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I know when I became a mother, I truly felt this deeply.
It’s why LoveGrowRelease was born.

I knew I was different, I had changed but the world kept going like nothing had changed.

When we become moms, we have a real sense that we have changed but the world has not.

When we go back to work, we feel like an alien, like we don’t belong.
Go back into relationships that don’t feel quite right or something is off. Relationship with our partner gets a huge impact.
Our internal processing changed but the dynamics and life around us didn’t change with us.

Save the date!
Next Mama Connection Circle scheduled for 6/15/2024 at 10:30am
Location: Zoom
What you get: Opening grounding meditation, personal check ins, gentle facilitation, safe non-judgmental community of mamas, opportunity to be vulnerable, a space where you will feel HEARD and UNDERSTOOD, ACKNOWLEDGED and SEEN.

What is a Mama Circle?

A safe, non-judgmental space where mamas come together to connect, support each other as well as share wisdom, struggles, experience, and joys with one another. This circle is where deep connection and friendships are made. Regardless of where you are in your motherhood journey, all are welcome.

Motherhood is meant to be experienced in a village, with like-minded, supportive loving women. We’re meant to lean on one another, ask for help, share our breakdowns and breakthroughs. When connecting with other mothers, we realize we are not alone, we need a village, we can begin to embrace matresence (transition from womanhood to motherhood), and to remember we have an identity beyond being a mom that also deserves to be nurtured and nourished.

I’d love to connect with you! Message me with any questions!

When we become a mother, there is an expectation to go back to maiden self.
When we feel a sense that we have changed but no one has spoken about it, this can feel very scary and isolating.

Our brain subconsciously assigns an order to the roles we have in our lives based on their priority.
When we become mother, that jumps to the top of our priority list.
We then get messages about how we should be a good partner, daughter, employee, etc.
BUT at our CORE we are MOTHER, this can lead to confusion and conflict.

Our brains change and rewire when we become mothers.

Some of the maternal brain changes include:

faster executive function (where attention goes),
ability to ignore the unnecessary,
improved social reasoning,
improved facial recognition,
improved vision,
more sensitivity to stress,
ability to learn and incorporate experiences quicker,
brain becomes more complex,
sense of self is altered,
increased emotional intelligence,
increased IQ,
more difficulty time resolving fears - especially new fears

Matrescence is similar to adolescence.

With adolescence, it takes a few years for them to get used to the brain changes, it's a time of turbulence and vulnerability.
An adolescent's brain shrinks during adolescence, but it's becoming more complex.

The same is true with matrescence, when we become a mother. The changes are much more intense than in adolescence though.
We know how teens are, why the behave the way they do and why its a difficult massive shift.
We need to start to understand that mothers are going through this too.

It can take several years for mamas to get used to her new brain changes and wiring.

Our brains change so much during pregnancy to prepare us for motherhood. We are different neurobiologically.
Our society expects us to pick back up and return to our maiden self.
But we can’t, we are different.

My sister shared this flamingo analogy with me the other day. I loved it and thought it deserved a spot on this page!

Flamingos lose their color through the intensive and draining shift of parenthood. They literally lose their pink color raising their young.

As mothers, it can feel this way too! It feels like we lose our luster. We feel lost and not ourselves anymore.
Eventually, our pink will return.

Often times, we are stuck into making a decision about what need is more important to me right now.
Do I go take a shower or do I eat before I need to run out the door?
Do I get to sleep early or do I have a little quiet time to myself?
A lot of times it’s between 2 of our basic needs.
Sometimes this also can look like do I sit down to breath for a few minutes or keep pushing and get that load of laundry in.
We have limited time and little people who have many demands.

Motherhood is chaotic
We do not have a lot of control over what our children do or how the day plays out at times.
We can’t predict the tantrums, the outbursts, the hardships.

A lot of the time, we feel like we’re barely holding it together.
We’re managing way too many things at once.

Motherhood is overwhelming.
Motherhood is messy.

Instead of: “I’m a mess”, “I’m a walking disaster” or any of the other things you say to yourself

Let us all claim our messiness

When we don’t understand what we’re feeling or feel safe to express our feelings, we feel it’s all our fault.
The guilt, shame, isolation, perfectionism, anger that come with motherhood are normal.
When we dont understand, we blame ourselves, internalize our feelings and then try to prove we are worthy.

It’s not your fault.
What you’re feeling is normal but not spoken about.
You’re experiencing the journey of matrescence.
You are worthy just as you are mamas.

Our rage as mothers usually is coming from a lack of something.
Lack of self care, lack of time for ourselves, lack of sleep, lack of support.
Motherhood can trigger our unresolved traumas from childhood.
We are angry at our shift in identity.
We are anger with our partners because their lives seem less affected than ours.
We are angry at the constant criticism and judgement from our society.
Rage can come from burnout and lack of connection, overwhelm, messy homes, sensory overload, constant demands.

Happy Mother’s Day Mamas!!

I hope today you feel loved, seen, appreciated and supported.

Sometimes we need to ask for what we need, so tell your family what you wish for to make your day special.
OR go spend the day doing something alone!

Have a beautiful day!

In honor of Mother’s Day this weekend…
Im offering 20% off all services!!!

Find all services here —> https://www.lovegrowrelease.com/book-online
OR click link in the bio

During check out enter code: MOTHERSDAY20
Sale ends Sunday at midnight

I hope you have a beautiful weekend celebrating you and how amazing you are!
Happy Mother’s Day!

When we become mothers, we expect motherhood is blissful and happy.

What blindsides us is the anger that stems from motherhood —-> Maternal rage

Motherhood is complex.
It takes its toll on women.

Women have been taught to self silence.
We suppress our identities, feelings and emotions to maintain relationships.
On the outside women may appear agreeable while on the inside our inner feelings grow angry and resentful.
This often leads to disconnection and depression.

Next Mama Connection Circle scheduled for 5/18/2024 at 10:30am EST
Location: Zoom

What is a Mama Circle?

A safe, non-judgmental space where moms come together to connect, support each other as well as share wisdom, struggles, experience, and joys with one another. This circle is where deep connection and friendships are made. Regardless of where you are in your motherhood journey, all are welcome.

Motherhood is meant to be experienced in a village, with like-minded, supportive loving women. We’re meant to lean on one another, ask for help, share our breakdowns and breakthroughs. When connecting with other mothers, we realize we are not alone, we need a village, we can begin to embrace matresence (transition from womanhood to motherhood), and to remember we have an identity beyond being a mom that also deserves to be nurtured and nourished.

I’d love to connect with you! Message me with any questions!

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The inner split
We become a mother and split into two
Who we used to be and the mother

Matrescence is the ongoing exploration and transforming of this split.

I have noticed some posts stating it’s their childhood.
Almost seems like more pressure on us mothers to create more magic.

This is ALSO YOUR motherhood.
That matters too.

Children do not need much to have good memories. In fact it’s the small moments that will mean the most.
Think back, what are the things that are memorable to you during childhood?

We also need to prioritize our happiness in creating their childhood. We can still include our kids in things we enjoy. Or enjoy an activity they love. That may mean we set down our phone and play which will add joy to both parties.
I know I have forgotten how to play before my little one came along. I have to force myself sometimes. It’s easier for certain activities. It can depend on what mood I’m in also.

Create magic for you too. Create your memories.

What is something you can do for yourself this weekend?

No matter how big or small.
Find something you can do just for yourself.

We don’t allow mothers to rest, restore or heal.

We deserve rest
We deserve to restore and heal.

Not only postpartum but whenever we feel burnt out and drained.
We should aim to find little things we can do daily to help us rest and restore.
Doing something daily builds to our bank and keep things more manageable.
The bigger things weekly or monthly when possible.

As mamas and parents, there is one goal to be good enough!
You can be the best parents you can be, you can do everything right and our littles one still may turn out with things to work through in adulthood.
We are only one piece of the puzzle in or children’s life. A big one and an important one.
We can’t control how our kids turn out.
We can’t be perfect, there’s no such thing.
We can try our best.
It’s actually beneficial for our kids to experience us as a full human with many emotions.

You are good enough mama!

As mamas we want to get it all right!
We want the best for our little ones.

We lose our cool at times.
We forget things.
We compare ourselves to what other moms are doing.

GIVE YOURSELF GRACE MAMA!
You are doing your very best, that is enough!