Dr Justine Weber

When you are truly in a healthy space, you’ll find yourself more attracted to people sharing that space with you! A healthy attraction is based on qualities like kindness, accountability, and consistency.

I know, probably not what you’ve been into in your past, right? 😬

Being attracted to THESE qualities is a really great sign of growth, and readiness to be in a relationship! If someone is checking these boxes, that’s a great sign that you’re going Beyond Healing 🤍

Let’s start the week off with a healthy mindset 🤍

When you feel anxious, overwhelmed, or out of control, try these easy and quiet method to reset your nervous system and ground yourself.

There is no better feeling than your needs being met. When you’re surrounded with healthy, strong relationships, you’ll find you don’t have much to worry about.

But when your needs are not met, you might feel confused, annoyed, insecure, angry, sad, ashamed, overwhelmed…

This is what it feels like to be in an unhealthy, toxic relationship. If you have a partner, friend, or even relative making you feel like your needs are not being met in the relationship, it’s okay to cut the ties and leave. In fact, I encourage you to!

You deserve for your needs to be met. Actually, it should be the bare minimum.

Let’s work on breaking toxic ties, filling your cup, and going Beyond Healing together 🤍

Ever wonder what your narcissist is actually thinking when they justify their bad behaviors? 🤔 It looks a little something like this!

Narcissists will do anything to avoid accountability and shift the blame. What they WON’T do is feel guilty, take real responsibility, or change their ways for you. The sooner you accept this, the sooner you can heal, and go Beyond Healing.

Picture this: You confront your narcissist about how they’ve made you feel insecure lately. They get defensive, you get defensive, it turns into a fight, and suddenly THEY’RE feeling hurt and YOU’RE apologizing. Even though you came to them seeking an apology first. 🤔

Let me ask you something… what the F*CK are YOU saying sorry for?!

This is such a common narcissistic cycle. They talk and twist things around until they’ve taken your place as the victim, and made you feel like the villain. And guess what? You never get your apology. You just feel worse about yourself.

The need for victims- especially women- to apologize when they’ve been wronged is a deep rooted societal habit that we need to work together to break. ✊🏻 And when you’re dealing with a narcissist, apologizing can actually just be enabling and excusing their behavior!

Don’t let your narc off the hook, and don’t let them make you feel like you’re the bad guy. Stand your ground, focus on the root issue, and hold them accountable.

Follow me for more tips on dealing with the narcissist in your life 🤍💪🏻

You’ve taken off the rose-colored glasses and seen your narcissist for who they really are… so why the f*ck can’t anyone else?! 🙄

It’s called betrayal blindness. Sometimes when you love someone and you’re unexpectedly hurt by them, your brain tries to reject that reality to protect you. It happened to you at some point in your relationship with a narcissist, and it’s not uncommon that it will happen to others in your circle.

Betrayal blindness can leave you feeling even crazier than you did before. It’s important to have patience and grace with those people- after all, you fell for your narcissist’s lies, too…

BUT it’s also important to set boundaries for your own healing process! 👏🏻 If you have to step away from certain people to truly heal from your experience, do what you’ve got to do.

If people in your life are experiencing betrayal blindness and you find you’re lacking support or validation, book a consultation with me! Let’s heal, and go Beyond Healing, together 🤍

For the record, EVERYONE could benefit from therapy. But if you’re in the middle of, or recovering from, a narcissistic dynamic, you may need a special kind of support…

Hi, I’m Dr. Justine Weber. 👋🏻 I’m a licensed psychologist, a best-selling author, and a narcissistic abuse recovery coach. I specialize in healing and dealing with narcissistic abuse- from spotting patterns, to figuring out how to leave, to co-existing in forced dynamics.

If you think you may need narcissistic abuse therapy, reach out to me to book a FREE 30-min consultation. In the meantime, give me a follow to learn all about narcissism, and how the f*ck to heal from this! 🤍

Are you dealing with a narcissist? Check all that apply ✔

If you ARE dealing with a narcissist, give me a follow, and reach out to me to book your FREE 30-minute consultation! Let’s figure out how the f*ck to heal from this together 🤍🤝🏻

You may not have heard of dog whistling before, but if you’re dealing with a narcissist, I’m sure you’ve experienced it. 👀

I hear about this kind of gaslighting behavior a LOT with narcissistic parents, partners, and friends. Dog whistling is subtle but sharp, and it leaves you feeling (and looking) crazy! 🙅🏼‍♀️
To learn more about manipulation tactics like this one, how to deal with it, and more importantly, how the f*ck to heal from it, give me a follow.

You guys know I love a good Taylor Swift quote 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

But she is SO RIGHT! You do not have to “forgive and forget” when someone wrongs you. The important thing is not to carry the rage, sadness, or trauma with you forever.

If you’re ready to start healing and moving on, let’s do it together. 🤍🌸

You may have noticed your narcissist moved on almost IMMEDIATELY when you ended things… in fact, they seem to ALWAYS be with someone! 🙄

Don’t take it too personally. Narcissists just can’t be alone.

But if you notice they’ve stopped trying to entrap you and have moved on to a new victim, it’s honestly a compliment to you. It means they don’t think you’ll fall for their sh*t anymore. Good for you! 👏🏻

For more on narcissists and their tactics, give me a follow 🤍

Stop asking your narcissist “why?” 🤚🏻

If you find yourself spiraling trying to make sense of the situation, understand your narcissist’s thought process, or answer impossible questions, you are only going to drive yourself crazy. The truth is, your narcissist doesn’t have a “why”, and answers do not equal closure. You have to find your own ways to accept what’s happened, move on, and start to heal.

Reach out to me to get started 🤍

Ever joked about being allergic to someone’s bullsh*t? 😂🤧 Well, that’s not entirely accurate… but it’s not entirely off, either.

Psychosomatic symptoms are a common reaction to anxiety, trauma, and abuse. It’s your mind’s way of telling your body something is wrong, and pushing you to get out of a situation.

If you’re noticing that being around a certain toxic someone is causing headaches, or your sick or tired all the time, or you’re having crazy flare ups of conditions like eczema, you might want to consider that it’s THEM causing these issues for you. 🚩

The “Grey Rock” method is NOT going to help you in court! 🤚🏻

You guys know me, and you know I’ll almost always suggest ignoring your narcissistic much as possible. Unfortunately, this is one case where it doesn’t apply. If you’re going through divorce, custody, or another court battle, giving your narcissist the “Grey Rock” treatment will only villainize you to the judge.

But the “Yellow Rock” method will help you maintain your personal boundaries with your narc, while presenting you as polite and agreeable! Give it a try and let me know what you think.👇🏻

You’ve heard of the 5 stages of grief… but how do they apply to narcissistic abuse recovery? 🤔

You don’t have to go through any of these stages alone. 🤍 Give me a follow for more resources, and reach out to me to book your FREE consultation!

Raise your hand if you dread Father’s Day. It’s not always easy to celebrate someone who can be such a trigger for you… so I’m here to tell you that you DON’T have to! 👏🏻

Today is just another day. Be real with yourself about what you can handle, and don’t cross your own boundaries for someone else. Even if that person is your father

Reach out to me if you need support dealing with your narcissistic parent!

You can’t control what happened to you, but you can control how you move forward. Let’s work on healing, and going Beyond Healing, together. 🤍🌸

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Being a narcissist’s “favorite ex” is not the flex you think it is. 🙅🏼‍♀️

This may surprise you, but walking on eggshells is NOT normal in any kind of relationship! 😬🤚🏻🥚 It’s a trauma response; your nervous system is in “fawn” mode and trying to avoid conflict by overcompensating and tracking your abuser’s patterns. 

If you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, it’s time to reevaluate your relationship. Reach out to me to begin 🤍

Are you dealing with one (or multiple) of these emotional manipulators? Reach out to me learn how the f*ck to heal from it 💪🏻🤍✨

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Conflict is GOOD! Well, sometimes it is anyway…

The ability to work through disagreements or troubles is a really great sign of a healthy partnership. But how can you tell the difference between healthy and unhealthy conflict? It all comes down to respect and honesty. 🙏🏻

If the fighting in your relationship is frequent, heated, and full of low blows, that’s a red flag. 🚩 But having healthy, respectful conflict actually brings couples (and friends!) closer.

Read on to learn about healthy vs. narcissistic conflict, and follow me for more tips! 🤍

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What it means to hold the narrative accountable 👇🏻

Your narcissist is going to try to rewrite history to make you look bad. It’s your job to know the truth, stay grounded in the truth, and not let them convince you- or anyone else- that the truth is something different.

Hold the narrative accountable for defending you, and being your strongest weapon in defense of your narcissist.

Have you earned your healing badges? 🌸

Believe it or not, there is an end to your healing journey… and when you get there, the rewards are SOOO worth the work!

Comment below with a badge you’re proud to wear after overcoming your trauma, and share this post with someone else you’re proud of. 🤍

If you’re like me, you dread Mother’s Day. It’s not always easy to celebrate someone who can be such a trigger for you… so I’m here to tell you that you DON’T have to! 👏🏻

Today is just another day. Be real with yourself about what you can handle, and don’t cross your own boundaries for someone else. Even if that person is your mother.

Reach out to me if you need support dealing with your narcissistic mother! 🌸

Have you tried the 40 Floors Up technique? 💭

“40 Floors Up” is all about rising above your emotional triggers in order to conquer them. Let me know if this works for you! 👇🏻

How are you talking to yourself? 🤔 Would you talk to your friend like that?

If the answer is no, it’s time to reframe your inner dialogue. Swipe to learn how.

Say it with me. This season of life is all about creating a space where you feel safe and nourished. 🌸 Follow me to get started.

I had the recent pleasure of joining the amazing Claudine Francois, , on her show. 👏🏻

We talked about methods that can help you heal from narcissistic abuse and how listening to your body contributes to recovery.

Now available on the YouTube Channel! Link in bio. ↗️🎧

Happy ! 💪🏼🌸 Today, let’s take a moment to celebrate the incredible strength and resilience of women around the world.

Unfortunately, the statistics show that women are the highest percentage of people who experience narcissistic abuse and domestic violence.

This International Women’s Day, let’s shine a light on the challenges many face and the importance of raising awareness about these issues. It’s disheartening to acknowledge the pain that many women endure, but it’s equally inspiring to witness the unwavering strength that resides within each of them.

Despite the scars, women are powerful beings capable of rising, healing, and flourishing.

Thank you to the incredible women who have trusted me to support them in their healing journeys. You inspire me every day! Let’s continue to go Beyond Healing together. 🤍

In a narcissistic relationship, freedom of choice DOESN’T exist. 🙅‍♀️ Rather than having a healthy balance of give-and-take, everything is about control, manipulation, and dominance by the narcissist.

In order to have a healthy relationship, it’s essential to maintain your autonomy. If you looked at this from a pie-chart perspective and evenly sliced up personal, social, self-care, spirituality, and hobbies into different sections, it would be an example of balance in maintaining autonomy.

If you’re losing (or have already lost) this autonomy and need help gaining it back, I’m here to help! 🤍