Danny Greeves Coaching

𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐞𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞? 👇

𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐭𝐨?

Is there something you'd love to do but haven't?

Are there things you'd like to share but don't?

Are there things you'd like to try but shy away from?

In most of these cases, its because when you compare yourself to X you beat yourself up about it, criticise yourself and minimise yourself.

If this happens in one area, there might be a simple block holding you back from taking the next step.

If you find this happens across multiple areas of life and something that hold you back on a regular basis, its more likely to be a result of low self-esteem and low self-worth.

If you fast-forward 10 years, there now, and then look back...

Realising you haven't done the things you would have loved to.

Realising you didn't share the things you liked.

Realising you didn't try the things you were curious about.

The only thing that will follow is regret.

But what if you could do your future self a massive favour?

What if you could unblock the blocks NOW?

Then what could you future look like?

And how would the future you thank you?

THIS 👇

𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐜𝐥𝐮𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝?

Modern life requires you to keep lots of different plates up in the air AND to keep them all spinning.

Family, work, health, socialising, social media, food, money, to name a few…

When the images in your mind become TOO BIG and SCARY, your brain panics and goes into overwhelm.

When your current circumstances trigger a painful PAST event, old images flash up in your mind's eye causing further OVERWHELM.

What can you do?

Because much of the imagery in your mind is nonconscious - out of your normal daily awareness, it can be tricky to manage things on your own.

Getting some support to CLEAR all of that old information and make the new, current information smaller, neater and easier to manage can turn a set of mountains back into mole hills again.

How do you clear your mind?

𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫, 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐮𝐦𝐚 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐦?

I’m grateful to share the story of my recent client Adam and how he transitioned from being angry, hostile and sometimes even aggressive…

To being calm, relaxed and confident.

His journey went through 3 stages.

🧠 1. Learn how your mind stores and processes Emotional Memory Images (Hudson and Johnson, 2021).

💡 This enables you to see that things aren’t permanent, you aren’t doomed to feel this way forever and you do have far more power and control than you might think.

🧠 2. Learn to tune into your body’s subtle signals and cues that can help you understand what is going on in your body and how to interpret it wisely.

💡 This enables your mind and body to feel connected, to feel integrated and to feel like they’re working together.

🧠 3. Learn how to balance your perceptions, decisions and actions.

💡 This enables you to keep yourself grounded, to feel in control and to shape any experience to be something that helps you to grow.

What would these lessons do for you?

𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲 𝐑𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐀𝐋𝐒 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐜𝐨𝐫𝐞 - 𝐍𝐞𝐰 𝐩𝐨𝐝𝐜𝐚𝐬𝐭 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞

I'm delighted to share with you the latest episode of The Natural Health Podcast.

Here we take a fascinating look into the more subtle signs your body might be sending you that there are blocks or barriers holding you back.

Link in the comments :)

𝟑 𝐒𝐏𝐀𝐂𝐄𝐒 𝐋𝐄𝐅𝐓!

The doors are open and the seats are being filled. But why could this be the ideal fit for you?

As humans we tend to like to start something when we feel ready. At the beginning of the NEXT ‘X’.

It can feel like we’re starting fresh, beginning a new chapter, a clean slate. Which is why we often say…

“I’ll start the new diet on Monday”.

“I’ll start going to the gym on the first of the month”.

“I’ll really work on getting my mindset sorted next year”.

But the reality is that problems don’t disappear. Challenges don’t go on holiday. Brain noise doesn’t take the day off.

And so all that really happens is that when the time does come round, we’ve got too much other stuff to deal with. We give OURSELVES permission to half-bake it because we’re also dealing with X, Y or Z.

Never is this more true than for mental health. The majority of people who decide not to move forward and join a programme tend to caveat their answer with “I’ll come back next year when I feel ready’

When they do come back, it's sometimes 2 or even 3 years later, and they're in the SAME position.

BUT…

There are certain people who understand that putting in the hard yards UP FRONT, while the other challenges are going on, can not only make them easier, but they can also start planning their NEXT adventure from a mindset of freedom rather than fear.

That challenges are part of the ride, so by picking one your prepared to work through, the other, smaller ones tend to fade away.

So...

Have you told yourself you’ll get things sorted next year? When things ‘quiet down’.

Why not make the biggest decision in BEING the best version of yourself, by working to change NOW rather than later.

THERE ARE 3 SPACES left in the Six Session Sprint.

The standard price of £1198.80+VAT then has it's 46% discount applied

Meaning the full price for the Six-Session-Sprint is just £647+VAT.

And you can even divide this into two monthly instalments!
DM for details.

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐢𝐱-𝐒𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧-𝐒𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐭!

Are you feeling as well at this point in the year as you’d hoped?

Despite all the work you’ve done on yourself and all the effort you’ve put into prioritising your mental health and wellbeing, are you still getting triggered into responses of:

- Freeze

- Flight

- Fight

- Fawn

Over the last week we’ve been exploring four of the most damaging protective strategies your nervous system can deploy.

While these responses were undoubtedly ESSENTIAL at the time, if they are still holding you back years later, maybe it’s time for an upgrade?

And would you love to make goals and plans for 2025 that excite and inspire you?

Well let's MAKE IT HAPPEN.

The Six-Session-Sprint is designed to specifically target those triggered responses and help you stay feeling grounded, balanced and calm - despite what the world throws at you.

I’m taking on - you guessed it - SIX more clients this year to transform your reactions to stressors by going through a mini-course of six sessions.

As it's a sprint, it comes with a 46% discount!!

6 spaces are available on a first come, first serve basis.

If you’re interested and want to secure the biggest discount of the year, send me a DM today.

𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 '𝐩𝐮𝐭𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐮𝐩 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡'?

Does it feel like you shrink and minimise yourself while putting other, often louder people's needs ahead of yours?

The fawn response is a coping mechanism that often develops in response to adverse or traumatic experiences.

It involves PEOPLE-PLEASING behaviours and difficulty setting boundaries as a way to avoid perceived THREATS or danger.

It's consistently abandoning one's own needs to serve others in order to avoid conflict, criticism, or disapproval.

It's also called the "please and appease" response.

This one works all TOO EASILY with the modern world. It often shows up through:

- Excessive people-pleasing

- Difficulty saying "no"

- Ignoring one's own needs to take care of others

- Feeling responsible for others' emotions

- Not voicing one's own values or opinions

- Loss of identity/sense of self

- Over the longer term, it contributes to difficulties with boundaries, codependency, chronic stress, and mental health issues if it persists as a habitual response.

But what if we could focus our intervention on exactly that RESPONSE?

What if we could clear the old ‘data’ leading to that type of response and help your nervous system ‘unlearn’ the old patterns?

What more do you think you could ACHIEVE in the next 12 months without those old patterns holding you back?

Stay tuned tomorrow to find out ;-)

𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐫𝐲?

The fight response is an instinctive reaction to perceived THREATS or danger, characterised by the preparation for aggressive action to confront or neutralise the threat.

This can take the form of an angry snarl, a clench of the fist or a rising and expanding of the body to confront the problem.

But it can go even further, it can lead to ‘seeing red’, ‘losing control’ or going from ‘0-100mph in an instant’.

Heart rate, blood pressure, breathing rate, muscle tension, blood flow to the arms and temperature all increase.

Adrenaline and cortisol are PUMPED into the bloodstream preparing the body for immediate action.

But there isn’t much space for this type of anger in our modern society.

It turns relationships toxic and damages our most important relationships.

It creates tension at work and potentially the loss of our income.

It leads to guilt and shame

But what if we could focus our intervention on exactly that RESPONSE?

What if we could clear the old ‘data’ leading to that type of response and help your nervous system ‘unlearn’ the old patterns?

What more do you think you could ACHIEVE in the next 12 months without those old patterns holding you back?

𝐃𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐨𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐧 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐜𝐤 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐮𝐫𝐠𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐫𝐮𝐧 𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐲?

The flight response is an instinctive reaction to perceived threats or danger, characterised by the urge to ESCAPE or avoid the stressor.

Heart rate and breathing rate increases, blood flows to the legs ready to run away, the bowels prepare to empty.

Alertness increases, anxiety and uneasiness increases, the urge to GET OUT builds and builds.

But in our modern world, where the stressor is unlikely to be a physical danger, we have to try and SUPPRESS the urge and the symptoms.

The result leaves us with:

- Feeling fidgety or trapped

- Constant movement of legs, feet, and arms

- Restlessness

- Dry mouth

- Sweaty hands

Traditional therapy might require you to re-examine your past, dig it up, explore it and see if you can gain a better understanding of where it comes from.

But what if we could focus our intervention on exactly that RESPONSE?

What if we could clear the old ‘data’ leading to that type of response and help your nervous system ‘unlearn’ the old patterns?

What more do you think you could ACHIEVE in the next 12 months without those old patterns holding you back?

𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐜𝐤 𝐨𝐧 𝐏𝐀𝐔𝐒𝐄?

The freeze response is a natural, involuntary reaction to perceived THREATS or danger. It’s part of the body's stress response system, alongside the more well-known fight and flight responses.

The freeze response is triggered by the autonomic nervous system (ANS) when faced with a threat that seems too OVERWHELMING to fight or flee from.

During a freeze response, heart rate increases, breathing changes, muscle tension changes and body temperature drops.

In more intense versions of the freeze response, the body may go limp.

But in our more day-to-day experiences, ‘mini-freeze’ responses can show up repeatedly through becoming totally inactive, your mind going BLANK, feeling like a rabbit in the headlights.

A ‘mini-freeze’ response leads to procrastination, hesitation or indecision. Burying your head in the sand, only to realise when you surface again it's even more overwhelming.

Although this bodily response is a form of protection, it’s so uncomfortable that it often triggers follow-up soothing behaviours, like getting lost in a Netflix binge, scrolling endlessly through social media or comfort eating.

But what if we could focus our intervention on exactly that RESPONSE?

What if we could clear the old ‘data’ leading to that type of response and help your nervous system ‘unlearn’ the old patterns?

What more do you think you could ACHIEVE in the next 12 months without those old patterns holding you back?

𝐈 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐦𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐱𝐢𝐞𝐭𝐲 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐚𝐠𝐞 - 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐢𝐭𝐬 𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐖𝐎𝐑𝐒𝐄.

Many of my clients share with me that they resisted getting some help because they thought that their anxiety would get easier as they age.

But in general, they consistently report when left alone it gets worse.

Why is this?

It happens for two primary reasons:

1. A process called generalisations.

2. Habit and conditioned thinking.

Lets start with generalisations.

Anxiety does not occur for no reason, it is the symptom of either an internal thinking process that has modified over time, or more often, specific events in the past have been rubber-stamped as negative, and these negative outcomes get projected forward in time, creating anxiety.

But what starts out as something specific, over time, starts to spread out it, it starts to affect adjacent areas.

For example, lets say something negative happened at a night club.

Initially, it might manifest as anxiety about going to other nightclubs.

But over time it starts to show up as anxiety going out at night.

And over an even longer time period it becomes anxiety about just going out.

This is generalisation in process.

The second is habituated thinking patterns.

Our mind takes the path of least resistance, so when we PRACTICE a certain way of thinking over and over again, it becomes the default choice.

This makes WORRYING a habit that seems almost automatic.

𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐝𝐨 𝐰𝐞 𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐭?

When we can target both these proceses, by identifying the key triggering events and clearing the Emotional Memory Images (Hudson and Johnson, 2021) associated with them

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Simple, practical exercises to start thinking in a new way

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Then we can start to see results.

Are you ready to change the trajectory of your anxiety?

𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐞𝐟𝐟𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐩𝐲?

One of the biggest issues with traditional talking therapy is it that it takes a very general and broad approach. It involves talking through all your thoughts, feelings and challenges and trying to make sense of it all.

While almost all types of therapeutic help require this to some degree, its the intervention that follows that can be the difference.

If the solution is based on increasing your awareness, gradually understanding patterns of behaviour, trying to manage your internal dialogue or doing other, alternative self-care strategies, it can feel like a real SLOG.

But when the intervention is targeted, specific and practical - in the session - that means you can leave the session KNOWING things are different and then getting curious about what you might notice.

Are you leaving sessions feeling curious?

𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐮𝐩, 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐫𝐮𝐥𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮?

📖 Was it something that you were explicitly told?

Or...

🥲 Was it something you learnt through (often painful) experience?

If that was the rules around communicating when you were little and your mind knew that was an essential way to keep you safe, how do you think it could be holding you back as an adult today?

💡 Thinking about your self-expression?

💡 Prioritising your own needs and wants?

💡 Feeling authentic?

💡 Public speaking or speaking to people in authority?

What could you achieve if this barrier wasn't holding you back any longer?

Food for thought :)

𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐝𝐢𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐦𝐨𝐝𝐞𝐥 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐢𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐫𝐠𝐮𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬?

💢 When you were growing up, who showed you what an argument looks like? How you react to a challenge?

😡 Who demonstrated how you deal with CONFLICT?

🗣️ What associations did your young mind make between relationships and CONFRONTATION?

As your young mind learned like a sponge, absorbing all the information it can, a small part of which is consciously processed and a significantly larger portion processed unconsciously, we often MODEL what we SEE.

In some cases, because of what we observed growing up, we put all our energy into doing the exact OPPOSITE.

For example, your mum shouting at you when you were little had such an impact on you, now you try to treat everyone gently and softly, often getting walked over in the process or beating yourself up whenever you feel anger.

Neither extreme tends to work well.

But the good news is there are a myriad of ways to overcome it...

A programme of deep self-awareness, a progressive exploration into how you feel, your triggers, your reactions. A gradual, incremental journey of self discovery.... That is one option.

Or you can save yourself all that time and energy, clear the Emotional Memory Images (Hudson and Johnson, 2021), update your perceptions and gain all that wisdom in a few weeks. That's another option.

I know which one I'd prefer!

How about you?

What has your body been telling the people around you this weekend that your words didn't?

What has the body of your partner been telling you that their words didn't?

What do you believe more?

The words.

Or...

The actions?

𝐖𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐞𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞?

It all starts with a message ;-)