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It's not just a document. It's an ancestral recovery!

Exactly today, 6y ago, Friday, 07/07/2017 (does the number 7 have any meaning?) I concluded my mission to rekindle the forgotten ancestral ties in the family that Grandpa Pedrinho was the father of, along with Grandma Atayde.

I was recovering the ancestral ties with that part of the family that had been rejected for years in our history. My granddad Pedrinho was symbolically excluded from our family (part unconsciously), the son of Narciso, the Italian who immigrated to Brazilian lands as a child along with his parents and siblings.

I even noticed a little of this during the Italian citizenship process, but I only felt it in my skin months after the finalisation.

That's when I felt that "I had nothing left" to accomplish in life. It's more abstract than it sounds.

You know the feeling of having completed college, and finally being able to "have a profession", is a great achievement, right?

From that, you have a sea of possibilities, of other achievements ahead of you. If graduating is the bridge to a series of other projects, it's like winning a mini marathon and preparing for the full marathon.

In my case, when recognizing Italian citizenship, I had the feeling of having completed the last full marathon and it was as if I had retired.

Then I ask you, how is it possible for a young woman of almost 29 years old to feel that she has retired? Sounds weird to you? It sounded very strange to me.

I didn't know what to make of it. At the same time, I had a lot of things to digest.

That same day, 07/07/2017, I received a job offer that would completely change my lifestyle in Ireland.

Two days later I received the news that I had to move house in 30 days. A short-lived relationship ended the week after moving house. The next day would be my first day at the new job.

How to have time and mental, emotional and psychological space to digest everything? At that time I did what I could: live on automatic. Adjusting and adapting to the new lifestyle.

The "penny dropped" a few months later. Material life became everyday life. And the emotional world became more evident.

I then started to live a life of my own.

Better than talking about self-knowledge... It's practicing it! And reading can bring a lot of reflection (and practice) on what makes us feel pain.

From the reflection of what is bad for us and what is good for us, we can then perceive patterns that feed unpleasant feelings and places that our mind wanders around.

In the book "Heal Your Wounds & Find Your True Self: Finally, a Book That Explains Why It's So Hard Being Yourself!" Lise Bourbeau brings real examples from her clinical practice as a psychotherapist and her perceptions about 5 emotional wounds that most influence our behaviour, especially in relationships with others and also with ourselves.

At the beginning she mentions something about spirituality, and if you don't like this topic, I ask you to hold on tight because this part is very short and this is not the focus of Lise's narrative. Allow yourself to read the whole, ignore what doesn't make sense to you, and absorb only what serves you best. It might be worth it!

For those who have been with me longer, will remember a lot about the , which is one of the foundations of my therapeutic practice.

And if you like this approach and want to get to know yourself better from your character traits, this book is a plate full of discoveries and deepening of your self-knowledge through the wounds you experience in early childhood, and which you sometimes carry throughout life.

Remember that these wounds generate defence mechanisms for your basic survival, so don't blame yourself for realising that you colive with them. Instead, allow yourself to welcome and accept all as it was, and only after making peace with your wounds, take a deep breath and see how you can transform these reactive mechanisms into more proactive and functional ones in your life.

If you, who follow me, have already read this book, tell me in the comments what you thought and how it helped you to get to know yourself better.

A tight hug in your heart!

Tati Quaglio from The Being Body and Mind.

Studies on mental health in migrants indicate that about 38% of people living in another country (other than their origin) manifest more emotional and mental problems compared to the native population of the place.

The main symptoms are depression, anxiety, and loneliness. Which makes a lot of sense, after all, moving to another country brings many challenges and a lot of pain. Even when the person chose to migrate.

A report published by the World Health Organization (2018) describes that the incidence of mental disorders in migrants is very high and diverse, ranging from 5% to 44%.

Similar numbers were identified in other more recent studies, analysing 27 studies involving more than 44,000 migrants in 17 different countries in which the presence of depression and anxiety was approximately 39% in the population.

Several factors can contribute to this, such as common stressors of the migration process, including long-term adaptation difficulties in another country, poor living conditions, language barriers, confidentiality and privacy concerns, stigma of migrant status, reluctance to seek help, psychological distress outside families and social deprivation. Overall, it means that migrants have higher rates of mental disorders than local populations.

Another aspect identified is that migrants who have lived in a country for more than 5 years are more likely to present or develop symptoms of depression and loneliness than those who migrated for less than 5 years.

I myself, living in Ireland for almost 7 years, have already gone through very intense situations and dilemmas that only migration has brought to my attention.

To deal with all of this, I sought help. Remember that you don't have to live this alone!

Migrating is an intense movement, and it doesn't have to be more painful than it already is.

Seek help! Even if you "don't feel anything", by seeking support, you can prevent these symptoms.

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Tati Quaglio, from The Being Body and Mind.

Brazilian products and services fair in Dublin📍Swipe left to it closer what I took there 👆

A Sunday afternoon filled with novelty, getting to know what Brazilians are producing and offering their services in Ireland.

It was a very rich opportunity to make new friends, listen to life stories and honor the balance of exchanges (give and receive) in this community that grows every day.

I had the pleasure of introducing the powerful self-knowledge tools that are and .
With their support, they make it possible for these Brazilian creations to reach Europe: .lunar, .es and .

Thank you for changing this reality ! Your service goes far beyond the walls of this fair!

The next stop will be 11/02. You can meet me there with many other Brazilian entrepreneurs, a handful of lovely Valentine's gifts for your beloved one.

See you there. Gratitude 🙏🏻

Tati Quaglio
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This post is about some signs that someone you know (maybe even yourself) needs help.

What does help mean? Different things.

It could mean professional therapy.

But it can also mean taking the time to talk to someone you notice some of these signs and check in with them to make sure everything is ok👍

It could also mean helping them with some chores, be it work, school, or errands.

But anyway, people who need help don't tend to verbalize it often. Noticing these signs (but not pointing them out without sensitivity) and asking if they're okay can make their day. ❤️
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These points are reinforced by the Jed Foundation (Signs Your Friend May Be Struggling Emotionally) and Anthem (Mental Health: Signs That Someone Might Need Help)!

What other points can you think of/try on? Tell me in the comments 👇















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Not saying what you think and especially what you feel, accumulates over time a pile of suffocating thoughts and emotions, have you noticed?

You don't have to handle it all alone. You can seek support and find relief from the sensations that accompany you in anguish, sadness, loneliness, stress, frustration, agony; in grief and in so many other life situations.

Seek support from those who make you feel safe, comforted and welcomed.

If meeting someone you know is difficult, know that there are anonymous support channels where you can find this relief and acceptance without having to be exposed.

Here are some of these channels as options:

In Portuguese online:
• , free and anonymous through the website www.sunas.com.br
• , Life Appreciation Center, online chat at www.cvv.org.br/chat

In Portuguese in Brazil:
• CVV call 188 - toll free
• Sunas call (11) 98738-1130, or send an email to [email protected]

In English online in Ireland (messages or email)
• , free English texting service, simply send HELLO to 50808 from a local cell phone.
• .ie, free service for young adults and teens, just send SPUNOUT to 50808 (together with Text50808)
• .ie, online support network between users and professional support, support groups, just register anonymously at www.turn2me.ie
• , via email [email protected]
• .house via free text message 51444
• , by email [email protected]

• , UK text service, similar to Text50808. Send SHOUT to 85258

In English in Ireland (by phone or in person)
• Samaritans call 116 123
• Aware via phone 1800 80 48 48, also promote group support meetings
• Pieta House via phone 1800 247 247 24/7 service. Therapy requests on 0818 111 126.

Remember you are NOT alone!

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1. See failure as an opportunity. It's natural to feel frustration at realizing a mistake you've made, and realizing something you miss out on is part of it. Even though it is possible to find new opportunities from that, you can also learn to find new routes, look for different ways to achieve what you want. Making mistakes is part of the path to getting it right. You're already a success for persisting in what you believe.

2. Differentiate one problem from others. It's hard to separate situations when everything seems to come fall apart at once. Differentiate mainly the causes of each problem and realize your participation in it, remember that you only have control over what and how you act and feel.

3. Generalize the causes of bad things. Generalizing the causes may seem contrary to differentiating one problem from another, right? Generalizing here is about understanding what is out of your control and that not everything happens around you by a conspiracy aimed at you.

4. See the gain. "In the middle of the storm it can be very difficult to see the path to a shelter." As with the previous items, seeing the positive side of things when everything is suffocating is perhaps the biggest challenge.
It works like a deep cleaning, and after this cleaning you will be able to get in touch with the gains of the situation, whether you have learned something, or recognize your feelings and learn to deal with it in a different way.

5. Make the most of every situation, even when it's uncomfortable or irritating, take the opportunity to express yourself. Express how you feel, notice how a situation bothers you or makes you feel sad.

Use the resources around you in your favor, it can be writing, drawing, exercising, recording an audio for yourself, looking for someone impartial to express yourself safely and who is not involved in the situation, so you can express as a therapist or a distant friend.

So what is a birthday celebration? Why do we remember this day?

The date of birth is the time you were born, it's the time you were brought to life!

Let's not go into the details of the circumstances here, this chat is for another time ok?

Yes, life needs a yes to move forward. And especially yes of an ordinary woman, who with all the difficulties and a few hours of pregnancy and childbirth. At the price and weight it was for her, even at the risk of death that a pregnancy this woman is exposed.

On the day of birth, the portal of life was opened, a life of possibilities, of many challenges and many achievements.

And to go on living it is necessary to accept yourself/the circumstances that you are in and then do something with it.

Celebrating through the birthday is a way to honor all the YES that we got through life, including NOs too, because you've come this far at the price and weight it's living each day.

Today I bring a reflection on birthday together with the new cycle of life that I myself celebrated on the 24th.

For a certain period it was difficult for me to live the joy of celebrating life especially on the day I was born. Feelings that were resignified as I understood the dynamics I related with life.

Today understanding how choices work and accept what it was to look forward brought me back the sense of celebrating life.

Happy birthday everyone! Any time of the day, every day of the year, from anywhere in the world.

Congratulations to life and the art of living!

Chose how you would spend that "surprise" money? 🙃

If you chose C or D, you're probably happier. As I brought up in the previous post, giving yourself to other people can make us happier than saving your energy, or your time or your attention all to yourself, no matter what we may think will make us happier.

Some evidence suggests that spending money, or time or energy, on close "others" (a good friend or family member) can make us happier than spending it on strangers.

Probably because our close friends are so important to our happiness. Of course, if we spend time with our less intimate friends, they can become closer to us.

It has also been shown that donating to charity makes us happy, that is, if you donate to a cause you believe in and to an organization a group you know and know does real work.

To get the most happiness out of what we give, it seems important to feel that what we give makes a difference. So it's important to donate to causes that make it clear where our money goes and what a difference it makes.

This is a practical example of how small acts of kindness can make everyday life more relevant. And giving will only be good when sustainable, so remember to prioritize your basic needs like eating, sleeping, paying your obligations of cost of living.

*This content is not intended to exhaust the subject of happiness, well-being or altruism.

** this content does not replace the individual therapeutic process.

To check the studies on this content, see: Dunn, Aknin & Norton (2014): Aknin, Sandstrom, Dunn & Norton (2011): Aknin, Dunn, Whillans et al (2013).

🌟 Finding joy "sideways on", as the saying goes, is a popular philosophy. That is, rather than focusing on our own happiness, we should direct our energy toward making the lives of others a priority. There is a growing body of research demonstrating the positive effects of putting others' happiness before one's own.

Study after study has demonstrated that helping others improves the lives of those who do it, making them happier and more fulfilled. Furthermore, it has the power to lift our spirits, calm our nerves, and divert our attention from our own problems. Being empathetic and charitable appears to be an essential part of being human.

Even though this research is cutting-edge, the knowledge it reflects is timeless. The 'golden rule,' which states, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you," can be found in a wide variety of philosophies and religions.

The golden rule encourages us to consider how we help others and, in doing so, contribute to the creation of the kinds of communities, workplaces, cities, and societies that we want to be part of. This is because most of us would like to think that when we need it, others would be there to lend a helping hand (whether from friends, family, or even complete strangers).

Recently I was on a live with (in Portuguese), a voluntary initiative started especially in Portuguese linked to , a global movement that addresses 10 concepts of attitudes and habits that lead us to experience more happiness in everyday life.

This month's theme is about altruism, and suggests the positive effects of donation on the feeling of well-being of those who give and those who receive.

I particularly talked in this live how much and how volunteering has been so rewarding in my life. As the live was led in Portuguese, I'll bring here some of the aspects in future posts.

Ps. save this post as a reminder for when you need to be cheered 😊

💌In Brazil it was Father's Day yesterday (every 2nd Sunday of August). In many other countries it's celebrated in June. This date set in our calendar to remember and celebrate the father figure, is an opportunity to think about him, remember the memories, the stories.

For those of you who haven't had this father's physical presence, remember that you can contact him right on your own, from inside out.

And it's okay to have feelings that aren't very well elaborated yet, it's part of the "self process".

In this post I want to suggest ways that can help you reconnect with your father figure, of this man who had one of the most important contributions in the world: YOUR LIFE. 👈 swipe left to read it in full.

The symbology of father attributes is contained in all of us, regardless of gender, as they are energies that's part of our physiological and psychic formation.

Ps. save this post as a reminder whenever you feel like you need to reconnect with your dad.

Discover how the systemic philosophy of Family Constellations can help you find solutions for a better life.

I'm Tati Quaglio in The Being Body and Mind, Systemic and Body Therapist. I bring reflections on how mind and body work together.

*Reminder: this content is not intended to exhaust the subject of relationship with the father.

** this content does not replace the individual therapeutic process.






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The therapeutic process, whether traditional or alternative, is not aimed at the idea of constant happiness. In fact, happiness is a state, just like anger, fear, sadness, and other equally important and self-regulating emotions.

Therapy trains and prepares us to deal with these emotions in a healthy and balanced way, with the circumstances, with our existence as a whole, and from there we have an understanding of our needs and act on them.

Follow for in-person therapy in Dublin and online!

Click on the link in my Bio.

I learned to cycle in July 2015, I was 27 years old. It was wonderful! I left that day staggering, full of bruises on my legs, and with the certainty that I wouldn't live without the bike in my life anymore.

An indescribable feeling at that moment that I later came to understand better. I felt so, so, so empowered. Getting to places with the effort of my own body balanced on 2 wheels is more than leisure, more than transportation.

More than walking for life, it's cycling for life, it's transporting myself wherever I want, with the strength of my legs, with the firmness of my shoulders and the flexibility of my arms, with my head raised and looking at the horizon.

Pedaling requires a lot of body awareness, separating the movement of the legs and hips from the movement of the trunk and arms, looking back at a turn and checking if someone is in the way without losing direction and balance; to signing with hands and arms the direction from one lane to another. As is LIVING.

Years later with Family Constellation, I understood that the empowerment that the bicycle brought me was a reunion in my soul with the power of the one who sowed my life. Yes, my father!

That although he was not present in the external life, he was always present inside me, I just needed to look at the 50% of my life that came from this man.

The masculine energy that opens the portal of the world and gives us the strength, security, and daring to live life as it is, falling and rising. Learning from experiences and improving as you live.

Dear Dad, I see you, I take the life that was only possible with his participation.

Cycling for life with what was possible, at the weight and price it was for each of you, Mom and Dad.

• And you, do you have a place for the force that life drives you?
• How do you walk (or cycle) through life?

In short, the constellation session is a way to access an image of your family system according to the issue you want to resolve. From this picture, you understand what needs to be done to move towards the desired solution.

It can be carried out for all people who want to take a step forward on the path of healing their pain or walk towards the solution to their difficulties in moving on in life, whether in the personal, love, or professional aspect.

When choosing to make a constellation you want to understand what is missing, what is needed to live a better, prosperous, successful life. You no longer want to keep repeating unhealthy patterns.

What pattern or difficulty would you like to solve today?
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Memories of 28-Dec-2016 🖼️
In 2016 I was already living in Ireland, but this memory is from when I was in Italy that year, I rented a bike and in each day I went cycling to a chosen point on the map.

It took me to many beautiful places and also interesting "crisis management" experiences where sometimes the path, unplanned, ended up in a place that I couldn't go forward or the path was quite challenging like a dirt road, wet earth that sunk in the feet and the wheels of my bike.

Turning around to go back would be "going back" on the challenges that I already passed by, and moving forward was uncertain, but had a 50% chance of getting somewhere better and 50% of getting worse.

Interesting that this is how life is, the unknown can be fearful and can also be achieved.

So I went forward, the road got better at some point and I got rewards like:
- overcoming challenges
- discovering beautiful places

In these adventures it was me and my bike in incredible experiences of self knowledge, self compassion, self care and reconnection with my inner self.

In addition to having learned to use my phone's camera timer, positioning it at various angles, using stones and accessories as support and to run and pose in less than 10 seconds 🏃‍♀️ 🤣

What about you, what was your last most fun adventure?

Happy Sunday,
Tati 🌷

Discover 7 takeaways you get from Family Constellation:

1. Every action has a motive for love, even if it is blind love.

2. Acceptance is not to agree, nor to forgive. It is about leaving it behind as it was and moving forward.

3. Being grateful to your parents is simply doing something good with the life you've been given. Parents give and children receive, children do not repay debts.

4. There is an order among family members, and respecting that order brings you peace.

5. Belonging is not being the same nor following the same destiny; belonging is accepting who they are and being accepted as you are.

6. Healthy love relationships and friendships are based on free willing exchanges. Only adults are able to exchange in balance.

7. Your life does not start from scratch, nor is it a blank book, but a chapter in the great book that began generations ago.

▶️ Are you ready to access the potential that Family Constellation can provide you? Schedule your session at the Bio link.



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