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Now if we can just look at anxiety differently we can certainly find freedom from it and not cope with it.

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Marriage advice from a couple & family therapist

1. Never take advice from anyone who preaches but has not lived it. You can't give what you don't have and social media has blunted truth and blurred reality. Marriage is the best decision in life and for those who dare to grow and not quit be bold to pursue marriage relentlessly.
2. Conflict is an invitation to go deeper and not debate facts but to pursue the heart. There always is a person behind the behavior and every person deserves the honor of being known, seen and validated.
3. He desires to be the hero in your life and she desires to be seen. Every man seeks to feel he measures up to her and every woman desires to feel cherished by him. Honor him and love her isn't an obligation it's a motivation for what you give unto another, you will also receive in return.

4. Disappointment dulls desires therefore be vigilant to never quench the desires of your heart. It's better to furiously pursue then to stay silent and never ask for what your heart desires. Nothing worse than a dead beat marriage that takes effort to revive and arouse back to life.
5. There is no I without Us. You are a far better individual for you discover the better parts of your self in your spouse. Marriage is complete when you discover YOU in your other.
Happy Anniversary to my far better half. I have learnt more in experience than in knowledge because of you.xx

More often the question I am asked as a therapist is "Priscilla, do you really think this relationship , our marriage, he/she can change?"
It's reasonable that when wounds of trauma, pain, abuse, disappointment, betrayal, that have besotted us leave doubting and questioning if things can ever get better in our own lives or in our relationships. Will I ever meet the right person? Is it too late to help my angry teen? Can this marriage be saved? Will I ever recover?
Too see what is possible in the face of impossible is beyond therapeutic skills and experience. We are taught to cope then to overcome. We fall back on what we know rather than to risk the voyage into the unknown fearing that we have no control over the outcome. We are utterly dependent if not fixated with what is reliable, scientific, proven, tested, routine and manageable.
But when the human stories of tragedy and pain are uncovered, unmasked, unspoken for years that have filled my space which transcend beyond what the human mind can comprehend, I have learnt to reach deep if not deeper to find answers I have no answers for.
This is my realization that is when we come to end of ourselves, desperate because the self help and self reliance has failed to secure and the methods have only superficially given relief, I realized until I learn to trust beyond my self, the key is beyond my self and what my years of training and experience has taught me and in despair trust myself unto others I saw the impossible become possible.
I don't think it impossible I believe it's possible that people can change and lives will get better. My hope is that until we think deeper and go deeper with our trust we will never be able to transcend suffering. Don't settle at managing your pain I dare you to overcome by daring to trust again.

Book your tickets ✈️ we are going on a retreat!

It’s an incredible honor and pleasure to be speaking alongside one of my absolute favourites .
From client, to friend to now certified and qualified NLP coach and practitioner this is a full circle moment of friendship and sisterhood that have spanned over a decade.
Don’t miss it ladies you want to be in the room for this!!! I mean come on Zanzibar!!🌴🥥☀️🏝️

Registrations are now open DM to receive details.
I can’t wait to see you there! Let’s GO!!

It starts with self-awareness but it does not end there.
We thrive when we are in healthy relationships. Our mind thrives when there is awareness beyond the self - actively engaging outwardly and not inwardly looking.
So it’s not just having people in your life. But how you engage with those people that sustain and elevate your mental health.
We view ourselves with a bias; we have simple needs and desires, others are complex. Therefore others don’t understand me!
The next time you feel betrayed; unjustly treated; disappointed; annoyed; confused; frustrated by how others have treated you, consider the implications of your own behavior; interaction; engagement;communication or even your non responsiveness had on the other person. This in itself will reduce the intensity of the relational disagreement by seeing things from a different angle.

📣📣📣SAVE THE DATE 1st September.

Back by popular demand, these online masterclasses will now take place in person back to back on Sunday 1st September.

Places are limited and rates apply. Registrations are NOW open and be the first to catch the early bird rate before the 18th August.

Email: [email protected]

See you there!xx

Save the date Thursday 23rd May. See you there!

When the human spirit, soul & body aren't functioning in UNITY we struggle to exist in CommUNITY.
The evidence of genuine transformation is unity within relationships. If we claim we are well, it is evident on the outside in how we engage, interact, commune, connect, behave, respond, react, navigate or reconcile with each other in our communities - friendships marriage, family, colleagues etc.
When there is disunity within, disunity also exist in our relationships. The first response of the grieved and embittered soul is to disengage and isolate. We call it Self-love. Yet To heal, all healing begins, occurs and is restored within our challenging relationships.
Let us know what you think 🤍

A good wife submits. But a wise wife commits.
A good mother instructs. But a wise mother inspires.
A good woman is efficient. But a wise woman is effective.
The evidence is always transformational - relationships, children, career, finances, friendships, health growing and flourishing.

"If women knew who they were, they would be who they are instead of directing themselves or others on what to do"

Did you know that more marriages end up in a conflict gridlock or divorce because of the lack of ownership?
We are more focused on what is/was done to us rather than how our behavior affects another. The hype around self love and taking care of the self has conveniently omitted us from examining how we affect our relationships.
In any kind of relational gridlock, until you begin to comprehend and own all choices you make; that it does indeed affect the people in your world, you continue to reason that the struggles you face are attributed to the other person at fault. So you blame and justify; or you may undermine yourself and play the victim ( blaming it on your personality); or most commonly we judge the other as toxic and narcissistic and therefore reason that the best thing for yourself is to put boundaries ( but you actually built walls) instead of repairing the relationship.
If you want your relationships to transform, take ownership for how your behavior has equally contributed to its struggles.

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Are you busy or are you anxious?
#2024

It's a dream marriage when you grow from being a 'feeler
' to a believer. Thank you .ralph12 for being that unshakable rock that transformed me into a believer! Today, countless lives benefit from the overflow of what you helped me grow into. Happy birthday, my absolute favorite!xx

Leaders spell V.S.I.O.N.
Leaders always see potential.
Leaders always build
Leaders always lead so that others follow
Congratulations to the 🇦🇪 on 52 years strong and beyond.

The dysfunctions of the heart are cleverly hidden and disguised behind the reasonings of the mind.

It is the reasonings of our mind that cause us to act, choose, believe, speculate, assume, presume, predict, perceive, conclude, judge, think, react and navigate through our world and relationships.
However the reasonings of the mind are extremely deceptive presenting itself as harmless. It convinces us we are moving in the right direction until our cage is rattled.
Conflict, setbacks, crossroads, challenges, illnesses are opportunities to deal with the issues of the heart.
Many deny that reality until what is important becomes urgent and what is ignored turns into desperation.
Recognize any of these faulty reasonings? Comment below 👇🏼 or Share it with someone who needs to become aware.

"Purpose isn't about what you do but what others gain from who you become."
The opportunity to speak into the lives of many is both a privilege and honor. Leading others to find purpose for their lives and relationships has been an incredibly rewarding journey. Thank you to all who have been part of this story or joined in recently. It's time to turn a chapter and enter a new season. More to come. X

The difference between a manager and a leader is their perspective during unpredictable challenging seasons. Managers are more inclined to cope so the fall back is always fixed on finding effective solutions to problems. Some managers cut and paste or just alter slightly what other managers are doing around them.
Leaders who have vision are still making advances in trying times. They see problems as opportunities for growth, conflict as opportunities of a new way forward; fallbacks as opportunities to reset and recalibrate.
Leaders are not just in the marketplace. Fathers are leaders as so are parents. Children are leaders of tomorrow. Women are leaders as so are men. Individuals - therapists, doctors, engineers and whatever occupation you hold or not - you are also a capable leader when you have vision to see beyond your self. You are a leader when you are not caught up with the present but have faith filled vision to see beyond.
Rather then being focused on the present leaders have great capacity to take whomever their leading into a safe, higher, better and more successful space inspite of the challenges because they always believe ( thanks to vision) the outcome is always good.

The difference between a manager and a leader is their perspective during unpredictable challenging seasons. Managers are more inclined to cope so the fall back is always fixed on finding effective solutions to problems. Some managers cut and paste or just alter slightly what other managers are doing around them.
Leaders who have vision are still making advances in trying times. They see problems as opportunities for growth, conflict as opportunities of a new way forward; fallbacks as opportunities to reset and recalibrate.
Leaders are not just in the marketplace. Fathers are leaders as so are parents. Children are leaders of tomorrow. Women are leaders as so are men. Individuals - therapists, doctors, engineers and whatever occupation you hold or not - you are also a capable leader when you have vision to see beyond your self. You are a leader when you are not caught up with the present but have faith filled vision to see beyond.
Rather then being focused on the present leaders have great capacity to take whomever their leading into a safe, higher, better and more successful space inspite of the challenges because they believe the outcome is always good when they can see beyond.

1. The self can't help the self. All healing occurs within
relationships. The place of betrayal is the same place to receive your healing.
2. If you sit with your inner self, you are helpless with the pain you discover. You sit with those whom you trust you receive counsel and understanding.
3. Self-awareness does not change us. We change because we are challenged by those we engage with.
4. Dissapointment with our parents lead us to self decide our way of life. Disappointment with our father mislead us in our way of thinking.
5. A healthy stable mind is governed by peace an unstable mind by offense.
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You can never discover your soul mate until you can touch another.
You never marry your soul mate. You marry a person. That person become your soul mate through a process that determines the two become one.
When you move into an other-mindset from a self-centered mindset you will find your soul mate.
Marriage grows when you grow first.
Join us 18th & 19th November for a couples getaway. DM for registration. See you there!!xx

Most of us build without considering much about depth. We adjust and rely on what we can see with physical eyes. We are more focused on changing behavior then the toil of building character. The former is less intense and within what the self determines or the self controls; the latter requires sacrifice, effort, energy and is enduring.
We mostly focus on the outward not the inward; adjust, tweak, manage and cope with what is within our access and control and keep building higher rather then going deeper. In essence we like the comfort not the challenge. We engage in what we can control instead of yielding and surrendering the self. We prefer the adjustments then the overhaul of our lives. We want the now results but not the investment of time and process.
But without roots or depth a tree is easily uprooted by the sudden unpredictable storms. Where there is no depth; desperation/ despair and depression easily creeps into a mind that has not build resilience and depth.
How do we build depth? Discipline. How do we develop discipline? Vision. How do we develop vision? Relationships. Who is with you gives you vision and motivates you towards it. It’s easier to go to the gym with a gym buddy; we are happier at work when we are happy with our spouse; we have motivation to pull through disappointments because of who is with us.
The self never wins. Control never wins. The self determined mind won’t win alone. But surrounded by healthy relationships you will have purpose; you desire to stay discipline; you will build resilience. And when the storm comes, because there are roots you will shake but not fall.

Pain management or coping strategies are effective ONLY for a temporary season. Outside of that season, coping mechanisms work against you and will eventually become a hindrance.
The most obvious clue to know when you are still coping is when there is a recurrence of the same struggle, symptoms, challenge, pattern or cycle. You can have applied all the techniques to curb your rage or worry but when you are up against work stress, annoying boss; unhappy spouse; financial constraint/loss; betrayal; bad decision; unexpected loss/grief; fear, 2020 etc and you react feeling overwhelmed, frantic, erratic, irritated, persistently worried, anxious, fatigued, uninterested, muted etc- you are still in coping mode and have not the strength to overcome.
Training the emotional and mental muscle is a challenge to many who are fearful to face the truth of their struggles. If you can switch jobs, partners, locations, careers, relationships, you don’t have to face the ugly truth and do an overhaul of your life. Unfortunately what we keep avoiding keeps coming back up again with greater unease and difficulty.
What do you wish to face this year so that there are no repeats in 2024?

Relationships are risky yet the most fulfilling. Your beliefs -how you coped through disappointments and challenges will determine your reaction to the hurt and betrayal of relationships.
Your coping mechanisms may have helped you cope with past childhood experiences but it will prevent you from connecting in your adult relationships. The more you protect yourself from facing the discomfort in your relationship the more it will blunt your creativity, desire, drive, motivation, passion, purpose, fuel for life.
All healing occurs in relationship. What you don’t resolve in your relationships today will spill over to all other aspects of your life.

Coming up, every week in the month of May, we are raising awareness for mental health From raising resilient boys to men in leadership, the mental health of children and families are dependent on assertive strong men.
Early bird registration AED 150 for each session ends 30th April.

It is an honor to be featured amongst the panel of experts. Thank you Gulf News

https://gulfnews.com/parenting/child-health/its-not-just-a-tantrum-parents-and-experts-explain-how-to-navigate-childrens-anger-issues-1.1680770128608 #

It’s not just a tantrum: Parents and experts explain how to navigate children’s anger issues Anger presents itself in different forms in young children, especially below the age of 12

Happy UAE Mother's Day! 🇦🇪
The best gift of motherhood is to watch your own outshine in character maturity, wisdom, and creativity.






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Parenting is leadership.
And leaders raise leaders.

And every type of work involves discipline, consistency and commitment.