From the Heart Healing

And in the wise words of singer songwriter Tony Lucca, there will always be a storm but it’s always sunny on the other side of the clouds.

Love this!! So true!!

Reach Out Recovery 🌞

We have been led to believe that life is about "becoming" rather than simply "being"... This is a tough one to surrender because our social system is designed to make us feel that in order to be worthy we have to prove ourselves.

This makes it hard for us to relax into the flow of life, we end up swimming against our truth and our inner guidance (to fit in) and in so doing against the current of life.

It's hard to imagine in this achiever oriented world that the only perfection there is, is what is right now and what is right now may be based on pain or pleasure, stillness or action, but whatever it is, it is valuable and vital as it holds a seed for the expansion of self awareness.

Every experience has something for us... What we choose and what comes to us are our greatest teachers, our greatest awakeners...

We can actually be achieving great things with the achiever absent, these things are our dharma which includes our capacity to be loving and kind, doing what we love and what we are talented at doing...These things come to us naturally, we don't do them to please daddy or to prove that we are worthy, we do them because we love to do them, they are an energetic extension of who we are.

There is no perfection to achieve, this is the greatest myth, the whole of existence is in perfection right now but we forget that we are a part of that regardless of how lost we may feel.

No leaf falls from a tree by mistake. The Creator's hand is in everything.

© Caroline de Lisser
Art Duy Huynh.

www.raisingvibrations.com.au

This speaks to me in so many ways, both as a parent and a healer and a person who has lived most of my life with the anxiety that drives me to be that 'fixer', that healer, the one who serves.

I just read a very delicious book called "The House in the Cerulean Sea," and it spoke to me as well. I loved it because it imparted so many bits of wisdom throughout. At its heart it's about a man's (subconscious) search for what home, self, and family truly are, and the difference between living a safe controlled life and living in joy with an expanded heart. One character speaks about living life in a bubble and what happens when that bubble is broken:

"We get trapped in our own little bubbles, and even though the world is a wide and mysterious place, our bubbles keep us safe from that. To our detriment... But it's so easy because there's something soothing about routine. Day in and day out, it's always the same. When we're shaken from that, when that bubble bursts, it can be hard to understand all that we've missed. We might even fear it. Some of us even fight to try and get it back... I did exist in a bubble. Thank goodness you popped it."

Like so many right now, I have been living in a bubble made from fear and anxiety. This passage below is in part a message to me from my inner self, encouraging me to break free from fear and pop that bubble, begin truly living a life of joy, peace, harmony, love, and acceptance.

It's time. Who's with me?

Pop!!

"Stop Trying to Fix Me ~ Love Me Instead

Please, don't try to fix me. I am not broken. I have not asked for your solutions.

When you try to fix me, you unintentionally activate deep feelings of unworthiness, shame and failure within me. I can't help it. I feel like I have to change to please you, transform myself just to take away your anxiety, mend myself to end your resistance to the way I am. And I know I can't do that, not on your urgent timeline anyway. You put me in an impossible bind. I feel so powerless.
I know your intentions are loving! I know you really want to help. You want to serve. You want to take away people's pain when you see it. You want to uplift, awaken, caretake, educate, inspire. You truly believe that you are a positive, compassionate, unselfish, nice, good, kind, pure, spiritual person.

But I want you to know, honestly, friend, I feel like a steaming pile of s**t when you try to 'love' me in this old way. It doesn't feel loving to me at all. Quite the opposite. It feels like you're trying to relieve your own tension by controlling me. Under the guise of you being 'kind' and 'helpful' and 'spiritual', I feel suffocated, smothered, rejected, shamed, and completely unloved. I feel abandoned in your love! Do you get that? I feel like you don't actually care about ME, even though on the surface it sure looks like you care! But deep down it feels like you are holding an image of how I should be. Your image. Not mine!

It looks like your love but it feels like your violence. Do you understand?
Yet as soon as you stop trying to 'help' me, you are of the greatest help to me !

I stop trying to change to please you !
I feel safe, respected, seen, honored for what I am.
I can fall back into my own power.
I can trust myself again, the way you are trusting me.
I can relax deeply.

Without your pressure, your demand for me to abandon myself and be different, healed, transformed, enlightened, awakened, mended, 'better', I can better see myself.
I can discover my own inner resources.
I can touch my own powerful presence.
I feel safe enough to allow and express my true feelings, thoughts, desires, hold my own perceptions. I no longer feel smothered, a victim, a little child to your expert adult.

The courageous adult in me rises.
I breathe more deeply.
I feel my feet on the ground.
Loving attention drenches my experience, even the uncomfortable parts.

My senses feel less dull. Healing energies emerge from deep within.
I feel light, free, liberated from your fear.
I feel respected, not shamed.
Seen, not compared to an image.

You help me so much when you stop trying to help me, friend !
I need my own answers, my own truth, not yours. I want a friend, present and real, not an expert or a savior.

And do you see, when you are trying to save me, you are actually abandoning yourself ?
You are running from your own discomfort, your own unlived potential, and focusing on mine ?

I become your ultimate distraction.
I don't want to be that for you anymore.
Let's break this cycle together !
Let's stop trying to fix or save each other.
Let's love each other instead.
Bow to each other.
Bless each other.
Hold each other.
As we are.
As we actually, actually, actually are."
~Jeff Foster ~

Photo: Art by Freya Visual

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