Soul Unfold

"But, they should know how I feel"

A hard pill to swallow --- No one can read our mind. So if we want people to know how we feel, we need to tell them.
Sometimes, their lack of awareness is not because they don't care or aren't bothered - but because of the lack of communication.

"Sometimes, the most efficient thing we can do is take a break" - Dr Jenn Hardy

If you have experienced an absent parent, bullying at work or school, and serious illness in life, it is valid to connect your mental health struggles with your life experiences. You cannot set your experiences beside another person’s trauma and determine which person is more “worthy” of trauma-related symptoms or therapy. Minimizing the emotional suffering of any event does not remove the cumulative damage that occurs over time. Your story matters.

A few questions to ask yourself to understand if your therapist is the right fit.

• Do you feel at ease or does your therapist makes you feel at ease relatively quickly?

• Do you feel your therapist "get's" you and your concern? Do you find your therapist trustworthy and understanding?

• Do you find your sessions engaging and productive?

• Do you believe your therapist has the potential to provide you with the help you're looking for? Can they help you meet those goals?

REMINDER🌸
Self care is a lot of things. The self care you choose would be different from mine, but it's anything that helps you looks after yourself from within.

A Reminder 🌸

Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step in our life. Tip toe if we must, but let's take that first step.

Thank you for this reminder :)

When it comes to breaking a pattern, first step is to always understanding why it needs to be fixed. That way, you will see the benefit and have a goal to work toward from the very beginning.
And as hard as this sounds, it is essential to bettering ourselves and growing. It’s so easy and comfortable to perpetuate our unhealthy patterns by taking no action at all, but eventually we will realize that we aren’t truly happy and that we need something more. That’s where breaking the pattern comes in. It will help us to not only become better versions of ourselves, but it will attract people, relationships, and things into our lives that are a better, healthier fit for us. Breaking the unhealthy patterns in our lives can free us from guilt, from anxiety, from addiction, from feeling like a burden, and so much more.

The areas that needs more healing or support are sometimes seen as a mess or imperfections. These however make us humans, no doubt. But sometimes we only see ourselves or define ourselves through these imperfections. We absolutely forget about all the other super awesome personalities and characteristics we have that makes us whole. That makes us human.

You're not responsible for how people respond to your boundaries. However, you're allowed and responsible to set and respect your boundaries. And you're allowed to wave bye bye to to anyone to anyone who doesn't respect them.

A gaslighting partner may try to convince you that:
-what you saw, you didn't see
-what you said, you didn't say
-what you heard, you didn't hear
- what you didn't see, you saw
-what you didn't say, you said
Or
-what you didn't hear, was there for the hearing

Pretend for just a moment that we live in a world without mirrors, selfies, and body-snarking.What would it be like to think of your body not in terms of how it looks, but with the awe and respect it deserves for being a thinking, breathing, heart-pounding, disease-fighting miracle machine?

If we could adopt that perspective daily, maybe we’d be less susceptible to some societal ideals that create a harmful, negative body image.

"I accept this feeling" "This feeling won't last forever" "thank you for the 'warning' but I'm okay" "I've felt this way before, nothing bad happened"

Some alternative statements we can repeat when feeling anxious.

Power of perception✨

Have you been dependant on someone else's actions to make you happy or feel good about yourself? If yes, how's that going? Also, for how long are you going to be dependent on them for your own happiness and self worth?

Oh, btw, if you're dependant on someone for your sense of self-worth or esteem then that would be other's worth and not self worth.

How many of us feel disappointed in ourselves or cringe when recalling the things we did in the past?
As humans, we are growing, everyday, and because we are growing our self that was yesterday or 5 years ago was our younger self. Our younger self did what she/he/they had to because they only knew so much. Today, let's bring in self compassion and mindfully practice forgiving ourselves.

So, what would you go back and tell your younger self if you could?

Quick anxiety check in before you scroll down :)

Something to think about?

When we try to fit into someone else's world, we try to be someone we are not. In that process of change, we somewhere try be inauthentic and in that inauthenticity, we sometimes lose ourselves.

When we try to fit in, we try to level up to an imaginary standard but sometimes we don't seem to meet those standards, ever. So for once, let's stop looking outside ourselves to see if we're pretty enough, smart enough, thin enough, or rich enough. We will always belong where we know that we already are enough.

How are our young ones supposed to learn to stand up/say no/assert for themselves if we don't imbibe knowledge about the same?
Parenting isn't about convenience; let's be more mindful of what we teach and expect out of our young ones.

A reminder 🌸

CELEBRATING SMALL VICTORIES

Whether it is waking up early or working out or getting that task done on your list... every little step you take towards becoming a better version of you deserves a celebration.

And when you notice a victory, no matter how small, pause for 15-30 seconds and really feel it, don’t just rush right on to the next challenge. Applaud yourself. Congratulate yourself. Take it in.

You may have a long way to go, but just look how far you’ve come!

Hope is never silent
- Harvey Milk

Happy Pride Month🌸
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"Certain people and their toxic energy can block you from expanding, elevating and vibrating higher. Detach and protect your energy." – Unknown

Drawing boundaries and consciously choosing yourself because they (people, social media etc) drain your energy is an act of Self Care.

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are”- Carl Jung.

Your authentic self is who you truly are as a person, it is an honest representation of you. To be authentic means not caring what others think about you. This may sometimes lead to you standing out from the crowd. To be authentic is to be true to yourself through your thoughts, words and actions. It means being able to sacrifice any relationship, situation or circumstance that diverges from your truth.
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BOUNDARIES🌸
When we set boundaries for ourselves, we let other people know how we treat ourselves. In that process, we also teach them how to treat us - in terms respect, love and understanding.
Setting boundaries looks very much like saying no, asking for space, refusing to take blame, stading up for yourself.
Showing your loved one that you are willing to set boundaries will help them share their boundaries with you. It may take time and hard work, but the best things always do.

"Everyone is a bit scared" said the horse. "But we are less scared together"

The pandemic has been hard on all of us. The uncertainty has been daunting especially when it comes to our mental health. Feeling anxious and tensed due to uncertainty is normal, however if you're unable to cope with them please reach out to us.

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Forgiving yourself is far more challenging than forgiving someone else because you must live with yourself and your thoughts 24/7. But when you choose to forgive yourself, you are not pretending as though it never happened. On the contrary, you are acknowledging that your actions have consequences. But the consequences need not include self-inflicted negative feelings.
Not forgiving yourself is like picking at an open wound; you are only making a bad situation worse. The wound is already there, but you do have control over your reaction to it, and you can stop it from getting worse.

Not when you're laying around the house, not when you go to the grocery store, not when you sit in the classroom, not when you go to the gym. You are never obligated to get dressed up just so you are pretty for others.

Pretty is not the rent you pay to exist in the world as a human..