The Connection Corner

Fall in love with someone who will take care of you - not in a materialistic way, but rather, fall in love with someone who will take care of your soul. Fall in love with someone who will take care of your mind, someone who will take care of your heart. Fall in love with someone who will take care of even the most chaotic parts of who you are.

Happy couples aren't just the ones posting kissing selfies. They're the ones having uncomfortable conversations, helping each other overcome trauma, and crying ugly to save their relationship. Happy couples prioritize growth and are a course of inspiration for each other.

"Love is the whole thing. We are only the pieces. - Rumi. It’s not just that you are love and I am love, we are actually all love together. We’re all made of love. We’re all one.

"Love is the whole thing. We are only the pieces. - Rumi. It’s not just that you are love and I am love, we are actually all love together. We’re all made of love. We’re all one. #rumi #love #rumiquotes #quotes #spirituality #poetry #rumipoetry #connection #spiritualawakening #meditation #sufisme #sufipoetry #quoteoftheday #love #awakening #itimacy #theconnectioncorner #seeking #universe #prayer #amen

Those with the growth mindset are able to acknowledge their partners’ imperfections without assigning blame and still feel that they have a fulfilling relationship. They see disputes as an issue of communication, and do not drag elements of personality or character into the frame. This dynamic holds true as much in romantic partnerships as in friendship and even in people’s relationships with their parents and children.

That’s how they are able to cope so well with differences in relationships. They discover flaws and sometimes struggle along the way, but together they learn how to deal with differences and find mutual solutions, allowing both partners to grow and the relationship to deepen. In this healthy relationship dynamic, an atmosphere of trust is developed, and they become vitally interested in each other’s development.

Our mindsets are constantly evolving. The person we are today is an amalgam of the residual imprints of our upbringing, the inner child in us, and the rational-thinking adult we’ve cultivated along the way. To attempt to alter our mindsets means to challenge our preformed biases and to slowly break its chains. It will be painful, arduous, and time-consuming. But that’s exactly what the growth mindset teaches us.

The perfect partner is an asymptote — it doesn’t exist. And so the goal isn’t to become perfect, it is to strive for constant improvements. To become a better partner. To understand better, To communicate more attentively, and to grow together in the name of love.

Those with the growth mindset are able to acknowledge their partners’ imperfections without assigning blame and still feel that they have a fulfilling relationship. They see disputes as an issue of communication, and do not drag elements of personality or character into the frame. This dynamic holds true as much in romantic partnerships as in friendship and even in people’s relationships with their parents and children. That’s how they are able to cope so well with differences in relationships. They discover flaws and sometimes struggle along the way, but together they learn how to deal with differences and find mutual solutions, allowing both partners to grow and the relationship to deepen. In this healthy relationship dynamic, an atmosphere of trust is developed, and they become vitally interested in each other’s development. Our mindsets are constantly evolving. The person we are today is an amalgam of the residual imprints of our upbringing, the inner child in us, and the rational-thinking adult we’ve cultivated along the way. To attempt to alter our mindsets means to challenge our preformed biases and to slowly break its chains. It will be painful, arduous, and time-consuming. But that’s exactly what the growth mindset teaches us. The perfect partner is an asymptote — it doesn’t exist. And so the goal isn’t to become perfect, it is to strive for constant improvements. To become a better partner. To understand better, To communicate more attentively, and to grow together in the name of love. #love #growth #relationships #soulmate #fondness #happiness #lovenotes #relationshipcoach #lovecoach #relationships #vulnerablity #relationship #lifecoach #inyourcorner #theconnectioncorner #appreciation #partner #together

What are you protecting me from? Sometimes our significant others do not tell us everything because they feel like they are protecting us from something.

Maybe they do not want us to worry, or do not think we can help, or feel like they would bother us.

This is a great question to ask if you want to be closer. Again, do not push, do not offer how to fix it, just ask how you can help.

What are you protecting me from? Sometimes our significant others do not tell us everything because they feel like they are protecting us from something. Maybe they do not want us to worry, or do not think we can help, or feel like they would bother us. This is a great question to ask if you want to be closer. Again, do not push, do not offer how to fix it, just ask how you can help. #connection #mindfulness #inspiration #growth #support #relationships #fondness #together #love #relationshipcoach #datinglife #relationshipadvice #relationshipgoals #relationship #marriage #lifecoach #inyourcorner #theconnectioncorner #lovemaps

Here is a unique date night idea. Get in your car and go for a ride. Go somewhere that you both like and is not that busy. Like the beach, a lake, a hill that has a great view of the city, etc.

Then park your car, turn on your headlights, put on some music that you would both enjoy, and just dance. Dance to Lizzo, or Beethoven, or Michael Bublé... whatever you like.

Your headlights will not be the only thing turned on!

Here is a unique date night idea. Get in your car and go for a ride. Go somewhere that you both like and is not that busy. Like the beach, a lake, a hill that has a great view of the city, etc. Then park your car, turn on your headlights, put on some music that you would both enjoy, and just dance. Dance to Lizzo, or Beethoven, or Michael Bublé... whatever you like. Your headlights will not be the only thing turned on! #datenight #love #date #couplegoals #fun #dateideas #relationshipgoals #dating #happy #instagood #nightout #lovethisguy #lovethisgirl #couples #teambuilding #funnight #datenight #dateyourspouse #romance #datenightideas #connection #theconnectioncorner #dance #music #lights

Many folks have some kind of trama that we carry stemming from our parental figures. Ta**ra is one way in which you can work with your partner to address some of those issues.

With your partner, start out with a 2-3 minutes eye gazing exercise. Then one at a time, without taking your eyes away from your partner, talk about something that you carry from childhood.

I like holding hands when doing this, it brings the connection and energy up. In this exercise, you are not offering any judgment, help, or advice, you are just listening and telling your story.

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Many folks have some kind of trauma that we carry stemming from our parental figures. Ta**ra is one way in which you can work with your partner to address some of those issues. With your partner, start out with a 2-3 minutes eye gazing exercise. Then one at a time, without taking your eyes away from your partner, talk about something that you carry from childhood. I like holding hands when doing this, it brings the connection and energy up. In this exercise, you are not offering any judgment, help, or advice, you are just listening and telling your story. #ta**ra #meditation #love #spiritual #chakra #sacredsexuality #spiritualawakening #healing #ta***ic #energy #divinefeminine #kiss #anticipation #ta***ickissing #divinemasculine #mindfulness #consciousness #touch #intimacy #connection #theconnectioncorner #trauma

Your relationship doesn't have to be perfect to be wonderful.
In every moment, you can choose to focus on what's working about your relationship and what you love about your partner or what's not working and what annoys you. If you're a glass half-empty type of person prone to negative thinking, this will be a challenge for you and you'll need to commit to a conscious and daily practice of orienting toward the positive. But the first step is to shift your belief that perfection is possible and allow the fantasy of the fairy tale prince or princess to shatter.

It's not easy to allow the fantasy to shatter. Many people have unconsciously carried and embellished this fantasy since childhood, and we live in a culture that encourages the belief that perfection exists. So when you start to let it go, there's a grieving process that often needs to occur before you can accept a realistic model of healthy love.
If you have it in your head that somewhere out there a perfect relationship is possible, you won't be able to accept the imperfection of who is standing before you. What I hear all the time in my practice is some version of, "I don't like that my partner [isn't social enough / tells dumb jokes / doesn't have a rich inner world like I do / doesn't always "get" me / doesn't fit my ideal physical type]. He or she is wonderful in so many ways, but can't I find someone who has it all?"

And my response is, "When you find that person, call me and let me know."

Here's the paradox: When you let go of the cultural fantasy of perfection — and it is absolutely a grieving process as my course member shared above — you make room for the perfect imperfection of your good, loving relationship to blossom around you. For it's in loving what is human — in all of its irritating foibles, quirks and dumb jokes — that we soften our walls of fear and judgment designed to keep others at a safe distance and learn about what it really means to love.

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Your relationship doesn't have to be perfect to be wonderful. In every moment, you can choose to focus on what's working about your relationship and what you love about your partner or what's not working and what annoys you. If you're a glass half-empty type of person prone to negative thinking, this will be a challenge for you and you'll need to commit to a conscious and daily practice of orienting toward the positive. But the first step is to shift your belief that perfection is possible and allow the fantasy of the fairy tale prince or princess to shatter. It's not easy to allow the fantasy to shatter. Many people have unconsciously carried and embellished this fantasy since childhood, and we live in a culture that encourages the belief that perfection exists. So when you start to let it go, there's a grieving process that often needs to occur before you can accept a realistic model of healthy love. If you have it in your head that somewhere out there a perfect relationship is possible, you won't be able to accept the imperfection of who is standing before you. What I hear all the time in my practice is some version of, "I don't like that my partner [isn't social enough / tells dumb jokes / doesn't have a rich inner world like I do / doesn't always "get" me / doesn't fit my ideal physical type]. He or she is wonderful in so many ways, but can't I find someone who has it all?" And my response is, "When you find that person, call me and let me know." Here's the paradox: When you let go of the cultural fantasy of perfection — and it is absolutely a grieving process as my course member shared above — you make room for the perfect imperfection of your good, loving relationship to blossom around you. For it's in loving what is human — in all of its irritating foibles, quirks and dumb jokes — that we soften our walls of fear and judgment designed to keep others at a safe distance and learn about what it really means to love. #love #growth #relationships #fondness #happiness #datingcoach #datingtips #relationshipcoach #relationships #relationship #inyourcorner #theconnectioncorner #partner #perfection #perfect

When I first saw you, my eyes said "you are my light." When I first found you, my soul said "you are my soul." - Rumi

When I first saw you, my eyes said "you are my light." When I first found you, my soul said "you are my soul." - Rumi #rumi #love #rumiquotes #quotes #spirituality #poetry #rumipoetry #connection #spiritualawakening #meditation #sufisme #sufipoetry #quoteoftheday #love #awakening #itimacy #theconnectioncorner #beauty #lovely #love

If you are just coasting in your relationship and you want more, or are going through something that your partner doesn't know, or you see that your partner is withdrawn, reach out to them.

Just check in with them. Let them know what you want. People cannot read minds, how are you going to get what you want from your partner without asking? Your partner is here to share your world, let them know how to get in it! Who knows what they are going through, maybe you can help.

Responding is very important as well. Just be there for them, don't tell them what to do, don't belittle them, don't demean them, just listen and then ask them what they need from you.

If you are just coasting in your relationship and you want more, or are going through something that your partner doesn't know, or you see that your partner is withdrawn, reach out to them. Just check in with them. Let them know what you want. People cannot read minds, how are you going to get what you want from your partner without asking? Your partner is here to share your world, let them know how to get in it! Who knows what they are going through, maybe you can help. Responding is very important as well. Just be there for them, don't tell them what to do, don't belittle them, don't demean them, just listen and then ask them what they need from you. #love #growth #relationships #soulmate #fondness #happiness #lovenotes #relationshipcoach #lovecoach #relationships #vulnerablity #relationship #lifecoach #inyourcorner #theconnectioncorner #appreciation #partner #together

Here is another great question to discuss with your partner! This is one of those questions in which you can learn something about your partner that is very important.

When we hide out, we are trying to protect something, ourselves, our partner, our family. Some of us might not even know that we are hiding out.

When you ask this question, both of you should think about when you hide out. Once you figure out what it is that you want to reveal to your partner, remember to just listen. Don't give advice, don't judge, just listen.

This can be a very vulnerable conversation. You can ask clarifying questions, like when did you first feel like hiding out? After you are both done a great follow-up question would be to ask "what can I do to help you, if you want help?"

Here is another great question to discuss with your partner! This is one of those questions in which you can learn something about your partner that is very important. When we hide out, we are trying to protect something, ourselves, our partner, our family. Some of us might not even know that we are hiding out. When you ask this question, both of you should think about when you hide out. Once you figure out what it is that you want to reveal to your partner, remember to just listen. Don't give advice, don't judge, just listen. This can be a very vulnerable conversation. You can ask clarifying questions, like when did you first feel like hiding out? After you are both done a great follow-up question would be to ask "what can I do to help you, if you want help?" #connection #mindfulness #inspiration #growth #support #relationships #fondness #together #love #relationshipcoach #datinglife #relationshipadvice #relationshipgoals #relationship #marriage #lifecoach #inyourcorner #theconnectioncorner #lovemaps

Here is a great date idea if you like water and picnics. You can head to a lake that rents mini boats, kayaks, or paddleboats and bring a picnic basket or backpack. After you set up, just float around eating with your partner.

Talk about what you see, what you hear, what you smell. And tell your partner what you appreciate about them today and why they came along with you on this picnic.

Here is a great date idea if you like water and picnics. You can head to a lake that rents mini boats, kayaks, or paddleboats and bring a picnic basket or backpack. After you set up, just float around eating with your partner. Talk about what you see, what you hear, what you smell. And tell your partner what you appreciate about them today and why they came along with you on this picnic. #datenight #love #date #couplegoals #fun #dateideas #relationshipgoals #dating #happy #instagood #nightout #lovethisguy #lovethisgirl #couples #teambuilding #funnight #datenight #dateyourspouse #romance #datenightideas #connection #theconnectioncorner #picnic #boat

Do you know your own body? Do you know what you like to touch? Where do you like to touch? What sensations does your body like?

Feathers? Leather? Ni**le clamps? Lace? A sarong? Hot wax? Silk?

Having solos night are great. You get to explore your own body and get to then tell your partner what you liked! Where you like it! So that they then can do it...

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Do you know your own body? Do you know what you like to touch? Where you like to touch? What sensations your body likes? Feathers? Leather? Ni**le clamps? Lace? A sarong? Hot wax? Silk? Having solos night are great. You get to explore your own body and get to then tell your partner what you liked! Where you liked it! So that they then can do it...

Many of us are conditioned to believe that playing is for kids, not for serious grown-ups.

However, fun is essential to our well-being.
Research shows that engaging in new experiences can also lead to positive benefits for couples.

Do you make time for playfulness in your relationship?

Many of us are conditioned to believing that playing is for kids, not for serious grown-ups. However, fun is essential to our wellbeing. Research shows that engaging in new experiences can also lead to positive benefits for couples. Do you make time for playfulness in your relationship?

Try not to get stuck chasing the idea of a perfect relationship. Perfect relationships don't exist. Try to let go of perfection, and instead strive for improvement. Improvement is attainable, perfection is not.

Try not to get stuck chasing the idea of a perfect relationship. Perfect relationships don't exist. Try to let go of perfection, and instead strive for improvement. Improvement is attainable, perfection is not.

What surprising thing have I brought out in you? What a wonderful question to ask your partner and what wonderful answers you could hear!

Ask your partner and let us know what they said to you!

What surprising thing have I brought out in you? What a wonderful question to ask your partner and what wonderful answers you could hear! Ask your partner and let us know what they said to you!

What a fun date night! Go out and buy a tarp and use a sheet that you no longer need. Buy some non toxic paint that you can use on the body.

Put the tarp down and the sheet on top of that. Get undressed and start painting on one another. This is a great way to have fun, use your creative side, and explore your partner's body.

What a fun date night! Go out and buy a tarp and use a sheet that you no longer need. Buy some non toxic paint that you can use on the body. Put the tarp down and the sheet on top of that. Get undressed and start painting on one another. This is a great way to have fun, use your creative side, and explore your partner's body.

There is beauty all around us. We just need to concentrate on the beauty. Nurture that. And open our hearts and minds to that.

How does this quote relate to your relationship?

There is beauty all around us. We just need to concentrate on the beauty. Nurture that. And open our hearts and minds to that. How does this quote relate to your relationship?

Have you talked to your partner about goals? You want to pay off your car! You want to go to school! You want to go to Italy.

But what about shared goals? Do you want to do anything together? Do you want to accomplish anything together?

Want to complete that couple's course together? Do you want to own a home together? What are some goals that you want to do?

Have you talked to your partner about goals? You want to pay off your car! You want to go to school! You want to go to Italy. But what about shared goals? Do you want to do anything together? Do you want to accomplish anything together? Want to complete that couple's course together? Do you want to own a home together? What are some goals that you want to do?

What a wonderful thing to hear rather than blame or having someone helping in a way we do not want them to.

When we work together as a team, we can get through anything. We need to remember that we are a team.

What a wonderful thing to hear rather than blame or having someone helping in a way we do not want them to. When we work together as a team, we can get through anything. We need to remember that we are a team.

With the Armchair Touch exercise, you both need to sit down either on the floor, the bed or in a big chair. Somewhere you and your partner can sit down, with one person being the chair and the other sitting in front.
For the one who is the chair, wrap your arms and legs around your partner. Allow them to just relax into you. If you need help being proper up, lay against your bed rest or the wall.
Slowly just stroke them. Send love, peace, and calmness into their body. Stroke and send this energy into their head, shoulders, arms, etc. where ever you can touch.
Put one hand on their heart chakra and the other on their third eye. Mirror their breathing.
Slowly and gently rock Your lover from side to side. Whisper to your partner that you are sending them peace, security, and your love.
Just hold them for a moment. Stay this way for several minutes gently rocking, humming softly, hand on their heart, and occasionally stroking my forehead.

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With the Armchair Touch exercise, you both need to sit down either on the floor, the bed or in a big chair. Somewhere you and your partner can sit down, with one person being the chair and the other sitting in front. For the one who is the chair, wrap your arms and legs around your partner. Allow them to just relax into you. If you need help being proper up, lay against your bed rest or the wall. Slowly just stroke them. Send love, peace and calmness into their body. Stroke and send this energy into their head, shoulders, arms, etc. where ever you can touch. Put one hand on their heart chakra and the other on their third eye. Mirror their breathing. Slowly and gently rock Your lover from side to side. Whisper to your partner that you are sending them peace, security, and your love. Just hold them for a moment. Stay this way for several minutes gently rocking, humming softly, hand on their heart, and occasionally stroking my forehead.

"Connections" are a series of questions that you can ask your partner that builds upon the Love Maps that you are growing with your partner.

This is a powerful question you can ask your partner. Who or what do you need to forgive? Our partners might be struggling with something that we do not know about.

This question could bring some understanding and light to a rather hard thing to discuss. It would be great to understand your partner on a deeper level.

You could be helping them just by talking about it and get to know your partner better.

"Connections" are a series of questions that you can ask your partner that builds upon the Love Maps that you are growing with your partner. This is a powerful question you can ask your partner. Who or what do you need to forgive? Our partners might be struggling with something that we do not know about. This question could bring some understanding and light to a rather hard thing to discuss. It would be great to understand your partner on a deeper level. You could be helping them just by talking about it and get to know your partner better.

For this date night, go to the store and buy ingredients to make spaghetti, or something similar like ramen, something with long noodles.

Go home and make that dish together. Set up a nice candlelight dinner, just like the movie Lady and the Tramp.

Then put on the movie Lady and the Tramp and recreate the noodle-sharing scene. Take a picture and share!

For this date night, go to the store and buy ingredients to make spaghetti, or something similar like ramen, something with long noodles. Go home and make that dish together. Set up a nice candlelight dinner, just like the movie Lady and the Tramp. Then put on the movie Lady and the Tramp and recreate the noodle-sharing scene. Take a picture and share!