Heal for The Win

Mario A Reed

Both of these places are a long drive away from where I am, but maybe a long drive is exactly what I need. One of these places I’ve never been to, but I’ve always wanted to go. The thought of it excites me—the bright lights of its sister buildings illuminating the night sky, sparking a sense of wonder and possibility I haven’t felt in so long. Excitement—real, unfiltered excitement—has become such a distant memory, and I crave its return.

The other place is more familiar. I’ve visited it a few times, yet I find myself yearning for it again. I need to feel the warm sand beneath my feet, the grains slipping through my toes, grounding me. I need to stand by the water’s edge and watch the waves crash against the shore, the rhythmic dance of the ocean reminding me that life, like the tide, moves forward. I need to feel something—anything at all—to pull me out of this numbness that’s become so comfortable.

Being an author often means getting lost in your thoughts, and maybe, just maybe, I need to break free from that. The thing about being a writer at heart is that living in one’s head isn’t just a habit; it’s a constant state of being. I see full stories when I look at the world around me, stories that unfold in the smallest of details—a look, a gesture, a passing shadow. I don’t just “try” to create stories; they pour out of me, as if they’re desperate to escape, like wine flowing into the glass of someone who’s aching for the next sip. It’s feverish, the way symphonies and orchestras play in my mind, melodies and characters weaving themselves together, demanding to be heard.

But it took an immense amount of heartache to silence that music, to make me put down the pen. There was a reason I stopped writing—one I’m still trying to come to terms with. One day, I hope to have the strength to share that story. Until then, I’ll keep searching for the feeling that used to light me up, hoping that somewhere along the way, I’ll find it again.

So, which one will I go to next? Well, only a few days from now will I know and maybe I will share it with you all too. Can't wait to get the blog started.

I thought that I had to be angry to come for what's mines-- to sue someone, but I don't. I simply have to keep love in my heart and believe in what I am fighting for. Life feels so much better with love in your heart.

I have never allowed anything to stop me from evolving!

* Not childhood trauma and abuse
*Not being beat by teachers until I bled
*Not being told I'd never be anything but a slt and a w***e
*Not prejudice systems
*Not abusive relationships
*Not people STEALING from me
*Not people turning their back on me BECAUSE I GREW
NOTHING!

I WAS CREATED TO IMPACT LIVES IN A POSITIVE WAY.
Nothing gets to change my heart of gold. Lord knows I HAVE HAD EVERY REASON TO.

IF you want to be a part of something big, something dynamic ask me how today!

YOU CAN DO IT - Motivational Speech You can do it.Spoken by Les Brown, Kevin Hart.Music: Archangel and Unashamed by Confidential Music.

Steps to Protect Yourself and Reclaim Your Power
Recognize the Pattern

Identify when forgiveness has led to repeated hurt rather than healing. Acknowledge how forgiving the same people has left you feeling empty, vulnerable, or taken advantage of. Understand that forgiveness, for you, might not lead to the peace you seek.
Trust Actions Over Words

Pay attention to people’s actions the first time. Don’t ignore red flags or signs that someone doesn’t value or respect you. Actions reveal true intentions, and if someone’s behavior shows indifference or disregard for your feelings, take it seriously.
Set Boundaries Early

Establish firm boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. If someone disrespects your boundaries or treats you poorly, be prepared to enforce consequences and distance yourself if needed. Protect your peace by refusing to tolerate behavior that makes you feel unwanted or insignificant.
Acknowledge When Someone Abandons You

Accept that if someone abandons or ghosts you once, it’s a clear sign of who they are. Don’t excuse their behavior or hope for change—understand that this pattern is likely to repeat itself. Take it as a message that they are not capable of being consistent, loyal, or present.
Refuse to Give Multiple Chances

Decide not to give people second or third chances if they’ve already shown they can’t be trusted. Understand that if someone ghosts or abandons you once, they will likely do it again, and you deserve to be treated with respect and consistency. Don’t allow others to repeatedly disrespect your boundaries or your emotions.
Choose Self-Preservation Over Forgiveness

Shift your focus from feeling obligated to forgive to prioritizing self-preservation. Recognize that it’s okay not to forgive if it means protecting your heart and your mental health. Let go of guilt and societal pressure to forgive, and instead, prioritize your own peace.
Invest in Healthy Relationships

Surround yourself with people who value, respect, and support you. Focus on building connections with those who show consistency, honesty, and open communication. Cultivate relationships that honor your boundaries and prioritize your feelings.
Reclaim Your Power

Reclaim your power by choosing to walk away from those who don’t treat you with respect. No longer allow yourself to be manipulated, guilted, or pressured into forgiveness. Trust that you are capable of deciding what’s best for your well-being, and commit to protecting your peace above all else.
Shift Your Focus Inward

Instead of trying to fix or hold onto people who don’t appreciate you, invest your energy in yourself. Work on personal growth, self-love, and building a life that fulfills you. Empower yourself to create an environment where you are surrounded by positivity and support.
Embrace Your Choice and Move Forward

Accept that choosing not to forgive is a valid decision and doesn’t make you bitter. It’s an act of self-care and self-respect. Embrace your decision, and let it guide you as you move forward, focusing on your own happiness and well-being.

Hang on. God will heal your heart.

𝗖𝗲𝗹𝗲𝗯𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗦𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀

Can I take a moment to celebrate success? I am posting this across all my platforms because I have several ventures that I have started, and I want to simply say that Academy Six DM Academy Six DM is one that is near and dear. In just a little over 3 months we have grown to nearly 2,000 people from all around the world including: Germany, Fiji, South Africa, Trinidad and Tobago, Jamaica.

I have had over 15 people launch their own program after becoming a member of the Academy! University is the next level, and it launches in a few short days. I have 3 more tier levels to this program that will be launching over the next few months.

Go after your dreams my friends--even when no one supports you, even when they dog you out for trying something new, when they say it's crazy that you left behind a career!

I am up early this morning as I typically only sleep about 3 to 4 hours per night because I am building more programs for people to discover proven pathways to earning money without taking on additional jobs.

We truly are just getting started (my community and I).

I put off my goals and dreams for so long because I thought that I had to be married 1st. I thought I needed someone who knew more about money than me, because I was scared that I wouldn't know what to do with multi-seven figures, but I'd been dreaming for years about what was to come. But, I am now investing and learning more about how to do it day by day. I am so proud of myself and my fathers both told me that they believed in me and what I will accomplish. I am working toward that now. Finally.

I have a billion-dollar concept, and when the time is right, I will share it with the world.

I want to add something: One of the hardest things for me to accept on this journey has been to know that I don't have the love and support that I long for during this mountain climb. It's painful. (Why it matters now unlike in the past when I didn't care). Because I discovered that I have heart challenges, and I suffered a concussion a little over a year ago (which led me to finding out about my heart) so I value relationships a lot more now. I am open about saying what matters the most to me. I know what and who matters the most and they were in my dreams in this next chapter of my life (my actual dreams) so I believed that meant they were going to be in my life during this actual stage. I had to separate what I had been seeing in my dreams for the past 5 or so years with reality. I had to accept that I am on my own and that I will make it through this--all of it, by myself with God carrying me as He did when my I raised my family on my own. I can do this and all things with prayer and belief in myself. And so can you.

THIS CHARGE I ACCEPTED IS NOT FOR THE WEAK, AND I HAVE ACCEPTED IT. I AM WALKING IN MY CALLING even without THE ONES I LOVE THE MOST being next to me.

I am up investing this morning. I still don't know all the language-it's new to me; however, when I master it, I will not gate keep. I will teach others...

What misery looks like, DOING ANY AND EVERYTHING TO JAB AT YOU--Friends don't do that. Recognize the low-level and code it for what it is. YOU HAVE finally outgrown THEM.

Why didn't they have these cute stress balls when I was working as a teacher? These are too cute.

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Wow, I have such an engaging Livestream on TikTok tonight. It definitely has prompted me to work on creating more guided journals for men who have been victims of abuse by women. I hope that TikTok stays around because there are people who need a voice after going through some really tough relationships.

Is there a lesson with the discipline, or is the discipline intended to hurt, cause pain, or torture? (one is abuse, one is teaching)

Lessons are taught when they are clearly communicated, not in moments of rage, anger and frustration..

Forgiveness: Have we been dupped? Holding grudges may be the key to a healthier lifestyle and maintaining proper boundaries. Let's talk about it?

What hurts you over time more: Forgiving others that caused you severe pain, or holding a grudge?

People who tell abuse victims to "get over it," have no intention of understanding the trauma a person has experienced. If you are in the healing phases: AVOID THOSE AS****ES!

Hypervigilance is a state of heightened awareness and alertness
that can be exhausting and overwhelming. It's often a symptom of mental health disorders, like PTSD and anxiety, and is linked to a dysregulated nervous system. Hypervigilance can be caused by traumatic events, like combat, abuse, or PTSD

What Happens to the Body During, and After Trauma: Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn!

𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗜 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗺𝘆 𝘁𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗼𝗻𝘆, 𝗜 𝗮𝗺 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝘆 𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮 (𝗶𝗻 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁) 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗮 𝗹𝗼𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀, 𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗹 𝗲𝘅𝗵𝗮𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗮𝗱𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀. 𝗜 𝗰𝗿𝘆 𝗮 𝗹𝗼𝘁. Sometimes it lasts for moments, sometimes it lasts for a couple of days.

Things that happen to people's body during and after trauma:

**exhaustion, confusion, sadness, anxiety, agitation, numbness, dissociation, confusion, physical arousal, and blunted affect and more.

So, before you judge someone who couldn't cope and may be addicted to drugs, s*x, and or alcohol first determine what they may have experienced.

Healthy people take time to heal; narcissists jump into something new and flaunt it all over social media to prove a point: THEY WERE NOT THE PROBLEM and HURT THE EX. This is a common strategy that a narcissist will use after a breakup with a healthy person. They enjoy the pain that they are inflicting on their ex. This is not the typical behavior of a healthy person. Healthy people take time not to move too fast or try to hurt someone.

I talk about Narcisstic Behavior on my TikTok account. Follow me ya'll. I am a survivor of narcissistic abuse and I help others Heal For The Win from Toxic Relationships!

The funny thing is that CONTROL FANATICS will call you crazy when they can't MANIPULATE, and CONTROL you. Live in your truth! PERIOD! (funny NOT funny)

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