Diana Deaver

Please come and join me in person for the launch of my archetypal portraiture this coming Friday at 5 pm Ridge Gallery in Spartanburg.

This is an invitation to become aware of the beliefs about yourself that are running in the background of your mind. People act according to their beliefs about themselves. If I think I’m an impatient person, I will act impatiently again and again, and I will strengthen and reconfirm my own belief through this behavior. Not only that, but I will also vehemently defend my identity to whoever dares to claim anything other. If you’re not certain what you think about yourself, notice your patterns of action, and these will tell you who you believe yourself to be. If I believe myself to be disorganized, then I will consistently act in a disorganized manner, and strengthen this belief over time. If I believe myself to be a kind and generous person, then I will tend to hold myself up to that standard, even when it might be challenging to do so. Children who are told that they are smart, capable and loving, end up, growing up with that identity, and will act according to that reputation. What is your own reputation with yourself? What words do you use to describe yourself? Does that align with your current values and who your innermost self is calling you to be? Is there room for some personal development? Is there someone else that you are called to become?

We so often reach for wisdom and comfort, not to the things that hold the highest quality of an answer, but to the things that are most convenient and closest to us. I say, we can’t let convenience be the criteria with which we select our access to wisdom. Go to the Source, go to the ultimate source, especially when you are seeking an answer regarding your heart and your soul. Do not get complacent and lazy about your spirituality. You not have to walk around with a starving soul. Who is your guiding light in tough times? Share your thoughts below 👇 DM me if you’d like a personal session to walk you towards connecting to the highest wisdom available to you.

🌟 **Navigating Pain and Shame with Compassion** 🌟

🌼 Life presents us with challenges, but how we react defines our path. We all experience pain and shame, and I believe we are all able to hold them with compassion. 🌼

🔑 **Key Lessons of emotional resilience**:
- Understand your reactions to pain.
- Recognize self-neglect and abuse.
- Use somatic experiencing for resilience.
- Embrace shame as an important reminder of our humanity.
- Balance power and powerlessness.
- Accept mistakes with eagerness.
- Cultivate unconditional self-regard and self-compassion.

🌈 Embrace the beauty of being human.
I am here is you’d like to walk this journey together towards emotional wellness. You are allowed to make mistakes; they are stepping stones to growth. 🌈

🔗 if you wish to take the next step, book a session with me to begin your emotional resilience journey along side a seasoned guide.

The world needs your light. And you need the experience of sharing your light. The transition from being a consumer to a creator, awakens something within us. It’s a journey from neediness to empowerment, from getting to sharing. 🌱✨ Life becomes much more sustainable when we balance consumerism with contribution. 🎨🌏✨

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In life’s gentle flow lies the omnipresent divine energy. Can you notice the source of all power and open your heart to the beauty of divine presence.

How do you connect with the divine? How do you foster in your life a space where the essence of divine awareness can unfold?

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“Soul famine” refers to a period in our lives when we find ourselves ensnared in a repetitive and restrictive lifestyle. We yearn for meaning and purpose, experiencing a hunger for soulful nourishment. In this state, we may settle for any semblance of fulfillment, purchasing whatever mimics it. However, no matter how much we consume, there’s no true satisfaction when we feed ourselves substitutes.

Reclaiming a well-lived life demands a difficult and decisive choice—to amputate aspects of our existence that bind us to compulsions. It requires taking responsibility for rescuing our lives from the clutches of addiction and unconscious adherence to depleting beliefs. This calls for courage, the courage to initiate the design of our lives based on our unique soul needs. It involves consistently making choices that propel us from mere survival to genuine thriving.

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I spent some time with fog this morning. Fog told me that it’s okay to be tender, soft and less than evident. It told me that watery things tend to embrace you. That when you let yourself be permeated by what feeds your soul, you become more nurturing yourself. When opacity and light dance together you can understand both of them deeper. What is obscured will be eventually revealed. You don’t have to have all the answers right now. You already have everything you could possibly need.

Have you ever had the realization that the thing that charms you (or annoys you) in another, you also do it? I celebrate when I have a moment like this. Jung calls this projection recall. Meaning, what I previously unconsciously projected onto you I know take back and integrate back into my own psyche. How liberating it can be to know who you are.

In the beginning most humans are centered on the personal self, sometimes worrying about what others think, about how lovable we are, are we getting what is fair? As we develop our personal power and our psychological independence we begin to reverse the process of accumulation. We feel called to share the richness of the life we have built with others. And we do so without the fear of being diminished or being without. More than “am I getting what’s mine?” our focus shifts to “how can I share what has been gifted to me?”. Both seasons of life are meaningful and beautiful. Today I feel grateful for all those who have shared themselves with me and all those who allow themselves to receive through me.

I remember when my teacher first told me this. I was so skeptical. I took a risk and did what seemed inconvenient for others but true for me. When it turned out to work out better for those involved too I was in shock. I was so excited. Could it be true?! Even if it’s not immediately evident, it is true. When we honor ourselves instead of sacrificing ourselves, everyone benefits because our authenticity is always more impactful than our martyrdom. No one benefits from us abandoning ourselves. And the more we honor ourselves the easier it gets. Let us have true courage to practice it until it becomes second nature.

Stay present with yourself, especially when you are in pain. Learning to self soothe without lashing out with be one of the most important lessons of your life.

We often get in trouble when we go to others before we go to our divine connection. So many of us will try everything before going directly to our higher source. We’ll pull tarot cards, ask our partner, read our horoscope, talk to a friend, go to a psychic, ask an “expert”. Sometimes we spend years looking for an answer in all places except our own deep hearts. We get disappointed with others, disheartened by the struggle, resentful that others are not enough to fulfill us.

Please seek within also. BE STILL AND KNOW. This instruction is as old as time and yet, we often avoid it at all costs. Could it be that our truest answer can come faster and with more ease when we are willing to sit in silence. Can we open ourselves to receive it from the guiding force that moves us in our lives? If only we would look within with the same frequency, consistency and determination with which we look outside.

Message to the part of me that thinks that my value lies in my doing/achieving: You have permission to just be. It is safe to slow down. To take a day off. To take 5 days off. To sit on a bench in a park without looking at the phone. To be non effective. To be present. To walk slowly in nature. To take a deep breath. To feel your heart. To feel your body. To feel. To listen. To hear. To have nothing to do. To let life do you. To let rest do you good. To have nothing to say. To have nothing. To be nothing. To be. It is safe to just be. It is enough to just be. It is beautiful to just be. It is meaningful to just be.

In our current culture there is a psychological complex that is pervasive and extremely costly: the superhero complex: Superman/Superwoman. People who carry this complex unconsciously thrive on hyper functioning. They feel valuable when they put out fires, anticipate needs, acquire accomplishments and succeed at difficult tasks. While this is a necessary stage in any person’s development, the cost of this complex unconsciously running our lives indefinitely is very high. It creates a continuous interior restlessness. If we are not striving to achieve something, we are thinking about what goal needs to be pursued next. Satisfaction is always out there, not quite in our grasp. “When I get this, then I’ll be happy.” But that’s a false promise because “when I get this, I’ll want something else”. People who are accustomed to being seen as superheroes and miracle workers don’t know how to rest. And yet they crave it deeply. Enjoying what they have, celebrating life as it is, taking days off, all these seem extremely dangerous, threatening the overachieving status quo. In reality doing, succeeding, acquiring “the next best thing” often ends up being a repetitive loop, which obscures an underlying deep sense of emptiness, a life so exteriorly bound that there is little or no inner substance (spiritual and emotional bankruptcy)
There comes a time when we awaken to this trick and we begin to reassess what is truly meaningful to us. Quality time with our loved ones, getting to know ourselves more intimately and intentionally, tending to parts of ourselves that were seldom seen or loved, allowing ourselves to feel more deeply and openly, doing things that bring us joy vs fulfilling a necessity, all these begin to bring a deeper peace and purpose to our lives. This is the journey of dismantling and integrating the superhero. Instead of a rescuer, we find sufficiency in being human. Being grand is replaced with being whole.
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Deep listening is one of the most powerful relational skills we can foster. The ability to hear a person and help them feel heard is incredibly healing. When we know another has seen our pain without being burdened or in some way diminished by it and without judging us for it, we are freed of it. We cannot listen to another if we are not willing to listen to ourselves. When we practice any relational skill we benefit two fold. When we are compassionate with another we become more compassionate with ourselves. When we are heard we are given permission to hear ourselves. This is why relationships exist. To learn together in a two way mirror.

I celebrate the beauty, grace, rage, nurture and mystery of the feminine. My heart is grateful for all I have received through all women in my life.

Happy Moon Day. As a way to balance out our masculine valuing culture I have been working on recognizing and appreciating feminine aspects in my life. One example is my approach to the first day of the work week. Not many people know that weekdays are named by planets in our solar system. Mondays are named by the moon- a symbol for the feminine. I used to have very intense, frantic, goal oriented Mondays- when achievement and effectiveness were my most treasured values, just like our society teaches. Recently, I’ve mindfully and intentionally slowed down Mondays. I have been experimenting with a gentle and nurturing start to my week as opposed to an intense one. My body, my nervous system and my smile have been very receptive to this subtle change. There’s a different quality to the day and the week when I allow the Moon to govern my Moon Days. Flowing through Mondays as opposed to pushing through feels very very different. It is teaching me that I can be soft and tend to my life at the same time. There is ease and enjoyment.

Let’s talk about dreams. Because nothing can be transformed in the unconscious, our dreams often show us what it is in our psyche that requires our conscious attention and work. It is very much like the visitation of a wild animal that approaches us, stares for a while as if communicating something through their glance and then walking away. The content is at times surprising, at times touching, dangerous, or even awe-inspiring. It is our job to learn to approach it with respect, curiosity, caution, and gentleness. Can you be with the guests that come from your unconscious?