Bird On The Wing

When we show compassion towards others it is an action of feeling. We focus on understanding their energy and we sit with them.

We are present. We are both vulnerable.

Compassion is seeing the beauty in others and their story and to shed light on their darkness. When we connect in this space, it becomes a physical representation of healing and loving energies. This builds our trust, connection, vulnerability and relationship with that person.

When we spend time with ourselves we need to do the same. We need to be in a space that encourages us to plug into ourselves and see how we are. When we spend time with ourselves it is a concrete representation that we matter. When we reject spending time with ourselves our default patterns are self-rejection and people pleasing behaviours.

Pure forms of self-connection with self-compassion is through the simple things in life. Nature, food, discovery, curiosity and leaning into the idea that the world can hold us too.

Swipe for some pics of how I connect ✌️💙

The mind provides the lens of how we see reality and provides a voice for our feelings and relationships from what we feel in our body and intuition.

As children we absorb many learned behaviours from our parents and other important relationships. We learn to see how adults deal with problems and how these may directly or indirectly impact us.

The dialogue between our parents and ourselves when we make mistakes becomes the dialogue we speak to ourselves when we reach adolescence. At times we develop unhelpful thinking patterns in adolescence that occur regularly in adulthood. These unhelpful thinking habits can impact our awareness of feelings, relationships, health, habits and more.

Importantly, the mind comprises of the conscious mind, subconscious mind and the unconscious mind. The aim of this mind, body and spirit series is to unpack the common thinking habits and bring light to different understandings of our thoughts and lens.

The mind, body and spirit. The three key pillars of health that lives within us.

Some seasons of our lives require us to focus on certain areas more closely.

In psychological therapy, we can focus on these different aspects to address the presenting challenges in your life.

The mind, body and spirit need to be in alignment for us to move towards being our true self. When we start to feel "off" it is usually due to one of these pillars not being heard, understood or actioned.

These vinyl covers will be a guide to differentiate the different themes of content at a glance ✌️💙💛

Over the last several years as a psychologist, I have had thousands of sessions with clients of all ages and backgrounds.

During therapy, it is common to have moments where you feel time completely stands still and you feel a "breakthrough moment” with blocks you have been trying to push past or understand.

I’ll be sharing some statements shared from clients or myself in the upcoming months (here’s one to start us off).

Although every client is different, it is helpful to journal about these for yourself. You never know what you may discover! After all, we are only human too. 💙💛

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Hey, Jackson here! A little about me…

Before becoming a registered therapist, I spent my fair share of time in the other chair. It was important to me that before I called myself a Psychologist, that I viewed myself as strong, internally healthy and consistent within.

It is important for me to practice what I preach and come from a place of confidence, compassion, knowledge and quirk.

My approach to therapy is somewhere between casual and clinical.

My strength lies in making sense of your mess/challenges by exploring:
- recurring patterns
- internal blocks
- your inner critic

And then, working towards building a positive, emotionally validating and compassionate relationship with yourself.

The only rule in therapy I have is too simply, "come as you are", and we will figure out the rest.

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Making mistakes is healthy. Make them! Learn from them! And keep going 🙌🙌

How do you show up for yourself? Do you set and stick to your boundaries? Do you push your limits and leave your comfort zone?

Ultimately the reputation with yourself is the only reputation you need to worry about when it comes to self confidence.

Swipe to the end for a journal prompt 👉

Like, comment, save or share if this resonates 💙

Grief shows you what is important in life. Grief shows you what parts of your life need more investment. Grief allows you to connect to your inner self and give you the opportunity and courage to change.

If you’re experiencing grief and feeling overwhelmed, remember that you will get through it and there are better days to come. Reach out to friends and family and take it one day at a time.

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Talk dirty to me 🗣

Double tap if these turn you on in anyway 😏

Working with many clients in my time, I have found that proposing a relationship to self is similar to a business investment. This results in a lot of truths unfolding in our sessions.

👉 Am I happy with the trajectory I am going?
👉 Is this what is lighting my soul?
👉 Does my friendship circle inspire me or exhaust me/waste my time?
👉 Have I put my needs on hold to please others?

A few question you can ask yourself and become aware of in your life.

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If you’re looking for a short but sweet audio to listen to on this beautiful sunny day.

My podcast is now on Spotify!

Episode 2. The Importance of Play. Run time 15mins.
(link in bio)

Taking action vs motivation👇

The more you wait for motivation (aka ‘avoid something’) the more anxiety you will have.

The more anxiety you have the more doubt, self-criticism and self-judgement you will have.

Regardless of what you want to get motivated about, the answer always begins with action.

💥 Action is the inspiration for motivation
💥 Action is the precursor to motivation

I’m sorry to tell you, but the motivation you are waiting for won’t come by itself.

The key is to take action, no matter if you are motivated or not. Starting with any kind of task will motivate you to do more, thus leading to motivation to keep going!

Double tap if you’re taking action 💙💛

Track 2 of our ‘Pleasure to Meet You’ Podcast is ready for your ears ✊💙

Find the link in our bio

There are so many barriers preventing love from entering a persons life. Swipe through to see if this may be something you’re doing without even knowing it.

But hey! That doesn’t mean you can’t remove these barriers and welcome love in.

Together we can work on these areas of your life and shift/clear/work through these barriers to help you attract the love you truly deserve.

Do you listen to your body? Do you notice anything happening in your upper body?

Our stomach is a really good indicator of our stress response. It restricts our relationship with food, we can feel nauseous, we can have no control over our bladder and more.

Commonly with upper body manifestations of feelings, we see a tendency of:

👉 emptiness stemming from neglect/abandonment or lack of fulfillment

👉 rolled over shoulders or a heavy chest that is akin to helplessness and lack of validation

👉 headaches or neck pain that are akin to having challenges with the same problems and your body shuts down from overthinking and focuses on the pain.

The body is the vessel for all of our distress, if we do not make time to unpack whats happening in our body, our body will make deliberate forced effort to make time for it…

If you’re noticing any of the above,it’s best to seek support and guidance to prevent long term issues.

Appointments available, link in bio to book 💛💙

Do you listen to your body??

Our body communicates to us and sometimes it gets to the point of physical muscular pain/discomfort or burnout symptoms before we decide to make a change for ourselves.

When we try to escape our stress or our anxiety.

When we have unspoken truths.

These all sit and hang out in our body leading to bodily pain. This is referred to as psychosomatic symptoms.

The pictures above highlight certain parts of the body where individuals experience discomfort and the highest correlation of what problem they are currently facing.

Despite the widespread misconception, the mind and the body are not separated from one another.

👥 The mind-body link describes the close relationship that exists between an individual's physical health and their emotional wellbeing.

Our chemistry and biology have an influence on not just our feelings and ideas, but also on our emotions and beliefs 🗣

You've probably had some experience with the mind-body connection if you've ever been apprehensive and sensed a tightening in your stomach.

That “gut feeling” 🤔

The old saying “trust your gut” refers to trusting these feelings of intuition, often as a way to stay true to yourself.

Commonly, the disconnection from self is the driver for many mental health problems along with feelings of rejection, boundaries and resentment.

This series explores the mind body connection, what causes these manifestations and why/how they may appear in the body.

Bird on the Wing are here to assist you in understanding both yourself and your emotions better. We will assist you reach new heights so that you can become more resilient and more confident!

We understand that taking the first step in getting support can be daunting and we want to ease some of the normal nerves in getting started.

If you are not sure what a psychological consultation involves or how we may be able to help, then we offer a complimentary meet and greet so we can get to know each other.

These ten minute session's are an opportunity for you to ask questions and for us to share our approach to therapy. There is no obligation to continue further.

If this is something you’ve been putting off. Then this is your sign to put yourself as a priority (right up there on the top of your to-do list)

DM me or click the link in our bio to book your complementary 10minute session

Together, let's enrich, live, and breathe the best version of yourself. ⁠

💛 Jackson

Connecting to yourself is similar to anything in life. If you want to master it, it takes time, mistakes, lessons and commitment.

Moving forward requires new tools and to move through the grief of letting go. Letting go of the past that you spent time investing in to take flight into a space of foreign land.

Connecting back to myself started like this:

👉 Looking myself in the mirror and being done with my own s**t

👉 Being done with the narrative of past lessons

👉 Being done with my old identity and limiting beliefs

👉 Moving forward

I wanted a new start. I wanted to honour my true inner self and express and live an authentic life that felt true to me.

I was done holding up a disconnected mask and the weight it drowned me in to live up to.

Connecting to yourself is a continual relationship with yourself and it does have the power to speed up! Speeding up can look like:

💛 Diving into things you always wanted to do
💛 Trying new experiences
💛 Saying yes to more things,
💛 Expressing the mess in therapy and to friends
💛 Being patient and accepting where you’re at

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Next series will be up soon. Stay tuned 💙💛

You cannot truly show yourself without accepting your imperfections, shortcomings and failures.

To hide these things we try to be perfect because if we are not perfect we will be discovered.

To be discovered means to be vulnerable.

We hide behind the action of being perfect because it protects us from truly being seen.

Perfectionism is not about excellence.

Perfectionism is about hiding.

Are you a perfectionist?
Double tap if this resonates 💛

GUIDED MEDITATION // In these sessions, you will learn about yourself as we focus on building an honest and genuine connection with self.

From here, Jackson guides you with a gentle, seated, evidence based, inner child compassion focused meditation. This evidence based approach has been shown to enhance self-love, connection with self and reduce symptoms consistent with anxiety and depression.

These sessions may also include trauma sensitive yoga (TSY).

You can read more about TSY on our website (link in bio).

To close, Jackson provides you with the space to sit with yourself and discuss your experience. If you wish, you are also welcome to have the session recorded so that you can listen anywhere and anytime.

If this is something you're interested in, you can book via the link in our bio

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My approach to therapy is eclectic. Meaning it is an integration of several different types of therapy.

Importantly, in therapy, I use a type of therapy modality that best matches:
- our presenting concerns
- our understanding of the problem
- our goals for moving forward

Commonly, from my vast experience, the essence of therapy is as follows.

​I assist in bringing further clarity into your life and establishing a stronger, healthier, purposeful version of yourself.

At the root, my approach is targeted to building a better relationship with yourself and allowing this to flow into relationships and other areas of your life 🙌

Specifically, I explore how feelings, thoughts, behaviors and relationship patterns impact your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual well-being 😎

In doing so, this makes for a clearer sense of reality, as facing reality is difficult but leads to a longer lasting change.

Together, let's enrich, live and breathe the best version of yourself. ⁠

Are you ready to fly?

Book an appointment with me today (link in bio )

💙💛⁠ Jackson

Whether you feel like life's getting the better of you or everything is going smoothly, it’s always important to make time to look after your mental health 💙

Knowing where to start can be confusing and confronting.

Hence, we have put this 4 Step Workbook together to help guide you into a better you (across mind, body and vibes).

“Project You” is a self guided, step-by-step program designed to equip you with various resources to help deal with life's hurdles we often find ourselves tripping over.

Don't worry, this is not one of those self-proclaimed, life-coaching guides. This is simply just a collection of tools that we have found useful for both our clients and ourselves during our time as health professionals.

Additionally, this will be running parallel with our new podcast series starting in July.

Keep an ear out for this!

Are you ready to build an authentic and loving relationship with yourself?

If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact me.

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Have you grown up always needing to be the "one" that solves family drama? Always trying to keep the peace?⁠
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If this is you, then you'll probably have a tendency in adulthood to do much the same. Whether that be between friends, work colleagues or family etc. ⁠
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Continuing to have this pattern alive in your every day, means you are always focused on meeting other persons' needs rather than your own. ⁠
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This is a problem within you, where you find it difficult to hold complex feelings and consequently reject your own needs, power and boundaries. ⁠
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By continually adding yourself to the circus, you will always feel rejected. Rejected from them and rejected from yourself.⁠
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Changing the cycle begins when you demonstrate self-care and acknowledge that other people's problems aren't always your problem.⁠
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Acknowledging your own boundaries and saying "you know what, I'm going to honour myself and not take this problem on my own" is the way to change the pattern.⁠
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Instead, you will concentrate on the internal struggle that you are experiencing. This might present as an impulse to interject and fix or possibly a feeling of lack when it comes to support or validation.⁠
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This week I challenge you to honour yourself and speak your boundaries 📣 📣⁠
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If this is something you struggle with, please don't hesitate to reach out.⁠
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Bird on the Wing Team 💙💛

Swipe to understand your self- trust issues 👉👉

Where do you fit in?

🔹 Avoidant
🔸 Ambivalent
🔹 Disorganised
🔸 Secure

Do you need to:

- become more confident
- allow yourself to be okay
- further understand
- deepen the connection

If you’re needing support in this area, please reach out.

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Following on from our stories, journaling ✍️ is a great way to make more sense of ourselves and our feelings. If you missed our journal prompt ideas on our stories, comment below and we will send them to you!

And I’d love to know how you go with them 💛

Do you consider yourself a perfectionist? Did you know perfectionism can appear as many forms?

Swipe to see how perfectionism can show up in your daily life?

Do you know someone who is hard on themselves? Or maybe it’s you know needed this today…

Either way, the thing to remember is to be aware of your thoughts and practice asking yourself the questions on slide 5

If this helped, leave a 💙 below

It is very normal for your awareness to change. But you may be a little stuck on where to start or what this looks like. 

One of the most important factors in change and soaring to a better version of yourself is being aware of what is occurring in your life. 

Some questions to ask yourself:

What problems do I find myself continually having?
What feelings do I notice occuring more regularly?
What dialogue do I continue having with myself? 

The more awareness and different perspective we have to approach these tricky questions, the greater growth we can build from this ⛰

When we engage in different dialogue with ourselves and with others we unlock new pathways and new experiences 🗝🔓

When our normal becomes mundane or boring, normally this is because our awareness has attuned to the default to what is occurring around us and not what our awareness is teaching us.

The more we put ourselves in positions of new experiences, the more we can grow and build a better version of ourselves. 

Does this help expand your knowledge on awareness?

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Mistakes are a part of life. Without mistakes, we wouldn't really learn much, would we?

What have you learned from doing something perfectly the first time?

What have you learned from doing something IMPERFECTLY the first time?

Let's embrace making mistakes!

Drop a 💛 if you're ready to embrace your mistakes.