Wright Counseling Group

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WRIGHT COUNSELING GROUP

Thank you to Everyone who voted for us and to everyone who trusts us to help them. We are honored and humbled
every . damn . day, by our clients. They are the ones who are truly “The Best”.

Congratulations to Meagan O’Connor, at Wellness, who won best mental health therapist. However, I am a just a bit biased and feel like all of our therapists, at WCG, are amazing therapists as well as amazing human beings. So, if you need someone to talk to about what is going on in your life, call us. We got you.

662-662-202-7332
Brenda Davis Wimberly
WCG, Client Care Coordinator

https://www.wrightcounselinggroup.com

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Hell Yes!

Pain
Don’t look away. Don’t look down.
Don’t pretend not to see hurt.
Look people in the eye.
Even when their pain is overwhelming.
And when you’re hurting and in pain, find the people who can look you in the eye.
Brene Brown

All of these techniques are part of EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy). If you are struggling in ANY of your relationships, give us a call.

5 Therapy Techniques Proven To Save Any Relationship These techniques can help your relationship function in a healthy way.

I might actually say that they FEEL things differently!

Surviving

Growth should be a constant part of life. 🌱

Wright Counseling Group welcomes Margaret Seicshnaydre to its family of counselors.

Margaret brings a passion for helping her clients through difficult situations so they may find peace and begin the healing process. Margaret has special interests in parenting issues, college students, adults who are caregivers for loved ones, and those who are navigating the process of grief and loss.

Like all Wright Counseling Group's counselors, Margaret will begin training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to better understand and assist her clients.

Margaret is a native of Oxford, living with her husband and children.

If you want great s*x try for the emotional connection first.

Gaslighting is psychological abuse. Typically, it’s a pattern of consistent behavior, something a person engages in over + over to control situations. This looks like: denying something occurred for personal gain, creating false narratives about someone (to shame or humiliate), + weaponizing a person’s trust to manipulate. Gaslighting is done by insecure, fearful people who know no other way to get their needs met aside from controlling other people.

THINGS TO UNDERSTAND ABOUT GASLIGHTING

1. Disagreeing with someone’s perspective IS NOT gaslighting (disagreement is a natural + healthy part of human relationships)

2. Telling someone what they think, how they feel, or what their intention was + they then state what *they* think, feel, or what their intentions were isn’t gaslighting. People are able to clarify things from their own perspective— especially when being spoken for.

3. Remembering experiences or events differently is something that makes us human. Its one thing to deny the event entirely + say “you’re crazy!”— it’s another to say “for me, this is how this happened.” Learning to listen empathetically is key in healthy relationships.

4. With mature communication skills a person is flexible, open, + does not feel as though they are personally being attacked if someone does not see things the way they do.

5. Many people have been raised in homes where the communication was: invalidating, shaming, name calling, + overall hostile. It’s common for people raised in these homes to feel highly emotionally activated during disagreement. This doesn’t necessarily mean gaslighting is taking place. Learning open, empathetic communication heals.

6. The core function of gaslighting is to over time, chip away at a persons sense of self trust + to question their own sanity. Always consider someone’s intention.

7. Your reality is always valid simply because you experience it. AND, multiple realities do exist. This is key to a peaceful, compassionate existence

"When you're conveying urgency and your love responds with a STILL FACE, it's usually from OVERWHELMED not disinterest" - Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen

Emotional communication is different from just speaking and listening. It's about connecting.

….and that’s normal and okay!

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When your partner comes home, greet them with a kiss and hug. Make it a habit of connecting and letting them know everyday that they are important to you, someone you look forward to seeing, a person worth stopping whatever you are doing to connect for a moment.

What is the single most positive factor for creating resilience?

POSITIVE, CONNECTED RELATIONSHIPS

Allowing yourself to feel takes so much courage, when you have directly or indirectly learned to not feel and push those emotions away in order to protect yourself. It is the most underrated and undervalued courage there is.

Beautiful!

20-year-old filmmaker wins award for powerful 1-minute film about marriage You may not be able to understand their exact words, but the gestures and subtitles in this dubbed-over version help to convey the beautiful message of this short award-winning film made by 20-year-old Iranian filmmaker Syed Mohammad Reza Kheradmand. The film, called Thursday Appointment, recently w...

The inability to receive nurturing, support or comfort from another is a trauma response. It is out of protection. Then we tell ourselves that not needing anyone is a strength, but underneath we are left feeling alone and lonely. The search and the fight should be for secure dependence; not sheer independence. When we have secure dependence with another, we are more capable of actually being more independent in the world when we need to be.

George Faller, Marriage & Family Therapist

Face your fears because its the best way to find your invincible preciousness hiding in the midst of your fragility.

What is Emotionally Focused Relationship Therapy?

An excellent article written by a wonderful colleague, Jason Linder.

If you are considering marriage / couple therapy, this is worth reading. It might answer a few of your questions about the type of couple therapy we do at Wright Counseling Group.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/relationship-and-trauma-insights/202008/what-is-emotionally-focused-relationship-therapy?fbclid=IwAR1hllcuBQpR-YG9K_5t11OJjtj7gG4TWIwvan4zle-_TlA_k_o_HjnsMFE

psychologytoday.com Can it really help me? Questions answered for prospective partners in pain.

Edie Brickell - i get mean

For all of the misunderstood pursuers out there!....
I get mean because I love you

vimeo.com from Edie Brickell website. http://www.ediebrickell.com/meanMovie.html

Teri Murphy

I get so excited to talk about attachment because it isn’t hyperbole to say that knowing your attachment style and what it means will change your life.
Your attachment style informs how you feel about yourself and others in relationships, at work, and when you were growing up.
Attachment theory was discovered by John Bowlby and describes how we are hardwired to bond with others - first with our caregivers and later in romantic ways. It also defines how we perceive ourselves, so our identity is baked in with our attachment experiences.
We all experience distress when we’re threatened or triggered. The difference in our attachment strategy tells us how we’re likely to experience our triggers and how we’ll respond. I’ll define those in a future post.
Why does this matter? We can all end up securely attached, even if we didn’t grow up in a safe environment (racism, oppression, financial margins, ability, s*xuality and more) or with consistent caregiving from adults when we were growing up. And security is a measure of health and well-being marked by feeling safe in our bodies and satisfied in relationships, which we all want and are wired for.
Insecurity isn’t bad or wrong or hopeless. It’s just a marker that our needs weren’t consistently met, usually for good reasons. The more we can understand and feel and process and heal these insecure places we all have inside, the better we feel. We can heal. The good news is that it’s never too late.

Healing Conversations

Artist Illustrates ‘Fear’ as a Misunderstood Monster That Just Needs Love and Acceptance

The Transformation of Fear!

mymodernmet.com Artist Cécile Carre illustrated her own visual interpretation of fear, as a huge monster that transforms as she learns to accept it.

Teri Murphy

Pursuers are made. Not born.
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My heart is aching this morning. I feel it like a rock in my chest. I’ve been sitting with women telling me about their loneliness, their frustration, their longing to be seen and heard and wanted and to have conversations with their partners who don’t seem interested in going deep with them.
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It isn’t only women who feel this way. But our culture sets women up to seek out wholeness through dating/partnership/marriage/momming. When we’re little, girls are socialized to develop an identity through others. Anxiety strikes when women grow up and haven’t partnered up yet. Where men tend to be celebrated for bachelorhood and going it alone, women have a shelf life and tend to be seen through the lens of being a good partner, a good mom. Always in service of others. To have a self is to be selfish. This image is what happens when we react and try to meet our own needs through pursuing others.
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This is how pursuers are born. Being defined only ever in light of our connection to others means anxiety at the slightest distance. Not getting a response can trigger abandonment fears. Longing for another to regulate our emotional pain turns quickly to anger and protest and blame - of others, but mostly of ourselves. I shouldn’t be so needy. Why did I reach out first again? Why am I not ok when they clearly seem fine? Why am I so lonely? What’s wrong with me?
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You’re feeling what you’ve been programmed to feel and you’re bucking it. You don’t have to live this way - unsatisfied, lonely, hurting, and wondering if this is the best life is ever gonna be. This is just the strategy that you’ve developed to deal with a burden you never chose to carry.
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Don’t give up. The problem isn’t you. It isn’t even your partner. The problem is the messages you’ve been told. When we become aware of the stories going through our minds and can dis-identify with them, a new way begins to emerge and we can become free of the cycle of despair. Our light can shine again and we are free to connect deeply with our whole selves without the shackles of giving our selves away in the hopes someone else will give it back to us. You are the one.

Teri Murphy

Withdrawers are made. Not born.
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How do you make a withdrawer? Start ‘em young. Whenever a child has a feeling, distract them, tease them, tell them a joke, gaslight them, tell them it’s nothing to cry about, not to get so excited, ignore them, punish them, withdraw affection unless they seem calm and quiet. Praise them for playing alone and not needing anything. Focus on what they do instead of who they are.
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As adults, withdrawers are praised for working hard, staying cool under pressure, and keeping the peace. Withdrawers tend to lean on their minds or physical means to soothe themselves (hitting the gym, s*x, sleep, numbing out) rather than turning to another person to help them regulate. Being focused on feels like sitting in an interrogation room with a spotlight aimed right at your eyeballs. It’s that “in-the-hot-seat,” pressure’s on, feeling. I’ll do anything to get out from under it. “What do you want me to say? I’m so sorry. It won’t happen again.” Deer in the headlights. Confusion.
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It makes total sense. Why would you go to someone else to help you make sense of what’s happening inside if it was never an option for you? If you always leave an emotional conversation feeling worse, confused, misunderstood, and somehow at fault...
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And at some point, Withdrawers lose the ability to feel their own feelings. And if I can’t feel my own feelings, I can’t be with you and your feelings. I’ll instead offer you what I offer myself: shut it down...move on. Don’t open up the possibility of getting it wrong or getting rejected.
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There is nothing wrong with you. You aren’t unable to do emotions. We all come pre-wired with them. When we don’t practice, we lose touch with our emotions and can’t recognize them in ourselves or others.
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Don’t give up. The problem isn’t you. It isn’t your partner. The problem is the messages you’ve been told. When you begin to practice compassion for the kid inside who didn’t have a safe way to show up and be accepted, you can begin to create space for them. You’re free to connect deeply with your whole self without the fear that you’ll be lost and consumed by another person. You have what it takes.

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Struggling in your relationship?
THIS book is a must!

We highly recommend all of our couples seeking therapy read it together.

Take advantage of this week’s amazing $3.99 price for the e-book version.

amazon.com Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love