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I ONCE STRUGGLED WITH PO.RN!

It was during a podcast session with Pastor Leke Adeboye that Pastor Isaac Oyedepo made the revelation that he once struggled with p.orn, he didn't mention at what age that happened but what I know now is the fact that lots of teen boys are hooked on p.orn.

Beside the fact that it gives them a perverted version of a good thing, it makes some of them engage in mast.urbation among all the other problems it can lead to.

Majority of the boys who are hooked on p.orn didn't intentionally seek it, most stumbles on it and that's it.

As long as they might not have control over what they see, they have control over how they respond to it with adequate knowledge and skills.

Day 14 in my book for teens is dedicated to the issue of po.rn, facts they need to know about it, the effects, how to shield themselves from it,...lots more and of course, I shared a true life story of how life turned out for someone who allowed the addiction to take over his life.

It's a book your teenager should be reading.

It is still selling out, send a dm to get yours.

If your teenagers aren't fully aware of these two topics: "Social Media Ethics and Online Concepts", and they have smartphones already with some of them on social media apps, it's is like saying your little boy/girl should go and fly a plane because he said he want to be a pilot in the future!

Beside the impact of social media on teen's mental health, they are exposed to lots of unsolicited harmful content to online bullying, se.xtortion and lots more.

This is not to mention those who lost their lives in the process of their online interaction!

These topics were extensively discussed in my book for teens, get a copy now.

LISTEN UP PEOPLE!

So the much anticipated for book of the year is out!💃💃

It was delivered last week and we have been busy with dispatching and guess what?

Reviews are coming in already through calls and messages!

All glory be to Jesus.

This is the final call to but at 5k before the price move to N6500 instead of N7000 in the next 48 hours.

This is one of the best investment you'll make for your teens this year.

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Please make a commitment to say nice words to your teens when they return from school

Your teenager didn't do well in JAMB? it isn't a death sentence, take it easy sir/ma.

2. Be empathetic: flash back into a time things didn't work out the way you planned, how did you feel?

Highlighting your faults at such times or encouraging you to brace up and try again, picking lessons from what didn't work, which is better?

Do same for your teenagers.

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1. Emotional support: as much as you are disappointed in their performance, they aren't happy about it either.

ONE OF THE FEARS OF PARENTS OF TEENS IS.....

Oluwabukolami Adeyemi, a student of Chrisland School who scored the highest mark in the world in the Cambridge International AS level law last year said, in one of her interviews that during the preparation for the exams, their smartphones were retrieved from them, which means no tiktok and this left them with no choice than to focus on their studies.

One of the fears of parents concerning their teenagers is the Negative Impact of Internet, by extention, social media on their academics among others (like their s*xuality, self esteem, identity, mental health, etc).

As a mother of teens and Teen's counsellor, this fear is valid especially for uninformed parents.

Uninformed parents are not necessarily uneducated ones, as a matter of fact, lots of educated parents fall into this category, sadly so.

The result of the last UTME was out earlier this week and barely 0.4% scored higher above 300 while 76% scored below 200.

As much as there are lots of factors that contributed to the mass failure, top on the list is social media distractions. Do you know the hours spend before you can have a descent video content from choosing outfits to recording and editing?

Majority of teenagers are on tiktok doing what?

Check the accounts of at least 5 of your teenager's classmate's tiktok account,....come back here and share what you see.....

To say social media can be addictive is an understatement, even for adults not to mention teenagers.

What can we do?

📌Why do you give your teenager a smartphone? This is very important because if purpose isn't known, abuse is inevitable.

📌Create a family media plan to know where and when to use a smatphone.

📌The use of apps and tools that block distracting websites or limit screen time. Also set approval before any app is downloaded.

📌Set reasonable expectations and provide academic support, be present and get involved, know the subject/topic they are struggling with. Set goals at the beginning of each term and break it down to daily goals.

📌Adequate education on online safety and digital intelligence, negative impact of excessive screen time, mental health and a academics.

📌Set a good example by managing your own internet usage and demonstrating balance between online and offline activities. Model your family values as well.

📌Allow children be children, no jumping of classes, no make up, eye lashes extension, wigs, etc. All these are distractions, they'll be constantly under pressure to step things up instead of focusing on their studies.

📌If both parents are into 8 to 5pm working mode, I beg you in God's name, enroll them in a good boarding school, because what some of these creatures do knowing there is no one at home to know what time they return.....hmm...unless you have a structure in place to ensure they comply (we'll talk about these structures in my next post).

📌Above all, be aware, be informed about trends, communicate with your teenagers, even if they don't own a smartphone yet, there other ways to access the Internet, a friend's device, school computer during ICT classes (some students hide under this to watch anime p.orn, they have mastered how to do incognito search).

📌After doing all of the above and more, please pray as if it is the only thing you have to do, no matter how much we know, we are limited but God is unlimited, He gave us these children, let's make a habit of committing them into His hands.

Our children shall be taught of the Lord and great shall be their peace in Jesus name, amen.

On your teen's android phone:

Put on power saving mode.
Click on the three dots on the top right hand side.
Click on edit.
Click on any of the app on the second roll.
Click on the + sign.

It will take you to where all the apps are, especially the ones they don't want you to know about.

You are welcome.

Note: there is no time you will be 100% aware of the danger your teenager are exposed to neither will you be fully abreast of what they do all the time.....but they need to be aware that consequences awaits for every choice they make.

Preorder is ending soon as printing has started, get this book for your teenagers, the lessons there will guide them in making informed decisions if they choose to, it won't be that "I don't know".

WHO IS AT FAULT?

My friend, Enimien shared this (attached image)with me yesterday and it made me remember a true life story I heard sometimes ago.

This particular teenage girl was home alone during the holiday because both parents were office workers.

It is not out of place for a teenager to stay at home all by herself “innit”?

Anyway, few days into the holiday, the Neighbor’s undergraduate son passed by her flat one day, saw her at the balcony (barricaded by burglary-proof)and they exchanged pleasantries.

This continued first, second, third day....they proceeded to talking about school,books and general thing..and knowing about each other’s hobby.

After like a week of interaction, the guy brought out ludo game and they played together, via the little space in between the burglary-proof. It was all fun and she eagerly looked forward to it.

Note, her parents instructed her that on no account should she open the door to anyone so she continued playing the game with him via the burglary-proof.

“My parents said I should not open the gate for anyone”

She would respond each time the boy asked her to come out for them to play the game.

Long story cut short, he was able to convince her to open the gate, this time telling her he’ll be the one to come into her apartment.

“This is me, you know me and my parents, I don’t mean any harm, we’ve been neighbors for how many years?....I guess your parents said that because of strangers and evil people out there....I mean you know me nah!”

After few days of playing ludo in her apartment, he s*xually abused her.

The parents had no idea what transpired all these period until she got back to school (boarding school) and became withdrawn.

A teacher noticed her unusual countenance and asked questions, she eventually opened up on the incident, and how she noticed the itching and unusual feeling from her private part -she got infected from the encounter with the boy.

She has been managing it on her own and it seems it’s getting worse,......

Before you say she was a willing participant, have you taught your teenage girl about s*xual arousal?

When you give them instructions, do you give details and why behind your instructions?

Are you sure you have an idea of ALL what goes on with your child while you are away?

It is the holiday again, what are you doing to ensure your teens are safe from s*xual abuse?

I leave you to answer these questions.

I am here to help!

Have you preordered my book for teenagers?

Day 16 of the book, “Note To My Buddy” explained the Child’s grooming process with examples.

Day 17 of the book is all about “How to protect yourself from s*xual abuse”

They’ll learn:
📌The four stages of Child’s grooming.

📌The strength of the abusers.

📌My personal encounter with s*xual abuse and how to avoid the mistakes I made.

📌Other people experiences and lessons from them.

📌Over 20 tips on how to protect themselves from abuse.

📌How to avoid s*x as a teenager. (Embracing s*xual purity).(two days was dedicated to this).

📌What is s*xual arousal and how to avoid it.

📌How to have a compelling vision and run with it.
....and lots more.

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So back to the question, who is at fault:
The girl, her parents or the guy?

10 THINGS TO CONSIDER BEFORE YOUR TEENS GO FOR SLEEP OVERS....

It’s that time of the year again when our children do sleepovers or have family members around...

It’s also a time when there is increase in child s*xual abuse from cousin to cousin, Aunties to niece or nephew, uncles to nephews or nieces, neighbors, etc, 99.9% (disclaimer: do not quote me on this number, it’s from my one experience) not known to parents.

So before you send your teens go for sleepovers, consider these:

📌Engage them to know their plans and their opinion about the sleepovers.
I have seen a teenager who doesn’t see eye to eye with her parents because as soon as it is the holiday, they ship her to one family member’s place or the other without having conversation with her or care about how she feels about going to those places.

It was at the point they took her for counseling they discovered and they thought they were doing the best thing for her all along.

📌Remind your children of your values and the need to uphold it at all times.
This is synonymous with what we hear from our parents in those days, “remember the child of who you are”.😀

Some teens are easily influenced so much that they’d tag along even when they aren’t totally convinced of the act.

📌Are you sure your family values is ingrained in your child so much that if anything contrary happens, he/she will not be carried away with the “fun” and just tag along? Peer pressure is real, both passive and active, guess you know the difference right?

📌Ensure you know the other family well and there is an alignment of values between the two families, (some parents don’t regulate their children’s media use, “odkwa dangerous”) meaning you must be aware of your values and live by them as well.

📌Is he/she trained to recognize signs of s*xually inappropriate behaviors and grooming process of s*xual abuse? Remember, most abusers are very nice to people.

📌Is he/her confident and assertive enough to say “NO” to things he isn’t comfortable with to whom it may concern, irrespective of their age or status?
It is possible their host have other visitors around you don’t know.

📌Remind them of the appropriate behavior as a guest, it is important they have the right conduct all through their stay. (Manners and Poise by Enimien Oruebor did justice to this).

📌Teach them age appropriate s*xuality education and reinforce the teaching on their roles in self-protection, especially against s*xual abuse.
Ignorance of the child is a powerful tool in the hands of the abusers.
I had my fair share of ignorance while growing up and had 4 very almost full blown s*xual abuse, all of them during sleepovers, by cousin, uncle and neighbor,(holiday traveling). So I know and understand this as much as I know my name is Hellen Oladele😀.

📌Put measures in place for your child to indicate their interest in terminating the visitation anytime, their interest must be protected.

📌For those going to camps or for outdoor activities out or other recreational activities, the adult should first check the environment for safety, look out for things that could cause injury or accident, like electricity connections by vendors, any sharp object or obstructions that could cause accident, train the children on safety measures, where to go and where not, and ensure adults are on standby to monitor them.

📌Kristi McVee, now a child protection educator after 10 years serving with the Western Australia Police, said sleepovers were among three things “every parent should be mindful of” to protect their children.
In a video posted to TikTok, she said sleepovers were a “no no”, especially for younger children and I completely agree with her.
Sleepover, not advisable for younger children, as much as you can, and if you must, let it be with the people you trust and make it as short as possible.

Is sleep overs bad?
No!

But just like every other thing, if not properly managed could lead to something unpleasant.

I am rooting for you.

When the desirable isn’t available, the available becomes desirable!

Playing out right before our very eyes! Naija I hail!
You gerrit?

Most teens complain about their parents at some point, but to consistently speak in a way that demean or dishonor their parents is a red flag that all is not well at home.

A cross-dresser man won best dressed female in an event in NIGERIA!

Do you have an idea what this is communicating to the younger generation not to mention the disrespect to women?

When it comes to talks about s.ex, you hear some adults say: “Teens of these days know more than adults o”.
Pls how did you arrive at that conclusion?

Let’s be guided o😳

PLEASE TELL ME WHY Enimien Oruebor SHOULDN’T BE AR.RESTED NOW!

One of the controversial topic when it comes to raising children besides discipline is se.x education, I mean, how can anyone is his/her right senses think of teaching children something like that?

You this woke people, aren’t you passing your boundaries?

Parent Coach like Enimien should be arrested, imagine she even have a book on how to teach children such thing...it is the audacity for me!

Anyway, human reproduction was one of the topics in biology for my daughter this term, which was accompanied with assignments....

Whether the teacher likes it or not, he must come to the class to explain...the ever serious and strict biology teacher couldn’t help but laugh at some points.....

We had a good laugh when my daughter got home and shared the conversation in class with me, we laughed more when I shared mine when we treated same topic in secondary school, I know you can relate, yes you reading this😀.

My point is that, let’s assume there is no media, internet, social media, movies, romance books, etc where children could access s.ex related materials, this is not to mention parents whose children caught in the act o, don’t we all do reproduction in school?

I am just saying this assuming what we teach is the act of se.x when we advocate s.ex education for children and teenagers, isn’t it covered during reproduction class?

This is for you to know that whether you agree to teach or not, your children will know about it.

Why not be more intentional by ensuring they have the empowering knowledge of s.ex rather than the perversion of media and the likes?

I understand that the challenge of most well-meaning parents is how to teach because of the general misconception it is the act we are talking about.

Preorder a copy of my book for teens today and enjoy 43% discount plus the fact that your Tweens and Teens will learn about their s*xuality in an empowering way.

Most teens know all about s*x but have little or no knowledge about their s*xuality.

They’ll learn:
Essentials of puberty
How to manage mood swings
How to handle crushes
S*x myths they must know.
Self-awareness, (we are s*xual being, among others)

And lots more...

Don’t say you were not informed

On Social Media ethics in my book for teens, they will learn reasons people are on social media so they can figure out their “why”, how to engage, how to surf the net for the right info and many more.....

Some of you adult still go to people’s inbox to type: “hi angle, ao was ur 9te” and all sorts of immature messages, something Tweens & Teens who would read my book won’t even do!
Day 27 in the book is on SOCIAL MEDIA ETHICS, it’s loaded.

To think that some adults still blame a teenager involving s*xual abuse is a shame! Who should know better, is it not the man?
Parents, please teach your children red flags to look out for.

Eyin people yi sha! ewo ni ti yam moimoi, beans swallow, carrot swallow bayi o? Se dandan ni swallow ni?😀😀

All the foods we eat, Na sha swallow we de swallow dem!

Two things I always remind my children:
1. know who you are in God.
2. Have thick skin.
Because people will attempt to project their insecurities, or whatever issues they are dealing with to others

Research shows that adolescents are six times more likely to drink alcohol if their peers do so.

Build your teen’s self esteem.
Join our upcoming class for FREE!

Parents desire that their teens have healthy self-esteem yet do things that sabotage their desires.

See comments for example👇

Let’s talk:

How do you strike a balance between giving your teens independence and setting necessary boundaries?

It is not appropriate for a daughter to twerk on her dad.

Haba!

Your teenagers might appear they have it all figured out and they don’t need your input, “Na lie”, they need you still!

Never give up on them, it will end in praise.

DAY TWO: UNDERSTANDING YOUR PARENTS.

The day two of the book, “Note To My Buddy” focuses on explaining to teenagers that no matter how harsh their parents approach may be (this is not to excuse abuse), they mean well.

I made them understand that at this stage of their life, their safe place after God is under their parents protection and that irrespective of what anyone is promising them out there, it’s all baits to lure them out of their parent’s guidance and protection, some are not so lucky to live to tell the story!

I went ahead to share the story of a teenager who ran away from home because her boyfriend (an adult) had promised her a better life only to get to his place and met the surprise of her life.

It was a popular story back then shared by media houses, get the book read, and give your teenagers to read.

Also, as much as they think their parents do not understand them and always turn down most of their requests, it is to protect them from themselves, protect them from harmful demands or requests with grave consequences right there or in the future.

Preorder is still on, pay 4k to 0015910399, Hellen Oladele, gtbank and send proof of payment to 08060588502.

DAY ONE (CHAPTER ONE) OF “NOTE TO MY BUDDY”.

I told you the book is written in days right?

So, Day one highlights the need for teenagers to calm down😀

“Yes, we know you want to be free, you want to be in control of your choices...”
...they need the understanding that their choices, with accuracy, will determine their outcomes in life.

And that it doesn’t matter what their parents teach them or didn’t, whether their parents are available or not, it will not exonerate them from the consequences of wrong choices!

“My parents didn’t provide for me, they didn’t pay my school fees, that’s why I’m scamming people or engaging with different men!”

You will face the consequences of all your actions in full dose.

Parents and teachers give them instructions but choose to do otherwise, consequences awaits!

So the day started with three stories to further drive home the points, one fiction and two real life related stories.

The first day would wet the appetite of your teenagers to want to read further.

Any questions? Ask.

Preorder is still on, send a dm or check flyer for payment details.

6 GREAT FACTS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT THE BOOK, “NOTE TO MY BUDDY”

1. Have I told you that the book “Note To My Buddy” was written in days instead of chapters? Like Day One....to Day 30. This way, it makes it easier for our teens to set daily reading goals.

2. Each day start with story telling: real life stories and fictions that are relatable, who doesn’t like stories?

3. Images to make it interesting especially for the visual learners.

4. Have you seen the back cover? It is nothing short of beautiful and colorful, just as teens love it.

5. The tone of the book is conversational so teens can personalize it as they read from page to page.

6. The last but not the least, the real meat of the book is the content, it addresses real issues teenagers are going through in today’s world, ranging from identity crisis, understanding their parents, self esteem issues, s.ex related issues, addictions, gam.bling, substance use, relationship issues, etc.

We also delve into online safety, how to make the best of the online space, purpose discovery, etc.

Now you know, premium or nothing 😀

It’s a book for teenagers and we pay attention to details, because as the Lord liveth, the aim is to restore teenagers to their Creator- God, and to equip them with adequate and right knowledge to navigate the teen years seamlessly.

Our teenagers will never be ignorant, they are well-informed because we know ignorance destroys.

We care less what the devil is doing, our focus is on God, the author and finisher of our faith, trusting Him absolutely while doing our part of the bargain.

We are in the second stage of editing and proofreading, which means you can still pay the discounted offer we have on preorder.

Do not sleep on this offer.

At the Centre of the challenges teens go through, beside failed/ignorant parenting is IDENTITY CRISIS!

How do you help your teens overcome this? See comments.