Jackie Schwartz LMFT, MCAP

Difficult to see me standing in the back with all the other tall people 😁 such a fun night with my friends and colleagues! A very special shout-out to Kate Campbell who put such a lovely evening together. I feel very grateful to be part of such a rock star team ❤️

Had the best time being a guest on this podcast!

You are allowed to look after yourself before looking after others!
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You are IMPORTANT!
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So choose YOU, pick YOU, love YOU and be unapologetic about it 💜🧡💚

💜 As a love expert, I deem that loving ourselves is just as important, if not more so, as loving our partner.
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😊 Only when we love ourselves are we able to be present with our partner and truly accept their love.
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💜 Loving ourselves in dating means that we feel fulfilled in our lives when single as well as in a relationship. Loving ourselves single means that we are likely to have standards in who we date.
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💫 Being yourself means having ultimate respect for yourself and living life in a way that is authentic to you. When in a relationship, it’s so important to bring your genuine self to the relationship.
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This means respecting and loving yourself enough to have boundaries and not being afraid to honor them. 👉 Being genuine and self-loving means speaking up about your needs and being open about who you are and what’s important to you.
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♥️ Self-love is also self-acceptance; “I am who I am, I need what I need, and that’s ok”.
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💫 When we withhold who we really are for the sake of someone else, it’s only a matter of time before the real you surface.
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💫 None of us want to be surprised down the road when our partner seems different due to hiding parts of themselves early on in the relationship.
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👉 The short answer is ANYTIME.
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💫 According to the research of the Gottman team of scientists, couples wait an average of 6 years before doing anything about the relationship problems and depending on the nature of relationship problems, things can worsen by then.
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If you’re ready to see how couples therapy can help your relationship, contact me at 954-391-5305 for your complimentary consultation.
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So much truth here. 💜
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Make sure your spouse always feels appreciated, even for the little things they do.💘

Happy self-care Friday! ✨ Here are some self-care ideas to boost your routine.

What would you add? Share in the comments below.

Fathers hold their kids' hands for a while, and their hearts for a lifetime.💜 Happy father’s Day to all dads out there!

Some qualities of healthy relationships ☁️ can you name any others? 🌙

Therapy can be pretty scary at first but just know that there’s nothing you can do that’s “abnormal” in a session.😊
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😢 Cry. Therapy doesn’t always feel good. Sometimes it brings up feelings that make us uncomfortable and emotional. That’s okay. It’s normal and I promise you aren’t alone.
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🙂🙃 Talk more than their therapists. There’s no such thing as talking too much. If your therapist feels like you’re getting off track they will guide you back.
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😂 Laugh uncomfortably. Talking about things that bring us discomfort can be awkward and many people use laughing as a coping mechanism. This is normal behavior.
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😶‍🌫️ Get distracted. Does your mind wander while your therapist talks to you? That happens. An hour is a long time to keep focus without any breaks. It’s completely normal for your mind to wander. If you notice it, simply guide your attention back.
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🥺 Get nervous. Given that you’re expected to air out all of your feelings to someone you might consider a stranger, nervousness is normal and expected. Keep in mind that therapy should be a safe space and everything said between you and your therapist is confidential.
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😐 Forget about homework. People are busy, life gets in the way, and your therapist understands. Be honest so you can work on solutions for getting things done.
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⏳ Look at the time. Time constraints are scary. Your therapist will let you know when the time is up so try not to get too caught up with knowing how much time is left.

Double tap 💜 if you agree.

Happy Pride Month 2022! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

Here are four ways you can also be a Pride ally:
🌈 Learn about LGBTIQ+ history, terminology, and pronouns.
🌈 Attend a Pride parade, fundraiser, festival or drag show to show your support.
🌈 Donate to LGBTIQ+ community services to maintain programs for health and prevention.

🐢 Slowing down and resting is essential for avoiding burnout.
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The world won’t stop just because we decide to slow down.
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💤😴 What my dog gets to do on a rainy day.
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How I wish we were as gentle with ourselves when we need rest as our amazing fur babies!🙏🏻

Happy Sunday!☀️
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What are your plans today?
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😴🥱 - Lazy day
🎉💃🏽🕺🏼 - Party
🌊🌴 - Beach day

💖 Self-Care comes in all forms. Sometimes it’s relaxation, massages, facials, time with friends, naps, and just being with yourself. 💆‍♀️🧘‍♀️🛀

But sometimes, it’s an opportunity to dig a little deeper and work on yourself from the inside out.🌷

If today is the day you are working on your inner self-care, incorporate some of these things into your mindset, and let’s kick start that extra level of self-love. 🤗❤️

Remember, love yourself a little more each day!

What is YOUR favorite self-care activity?

🧐 A lot of us think that healing should happen quickly, but when the healing process is rushed, do you experience true healing? 👉 No.
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When you rush healing, all you are doing is making your “wound,” deeper, which is only going to cause you to have to experience a longer healing process. 😣
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📈📉The zigzagginess of healing is how it is meant to happen, so don’t let it discourage you and make you think that you aren’t healing when you are faced with times of sadness or when old feelings get stirred up inside of you.
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❣️You can still heal and feel sad.
❣️You can still heal and feel angry about the situation.
❣️You can still heal and not necessarily know what you should be doing at the moment.
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Share YOUR favorite quote below. 👇

❤️ My amazing parents and Tito hiking in North Carolina. 🥾

I’ll take a nap. 🛏😴 What about you?👇

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Taking care of your mental health on a daily basis is very important.💜
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👇 Things that can help your mental health:
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😌 Rest your mind as well as your body. Take a break, silence your phone at 6 pm, deactivate social media, snuggle more and eat that donut 🍩
🚶‍♀️🚶🏽Walk outside for 15 minutes daily.
🌧 Stand outside in the rain for a few minutes (if safe).
🦶Walk on the grass barefoot.
🐕 Walk your dog.
📲 Call someone you haven’t spoken to in a long time.
🐱🐶 Pet your pets- this releases oxytocin in your brain and your pet’s.
❤️ Do something nice for someone without expecting anything return.
💃🏻🕺🏽 Plan a girl’s/boy’s night.
🍽 Go to your favorite restaurant.
🌸 Put flowers in your home (if no allergies).
🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏾 Run as fast as you can for 30 seconds.
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‼️ Be sure to question your negative thoughts. 👉 Ask yourself: “Is what I’m thinking a FACT, or is this merely a passing thought or feeling?”
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What else would you add? Share with me in the comments below.👇

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