Lemarc Thomas Matchmaking

Most of you want a mind-blowing relationship, but you're lazy in love - just expecting it to magically happen. Intentional dating is when you believe that you can create the magic (or at least learn and impact your fate) so you build awareness of who you are and what you need, whilst also taking accountability for doing whatever is most helpful to take you towards the love you desire.

Keep coming back to this one as a tool to help people name and express the feelings.

So thought it was worth sharing again.

How do you feel today?

Myth: dating is a numbers game

Truth: meeting love is about being deeply connected

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Just 4 small steps, to love.. 💁🏾‍♂️

One of the top questions that you are asking when you are dating us - what do they really want!?

That means - Who should I be? What should I do? What should I say.

It’s easy to adapt to what others want. It’s more helpful to tune in to your raw self, your wants and needs, and be real to that. Be and do you!

So your intention is to meet romantic love in a long term partnership.

But where’s your heart at!? What I’m hearing again and again is distraction and disconnection. I get that your are busy, but if this is a priority for you take at least 10 mins a day to notice the heart, maybe even put your hand on your heart and just feel what is there.

How are ‘we’ going to connect to your heart if you are not connected to it!?

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Do you have a date this weekend!? 😬

We are usually pretty excited to hear about our clients’ dates on Mondays. But you don’t always give us/ yourself good feedback. When we met in NYC she talked about her post date eight questions, which we’ve started asking after dates.

Sharing them here so you can add this to your after date reflection… maybe?

What do you think!? 🤷🏾‍♂️

It’s been a while friends, but this one tickled us today so we had to share.

Can you relate!?

It’s not so uncommon for us to meet this beautiful guy or gal (in the pic above), who longs for that contact but is unaware of their prickly bits.

Exhale into the vulnerability…

Strong back, soft front, wild heart! (Brenè)

A tool to work out what patterns you might be falling into in your relationships… becoming aware of these can help break the pattern and getting out of the trap!

Instead of focusing on the list, what do you want to feel!?

Have you felt this before?

Spend some in that feeling to teach the body what it feels like so that you recognise it when it shows up.

What is conscious matchmaking?

Exciting to share with other rather experienced matchmakers about our conscious matchmaking approach.

1 - Maintaining accountability for your journey towards love - so that you are the leader in manifesting this dream (especially when getting support from others).

2 - Raising your level of awareness (who you are, how you show up in relationships, your blocks and gifts and what you really need… etc.) so that you take the most helpful actions towards love.

Say it with us…

In a relationship we show up as our beautifully flawed adult selves, and our vulnerable inner child.

A place of balance is where we can be a healthy adult holding a happy inner child.

Listen in.

When you are scared, triggered, overwhelmed. Is there a scared child trying to communicate a need. “I’m scared to be hurt”. “They are going to leave us”.

Listen and take a moment to talk to that part of you.

You are safe, you are loved, you belong. I have you. If they leave, I am still here.

Just two innocent matchmakers roaming the streets… spreading love… seriously, why you so skeptical?

3 ways to build chemistry

Probably the most common reason we hear for why you don’t want to go on a second date.

Yup chemistry is important! You need it! You can’t have a romance without connection, attraction and passion.

But many of you are expecting to find someone who will just give you that feeling, while the passion inside you dims after each ‘failed date’.

1 - nurture the passion in you. Do things that make you feel good, alive, turned on for life. What makes you feel good in your body? What brings self-love?

2 - don’t expect a binary yes or no chemistry. Expect that there is some type of connection with each person and bd curious to explore and discover what unique level of chemistry you have with each person.

Are we shouting ourselves in the foot with this one?

Yup, you want us to find your perfect match. But there is no one perfect match. We want to help you find a highly compatible match - 80% - from which you build that magic you desire.

“We want to help you meet love. The boring kind of love, that is safe, secure, healthy and sustainable. From which, there is a stable foundation for adventure, excitement, exploration, pain, growth and a shared future combining individual dreams and desires”.

The green room club. What happens in the green room stays in the green room.

A common question… how do you know…!?

What are your three top priorities in life. You can probably only focus on three things at a time and make good headway. Where are you putting your time/ attention? Is that aligned with your priorities.

We sooooooo often see a contradiction here. And that is a clear cause of discontent.

It’s pretty simple really. You know what is most important to you. Decide. Commit to that.

It’s what your heart desires!

Have you ever opened your mouth and started saying something knowing it was not what you need to say… pretending you are not interested, or lashing out at someone, when you want them to come closer (for example).

This is you in protection mode.

Our brains have evolved to help us survive. Therefore whenever we perceive a threat, we go into protection mode - fight, flight or flee. The problem is love is scary and vulnerable, so we feel threatened… and our survival system gets activated - we avoid, fight, hold on too tight. And we survive. But not with love.

In order to get out of fear mode into love mode we have to calm down the reptile brain, soothe, remember that you are safe, notice the impulse, feel into the need under the impulse, and dare to do the most helpful (brave) things to meet that deeper need or longing. You intuition knows what that is and can override your instinct if you slow down and listen in.

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