Ruth Olayinka Clinical Hypnotherapy

Undesputably a 'life changing' training (my words, my experience, my recommendation) opportunity.

Well worth considering training as an NLP practitioner with Nigel Hetherington. Massive amounts of application with and for your therapy clients.

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Breathtaking projections onto Durham Cathedral at Lumiere Durham this weekend. Alas, lots of crowds, rain and tired children meant a pause in Costa before heading back to the car.

On the way back, however, we stood on a bridge and watched the rain reflection through a light projection. It wasn't part of the instillation as such - and it was perfection. A trance like illumination of the freshness and movement of the weather for us to enjoy.

There's the moments we expect to enjoy - and there's the moments we don't expect to enjoy when we have the space, the time and the need to submerge ourselves in them.

Quick self-nourishing breathwork session before the school run? Don't mind if I do!

I feel so grateful and fortunate to have a work space which not only facilitates my clients into comfort and relaxation - it does the same for me!

Hurrah for deep and welcome relaxing pauses in the day to day :-).

Unmissable opportunity!

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When I first began teaching hypnobirthing with pregnant clients, I would say at least 75% had sought out the birth preparation route they had as a result of fear, uncertainty, past experiences or stories of past experiences they had heard (and run through their own system to create the fear response).

Many thing we looked at in the birth prep course did really well to settle these fears (knowledge, tracks, exercises, empowerment, choice etc...).

None of the course really had very strong ability to collapse previous experiences which still created the rear response in my client. In these cases, I would take a different approach. By supporting my client to reframe, restructure and resolve feelings around previous experiences, our clients are able to create an internal environment and secure foundation upon which they can go on to build and construct their new understandings, reframes of birth, resources, beliefs and intuitions. It was essential for the entire birth preparation process.

Becoming a 3-Step Rewind practitioner will equip you with the skills to do just this.
Learn how to support your clients to find greater ease with difficult fertility or prei-natal experiences.

Live courses with Ruth which include supervised practise. Additionally, throughout and beyond your training, you have access to ongoing training and supervision.

https://www.rutholayinka.com/3-step-rewind-training/

- Book a 15 minute chat with me to find out more.
- Payment plans available.
- Still space available on the final course this year (beginning in November).

I have taken Fridays off for a month now - and I’m this time I have rested, grown things, done things I enjoy and baked.

Baking these healthy cookies for the family is something I look forward to each week. It really is the accumulation of little things that make a difference 😁.

This is a lesser known and exceptionally useful use for Rewind trained practitioners. In fact, it was as the NLP 'Fast Phobia Cure' (yep, I'm not keen on the name either) during my training when I first not only facilitated and experienced the use of this - and also cured my lifelong wasp phobia.

I honestly hadn't believed it was going to work - and it did.

Rewind is usually thought about in terms of releasing peri-natal trauma in the birth world - however, it's also a gem which can transform your clients experience if they have, for instance, a needle phobia or vomiting phobia.

We cover it's use for phobias in the course and, if this sounds intriguing to you, get in touch for a chat or have a further look at booking onto a practitioner course either next month or in the new year.

https://www.rutholayinka.com/3-step-rewind-training/

I’m openly admitting I’ve let the self nourishment slide recently. Life has been challenging of late. No need to berate myself for it - that’s counterproductive. Im restarting slow. Connecting with good friends, and a sweltering detoxifying hug of a sauna. Small@things to begin. More intention for increase in yoga, running, breathwork and cold water therapy to come.

For now, one step at a time and everything in its own and at the right time.

I feel so fortunate and full of gratitude to have this as the back yard just beyond my back yard.

As birth professionals, so many of our clients find us as a result of wanting - no - needing to do things differently this time. It's sadly a reality of our experience as birth professionals. once people have faced the reality of struggled with navigating through a system they weren't prepared for, the desire to do everything to make changes this time can be immense.

So how do we facilitate our clients to prepare for a different experience with all the skills, wisdom, knowledge and capacity for deep support you already have, yet may be sensing that their previous experience could be preventing them from fully accessing all the resources (the ones you're providing and their innate birthing resources too)?

3-Step Rewind is a very simple facilitation process which can support your clients to re-process their previous experience in a way which means they collapse any triggers around it and are more able to fully engage with preparing for a different experience this time, with your support.

In the days when I taught hypnobirthing, I often described it as a bespoke fear release. And the grear news is it can also be used for fears and phobias with your clients too (think blood, hospital, needles, vomiting tokophobia).

3-Step Rewind is a useful tool which can make sure your clients can absorb ALL of the support you offer them as they prepare for birth.

- Small group live learning sessions with Ruth over 4 weeks.
- Theoretical & and experiential learning.
- Ongoing support and supervision during & beyond course completion.
- Comprehensive step by step session manual.
- Flexible payment plans available.

See available courses and book here:

https://www.rutholayinka.com/3-step-rewind-training/

Is it now your time as a birth or fertility professional to equip yourself with the essential skills to help your clients move emotionally through and beyond difficult perinatal or fertility experiences?

I have only 3 spaces available for the September course start dates:

Session 1 - Mon 18th Sept - 6pm - 9pm
Session 2 - Mon 25th Sept - 6pm - 9pm
Session 3 - Mon 2nd Oct - 6pm - 9pm
Session 4 - Mon 9th Oct - 6pm - 9pm

Book your space on the link below with only a £50 deposit. And feel free to DM or message me with any questions you have about the course or to discuss payment plans before you make tyour booking:

https://www.rutholayinka.com/3-step-rewind-training/

When I moved my work space to , Chopwell (my home village) back in July last year, I initially only intended it to be an admin space, with hypnotherapy sessions happening either online or in the more populated location of nearby Newcastle.

Very quickly, however, I discovered that not only are people willing to travel further to access the sessions which can make such significantly useful difference to them - so as well as providing sessions in town and online, I decided to begin to facilitate sessions and welcome clients here too.

My clients enjoy the drive out into the countryside (there's something transformative about a journey in and of itself). They tell me how comfortable they feel in this space, how much they love the view from the window (I have MANY ideas gazing out this window at this view) and how nourished and supported they feel in this space.

If you would like to find out how hypnotherapy can support you move away from something you no longer need and towards the future you want, need, desire and deserve, book a 15 minute discovery call with me below:

https://www.rutholayinka.com/book-now/

You know those times when you want to really share something that you recently experienced with others because it was simply so breathtakingly special? And then you stop, because you simply cannot find the words to convey all of its specialness and meaning - so you don't.

Well, I was fortunate enough to be a part of (and I felt FULLY a part of) this gorgeous gathering of birthkeepers at the weekend. It was restorative, connective and may other things that I simply don't have words for. There was Reiki, yoga, dance, relaxation.

I wish for everyone to find the kind of connection (with self and/or others) that I experienced this weekend - because we're human, and that's one of our MOST natural states.

Thank you Natal the Healing Birth Doula

I'd like you to meet Gillian. She's my yoga therapist (not just mine - many peoples, and she could be yours too...).

Gillian and I met a few years on a yoga retreat. As I looked around at all these new faces on the day 1 induction, I wasn't sure if I felt I belonged there... and then a few minutes late in walks Gillian. Walks is such a reductionary word here - you see Gillians marvellous energy goes before her. She'a the kind of person where you feel her presence before you even see her in the space. I clocked her and felt 'I like her - we're going to get on. Gillian is my kind of person!' - and I was so very right.

2 years on and it's Gillian I have chosen (or has a universe chosen her for me... who knows) to regularly keep me in the best place to live my best life. And she facilitates me to do this is a way which speaks so clearly for me - through the body (after all - the body really is where we hold our stuff!).

So Gillian, this is a shout out to you. For being a wise, kind, gentle, intuitive and supportive human being who knows exactly what space to hold, and how to hold it for others. Thank you!

You can find Gillian at

https://www.facebook.com/YogaForTheBodyYoureIn/ -

She delivers sessions from Sereniti Health in Gateshead and online.

Discounted Clinical Hypnotherapy sessions for all NE17 residents at The Bank, Chopwell.

Follow the link below to book using the code THEBANK25 for your 25% discount.

https://www.rutholayinka.com/book-now/

Last minute availability at Jesmond Natural Health for Clinical Hypnotherapy tomorrow afternoon (Thursday 6th July).

Recent clients I've worked with have come to get support with and resolve fears and phobias of flying and snakes, procrastination, health anxiety, quitting smoking, quitting alcohol, resolving trauma and fertility support hypnotherapy.

So, if you know there's something you would like to change. Something to move away from or move towards. Something which has the potential to change your life for the best, book in on the link below. How good will it feel to get that thing sorted sooner than you thought?

https://www.rutholayinka.com/book-now/

In my early 20's, before I even owned a mobile phone, I was out for a wonderful day of escape exploring rural Northumberland with my boyfriend at the time. It was a day where we could forget about work, about the humdrum of life, about anything else but what was important for us right now - simply spending time in each others company.

He had recently opted into mobile phone ownership - the old Nokia kind with the little green screen where you had to get a repetitive strain injury in the fingers to simply type a text.

During this countryside exploration and escape his phone rang - it was work. Now bear in mind that answerting phones which weren't plugged in or sat at a desk or under the stairs was home. If you weren't hom, you weren't home. You simply missed the call and the person left a message or called back later.

As he answered this work call I felt a discomfort inside. What was this feeling? Why was my reaction so strong? It felt like a warm cocooning velvet cloak of our time and curious exploration had been pulled off by the tinny sound of a digital tune played badly.

This was my first experience of this kind of technology pulling me out of the beautiful present and into a not so useful state.

How little I knew then about just how much us humans would soon begin to live more inside our phones and less in the presence of the present.

A few weeks ago swept along with technology, algorhythms and all the ways social media hypnotises us, and I just wanted to put it down - but the lure of its bright colourful promise of escape kept luring me in. I don't want that for me - and I don't want that for my family either. Enough! Ironically Facebook deliverered something usefully timely...
..a link instructing me how to turn my phone screen to black and white. I did it, I've done it for a few days now and the contrast is stark!

When working with NLP & hypnotherapy, we sometimes use shifts like this (ie: turning a visually remembered difficult memory to black and white can change the structure of the way the memory is held and therefore make it feel more comfortable to recall or process it completely).

turns out the emotional charge or attachment is removed when I turn my iphone screen to black and white.

My phone now bores me.

I use it only for the functional things.

I'm reclaiming my time, sense of wonderment and presence not only within my life as an individual, but also as a family too. And it feels wonderful!

So, if you too are fed up of being a slave t your phone, have a go for yourself and notice the difference for you.

https://betterhumans.pub/how-to-make-your-iphone-black-and-white-and-why-you-should-42e70deb92c7

Thank you Slater - Well Woman Therapies for first posting this for me to discover - it's gold and as you said yourself, a game changer!

Fan on, floor cushion down, salt lamp sending it’s perfect glow, essential oils filling the room with sweet and happy aromas, cross legged in creative flow with a script development for Antenatal Training Uk. 😍

Hah - this is so true for me. Also, things don’t flow as much when I’m ‘up my own arse’ and ‘trying’ to be something other than ME when public speaking.

Who else can relate?

There's a very efficient, cheap and quick public speaking course you can do, takes only 30 seconds. Ready?

DON'T MIND PEOPLE DISCOVERING YOU'RE A NINCOMPOOP.

It's true, after all, that you are a total banana, your only problem is all of us seeing it. If you drop that model that no one must experience you being a fallible foolish freak then trusting your mouth to express your message will be effortless, just like any other time you open your mouth to speak, it usually functions perfectly adequately.

Surely you must be nearly ready to let the World receive your gifts a bit more….no?

*Update - we'll be on the BBC Radio Newcastle Gilly Holt programme around 5:40pm today (15th May).

Listen out for us on BBC Radio Newcastle this afternoon and come and join one of our ZOOM calls one evening this Mental Health Awareness Week.

We are offering free Zoom sessions from the 15th to the 21st of May from 6.30 to 7.30pm.

This is for anyone suffering from anxiety and anyone who knows anyone with anxiety.

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Something new and exciting is coming. And I’ll be accompanied with some very dear friends 😁. Living with Purpose CIC, Nigel Hetherington & Wolfheart Sarahjinn.

Today Ruth bounced down to the office with a spring in her step. Being a part of living with Purpose CIC is the first time in years that Ruth has worked as part of a team. In addition to us all wanting to make a difference in the communities with live with our activities - it is our desire for us to also make a difference for ourselves.

This mornings activities were completing a funding bid and completing and submitting our application for our business bank account - not the most scintilating of tasks for many folk - and yet Ruth literally BOUNCED to work. Because connection, community, laughter and sharing is ESSENTIAL!

These are the foundations of our vision for Living with Purpose CIC.

It's time to introduce (and re-introduce ourselves for those who know us already).

We are Nigel, Sarah & Ruth - the 3 executive directors of Living With Purpose CIC - a community interest company created to provide courses, workshops, coaching and therapy for individuals, communities and businesses doing what it says on the tin - facilitating people to live more purposefully, more meaninfully and with greater connection and sense of community.

here we are on a drizzly wet post business planning walk down the lane. Even the icy rain cannot dampen our excitement for our new venture.

We are tres excited - watch this space!

I had an in depth conversation with a wonderfully aware and clued up midwife who is making a difference about this yesterday.

Barely a week goes by when I don’t hear of a similar distressing situation which has deeply affected (and still deeply affects) a client on a fertility journey.

I’ve been in that waiting room historically myself too in similar personal circumstances with similar distress.

And what’s more - that waiting room - that space can become linked with those feelings and continue to cause distress even during a following healthy pregnancy - continuing to cause unnecessary suffering where there could, and should, be joy and excitement.

We work through hypnotherapy to separate the feelings from the memory of being in that space - to make it neutral, to collapse the ‘trigger’.

We shouldn’t need to.

All that is needed is a separate space.

Please sign. X

TW: Mentions Loss.

Jodie, a Fertility Network ambassador, created the petition after miscarrying very recently following fertility treatment. She says: ‘This has all stemmed from my recent experience where I was placed in a waiting area within the early pregnancy assessment unit with expectant mothers and couples, all happy and cheerful discussing pregnancy scans and pictures, all while I sat bleeding my pregnancy away.

Read more and sign the petition here:
www.fertilitynetworkuk.org/petition-to-protect-people-experiencing-pregnancy-complications-or-loss-from-unnecessary-distress/

From the moment our human life begins most of us are traumatised by at least one, if not all, of these three things.

First the birth itself. Whether you believe in the great spiritual Oneness before human incarnation or just the oneness of the Mother’s womb, coming out onto planet earth as a baby, where before we were part of something bigger, in a yummy float tank with everything taken care of, now into individualisation, solitariness, Me-ness, and everything that comes with it, is a huge deal. The cord is cut and you are helpless, dependent, and begin the human experience in varying degrees of freak out. ‘What is this skin and nerves and sensations thing???? Help!!!’ Add to that the immense amount of fear and bright lights and disempowerment and death that’s surrounded ‘birth’ in our culture and how unconsciously, until recently, babies’ fragile psyches have been handled on the way in, and a trajectory of fear and loneliness, to varying degrees, is set in motion. (There are some wonderful rebel alliances working to change this but they are struggling to be heard.)

Second, the homes we were born into and the carers assigned to us, almost without exception, feed us a totally false set of rules on how we should be, based on the crap rule book they were given as children. ‘Don’t be like this’ ‘Don’t let anyone see you being like that’, painfully and scarily withholding love and approval when not obeyed, or you get it wrong, or they’re just tired or stupid - and the whole model of ‘how to be a person’ is handed down, missing the real truths of Life, in fact, recommending the opposite. We’re taught, through our experience, not to be vulnerable, not to fail, always to obey, to not stand out, not to be magnificent, to manipulate other’s responses by reading them and catering to their model even if it’s not authentic for us, to say yes when we often mean no…and on and on…. We have all been given a different set of incorrect instructions and it has felt exhausting and self-abandoning to keep living to that toxic model. And most people don’t even notice this. They live as if their model is still right and should be working for them, crisis after crisis, still clinging to that early, ignorant, rulebook. Ouch.

Third, the cultural environment the humans have created is just so f**ked up it is banal to even list it here. The attitude of fakeness and superficiality that mainstream culture feeds itself with is baffling. The normalisation of gun-running and creating war for profit. The way illness and medicine have become a business for profit. The way we treat animals and the daily factory-farm holocaust. The way much of the world treats women. The way we’re taught to all pretend that we’re not going to die. The utter plunder of the environment…a culture where intimacy is treated as high risk. It’s just unrelentingly backward out there. Who said that it’s no measure of sanity to be adjusted to living in a sick society?

So with our varying experiences of those three shadows, is it any wonder everyone’s in such a state of trauma? I know that I have been and that the accumulation of only doing minimum damage limitation on my trauma when I was forced into a crisis, was not enough.

I’m calling for a global pow wow to really acknowledge the state of trauma most humans, even in wealthy countries with no bombs dropping, are in. And when we acknowledge this, to collectively team together to bring in the medicine to heal us all - and that is TURNING TOWARDS IT AND BEING VISIBLE.

I know looking weak or ugly or like a failure is a taboo and our lives have taught us that if we let those parts of ourselves be seen we will lose out or be exiled. We live religiously protecting the shop window of our attractive and palatable appearance - but it’s killing us slowly with loneliness.

Intimacy is not as big a risk as our reptilian brain signals claim. It feels much more dangerous than it is. In fact it’s a cuddly sheep in wolf’s clothing. We’ve made maps of ourselves, cut ourselves down to what we think will get us love and acceptance and success, and we’ve put ‘there be dragons’ around the edge of our maps as an alarm system to make sure we never risk those ‘other unwelcome parts’ being seen. But it only takes a tiny quarter turn towards those dragons to see that they are merely children’s chalk drawings of dragons and with one soft breath they blow away and a pile of treasure and homecoming is available.

The starting point, I feel, for this time, is for each of us to acknowledge the trauma we’ve absorbed and start to take much more diligent and focused steps to release it. You can see how reactive we have become. Do you ever go a week without being triggered into it? A day?

Please let’s acknowledge the collective trauma and sober up about any expectations of life sorting itself out while we’re pinballing around from one self-protecting strategy to the next, ignoring the incredible need for releasing that trauma rather than living life in constant compensating for it and bouncing from crisis to overreactive crisis.

There’s so much heartfelt, nourishing, intimate, connected, laughter-and-tears-filled healing available if we can wake up from the trance for a moment.

3 - 2 - 1 - and we’re back in the room!

Hi……you deserve healing too, even if you had a happy childhood….come to the edge.

It's true...

Have you ever heard someone recount a particular situation and hear the words "I though I was a 'gone-er'."?

Yes they told the story about what happened - and they also told a story about what they thought 'might' happen - and imagination can be especially creative too.

And when we imagine something, the experience of it is run through our system as though it is actually happening.

Thinking of something sad can make us sad...
Thinking of something happy can make us happy...
Imagining something scary can make us... yes you guessed it... scared!

So you see, it's not always what actually happaned that can leave us with lingering problems or symptoms - it may alo be what we imagined might have happened an created a creative memory in and of itself - along with all the associated feelings.

And our system simply isn't differentiating the difference.

I love discovering an unexpected wonderful email in my inbox with wonderful news and gorgeous feedback.