter was a long one for me.

One of the things I've realised is that back then my fear and lack of confidence sent my energy running a mile in those situations, so I actually wasn't there and my words were empty.

It's taken me a lot of deep inner inquiry, healing and facing of those fears to shift my sense of who and what I am.

And it took me a few heart thumping walks down the terror tunnel and into conversation to crack the dam and confirm the shift through direct experience.

Now my energy is truly with me in those kind of situations; I'm present, confident and my words are truly alive.

While it took me a lot of time and effort, it seems I've created a clear pathway that others can follow; much faster, and much easier.

Helping people come to the deep realisation that they matter has become a passion and an area of expertise for me... You see? I can even blow my own trumpet 😉

If you feel you don't matter (Perhaps putting yourself last much of the time or shutting yourself down and staying out of life..?)... Maybe it's time to turn the tide and start living like you matter... Because somewhere inside you know you do!

So let me help you:
http://www.joelyoungnpa.com/sessions

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A reminder to love yourself

HOW DO YOU LOVE?
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How do you love your beloved?
How do you love your family?
How do you love your pets?
How do you love your precious things? ❓❓❓❓❓
Are there things you do for them that you don't do for yourself?
Are there lengths you go to that you don't go to for yourself?
Are there sacrifices you make, is there extra effort you make, is there extra time you spend to give them the best you can?
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What would happen if you gave that to yourself?
What would happen if you loved yourself that way?
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What stops you?
Face that fear...
What would it give you if you did love yourself that way?
Embrace that experience...
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Walk through the fire of your habitual lack of self care...
Stop sipping from the bottle of slow-poison that is: inaction around things for YOU...
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Fill up your cup with acts of self- love.
Ask for support.
Be you.
Do it for you.
And if you can't do it for you, do it for others, for they will benefit enormously from you doing it.
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Hold yourself in an embrace of active love... And watch your world transform!
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www.JoelYoungNPA.com/sessions
If you need support x

SELF PARENTING

In my many years of self-healing and working with countless clients, I noticed that most painful behaviours were born from ‘child’ consciousness’ or young identities looking for something… Love, protection, acknowledgement, understanding etc etc…

The child energy seeks parental energy… And yet we tend to “personalise” parental energy, and therefore limit it’s origin, to our parents and carers.

So if the flow of parental energy through these fine people is shaped in a way that didn’t connect with our various child energies, an unmet need is generated.

The good news is that parental energy is non-personal and can joyfully flow through you to your child energies in exquisitely precise ways.

Through this notion I was liberated from my personal history, so I invite you to parent yourself in all the ways you wish you had been parented.

If you have the courage to do so, then Love will run amok in your heart, where need once did.

Also reach out for support. I have a LOT of experience with this and I've seen dramatic healing when it is applied. You can set up a free call with me via my website here:
http://www.JoelYoungNPA.com/sessions

Joel x

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What are you attracting today?

Endings are an inevitable part of life

Grief, more than any other emotion will have it’s way with you, and create havoc if suppressed…

Feelings are crazy, weird, wonderful and, oftentimes, challenging things…

But I often thank God that I can feel them and know that I’m alive.

Grief and endings of all kinds tend to heighten everything that’s been kept inside. Those emotions can come crashing to the surface.

On the upside, that makes it a time that brings the opportunity to uncover the tangle of yourself and your hidden shadow...

And sometimes we need a helping hand to go through the process...

http://www.npacentral.com/the-gift-of-grief/

The Gift of Grief Endings are an inevitable part of life Grief, more than any other emotion will have it’s way with you, and create havoc if suppressed… Feelings are crazy, weird, wonderful and, oftentim…

While this article focuses on the benefit of investing in a 'coach', it absolutely holds true for the emotional work we do at the clinic :)
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/summer-engman/why-i-happily-pay-my-life-coach-the-big-bucks_b_8112828.html

Why I Happily Pay my Life Coach the Big Bucks I was trained early on to understand that the purpose of a large investment is never to buy a coach's investment in me (because that is already a given). It is to get me deeply, truly invested in myself.

Do you need to do a Spring Clean of the negative thoughts in your head? Try these ideas...

Space to rent in my head...only happy thoughts need apply! - The Inner Journey Clinic Ever noticed how you end up thinking the same thoughts over and over again? There seem to be certain thoughts (and beliefs…) that function on autopilot and we think them over and over again each day. If the Law of Attraction states that we get what we focus on, then maybe we need to do a …

Got any pregnant friends who want to empower themselves to have a better birth? Listen to Patti Good being interviewed on how to avoid unnecessary induction...

Induction and the pressure to induce, with Patti Good - Fear Free Childbirth Today's podcast is to help you manage the pressure to induce that most mamas face. I chat to Patti Good who shares her advice for preparing and staying calm.

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"I’m too busy working on my own grass to notice if yours is greener.”

Ahhhh. ...Love the gentleness of reaching for relief....

Delighted to announce that our yummy new website has just gone live! Enjoy!
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The Inner Journey Clinic in Harley Street, London W1 Are you longing to be free from emotional or physical issues, from chronic illness or deep or longstanding emotional pain? At the Inner Journey Clinic we...

It's a hugely healing step to see beyond the the prickly exterior... especially your own

Not taking that prickly exterior personally is a great start to remembering this...

Find out how at www.NonPersonalAwareness.com

10 beautiful ideas to make life easier....

LIFE is meant to be enjoyed. But you have to intentionally design your life to be able to experience that. Here are 10 things that I do that make my life super easy and enjoyable:

1⃣ I spend the first hour of my day in peace and in prayer. Before I touch the phone or begin my day, I spend time with God, talking planning visualizing and praying for the things I want to manifest in that day. I get in alignment FIRST before anything or anyone has an opportunity to move me.

2⃣ I keep my goals and plans in front of me. Directly next to my bed is a card with the current goals I am working towards and the plans that I have for myself. I read them and pray over them several times a day.

3⃣ I prepare my meals in advance. To prevent eating out or over indulging, I prep my meals for the week on Sunday. I cook, package and plan out what will go in my body for the week.

4⃣ I "reset" my mind nightly. I never go to bed with the day on my mind. I let go of my thoughts. I forgive moments that bothered or upset me. I send love and peace to those I love and to those who don't love me. I say to myself "Shanel you did a good job today!" And I rest in peace.

5⃣ I keep candles lit and fresh flowers all around me all day. Energy and environment shape your ability to be creative and to think on a higher level.

6⃣ I always look good. I make sure my clothes are well put together, clean and crisp. Even if I'm wearing sweats, I'm well put together. I never leave out disheveled or just thrown together. It speaks volumes to the way you value yourself.

7⃣ I don't force myself to follow a hard schedule. I let my days flow and let God move me. Because I've already written it and believe it... I trust my plans will manifest. No resistance. I go with the flow.

8⃣ I talk to myself constantly. I am ALWAYS in intentional inner conversation with myself. I tell myself how capable, amazing, valuable and needed I am. If I pass a mirror I say "hey gorgeous" if I need motivation, I go to a mirror and give myself a pep talk. If I am mad, I discuss my feelings with myself. The parts of my body I don't like, I tell it "I love you and I'm going to make you better." If I don't get something, I ask the Holy Spirit to teach me. I make sure that I'm rehearsing in my mind what I want to see play out in my day.and I'm always SPEAKING OUT what I desire to see happen.

9⃣ I give A LOT. I over-give on a daily basis. If I stop to buy a juice or snack, I pay for two and leave the money at the register for the next customer. If I leave a tip at a restaurant I leave the full amount of what the bill is as a tip. If I get gas, I leave $20 extra for the next person. If someone asks me for a $1 on the street I give them $10. I send money to my family for no reason. I treat my friends to dinner and send them flowers and gifts. I believe HALF of your earnings should always be shared in someway with others. No matter how much you have. This principal has blessed ME in so many ways financially. I am never without because I give so freely. And it has PUSHED my financial limits and money mindset, so I don't have limits on how much I can RECEIVE. If you go above and beyond to GIVE financially, God will go above and beyond to BLESS you financially.

🔟 I rest frequently. If my body is tired, I listen to it and rejuvenate myself. When I feel stressed or overworked, I stop without worry. Scripture says REST IN GODS PEACE. The spirit of God is IN ME. So my physical body has to be fueled enough to carry it. If my body needs something I supply it, because it must be my spirit that is calling for something so that I can give something greater. REST!! Rest in Gods peace often. You will have more energy then you can imagine.

See... EASY! 💋

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