Inner Wisdom Rising

It wasn't until I embarked on this path of Inner healing later in life that I realized my reactions to conflict were deeply rooted in my attachment style. Reflecting on times of conflict with my sister, I recall an overwhelming urge to immediately resolve the issue, to make things "right" again. The mere thought of someone being upset with me was unbearable. My anxiety would spiral, making it feel as though the world was on the brink of collapse.
Friendship was a concept that didn't come easily to me. Growing up, I was often the target of bullying, spending countless days in solitude on the playground, lunchtimes marked by isolation. Therefore, when someone extended the hand of friendship, I clung to it with everything I had, determined to keep that connection at all costs. I was that child who would give away anything, go to any lengths, just to feel a sense of belonging. The mere possibility of ending up friendless again was, in my eyes, the worst conceivable fate.
This realization led me to understand that if the prospect of conflict fills you with a sense of impending doom, it's crucial to explore self-soothing techniques and engage in nervous system work. These practices are not just about managing these intense feelings but about understanding their origins and transforming how we relate to ourselves and others in moments of conflict.
What does self-soothing look like for you? How do you handle conflict? Share below, and let’s talk about it.

Culturally, women have been ingrained to “multitask and juggle a myriad of roles, to continually prove their worth, excel, appease others, remain subdued, or minimize their voice - often, as a survival mechanism. Our history is riddled with expectations for women to conform, adapt, and even reduce their essence to fit a mold.
In various situations and professions; the need to wear a mask, to be someone else, becomes an unspoken norm. These survival mechanisms, deeply entrenched, sometimes make us overlook our body's gentle nudges for respite, pushing us beyond our limits.

Historically, under the influence of patriarchal ideologies, women have been narrowly defined by roles centered around reproduction and caregiving. Such limiting views have contributed to labels, casting women as "overly emotional", "histrionic", or "exaggerative", undermining their broader capacities and strengths.
Life's challenges and unpredictability can often lead to feelings of disconnection or transformation. At times, it might feel as if your body isn't in sync with your spirit, responding in ways that seem without reason. But it's crucial to understand that our bodies are inherently programmed for our well-being.
Every emotional and physical response is an attempt to restore balance.
Rather than seeing it as a betrayal, recognize it as a signal, a call for introspection and realignment.
It's a beckoning from within to break patterns that have been deeply woven into our nervous system over time. This journey is about rewriting those patterns. It begins with reconnection: Re-establishing a gentle, nurturing relationship with your body and seeing it not as an adversary but as a tender ally in your journey toward true well-being.
If you aren't sure what the next steps in reestablishing a nurturing relationship with yourself looks like, I invite you to book a soul path mapping call with me, where we map out your journey and give you tangible steps to take to start cultivating that relationship. Message me, or head to my bio to book today.

Traumatic experiences can leave imprints on the body, manifesting as chronic tension, altered breathing patterns, and dysregulated nervous system responses.
When we use practices like somatic work to help address these physical manifestations of trauma, we have a more integrated and holistic healing process.
Somatic practices help this integration by allowing us to embody our experiences fully, acknowledge their impact, and then release them, making space for new narratives and experiences.
What has been your experience with somatic practices? Do you have any that you rely on, or you are trying out lately?

Somatic practices play a crucial role not only in recovering from burnout but also in processing deep trauma in a manner that is safe and non-retraumatizing. These practices are pivotal in 'completing the cycle' or 'closing the loop'.’ Unresolved experiences often lie dormant within our bodies without us realizing it.
When we encounter trauma or intense stress, our body's natural response mechanisms can be disrupted, leaving these responses incomplete.
In the deep overwhelm of burnout, it's essential to recognize when we're overwhelmed by chronic stress or stuck in a survival state. Within this space, the idea of implementing significant changes in our daily routine can seem overwhelming to an already strained nervous system. Even when we aim to introduce positive habits like mindful meditation, it becomes a challenge if we're navigating life from a place of exhaustion and depletion.
From this lens, our nervous system's capacity is critically low, rendering even the strongest intentions, willpower, or motivation less effective. The key lies in first rebuilding our resources, and gradually enhancing our ability to manage stress. This foundational step is crucial; without it, any attempt at lasting change becomes an uphill battle.
You aren’t failing because you aren’t meditating. Think of a tiny thing that can help. Maybe a three-minute walk around your house or a glass of water can help. Instead of meditating for 30 minutes, could you listen to a calm song for three minutes? See where you can find something that feels easier and more supportive.
Share below, what are the things you reach for when you are overwhelmed that help you come back to you and feel grounded?

Establish Clear Boundaries: Recognize and respect personal boundaries, both your own and others'. Understand that it's healthy and necessary to say 'no' and to have personal space, interests, and responsibilities.
Foster Independence: Encourage and nurture independence in yourself and others. Engage in activities and cultivate interests outside of the relationship.
Practice Open Communication: Cultivate an environment where feelings and needs can be openly discussed without fear of judgment or retribution. This includes acknowledging when boundaries are being crossed.
Self-Reflection: Regular self-reflection can help individuals recognize when they're losing themselves in a relationship and reaffirm their personal values, goals, and identity.
Recognizing and addressing enmeshment is vital for the health and autonomy of all individuals involved. Connections should enrich us rather than diminish individuality.
What has helped you the most when it comes to addressing enmeshment?

Many of us are drawn to setting ambitious goals. It's a time of year culturally synonymous with transformation and new beginnings. Perhaps you've found yourself swept up in the energy of renewal, committing to major changes like losing weight, embarking on a new career path, or dedicating yourself to an intense fitness regimen. Initially, there's a surge of motivation and drive fueled by the promise of a fresh start and a new you.
However, as weeks pass, the narrative can shift dramatically. The once energizing gym sessions start to feel like a chore, the diet plan becomes monotonous, or the new job or study schedule becomes overwhelming.
Slowly, motivation wanes, fatigue sets in, and what was initially a source of excitement now feels burdensome.
This is where the importance of a somatic focus and practices comes into play. Before we leap into grand plans and transformative promises, it's crucial to assess and understand the state of our nervous system.
Are we already operating from a deficit due to burnout or chronic stress?
Are our daily habits supporting or depleting our overall resilience and capacity?
If you aren't sure what your answers are to this, I invite you to check out my ebook, Finding and Fueling your Passion, to help you uncover how to cultivate energy and move towards your goals in a way that feels sustainable and nourishing for your nervous system and you. Head to my bio to grab it for only $7.99!

Have you had an enmeshed relationship before? What was that like for you? How did you navigate it? What has the impact been since you've realized it was enmeshment?

Have you ever thought about the old stories you're still telling yourself? Those persistent narratives like: “I'm too old”
“I can't do this”
“No one will like me”
“I'm not smart enough”
“I don't deserve success”
“Things never work out for me”
“I'm not strong enough”
These stories are deeply ingrained and act much like a constant undercurrent that pulls us away from our potential. But what if we could step away from these currents?
What if we questioned these narratives and asked ourselves, 'What would my life be if I no longer believed this thought to be true?'
Consider these possibilities for the stories you tell yourself instead:
You're not 'too old', you're seasoned with life's wisdom.
You're not incapable, you're on the cusp of growth and discovery.
You're not unlikable, you're uniquely you with your own charm.
You're not 'not smart enough', you bring your own unique skills and insights to the table.
You do deserve success. Things can work out for you. You are stronger than you think.
This journey of letting go of these old narratives can be challenging. But remember, you hold the power to rewrite your own story. You're not alone. Together, let's embark on this journey towards new, empowering narratives about ourselves.

If you're ready to let go of your old stories and welcome new ones, like this post and start your journey by messaging me to book a soul path mapping call to lay out your steps ahead and leave your old stories behind.
Come, your new story awaits.

Co-creation encourages open dialogue, creative problem-solving, and mutual respect, laying the foundation for a relationship where both individuals feel valued and understood.
It's a testament to the power of unity and collaboration, proving that the possibilities are boundless when we come together with openness and respect.
Tag someone below you’ve enjoyed co-creating life with in the past.

We are each an ecosystem of parts. Each part inside of you is waiting to be acknowledged, seen, heard, and, most importantly, understood. Here’s a small 1-minute practice to explore what this may look like for you!
Close your eyes, take a few deep, centering breaths, and ask your body,
"Show me what a ‘Yes’ feels like.”
Take note of the sensations that arise.
Do this a few times and compare your experiences.
Next, ask your body, "Show me what a ‘No’ feels like."
Again, observe and compare the sensations that come forth.
Share below or message me what came up for you in trying this!

Repetitive relationship patterns, whether in dating or long-term bonds, are not a trap, but an invitation for introspection and personal growth. By exploring and addressing these patterns, you open the door to a new chapter in your relational life, one marked by healthier and more fulfilling connections.
Understanding why these cycles occur is helpful. Theories like Attachment Theory offer insights into how our early life relationships impact our adult connections. Cognitive schemas and emotional triggers play significant roles too. These patterns are not an inescapable fate; rather, they offer a roadmap for understanding and changing our relationship dynamics.
Positive change is within your grasp.
The process involves delving into your emotional triggers and understanding your responses to relationships and it also involves us having to re-learn what it means to feel safe in connection. This starts by us learning how to connect to and reclaim parts of us that have been lost or abandoned.
Journaling Prompts For patterns in relationships
Reflect on your relationship history.
What recurring themes do you notice?
How might these be tied to your past experiences, emotional needs, or deep-seated beliefs?

The goal in relationship work isn't to "never have conflict." Rather, it's about the process of engaging with and moving through conflict, learning to navigate the complexities and nuances that arise in relationships.

Conscious relationship work is focused on how we move through these challenges, utilizing them as catalysts for growth and deeper connection. It's about developing the tools and resilience to approach conflict constructively, transforming potential barriers into bridges that lead to greater understanding and intimacy.

Don't get me wrong, I'm all for a good ritual! For many, these experiences serve as catalysts or gateways to healing, sparking the beginning of an inward journey. They offer the first steps towards inner healing. But remember, they're just the start.

The real transformation requires ongoing, deeper work beyond the retreats.

Understanding our attachment patterns can be the first step toward fostering healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Which attachment style resonates with you, and how might this awareness help you navigate your connections more effectively?

Tell me in the comments below!

Secure Attachment: "Securely Attached: The Foundation of Trust and Balance"
Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment: "Anxious-Preoccupied: In Search of Constant Reassurance"
Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment: "Dismissive-Avoidant: Independence at the Expense of Intimacy"
Fearful-Avoidant (Disorganized) Attachment: "Fearful-Avoidant: Torn Between Closeness and Freedom"

It is more important than ever to understand how our emotional, physical, and mental capacities play a pivotal role in the harmony and resilience of our partnerships. Yet, it's not uncommon for individuals to embark on relationships without a thorough comprehension of their own capacities, let alone those of their partners.

This gap in understanding can lead to a discord of expectations, where frustrations burgeon and conflicts arise from the perceived lack of support or the overwhelming demands placed on one another.

Acknowledging that each of us operates within the confines of our unique capacities is vital. These boundaries are not rigid but rather fluid, shaped by our past traumas, and present circumstances.

How much can we give and receive without tipping the scales toward depletion? It's about acknowledging that there are times when our well of emotional support runs deeper, allowing us to be a bastion of empathy and support for our partner.
Conversely, there are moments when our own battles, our processing of past hurts or current stressors, might diminish our capacity, necessitating clear communication and setting boundaries to safeguard our well-being.

I've observed the ebb and flow of my own capacity within my relationships. There have been times when the work I've done on myself, the layers of healing I've peeled back, have expanded my ability to be present and supportive. Yet, there have also been periods where my own needs took precedence, where my capacity to extend myself was limited, and recognizing this was crucial in maintaining the health and integrity of my relationships.

Fluctuating capacities invite us to continuously engage in self-reflection. It encourages us to question what influences our ability to connect and how that can impact our ties with others. Bringing awareness to our capacities is an ongoing process that is intrinsically tied to our journey of self-care and inner healing.

Emphasizing these key behaviors—active listening, vulnerability, and gratitude—can significantly enhance your relationship. Each act, whether a moment of genuine understanding, a shared challenge, or a simple 'thank you,' contributes to a stronger, more intimate bond.
Small gestures accumulate, deeply enriching the partnership. By focusing on these foundational elements, you'll see a remarkable transformation in your connection, making it both resilient and deeply fulfilling.
What is an underrated healthy behavior you have seen and appreciate?

One of the hardest lessons I've had to embrace on my journey was the realization that I couldn't, and shouldn't, compel my partner onto their own path of inner healing.

This revelation emerged from personal experience, marked by the frustration of trying to navigate not only my own layers of trauma and childhood history but also attempting to guide my partner through theirs. Witnessing their unaddressed wounds and conditioned responses, I found myself trapped in a cycle of feeling superior, believing I knew exactly what they needed for their healing journey.

This dynamic, however, often became a point of contention during conflicts, transforming my well-intentioned guidance into a weapon of sorts. I frequently caught myself advocating, even insisting, that my partner should embark on this path of self-discovery alongside me.

My deep-seated desire for a partner fully engaged in their inner work overshadowed the understanding that each person's healing journey is uniquely their own.

It's a natural inclination to spot the unaddressed traumas and unprocessed pain in our partners, especially as we become more attuned to our own healing processes. Yet, this can lead to a pattern of projecting our expectations onto them, particularly during moments of disagreement, fueled by our longing for a deeper connection and a need to be seen, validated, and heard in our own pain.

I learned that fostering a relationship where both partners feel supported in their individual paths requires not just patience and understanding but also respect for each person's autonomy and choices.

No matter how intricate, the complex core of relational dynamics always circles back to a fundamental truth: the work begins and ends with us. The personal commitment to embark on a path of healing is independent of anyone else's journey.
How does this resonate with you? Have you had a similar experience or realization? Share your truth below, and let’s talk about it.

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One of the ways I am doing that is via my podcast.

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Your courage will inspire others on this path of exploring what it looks like to live in attunement to our inner voice and where we are being led.

Nature’s resilience through cycles of renewal shows us that imbalance isn't chaos; it’s a catalyst for growth, pushing us towards evolution and innovation.

I invite you to transform your perspective about balance. It's not about maintaining a steady state but being able to navigate life's ever-changing landscape.

It's a state of ‘dynamic equilibrium,’ a continual adaptation and growth with life's rhythms.

There are times when we may be going at a faster speed and other times when life invites us to slow down.

I would love to encourage you, not to give yourself any extra shame if this is a season of slowness, or if you're in a rhythm and need to adjust for where you are now.

You are allowed to rest, and you are allowed to change.

You are a human after all.

Your adult life often becomes a mirror reflecting unresolved matters from your childhood.

For example, if you felt like the only way to get love is if you achieved enough or got straight A's, you may be pulling that approval into your everyday life in ways that you may not even realize.

Part of the work I do is about Parts work (pun intended).

Parts are pieces of us that show up to help us when we feel stuck, or scared, that are doing their best in the way that they know how.

If a part is in the driver's seat, that means we are not, and the work I do always invites you to take back the driver's seat so you can take your next steps with full presence and awareness.

If you are ready to step into your parts work Journey, from a rooted somatic standpoint, I have space in my calendar for three new people, and would love to walk alongside you as you uncover your full truth, Parts, and how you want to show up as an adult in your day-to-day life.

How do you nourish your soul, mind, and body deeply and meaningfully?

This week in our pay what you desire, Community Connection call on December 7th at 11 am, we will delve into the theme of ‘Nourishment.’

Discover tools for self-care and holistic well-being. Join our nurturing community as we share experiences and insights, offering each other support and inspiration.

It’s a space to learn, grow, and truly understand what nourishes us at our core.

Leave a coffee emoji and I'll send you the link! (Or head to my bio if you can't wait)

You carry within you the wisdom to heal and the clarity of your deepest desires.

Yet, the journey unfolds when you grant yourself the permission to pursue what calls to your heart.

Are you ready to listen to that inner voice and embrace the path it's urging you to take?

What do you feel is getting in the way?

Share below and let’s chat!

In this soulful hour of exploration, we dive deep into the realms of possibilities, actions, and alignments that resonate with your truest desires and innate callings.

This sacred space is dedicated to uncovering and embracing the pathways that lead to a life lived in full alignment, honoring your passions and the unique contributions you are destined to make in this world.

Together, we will seek to illuminate the steps you can take to fully embody your true self, ensuring that every action and decision is a reflection of your innermost beliefs and values.

Our conversation strikes a balance between addressing your fears, obstacles, and challenges while also encouraging introspection and forward-thinking.

All of this is with the intention of empowering you to live a life that is not only visible but also deeply felt and experienced.

If this resonates I invite you to put a sunset emoji below if you want more information, or you can message me for your own private link!

There was a time when my world seemed to crumble around me. A time when the job I loved was no longer mine, a relationship I had invested my heart in had come to an end, and the future I had pictured seemed like a distant, unreachable mirage.

I remember looking at the scattered pieces of my life and dreams, feeling a profound wave of fear, disappointment, and uncertainty.
It was then that I realized life was handing me a choice – to sink into the shadows of what was or to step into the untapped strength I hadn’t yet fully acknowledged.

I chose to find lessons in the loss, to see growth in the pain, and to forge a new path for myself. I started this journey with baby steps, sometimes stumbling, sometimes falling, but always pushing forward. I chose to keep moving forward, to adapt, and to find contentment in what was.

Resilience isn't always about overcoming gargantuan obstacles; sometimes, it's about embracing life's subtle challenges with grace.
It's not about the monumental victories, but the small, consistent acts of courage – like learning how to be comfortable with our vulnerabilities, learning to speak up in a meeting, setting a boundary, or asking for help.

🌿 So let’s honor the uncelebrated, quiet strength that sustains us daily. In these moments we find the essence of our resilience – not in the roar of a mighty conquest, but in the whisper of our steadfast spirit, guiding us through the ebb and flow of life.

Do You Struggle to Set and Maintain Boundaries?

Have you ever pondered the true essence of setting boundaries? Join us at this week's Community Connection Call on Thursday morning to explore the importance of ‘Boundaries’ for personal growth and self-care. In this session, we’ll introduce tools and techniques to help you understand and enforce healthy boundaries.

Experience the power of a supportive community that encourages open sharing and mutual respect.

Together, we’ll learn how to create a safe space for our true selves to flourish.

Reserve your spot via the link in my bio. Community Connection Calls are built to be accessible for all, so you can give what you desire to reserve your seat.

Shadow work goes beyond delving into trauma or pain.

The term 'shadow' encapsulates all aspects of life and inner workings that remain in the dark—unnoticed and unexamined. Shadow Work is the process of uncovering the conditioning and ingrained patterns that subtly steer your life. Patterns unseen still have a significant influence over your decisions and behavior.

Engaging in shadow work means shining a light on these hidden facets, bringing them into your conscious awareness. You gradually unmask the patterns and beliefs that have held sway over your choices, breaking the molds that limit you and can then step into a life of conscious, empowered decision-making.

If you are ready to have a guide in your shadow work, I invite you to book a Soul Path Mapping call where we lay out where your next steps may be and the direction to take your shadow exploration, AND where to start in cultivating your foundation.

You are more than a mix of shadows and light.

You are a whole person who is learning to walk their path, let me help you make your map. Comment Shadow to get the link, or head to the link in my bio.

Did you know I have a podcast? I am opening up applications for those who are willing to come on to do a one-on-one session with me, this will be a transformative conversation. Join me on the Inner Wisdom Rising Podcast.

Together, we'll explore your chosen topic in a coaching space that honors you and your journey and will help you get more clarity where you desire. DM me for the application or drop a comment below!

It wasn't until my 30s that I grasped the profound significance of boundaries. As a child, I was brought up in a world where the word 'no' was almost forbidden. We were taught to obey, masked under the cloak of respect. We paid homage to age and authority without question.

But as I grew, I began to see this traditional respect as something different: obedience. It’s almost as if respect was conditioned into us as a synonym for silence and to do what they said without question.

In many family dynamics, parents hold authority, and children are expected to comply without question.

This setup blurs the lines between guiding a child’s growth and infringing upon their individuality.

The act of saying 'no' was not merely a simple disagreement; rather, in households where obedience is valued over self-expression, such moments of dissent could easily be misconstrued as defiance.

True respect goes beyond mere obedience; it’s about mutual understanding, admiration, and the freedom to express oneself without fear of retribution. It encourages autonomy, acknowledges individuality, and fosters an environment where boundaries are respected and valued.

Now, as we navigate adulthood, it’s crucial to reflect on these patterns and question how they have shaped our approach to boundaries. Have we learned to articulate our needs and establish our limits? Or are we still navigating the delicate balance between respect and autonomy?

Hey friends, I’ll be hosting a series of Community Connection Calls through Inner Wisdom Rising starting next week!

Each Thursday from 11 AM to 12 PM Eastern on Zoom, we’ll come together in a nurturing space designed for learning, sharing, and growing. These calls are an opportunity to connect with a supportive community, explore meaningful topics, and engage in practices that foster self-discovery and personal growth.

Every week, we’ll dive into a new area, focusing on what it means to live a life in tune with our inner wisdom. Whether you want to deepen your understanding of yourself, seek support, or connect with like-minded individuals, these calls are for you. Join us for one, some, or all of these sessions and be part of a journey that promises to be enriching and transformative.

Head to my bio to reserve your space today!