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Why voters should pass Question 4 - The Boston Globe Psychedelics allow the brain to get reorganized and process information from a new perspective, making mind and brain temporarily more malleable and able to learn.

Episode 100: Valentine For our 100th episode, a story from Phoebe about her mother, Valentine, who died this spring.

Beautiful tribute by her daughter with whom I worked with as her Care Manager for almost 7 years ❤️

Episode 100: Valentine For our 100th episode, a story from Phoebe about her mother, Valentine, who died this spring.

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Growing, ripening, aging, dying — the passing of time is predestined, inevitable.
There is only one solution if old age is not to be an absurd parody of our former life, and that is to go on pursuing ends that give our existence a meaning — devotion to individuals, to groups or to causes, social, political, intellectual or creative work. In old age we should wish still to have passions strong enough to prevent us turning in on ourselves.
One’s life has value so long as one attributes value to the life of others, by means of love, friendship, indignation, compassion.
~Simone de Beauvoir

(Book: The Coming of Age https://amzn.to/4cSnaAJ [ad])

Green Burials in Montague!

Last week I had the honor of creating this casket spray for a gentleman being buried at the green burial ground in Montague. In addition to using largely locally grown flowers, it was made of completely compostable materials, and the 8 separate bouquets that made up the spray were taken apart at the end of the service, some for family to take, some to leave graveside.
I truly love to create these pieces.

I practically shut down the endo unit at Noble once advocating for my client with cancer getting a palliative scope done to have her DNR honored.

Doctors Saved Her Life. She Didn’t Want Them To. When her “do not resuscitate” order was ignored, Marie Cooper found herself in a painful situation she had hoped to avoid.

Big shout out to my newest top fans! 💎

Eileen Sauvageau, Jennie Sutherland

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**Fear of Your Parents' Old Age**

"There is a break in the family history, where the ages accumulate and overlap, and the natural order makes no sense: it’s when the child becomes the parent of their parent."

It’s when the father grows older and begins to move as if he were walking through fog. Slowly, slowly, imprecisely.

It’s when one of the parents who once held your hand firmly when you were little no longer wants to be alone.

It’s when the father, once strong and unbeatable, weakens and takes two breaths before rising from his seat.

It’s when the father, who once commanded and ordered, now only sighs, only groans, and searches for where the door and window are—every hallway now feels distant.

It’s when one of the parents, once willing and hardworking, struggles to dress themselves and forgets to take their medication.

And we, as their children, will do nothing but accept that we are responsible for that life.

The life that gave birth to us depends on our life to die in peace.

Every child is the parent of their parent's death. Perhaps the old age of a father or mother is, curiously, the final pregnancy.
Our last lesson. An opportunity to return the care and love they gave us for decades.

And just as we adapted our homes to care for our babies, blocking power outlets and setting up playpens, we will now rearrange the furniture for our parents.

The first transformation happens in the bathroom. We will be the parents of our parents, the ones who now install a grab bar in the shower.

The grab bar is emblematic. The grab bar is symbolic. The grab bar inaugurates the "unsteadiness of the waters."

Because the shower, simple and refreshing, now becomes a storm for the old feet of our protectors.
We cannot leave them for even a moment.

The home of someone who cares for their parents will have grab bars along the walls. And our arms will extend in the form of railings.

Aging is walking while holding onto objects; aging is even climbing stairs without steps. We will be strangers in our own homes. We will observe every detail with fear and unfamiliarity, with doubt and concern.

We will be architects, designers, frustrated engineers. How did we not foresee that our parents would get sick and need us?

We will regret the sofas, the statues, and the spiral staircase. We will regret all the obstacles and the carpet.

Happy is the child who becomes the parent of their parent before their death, and unfortunate is the child who only appears at the funeral and doesn't say goodbye a little each day.

My friend Joseph Klein accompanied his father until his final moments.

In the hospital, the nurse was maneuvering to move him from the bed to the stretcher, trying to change the sheets when Joe shouted from his seat: Let me help you. He gathered his strength and, for the first time, took his father into his arms. He placed his father's face against his chest.

He cradled his father, consumed by cancer: small, wrinkled, fragile, trembling. He held him for a long time, the time equivalent to his childhood, the time equivalent to his adolescence, a long time, an endless time. By Your Side Nothing Hurts
Rocking his father back and forth. Caressing his father. Calming his father. And he said softly:

- I'm here, I'm here, Dad! "What a father wants to hear at the end of his life is that his child is there."

I love you, Dad, wherever you are, I always think of you, I will never forget you...

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Top 5 signs you may need an Aging Life Care Manager®

1️⃣ I'm overwhelmed!
2️⃣ My parents are having a hard time finding and accessing services.
3️⃣ I don't know if I can keep my dad safe at home.
4️⃣ My siblings and I disagree about mom's care
5️⃣ I don't live near my loved one and can't provide the support they need.

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Deathwives!

Deathwives Founders: Death Doulas Fill End-of-Life Care Gaps, Ease Strain on Hospice Staff More people are stepping into death doula work, according to founders of the Colorado-based organization Deathwives. Many come striving for change after

Yes!! Agree 💯

Some Trans-Health resources I saw at the doctor’s today ❤️🌈💫

Don’t prioritise your looks my friend, as they won’t last the journey.
Your sense of humour though, will only get better with age.
Your intuition will grow and expand like a majestic cloak of wisdom.
Your ability to choose your battles, will be fine-tuned to perfection.
Your capacity for stillness, for living in the moment, will blossom.
Your desire to live each and every moment will transcend all other wants.
Your instinct for knowing what (and who) is worth your time, will grow and flourish like ivy on a castle wall.
Don’t prioritise your looks my friend, they will change forevermore, that pursuit is one of much sadness and disappointment.
Prioritise the uniqueness that makes you you, and the invisible magnet that draws in other like-minded souls to dance in your orbit.
These are the things which will only get better.

~Donna Ashworth

Donna Ashworth: Words To Live By Don’t prioritise your looks my friend, as they won’t last the journey. Your sense of humour though, will only get better with age. Your intu...

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The near enemy of love is attachment. Attachment masquerades as love. It says, “I will love this person (because I need something from them).” Or, “I’ll love you if you’ll love me back. I’ll love you, but only if you will be the way I want.” This isn’t the fullness of love. Instead there is attachment—there is clinging and fear. True love allows, honors, and appreciates; attachment grasps, demands, needs, and aims to possess. ~Brené Brown

(Book: Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience https://amzn.to/4cDYvR4 [ad])

(Art: Painting by Kayoon Anderson)

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F**k I'm Dead, End Of Life Planner Our thorough and funny End of Life Planner covers everything your family and/or friends will need to know upon your passing or incapacitation.... from Financial Information to Insurance Information to End Of Life Care Wishes and more! It will make it much easier for your loved ones to settle your af...

Yes!! Resentment is the real killer ☠️