Grief Recovery Healing

It's Okay to Grieve When Your Child Leaves for College It's important to recognize and honor all forms of grief, not just those related to death and divorce. Grief is often overlooked when it comes to non-traditional losses like "empty nest syndrome" - when your kids go away to college or move out of your house.

Grief can often make us feel trapped in the past, holding onto memories and emotions that seem impossible to let go of. But true recovery isn’t about forgetting or dismissing the past—it’s about completing the pain and unfinished emotions tied to your loss. By taking the steps to complete your grief, you free yourself to embrace a future filled with hope and renewed purpose.

This completion allows you to reclaim your future—a future where you can live with a sense of peace, purpose, and the freedom to hope again.

Remember, completing your grief isn’t about erasing your memories or love; it’s about honoring them in a way that empowers you to move forward. Your future is yours to reclaim, and recovery is the path that helps you do just that.

Another beautiful testimonial! Thank you Emily🥰🙏 This program is truly amazing!

"The Grief Recovery Method was an impacting process for me to say the least. I've never worked through anything quite like it. I had a number of losses that I'd experienced in the previous year, let alone throughout my life, that I hadn't made the time or known how to process. The few times I tried I felt stuck, not really knowing what to do with the feelings and thoughts, so I would end up doing nothing and continuing the weight of being stuck. When I got connected with Nicole and started the journey of working through my losses with the Grief Recovery Method things were definitely different. There was a clear process for me to engage in and specific ways for me to process, come to peace with, and release my feelings of loss. Nicole was an amazing guide, coach, cheerleader and compassionate friend on this journey. She has a strong knowledge and grasp of the material as well as a deep passion for helping others learn to walk through this method fully and experience the freedom and healing it can bring. I absolutely recommend it to others! I am so grateful to now have this knowledge and new ability going forth in my life, no longer feeling stuck but rather free and hopeful. Thank you Nicole!"

Emily Savage

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You are not saying good-bye to the fond memories.
You are not saying good-bye to your spiritual beliefs.

Say good-bye to the emotional incompleteness.
Say goodbye to the pain, isolation, and confusion.
Say goodbye to the physical relationship that you had but has now ended or changed.
Say goodbye and then let it be okay that you cry and let it all out.

Also, let it be okay if you do not cry. It is essential that you say goodbye or you will probably remain incomplete.

The Grief Recovery Method is here to help you say goodbye to the pain, so you can more powerfully embrace the good.

People say you should just get over your grief and move on. This piece of art reminds me of how a person can feel. It is a physical representation of the huge hole they feel in thier physical body. Grievers can walk around looking whole but the feeling they have is emptiness.

How do we heal this hole we feel in our hearts?

What do we do and how do we feel better?

Many times we try to pretend it isn’t happening, hoping time will heal it. We get busy and think we can just not feel it if we do more or get busy enough.

We can even self self sabotage by feeling like it will never change so why bother doing things that may heal our hearts and instead we find ways to numb the pain temporarily.

Yet the hole remains and gets bigger.

Sometimes grievers do not even believe it is possible to heal this gaping hole in their heart.

If you feel any of these things, this is normal and natural when you are going through a significant loss.

There is action you can take to deal with your grief directly. You do not have to suffer forever! There can be joy in your life no matter what you have lost.

Please reach out and get the help you need! We all need help at times. This is not weakness, this takes courage.

You are worth it and your family is worth it!

Be the one to begin the healing cycle for you and your family!!

Stop pretending it will all just figure itself out. It won’t.

Nothing will change until you make a change!

Please join us for our free community Grief recovery Program beginning Sept 18th.

You are reading this because it is time to take action!

For the cost of your book ($20) you will be able to take advantage of the entire eight weeks! If you can find your book cheaper on Amazon the whole program is free!!!

Stop living with this empty hole in your heart and do something to change this for you and the ones you love❤️🙏

You can register .org or just set up a free consultation to talk and see if this is a good fit for you.

I look forward to meeting you.

“It’s a big house. I never realized how big it was until it was empty.” Those might be mom’s thoughts as she sits alone drinking a morning coffee, contemplating her day. Her youngest child has gone away to college or has left home to wed or start a career. Mom is left with no job and a feeling of no longer being of value. While well-meaning friends might try to tell her that she should be thrilled that her job as chief, cook, and bottle washer is over, she is still left with an empty feeling that no one needs her anymore.

Others will insist that the end of her child rearing duties carries with it a variety of positive benefits. But those well-intentioned people would be missing the point. Adapting to change is the most difficult of all human endeavors. It is the reason why so many people find it difficult to carry through on new regimes, whether they relate to diet, to exercise, or to psychological reactions to new circumstances

When a twenty-to thirty-year habit of full-time planning and activities and care giving has ended, there are bound to be emotional consequences which can often have physiological complications. There are no stats to indicate that heart attack rates skyrocket for empty nest moms, but anecdotal evidence indicates that any number of emotional and physical problems accompany the ending of active day-to-day motherhood. Lest it go unnoticed, working moms are also subject to the range of emotions that attach to empty nests. Oh, and dads too. As friends, family, co-workers, and just folks, we must remember not to dismiss or diminish the emotions about which empty nesters want and need to talk. Listen to them - listen with your heart, not your head. Hear them, don’t fix them; they’re not broken, they’re only honest.

Sending love to those celebrating, grieving, or a bit of both this Father’s Day weekend.

If you are struggling with grief and loss and want to take very specific action steps to complete with your grief and relationships you are grieving, please do not wait!

Register for our Free Grief Recovery live, online community group. We meet for eight weeks starting September 18th. The Grief Recovery Method has been helping support so many for over 50 years. This is an evidence based program that takes specific action steps to help move through your grief. This is very extensive and life changing work. You can find joy and happiness in your life again. Please join us .org

If you are having conflicting feelings about Mother’s Day, you are not alone.

I wanted to share this article below that expresses some of the conflicting feelings we may have on this day.

I hope you have the most joyful Mother’s Day! I also want to acknowledge it is not always joyful.

Learning how to work through these conflicting feelings is what we do in our Grief Recivery programs.

Please reach out here if you need some support.

Article:
There are so many kinds of mother. The mothers you cherish and celebrate. The mothers who were never really there. The mothers who broke you. Who built you. The mothers who cheered you on. Who chipped away at you until you were dust. The mothers who reveled in your astonishing intelligence and grace and power. Who saw only their own light. The mothers who died painfully young. The mothers who lived so long you felt yourself disintegrating with them. Petal by wilted petal. The mothers who shined. Who dimmed. Who did their best. Who disappointed. Who redeemed themselves. Who accepted your redemption. Who zigged and zagged. The mothers who were a beacon. The mothers you never knew. The mothers who sewed themselves into the quilt you became. The mothers who couldn’t bear to tell the truth. The mothers who were brave. The mothers who didn’t know who they were without you. Who never saw you no matter how wildly you waved. The mothers who grieved you. Who believed in you. The mothers you call. The mothers you no longer speak to. The mothers you take for granted. Or treasure. The dead mothers. The mothers you have to search for and carry. The mothers you find in people who are not your mother. The mothers like a limb. The mothers like a mirror. The mothers like a flame. The mothers you wish. The mothers you love. The mothers you ache. The mothers you echo. The mothers you aren’t. The mothers you wanted to be. The mothers you became. I am thinking of you. I am holding you all.

xCheryl

The Mothers There are so many kinds of mother. The mothers you cherish and celebrate. The mothers who were never really there. The mothers who broke you. Who built you. The mothers who cheered you on. Who chipped away at you until you were dust. The mothers who reveled in your astonishing intelligence and grace...

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Hello everyone!

So excited and grateful to share that
A Space of Harmony finished its first
Free Community Grief Recovery Program here in Kitsap County. Thank you to all that joined! It was so powerful!

We have two more groups scheduled for the next few months.

May 29th at 10:30 am- 12:00 pm each Wed for 8 weeks.

This group has been discounted over 60% through A Space of Harmony!!

September 18th

We are offering our next
Free Community Grief Recovery Program! A Space of Harmony is sponsoring this group completely. There will be no cost for the group. There is a book required for the class that is $20.00 when you register, however you can also get this on amazon or other second hand book stores that may have them available for less. You can choose where to purchase your book, either at your registration, or opt out and you can purchase it on your own.

Each group is the full 8 week program so nothing is left out!

The Grief Recovery Method Program is a life changing, action based program, that is designed to move you through your grief caused by death, divorce, or any of the over 40 losses we can experience in life.

This is not talk therapy, it is a very unique program that has been around for almost 50 years. This is because it works! You can find joy and happiness in your life again.

It is never too soon to get the help you need. You are not broken and you do not need to be fixed! You need to be treated with dignity and respect and given an opportunity to learn the tools and skills to move through your grief.

No one ever teaches how to deal with grief. If you feel stuck and just do not know what to do to feel better, join us for this healing work. You do not have to do this alone!I look forward to working with you!

Please do not wait, register now at aspaceofharmony.org

Grief is one of the biggest mountains you’ll ever have to climb.

Not least, because it’s one that you absolutely won’t want to.

And people may talk of ‘getting over it’.
But the truth is,
I don’t think we ever do.

And that’s not to say that we don’t end up on the other side of the mountain. I’m not saying that we’re stuck in one place forever.

But, rather than getting over it…

Perhaps we find a cave we can walk through which brings us out on the other side. It may be dark and dim and difficult, but we make it through into the light.

Perhaps we find a path around the mountain that leads to the other side. It may take a long time and it might be unsteady and precarious, but we make it round.

Or perhaps we just slowly edge our way past. A little up, a little through, a little round. Step by step.

No, I don’t think we get over it. It is too big, too overwhelming.
Too insurmountable.

So instead we get through it.
Round it.

Or quite possibly,

we just get by.

~ Words by Becky Hemsley

~ Art 'Dreaming Tree' by Tanielle Childers

4 Helpful Ways to Walk Through Grief During Easter As we approach Easter, the sight of pastel colored eggs and invitations to Sunday services may bring up feelings of grief and heartbreak for many. Whether you're mourning the loss of a loved one, a relationship, or a painful past, know that your grief is valid.