Body Mind Shock

When considering engaging an NLP Professional to work with you or your organisation, there are some questions you can ask...
Pay particular attention to where they trained, and whether they are a member of a professional body.
No, the $7 online training doesn't even come close!

Questions to ask an NLP Professional - The Association for Neuro Linguistic Programming When considering engaging an NLP Professional to work with you or your organisation, there are some questions you can ask...

And the adults these kids grow up to be, often continue the pattern until recognised and released.
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"Sharing is how we remind ourselves we’re all just hairless apes on a spinning rock, trying to make a go of it, in the best way we know how. Sharing means realising we don’t have to do it alone".

Bye, SSRI: A farewell to my antidepressants Brain fireworks, a date with Jacob Elordi and a zillion open tabs: this is my story about coming off meds.

So very happy to be back home in Darwin where it's WARM! My morning cuppa on the balcony was blissful 😊
Just a reminder to Darwin clients that I am available for in-person appointments on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays in the Parap clinic.
There are no in-person appointments left this week.

"In the last five or six years, I’ve come to understand that alcoholism, , and , as well as and , are not diseases. They are symptoms of —in my case, developmental trauma. Years of not only physical and emotional abuse but constant dread and wariness caused toxic stress responses that rewired my developing brain, leaving me with flat affect and labile emotions, unable to experience pleasure, plagued with guilt and insecurity, shrinking in the presence of strong personalities, acquiescent, people-pleasing, scrupulous, and codependent".
Doug Westberg

What I Wish I’d Asked Dr. Gabor Maté When I Had the Chance Does my complex PTSD, depression and rage go back farther than I think? Back to the womb and my earliest days of life? Is that even possible? Does my complex PTSD, depression and rage go back farther than I think? Back to the womb and my earliest days of life? Is that even possible?

Un-becoming. I like that. When you think of all the knocks, bangs, breaks, frights, and injuries big and small to the body and mind that you've sustained over your life, how heavy does that make you feel?
Imagine. Just imagine how much lighter you could tread through your life if you were able to release some of that weight.
I'm in the Melbourne clinics next week 9 - 13, and available for both Flinchlock Release sessions and Hypnotherapy with
Please message before booking to ensure the correct location for your appointment 🌻

Science continues to catch up

Secret to lifelong memories sticking is molecular 'glue' A new study has uncovered the role that a specific molecule in the brain plays in maintaining long-term memory.

Here I am, freezing, and once again, I couldn't get Roaming to work on my phone while in NZ. Turns out it's a Google Pixel issue which is much better because it stops me feeling like a Luddite!

I am still available via WhatsApp, Messenger, Instagram, and of course email.
If you want/need to get hold of me the old fashioned way, you can text or call on +64 2902352140

Happy these arrived today, a week earlier than expected! It means I'll be able to take one or two with me.
I've an unexpected and unplanned trip back to NZ for family reasons, which will give me plenty of plane time to catch up on reading and putting the finishing touches to some papers I need to submit.
I'll still be working limited hours online, and will adjust availability to suit time zone differences next Monday. I have no more availability for in-clinic sessions in Darwin now until my return - which will be via Melbourne!
Until I have more details myself, I cannot commit to dates, but expect to be available from both South Yarra and East Keilor locations before mid July.
I will post updates here and on
after giving existing Melbourne clients first choice of appointment times, since you've all been so kind and understanding ❤️

An interesting article exploring the paradox of empathy from a neurophysiological perspective.

"However, the more we love and care for someone, the more intertwined we are with their bodily feelings, the more extreme our reflexive physiological reactions, and the more challenging it becomes to recover our sense of safety. Despite our intentions, values, and goals, we simply can’t help someone feel better if we continue to suffer alongside them because we inadvertently tell them we are hurting because of them".

www-psychologytoday-com.cdn.ampproject.org

Are you giving away your energy? Challenge yourself to add at least two things from the battery filling list every day for a week, and notice the difference.
Sometimes it really can be that simple.

"The common wisdom is that depression starts in the mind with distorted thinking. That leads to "psychosomatic" symptoms like headaches, stomachaches, or fatigue. Now, models like the Polyvagal Theory suggest that we’ve got it backward. It’s the body that detects danger and initiates a defense strategy meant to help us survive. That biological strategy is called immobilization, and it manifests in the mind and the body with a set of symptoms we call depression.

When we think of depression as irrational and unnecessary suffering, we stigmatize people and rob them of hope. But when we begin to understand that depression, at least initially, happens for a good reason we lift the shame. People with depression are courageous survivors, not damaged invalids".

www-psychologytoday-com.cdn.ampproject.org

Love this from The Dragonfly Coach
Havening can make real changes. ®️ Havening Techniques

Is this you? Are you living your life just passing time? Do you sometimes notice a small spark of "I want more than this?"
Where there is life, there is also opportunity and possibility.
What would you Do, who would you Be, if there was nothing getting in your way?
Change is not only possible, it's a given IF you choose it. Right now, your choices are made by your defence system, and that's no choice at all, is it.
Call for a chat. Website link in bio.

Why We’re Turning Psychiatric Labels Into Identities So you’re on the spectrum, or you’ve got borderline personality disorder, or you’re a sociopath: once you’re sure that’s who you are, you’ve got a personal stake in a very creaky diagnostic system.

Last minute opportunity!

A couple of places left!

Caz and Justin from ConTact CARE NSW have helped organise a course in Australia. Nicole Whitehead - ConTact CARE, NLP & Time Line Therapy is heading to Yamba, New South Wales, Australia to teach a Foundation course. If you would like to come or you know someone who would benefit from learning AND having a weekend filled with Flinchlock Release Therapy, please let them know.
Course details
Date: 18-19 May
Course duration: 9am-4pm (approx)
Location: Clarence Valley CrossFit, Yamba NSW.
Cost: NZD $535 (must be paid in advance to confirm your place) (approx AUD$500 )
All details including course registration can be found through this link:

https://www.nicolewhitehead.co.nz/

*Travel. Reach out if you have any questions regarding travel or accommodation. Closest airports to Yamba are Ballina (1h from Yamba), Gold Coast (1.45 h), or Coffs Harbour (1h 20mins).
Any further questions, please don't hesitate to contact either ConTact CARE NSW (Caz) or Nicole ([email protected]).
We look forward to seeing you there!
Nicole, Caz & Justin

I'm no clinician, but I do regularly (internally) query a BPD diagnosis in my trauma work. The results speak for themselves in the outcomes.
TRTP (The Richards Trauma Process), Timeline Therapy, and Havening Techniques, are 3 of the methods I use to quickly, safely, and effectively assist clients to regain and create a life not ruled by past events.

Is this actually PTSD? Clinicians divided over redefining borderline personality disorder Some have argued BPD should be reclassified as a trauma disorder, maintaining those diagnosed are typically women with abuse in their past

Good morning Melbourne. I am almost completely booked out at the Keilor clinic for my next visit, so I've opened up the afternoon on Saturday 4th May and have 3 available spots before I fly back out to Darwin. This is for Flinchlock Release clients only.
I will be at South Yarra on Thursday 2nd May and am now opening this day up for everyone. There are 3x remaining spots available.

I love how Havening Techniques is so gentle and yet still achieves incredible results in relatively few sessions.

What if I can't remember my trauma? In my video about 'How Havening Works?' I explain the science that explains how individually remembered traumas can be rapidly erased. But what if I can't re...

Brilliant. In a peer reviewed and extremely well referenced article in a journal about science and knowledge, Katherine Dormandy, Professor of Philosophy at the University of Innsbruck, and Chartered Psychologist Bruce Grimley, with a little help from Psychiatrist Catalin Zaharia, Scott Hill, Jane Mathison and Phil Parker … ask why Psychology has been gatekeeping against the now quite well researched field of NLP. A must read for all NLP Practitioners! “Psychology’s gatekeeping against NLP is understandable due to the public presentation of some NLP-ers, but it is bad gatekeeping. It rather reflects flat-out bias, straw-manning and highly problematic empirical analyses. For this reason alone, psychology’s gatekeeping is bad – it violates the ideals it seeks to protect. This is not a vindication of NLP, however. Gatekeeping can be done badly, but bad gatekeeping can be serendipitous – the thing being kept out might really deserve to be kept out. Our arguments suggest that NLP is theoretically much more sophisticated and empirically better supported than its critics maintain. At best, however, we think that they support classifying NLP as a proto-science. It is not a full-fledged science yet, but it has the strong potential to be. If only the NLP-bullsh*tters would let it (de Rijk and Parker 2022), and if only science would let it.”

Gatekeeping in Science: Lessons from the Case of Psychology and Neuro-Linguistic Programming Gatekeeping, or determining membership of your group, is crucial to science: the moniker ‘scientific’ is a stamp of epistemic quality or even authority. But gatekeeping in science is fraught with d...

Please note: Flinchlock Release clients only at this stage.

Melbourne! My next dates are confirmed and I'll be winging my way to you early on 30th April with appointments open through to 4th May.
I'll confirm the days for Keilor and Sth Yarra in a couple of weeks, and have closed my booking portal for this timeframe so logistics don't get messy 😃
If you want to secure an appointment you're welcome to message me your ideal location, date, and time. I'll do my best to accommodate your preference.