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Cleaning out in preparation for a move and found this in a closet. Wow, I was a pain in the A** (though I stand by what it says 100%!).

Although it’s been a few days, I’m not out of quotes yet. Here’s one more:

“Sometimes if you nag, you miss out on the beautiful self-control they have.“

“If a child whines and there’s no one there to hear her, is she still whining?”

“Don’t neglect the important for the urgent.”

“It’s not about the thing.”

(Hint for today’s quote: The subject was sibling rivalry.)

Todays quote:

“Just because it failed doesn’t mean it’s a bad idea.”

I love when this happens:

Someone ”used” one of those phrases we recommend on me. I loved it! A person said, “Tell me more about that,” and it felt so inviting.

Today’s quote:

“He knows when he’s cold.”

“That’s not an F — it’s a C-.”

Quote du jour:

“Connection is what you had with your spouse before you had kids.”

“If they can’t reason, I have to be reasonable.”

Today’s quote:
“We’re going to have knick-knacks.”

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Today’s quote:

“I just don’t want to blow it.“

(Hugs to you all)

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And now, a series of archival parent quotes. See if you remember them. (Maybe you said one!) Figure out their context. Decide what they could mean to you today.

“The more we push, the more they’re alienated from doing the right thing.”

These are missing some context, but think hard to imagine when and how these might actually be “wrong.”

Change that self talk.

Can you do both?

Kids older than 3-4 years usually know when they’ve done something wrong and feel badly about it (even if they don’t show it). This feeling IS the consequence. We don’t need to make them feel worse by imposing another consequence. An imposed consequence also won’t teach them the skill that they were having difficulty with in the first place.

How do we change behaviour? Modelling. Patience. And maybe some explicit teaching.
Even after the modelling, teaching and patience, sometimes they’ll repeat the behaviour, and we may think that our lack of an imposed consequence has backfired. But that’s not it - it’s that their brain is still developing and it’s normal for them to repeat mistakes and not to have “learned the first time”, just as they don’t learn the first time they attempt sitting, walking, or any other developmental skill.

I think it’s going to take a long time for adults to shift their perceptions of child behaviour, because generations and generations have been viewing it incorrectly for so long and passed this on (based on behaviourism and other now out-of-date psychological theories).
But one day I think we’ll view child behaviour like any other skill (e.g., walking, reading, writing, playing a sport) - with empathy, understanding, and the desire to help when a child is struggling.
🤞🏼🤞🏼

Credit to: https://www.facebook.com/perthchildrensOT/

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Absolutely.

Thank you, Susan David!

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