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🔸 Inner child work: Unveiling the Path to Healing 🔸

🌟 Childhood holds the key to our present reality. Our past experiences shape who we are today, and sometimes, they can create emotional challenges that persist into adulthood. This is where inner child work comes into play - a lifelong commitment to finding safety, happiness, and emotional well-being. 🌈

✨ Pros of Inner Child Work ✨
1️⃣ Self-awareness and Self-Discovery: By exploring our inner child, we gain deep insights into ourselves, our triggers, and our unmet needs. This self-awareness empowers us to make positive changes in our lives.
2️⃣ Emotional Healing: Inner child work helps us address and heal childhood trauma, allowing us to release emotional wounds and find inner peace.
3️⃣ Improved Relationships: By understanding and healing our inner child, we cultivate healthier relationships with ourselves and others, breaking free from patterns that no longer serve us.

⚠️ Cons of Inner Child Work ⚠️
1️⃣ Emotional Intensity: Delving into our past can bring up intense emotions and painful memories. It's important to approach inner child work with support and self-care.
2️⃣ Patience and Persistence: Healing takes time, and inner child work is a continuous journey. It requires dedication, patience, and a commitment to self-growth.

🔑 Remember, everyone has an inner child, and its healing is a transformative process that can empower us to create a more fulfilling and authentic life. 💫

Does anyone here have any use for this book? It is a great workbook for helping the kid as well as the family!
Only one available in Costa Rica or in Singapore. On FCFS basis. 😻

No DM please. Thank you.

Being grateful for our journey, growth, deep validation and acceptance, besides having the should have,could have, and would have loop. For this we are grateful. It’s the difficult times that can teach us, lift us up, bringing the best out of us, and helping us understand what we never thought we can ever experience- this is Life at its best teaching!
Live, Love, Learn ❤️

Remembering the super-talented designer Virgil Abloh 😇

We’re all wired differently, and part of this special and beautiful human journey is finding what works for us.
As long as you never give up on You, and your head and heart are growing and learning, then you’re doing it “right.” 💌
- Koriynne Wong

{Love is an action.}⁣
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Traumatic experiences that took place during childhood can follow people into adulthood, especially if the trauma is untreated. Even if the trauma has passed, the brain still remembers it, and being reminded of the trauma can trigger an intense reaction. Understanding signs of repressed childhood trauma in adults can help you to determine if it’s time to seek treatment so that you can start healing.

I recommend you to read the book
When the Body Says No, written by
Gabor Maté, M.D.

Most of us have been taught to be a nice person. When doing that, we have to remember to set boundaries with people and put ourself first more often. We don’t want to wake up one day later in life to realize that we spent so much time pleasing other people and not looking out for our current and future self.

What I've learned about niceness is, niceness is performative. It comes from a place of pleasing. It can also come from a manipulative place - intentionally & unintentionally.

Prioritizing niceness (polite, agreeable, unproblematic) over being kind (sincere, truthful, thoughtful) or assertive - damages relationships. The relationship we have with ourselves & with others.

When we are kind & assertive - we speak up, we set limits, we ask questions, we are curious, we are considerate of others & we are considerate of ourselves.

So, be nice to people, but avoid being too nice.

Know your limits - you don’t need to push past them, and you don’t need to apologize for feeling something. 💌

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Don’t be sorry for putting yourself first when it comes to your emotional and mental health 💌

Choosing my mental and emotional health is my highest priority.

Here’s to more love, and more empathy! Everything your heart desires…
Happy New Year, beautiful people…. Love to you all! 💌

Is your self-worth dependent on your relationship?

“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” - Friedrich Nietzsche

I know you love me, but are you my friend?

Do you consider your partner as your friend? I am sure that at the beginning of your relationship you did think of each other as a friend, maybe even your new best friend.
You probably noted all sorts of interesting and wonderful things about each other, laughed at each other's jokes, and couldn’t wait to hear about each other’s day.

If you have continued to feel like good friends, you are very fortunate, as friendship is the key foundational component of a healthy relationship. You most likely see your relationship in a very positive light. Even though like every other couple, you may irritate each other at times, but you are able to let go of anger and move on.
If you do not think of each other as friends but instead as spouses, co-parents, financial partners etc, you probably find that you treat each other with less respect and consideration than you do your actual friends and that you often feel your emotional needs are not being met.

A couple who does not feel they have a healthy friendship is more likely to be easily annoyed with each other, and much less likely to make it a priority to spend quality time together nurturing their connection and communication.

If you are interested to improve your relationship with one another, you need to set aside time for a conversation, and ask each other some questions and take turns to answer them.

Do reach out to me for some ideas of such questions to help you and your partner focus on each other and improve the connection in your communication and your relationship.

Be mindful whether you are behind closed doors, or when you are in a public place. Treat your loved ones kindly even if no one is looking at you.

Always be kind 💚💚

This is uplifting...

Source: Yung Pueblo

Kiss your children each night even while they’re already asleep. As we continue to teach them about life, they continue to teach us what life is all about.

In this picture with my eldest son when he was 16.

Your need for secure attachment since childhood never disappears, but it evolves into your adult need for a secure emotional bond and connection with someone else. This observation is at the heart of attachment theory. Through this bond, partners in love become emotionally dependent on each other for nurturing, soothing, and protection. This survival response is the driving force of the bond of security a baby seeks with its mother.

The difference between Change and Transformation. Change is when we take on something new. Transformation occurs when something old falls away, usually beyond our control. When we read a book or watch a movie that we believe “changed our life”, it is not considered transformative. We may have learned something valuable in life, but that’s not transformation. Transformation occurs when you have an experience that changes the way you understand life and it’s ambiguity.

Our relationship with ourself is the foundation for every relationship we have in our life.

Very often, I have been asked what does loving ourself have to do with loving another person.
We know this already too well - tending to the needs of our significant other, family, children, even pets - without a fleeting concern for ourself.

Take a break and ask if we can improve how we are treating ourself at this moment.

Here are some ways we can be more mindful about how to love ourself better:

• Celebrating our successes without criticizing them in the same breath.

• Forgiving ourself for being an imperfect human being who makes mistakes.

• Flaunting and loving ourself the way we are.

• Ask ourself how we can be our own rainbow.

Let me share this secret with you -
You already are. 💜

I love the simplicity of this

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Good advice from “Marriage Rules: A Manual For The Married And Coupled-Up.”

Our sorrows and wounds are healed only when we touch them with compassion. - Buddha

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