Successful in Love

“Should I stay or should I go? Something doesn’t just feel right anymore and I don’t know if I can stay for much longer …”

So many of my clients struggle with doubts about their relationship.

And so many can’t quite figure out why they have doubts or what to do about them.

Can they change their partner?
Can they change themselves?
Can they learn to settle?

It’s a difficult time full of overthinking, worrying and sleepless nights.

My ‘Stay Or Go’ program aims to help you decide what to do next to stop going back and forth.

In it we explore the root causes of relationship distress and disconnection.

We answer questions like:

💔 Are we incompatible?
💔 Do we want different things from life?
💔 Can I put up with my partner not wanting s*x or being affectionate?
💔 Why do I struggle to open up and relax in my relationship?
💔 I feel more like a parent than a partner.
💔 What do I do about my emotionally unavailable partner?

And many more like this …

This is THE program I needed when I struggled to decide whether I wanted to stay in my relationship or not.

What I love the most is that I also share the exact practices you need to try to save the relationship so if it doesn’t work, you know that you have tried everything.

It’s the most practical and effective course I have created to date and I can’t wait for you to benefit from everything I have learnt in my personal life and in 10+ years of experience of working with individuals and couples.

DM me SOG for more info.

With Love, Marlena

What else would you add? Let me know in the comments below ⬇️

Am I Too Anxious Or Is My Partner Toxic? 🤔

🔥DM me ‘AOT’ and I will send you a link to the masterclass that helps you to figure out whether you’re too anxious or whether your partner is incompatible or even toxic! 🔥

With Love, Marlena

The WORST Thing You Can Do To Someone With An Anxious Attachment Style

Someone with an anxious attachment style struggles to feel safe and secure in their relationship.

The following will negatively impact them and create more stress and drama in the relationship:

💔 being unpredictable and inconsistent in your moods and behaviours
💔 cutting them off, ignoring them, not replying to their messages
💔 being hot and cold with them (in terms of availability, affection and attention)

Why is this such a problem?

A healthy relationship is characterised by stability, predictability, safety and security.

This is what allows us to relax, open up, share ourselves and create deeper connection and intimacy.

In the absence of this, everyone struggles. Especially anxiously attached people.

Because they need MORE security, stability and predictability to build up trust so they can relax into the relationship and shift into a more secure state of being and loving.

Let’s remember to be kind, considerate and respectful to each other.

Because that’s what love is all about.

With Love, Marlena

🔥DM me ‘AOT’ and I will send you a link to the masterclass that helps you to figure out whether you’re too anxious or whether your partner is incompatible or even toxic! 🔥

Avoidance will never lead to more connection or intimacy.

Healing, growing and loving will.

DM me ‘Triggered’ to get a link to the class that will teach you how to deal with being triggered in a relationship.

With Love, Marlena

It’s tough not being sure whether you’re in the right relationship or not.

You keep thinking about it. It gets hard to focus on anything else. You hate feeling like this! And yet, you can’t stop it.

What is wrong?!

That’s the question that’s often hard to answer. Here are 4 common causes:

💔 Dealbreakers and Incompatibilities

What are you not willing to look at?
How are you putting up with too much?
What just isn’t working?

☠️ Doomed Dynamics

Sometimes we bring out the worst in each other.

Sometimes we fall into old roles and unhealthy patterns.

When that happens, love cannot thrive or survive.

🚫 Love Blocks

When there is unhealed trauma, there is self-sabotage because we just don’t feel worthy or safe of receiving what we want to receive.

That’s when we stand in our own way or when our coping strategies make us act in ways that make our worst fears come true.

😖 Intimacy Gap

You just don’t seem to be able to connect anymore. There is a distance, a weirdness, a lack of comfort. Maybe you’ve stopped having s*x. Maybe you still argue about it. Maybe you can’t talk to each other without arguing. Maybe you make each wrong for feeling how you feel or wanting what you want. Whatever it is, the Intimacy Gap is destroying your relationship and causing you to have doubts.

DM me SOG to find out about the STAY OR GO program and identify the exact cause of your relationship doubts and problems so you can fix what doesn’t work or leave knowing you did what you could.

If you prefer to work with me, DM me ‘1-1’ to get started with a customised and highly effective approach that brings you clarity, healing and strategy that works in real-life relationships.

With Love, Marlena

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With Love, Marlena

To explore this in a 1-1 setting with me and improve your love life, DM me ‘1-1’

With Love, Marlena

It’s hard when you feel like you’re no longer on the same page or want the same things out of life or your relationship.

It brings up lots of doubts and can keep you stuck in a cycle of overthinking, trying to settle and feel grateful or constantly planning how to leave without actually leaving.

This is no longer necessary!

💝 You can either work with me 1-1 to figure out your next steps so that you know you’ve tried everything you can or you can DM me ‘SOG’ to join the STAY OR GO program and identify the exact cause of your problems and doubts and find out what to try to save your relationship.

Any questions, message me 🤗

With Love, Marlena

Let me know in the comments below what makes you doubt your relationship or if you can think of any other reasons that lead to doubting whether you’re with the right partner.

If you want to receive the 5 questions that will help you to decide whether to stay or go, DM me ‘5 QUESTIONS’ and I will send you a free guide!

With Love, Marlena

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🩷 If you want 1-1 support for this, message me. I’d love to help you find your way through this 🩷

With Thanks 🌸

🔥 Message me the word ‘TRIGGERED’ for access to the powerful masterclass that teaches you how to take back control🔥

If you struggle with getting triggered in your relationships, then I have something amazing for you!

One of my most popular masterclass is called ‘Triggered by Love’ and it’s all about overcoming feeling anxious, insecure and triggered in your relationship.

So if you really value your relationships, want to improve them and also want to feel good about yourself inside of them, then this is something you must watch.

You will find out exactly why you get triggered and what to do about it in a way that feels empowering and puts you back in charge of your emotional experience.

No need to hang around and waiting for your partner to change.

This is something you can do by yourself for yourself and for your relationship too!

So if you are ready to feel more relaxed, secure and loved in your relationship while eliminating everything that causes you distress, watch my masterclass.

⭐️ Message me the word ‘TRIGGERED’ below so I can send you the link for this powerful and highly transformative masterclass.

With Love, Marlena

You are only ever as needy as your unmet needs.

And you can only ever feel truly happy and secure in your relationship when your needs are sufficiently met.

These are truths too few people are aware of.

Once you understand this, your love life begins to transform quickly.

❤️ You’ll feel less anxious and insecure
❤️ There are fewer arguments because you feel disappointed or frustrated
❤️ You know that your partner loves and cares about you
❤️ You feel emotionally connected, nourished and safe
❤️ You no longer worry about your partner leaving you and trust them instead

There’s also no more settling for things you don’t want, feeling at the mercy of how others treat you, one-sided relationships and feeling drained by everyone around you taking from you.

Learning to Thrive in Love and Life is what makes you feel SECURE in your relationship and within yourself.

It is a vital relationship and wellbeing skill and one you shouldn’t go without.

DM me ‘THRIVE’ to get the link to the course in which I teach you everything you need to know about how you can make this happen in your own life in the shortest, most effective way possible. And with results that last!

Please don’t wait another day to get what you’ve always known you needed.

With Love, Marlena

If you worry that

😖 you’re stuck in an an anxious-avoidant trap
😖 your partner might be toxic for you
😖 you might be too anxious or have unrealistic expectations of your partner

🔥DM me ‘AOT’ to get a link to the masterclass that will answer the following question for you:

Am I Too Anxious Or Is My Partner Toxic?

Let’s find out!

And if you want to learn how to feel more secure in your relationship and balance the need for connection and autonomy better, DM me ‘THRIVE’ 🥰 to access the course that will teach you how to feel calmer, more confident and more settled in your relationship and life.

With Love, Marlena

I invite you to work with me to heal heartbreak or to support your through your unique relationship challenge.

Letting go can be a painful process - but you don’t have to do it alone.

You deserve to be chosen and loved for who you are.

If someone is unable to do that, then they are not the right person for you.

How do you know if someone cannot truly love you:

💔 They’ll choose drama and conflict over connection.
💔 They don’t prioritise you.
💔 They make decisions without you as if you didn’t matter.
💔 They have unrealistic expectations and need you to meet them instead of loving you for who you are.
💔 Their insecurities will dominate your relationship and you’ll feel like you have to walk on eggshells around them.
💔 They are unwilling to see how they contribute to a relationship problem and instead blame it all on you and thereby make you the bad guy while feeling hard done by.

These are not healthy dynamics.

They stop you from feeling safe and being safe for each other, connecting, building a solid foundation for a shared life and being each other’s source of comfort.

Let’s figure out together what you should do next.

🔥 DM me ‘1-1’ for more info on how we can do that 🔥

With Love, Marlena

The second you try to change your partner you’re entering codependent territory … in a secure relationship we learn to love and accept each other for who we are so that we may create the safety and openness required to co-create real connection and intimacy.

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DM me ‘Codependency’ to get the free guide to help you implement the first 5 shifts towards OUTGROWING CODEPENDENCY.

With Love, Marlena

Having doubts about your relationship is hard.

It’s difficult.

It’s painful.

It’s confusing.

You need an answer to stop all the worrying, overthinking, feeling disloyal and guilty.

Or maybe you know that you’re justified.

You know that your partner isn’t good for you.

And maybe you’re still not sure about what to do.

“Should I Stay Or Should I Go?”

That’s the question so many of my clients come to me with.

Together we figure it out.

We identify

💥 if you’re actually compatible or if a dealbreaker has been swept under the carpet
💥 if your personalities, values and life goals match
💥 if you actually want the same type of relationship
💥 if you’re trapped in a Doomer Dynamic
💥 if you can’t emotionally (or intimately) connect
💥 if an inner love block stops you from making things work

Plus more!

DM me ‘SOG’ to join me in figuring out what to do next.

Because you deserve to be happy and to feel loved ❤️

With Love, Marlena

The question that will transform your relationship if you are with someone who also asks themselves that question: How do I contribute towards this problem? 🤯(With Thanks )
💕 To explore this in a 1-1 setting with me and improve your love life, DM me ‘1-1’

With Love, Marlena

How might you do that? Share if you know ⬇️

For me, one of the things I did to cause myself to suffer more was to think that setting boundaries is rude and selfish.

So I didn’t set any but constantly felt disrespected.

What I didn’t know was that in doing so I was withholding important information from others on how to treat me.

This then created many unhealthy dynamics.

What could it be for you?

Let me know.

With Love, Marlena

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None of these behaviours are healthy and will cause conflict and ruptures that can lead to breakup. How can you or your partner shift out of them? Do your inner work with professional help to turn things around and make them better than ever before. DM me ‘1-1’ for more info on how we can work together 🥰 With Love, Marlena

What advice would you give? Let me know below ⬇️

With Thanks 🌷

DM me ‘1-1’ for expert support on making the perfect partner choice and breaking unhealthy relationship patterns.

With Love, Marlena

What other unrealistic expectation would you add? Let me know below ⬇️ 🌹

I invite you to work with me 1-1 to free yourself from relationship doubt, anxiety and unhealthy habits and patterns so that you can finally relax into love and feel proud of your relationship.

DM me ‘1-1’ to get started.

With Love, Marlena

Can you relate? Lmk ⬇️

DM me ‘LEAVE’ to find out how to leave a relationship you’ve outgrown or that simply isn’t good for you without feeling guilt, overwhelmed or going back and forth.

With Love, Marlena

With Thanks 🌷
I invite you to work with me to heal heartbreak or to support your through your unique relationship challenge.

Letting go can be a painful process - but you don’t have to do it alone.

You deserve to be chosen and loved for who you are.

If someone is unable to do that, then they are not the right person for you.

How do you know if someone cannot truly love you:

💔 They’ll choose drama and conflict over connection.
💔 They don’t prioritise you.
💔 They make decisions without you as if you didn’t matter.
💔 They have unrealistic expectations and need you to meet them instead of loving you for who you are.
💔 Their insecurities will dominate your relationship and you’ll feel like you have to walk on eggshells around them.
💔 They are unwilling to see how they contribute to a relationship problem and instead blame it all on you and thereby make you the bad guy while feeling hard done by.

These are not healthy dynamics.

They stop you from feeling safe and being safe for each other, connecting, building a solid foundation for a shared life and being each other’s source of comfort.

Let’s figure out together what you should do next.

🔥 DM me ‘1-1’ for more info on how we can do that 🔥

With Love, Marlena