Rekha Kurup

I have been on a social media fast for last 2-3 weeks and enjoying the recovered time and space.

Making a peekaboo as I realized I hadn't notified those who read what I post. Will be continuing with it for now. You can reach out to me on email or whatsapp or my podcast which I am hoping to get more active with.

Blessed be...
Rekha Kurup

This year we do not celebrate Vishu as we are in the observance of P**a and yet, there is light in the altar as a remembrance of the delicateness of life. Life is precious and takes effort to live in a kind, humble and compassionate way.

Today is observed as the beginning of new Solar Zodiac Wheel with Aries, Spring Harvest Festival, and it is celebrated across the breadth and expanse of India in different ways.

Vishu for people of Kerala.
Baisakhi in punjab.
Poila Boishak in West Bengal.
Puthandu in Tamil Nadu, Andhra Pradesh and Telangana...
Bohag Bihu in Assam.

And everyone has their own way of celebrating this day

In Kerala we welcome the early dawn with Kanni - seeing everything auspicious, and in the old days post Kani the first paddy crop was put into the land .

May this day remind us to return to ordinary life and living on this earth.

This land of Earth, it's waters, it's vegetation, and weather has nourished us for eons. My wish...

May we learn to take only what is enough from Earth, and return to living a simple life on earth just like the rest of the species.

May we treat each other with kindness and May we share.

May we recognise that this Earth belongs to all. It's not an object and it's not property

May Nature rightfully claim and take back what is hers when we cross that line.

I agree to the consequences of that for all of us.
I agree to my fate and place in this human forgetfulness and taking more than its share.

Blessed be .
Rekha ❤️

The first book in the series is now available on notion press. It's a book I deeply cherish . Every word holds many truths of my life. I offer it to you.

Best Explanation of Addiction you can ever find.
If you have an addiction - whatever it may be - know that it is doing something for you - it is taking care of a absence - a missing need. The opposite of any addiction is Connection.

"A sense of deficient emptiness pervades our entire culture. The drug addict is more painfully conscious of this void than most people and has limited means of escaping it. The rest of us find other ways of suppressing our fears of emptiness, or of distracting ourselves from it… To a lesser degree, behavioral addictions (read: Internet addiction) are also a response to this terror of the void." — In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts

Watch this video and may it open more compassion towards your addiction. That is where we can begin the journey
towards connection.

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today I chanced upon this movie...It opened so many memories for me of a time when Doordarshan was the only entertainment. Life was simpler. People were simpler. I am from that era. Farouq Sheikh represented that time and era. It is a feeling that is left in those timelines...

As I watch this video, something in me weeped many tears of a time that will only be savoured in memory of people, places, quietness, connection and simply being with each other without rhyme or reason. It will not return.

I had completely forgotten this movie and this song...

Seene Mein Jalan (With Dialogue & Vinyl Rip) - Gaman (1978) Suresh Wadkar / Jaidev / Shahryar 𝐆𝐇𝐀𝐙𝐀𝐋 𝐖𝐈𝐓𝐇 𝐃𝐈𝐀𝐋𝐎𝐆𝐔𝐄𝐆𝐚𝐦𝐚𝐧 (𝟐𝟒 𝐎𝐜𝐭𝐨𝐛𝐞𝐫, 𝟏𝟗𝟕𝟖 𝐅𝐢𝐥𝐦)𝐏𝐥𝐚𝐲𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐒𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫 - 𝐒𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐡 𝐖𝐚𝐝𝐤𝐚𝐫 (𝐒𝐮𝐫𝐞?...

Yesterday I had the honour of presenting a seminar for (International Systemic COnstellation Association) India on the
Early Interrupted Reaching Out Movement (IROM). Thank you , our ISCA India head for this opportunity.

IROM is one of the most complex dynamics that plays out into adulthood. I recognise that everyone in this modern life and living carries consequences of this early interruption. This early interruption emerges in the parent child relationship when needs were not met for the child or it were met in a toxic or ambiguous ways.

This shows up in Adulthood in relationships when we need to reach out and take in and from life and relationships. In this boundary of relationships we are unable to fully meet our needs as an emotionally mature functioning Adult and then we donot experience the wholeness of connection.

In those moments very like we drop into different ego states..

- the body of a wounded child (making ourself or the other wrong) or
- the body of an adaptive or coping adult - being what the other or the environment demands ( hide our inside, do more, resort to additive behaviour, try for perfection, pleasing the other, so on).

In either cases our needs will continue to go unmet or not get met.

Often our focus is on changing the other, the situation and alas, that is again attention away from ourselves. And all these ways our needs continue to get skipped in the moment.

In Constellation work we can begin to recognise this interruption and begin the movement of taking a small step towards experiencing the pain of our early interruption and slowly begin to meet it eyes open. It requires incredible courage, strength, patience and compassion, and sometimes we have to develop that first to go there.

In the seminar I shared many of these points and also, some of my own movements of meeting my interruption.

How do I say YES to life just the way it meets me everyday?

How do I show in the boundaries of relationships and say

"Here I am. This is how it is for me. How is it for you? What do You and I hold between us? What is possible between us? "

Blessed be.

You are all invited to join on the Feminine Energy podcast on 19th March at 11 AM IST as Caroline (podcast host) and myself deepen into conversations around the intersections of Womben and Earth rooted Spirituality, Rites and Rituals, Matriarchy, Yoga and more.

The Feminine Energy podcast with Guest Rekha urup

QUEENS - Disney+Hotstar
If you haven't started watching it, you have to.

Queens is an epic six-part natural history docuseries that has just come on Disney Hotstar. It is the best offering for woman's day. It follows six powerful sisterhoods in animal communities and sheds light on their unique feminine behaviours.

I watched the first episode on the sisterhood behaviour in lioness and hyenas. My tears just flowed and I was soo deeply moved.

What touched me deeply are the movements of Greater soul, and Orders of Love and Life as Bert Hellinger discovered and emerged in the work of Family Constellation therapy and philosophy.
It is so easy to see the movement of Greater Love in Nature through the animals and how love may flow back inspite of relationships moving through the greatest of challenges, killings, loss and pain.
Bert encouraged the practice of conscious forgetfulness as I have also, read In John Donovans philosophy. I can see how that facilitates flow of love in primary relationships.

Maybe i will screen it and we can watch it together.

“One birth has been given to you by your parents, the other birth is waiting. It has to be given to you by yourself. You have to father and mother yourself”.
- OSHO, Indian Philosopher

Interrupted Reaching Out Movement (IROM) is a simple phrase for a complex dynamic occurrence in our inner landscape.

IROM originates from a disruption in the flow of love in the relationship between parent and child in the early years of development. It can lead to a reduced capacity in adulthood for being present in ones life and feeling primary emotions of fear, sadness, anger, joy, care, play, etc. This makes relationships in adulthood be it with oneself, others, and the world difficult, and in many cases constricts the natural capacity for self autonomy, self authority and self-reliance

This is often revealed in constellation in the inability of the adult child to go towards the parent or the parent turned away from the child. Constellation facilitates re-entering this trance like connection of the child with the representatives of the parent, and returning back to feelings and primary emotions in the here and now. It is a Soul movement - Life movement being restored phenomenologically.

In this short session, we will make space to understand this IROM movement, and the way back of meeting and including the feelings and primary emotions.

This session is hosted as part of ISCA India.
Registration for this event is a must.
For more information, you may email [email protected]

Register using
https://forms.gle/Pu4oybj6T3yWkyHR8

FYI- you are trained in Constellation wisdom and practice, I would highly recommend being a member of ISCA.

Today after a long time I grabbed a copy of my first published book, and started reading again. It blows me away everytime the path that opened and pulled me towards it in 2010.

You are all invited.

I will be hosting a free workshop on the Hellinger constellation theme of Interrupted Reaching Out Movements as part of ISCA India regional body.

Registration is mandatory.
Kindly whatsapp 9831052297 or
mail at [email protected] for registration and the link.

Today I want to acknowledge and celebrate every Womban who prioritises rest - slowing down - pausing - relaxing - lazing - reflecting - resourcing - regulating and taking care of her own mental emotional needs over and inspite of everything external .

Today I want to acknowledge and celebrate every Womban who is able to use words aNd phrases like NO, blood, menstruation, Womb, va**na, cl****is, desire, sexuality, passion, wetness, aroused, angry and anger, fear, danger, threat, back off, give me space, see you later, not now, cannot do it, I don't know, I donot want to know, I disagree, I agree,I donot need it, can I have that, , thank you sorry without making herself wrong.

Today I want to acknowledge and celebrate every Womban who chooses and is able to stand in her own knowing and be herself just the way she knows without making the other, the world, culture, religion wrong or right on anyway.

Today I want to acknowledge and celebrate every Womban who chooses her inner truth and her integrity over name, fame, recognition, acknowledgement, money...

Today I want to acknowledge and celebrate every Womban who chooses to get down into the pain, meet the exile, acknowledge the personality of her protectors and continue including all aspects of her inner landscape without making herself wrong or right in it, and she who is able to mirror courage and compassion towards herself and everyone else however they may be.

I celebrate you..
I acknowledge you.
I see you.
It is hard sometimes and yet, we are doing it.
And that's what matters because
You Matter
You are Important
You Deserve it.

A rare day of holding Shakti and Shiva together as women's day and Shivrathri meet each other.

Through the day as you gear up to celebrate the Light of Shakti and her immeasurable doings may the evening support you to also, take off the masks of the day - step out of the doings to meet Shiva - the quiet Being space of rest, regulation, and restorying of the doing. May that open the possibility of a conscious integrated fresh new beginning.

Shiva and Shakti have to be cyclically met.
Shakti moves in Shiva and is resources in
Shiva even when Shiva is unseen, invisible and appearing as No-thing.

Happy Womans Day and Blessed Shivrathri.

Image - coming together of my art.

I love creating reflection workbooks that support people to explore and integrate their relationship with life in different ways. My first book of a six-part Return Home workbook Series emerging collectively as Being Earth, Living Human is now published.

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It invites you to explore yourself as an integral interconnected aspect of Nature. It consists of five sections. It introduces you to Nature and its elemental nature, the qualities of nature, its laws, its rhythm, it’s metamorphic pitstops, and the constitutional makeup of its formation. It offers various moments to pause and reflect on the learning, and make it your own in your own time and space. I see this book as a fun explorative beginning. Make it your own. Know nature, and build your unique connection with Nature.
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In India, it is Available on Pothi: https://store.pothi.com/book/rekha-govindan-kurup-book-one-laying-foundation/

In US, Available on AMazon.com: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CVHBTSYH?ref_=pe_93986420_774957520

Book One - Laying the Foundation: Receiving Nature as the Rhythmic Inner Navigational Compass Book One - Laying the Foundation: Receiving Nature as the Rhythmic Inner Navigational Compass

One of the articles that has held the voice of humanity in the writing. Thank you Brené Brown

And for me these have implored me more and more to look inhouse - the happenings on my own land in the way the majority and minority narratives are getting polarized, manipulated and all the geo-political influence in steering the conflict. We all need to start focusing on the issues at hand and bringing a humane lens to it.

Everyone has a right to exist on this earth.
Earth is not anyone's property..
All borders of land are manmade and while it's needed, we need to understand its purpose needs to be to include and support life and not to exclude, limit or eliminate life for any reason or cause.

Terrorism more than elimination needs a different movement. It exists because it also exists in each one of us in someway. Terrorism is a testimony to the collective terror, anger, hatred of some ounce that we all carry within. It might be towards our own family systems or others. It's hi time we gather to name, heal and integrate this terror within.

If we are unable to do that I believe very strongly that Universe will bring forces outside of Earth to unite us. Maybe only then we will understand the value of all life on earth.

Blessed be.
Rekha

Not Looking Away - Brené Brown Sharing my beliefs and thoughts on the Israel-Hamas war. They don’t fit on an Instagram square, and many of you may find them naïve or conflicting or not enough. That’s OK. These ideas are based on my experiences, my faith, and my values.

Greater Love is held through the Orders of Love.
When we agree to what it demands and refrain from doing what it forbids, Greater Love as an experjence meets us in the here and now. It is a journey of radical inclusion of everything and everyone in the here and now exactly as they are and it is.

Join me for an online experience of Family Constellation wisdom, experience and learning reflection this month.

Only 12 spots total.

The Erotic is the most intimate essence of Prakruthi. My salutations to the erotic and Prakruthi through my womb.

Thichambaram Krishna Temple in Taliparamba - many of ny summer holidays were spent in close proximity of this temple. There is a deep familiarity in the pace of life, the people and it feels like a constellation I am part of.

Life seems to be in standstill here - hardly much has changed. The slow pace of life, the conversations that flow into my ears, the comfort of the female and male bodies in proximity of each other, curiosity in the eyes of the people looking at me.

The p**l payasam of this temple is divine ambrosia in its taste. Many sweet memories here.

The smell of ucha prasadam in terms of Sambar nourishes my nose . Yummmm...

Dogs are lazing comfortably
Grannies are chatting. Some are chanting.
Families are sitting around.
Men are in conversation .
And then there are solo individuals like men and women scattered around the temple - quietly sitting.

Deep sense of peace and contentment.
So grateful for the pace here...may it continue to exist thru many more life times of generations.

Blessed be...

Merry Christmas to Everyone.

Hope you are easing into this Winter evening, and allowing life to touch you in myriad ways.

Winter brings the gift of stillness, spaciousness and silence in Nature. When we allow ourselves to sit in a space of non-doing, we also recognise it's echoes in our inside.

Heart sings with deep gratitude to be here on earth held within her cyclic rhythms of life.

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Leaving you with a quote from Bert Hellinger on Gratitude that was recently shared by his wife, Sophie.
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"Gratitude means to take what is given to me, to hold it carefully in my hands, to take it into me, into my heart until I feel it inside. Now it is a part of me and gratitude also means to transform what has been given to me and has become a part of me into an action that lets others benefit from what has enriched me. Only then does what has been given to me reach its fulfillment."
- Bert Hellinger, Developer of Systemic Theory and Practice of Family Constellation

May the spirit of giving bring gratitude for all that you have already received.

May this gratitude flow forward through your hands and heart to continue this giving .....

Blessed be.
Rekha ❤️🙏

Remembrance wisdom -
Everything is forever re-Freshed here.

Today in the rhythmic cycle of earth is the 11th day of Waxing moon (Ekadashi) in the Sidereal Sagittarius Sun (fire - light of knowledge).

This Ekadashi is celebrated as Vaikuntha Ekadashi and is one of the most auspicious days of the year for fasting, meditating, self inquiry. Vaikuntha means that space or place bereft of Sorrow or sadness in our inside. Fasting on this day strengthens that aspect in our inside and dawns wisdom and knowledge.

Today is also Winter Solstice marking the longest night of the year. We pass this and then light begins to increase in the northern hemisphere as earth and sun shift in relationship to each other.

Ancients around the world have celebrated these timelines as rites of passage gateways.

Dark-death holds the movement of life tightly for a duration, and then releases its hold and everything flows again.
Life - Light begins to ascend slowly again with the remembrance of dark-death with it.

So wishing you all this remembrance. Joy and Sorrow cycle here and there is something beyond it all that witnesses it's passing. Behold that and life moves forward every moment.
There is no stuckness.
There is no lapse here.

We are fresh again.
Blessed be.
Rekha Kurup

While you may have known Bhaya or Fear very well in your body, have you known Abhaya - Absence of Fear in your body.
Abhaya is not fearlessness - it is literally the absence of fear. That is only possible in the knowing of Presence.
Abhaya is not larger than life.
Abhaya is available only in the ordinary, the simple, the humble, the light.
Abhaya is available in the Bow - I bow to what is...

May we know Abhaya..

Gratitude to the Presence of Thich Nhat Hanh ...

Practicing Non Fear | Teaching by Thich Nhat Hanh This short film will also be available on the FREE Plum Village App. It is part of a new series of videos -- Wake Up films -- inspired by the spiritual teach...

Have you read the legend of the Pied Piper of Hamelin (town in Germany) about a Piper who was hired by the town to catch rats because of his ability to lure things thru his magic Song on his pipe. On completion of his task, when the townspeople refused him payment, he lured all the children of the town to their death into the river thru the same magic Song. As a young person when I read this story in school, it was quite shocking as to what kind of story this is. The morality explained to me then didn't quite add up.

And now I relate the Pied Piper legend with the systemic conscience.

Conscious is this feeling within us . Its purpose is to inform when r Belonging within a particular system is secure or endangered. When r belonging within a group is secure, v feel the innocence conscience. V perceive ourselves as wonderful, nice and, good. When r belonging is threatened, v feel the guilt conscience. V get overwhelmed. V perceive ourselves as bad and want to change our ways to move into the innocence conscience and belong.

What Bert showed us is that this conscience is not just individual, it is also systemic meaning the entire system or group is driven/taken by the systemic unconscious conscience. This systemic conscience is way more powerful than the individual. It's purpose is to keep the entire system together, and individuals donot stand a chance when in its grip. Just like the Piped Pier of Hamelin, the systemic or family conscience can lead us away from our souls path sometimes with destructive consequences.

Bert Hellinger developed the practice of Family Constellation which brings this to light, and that requires to resource into an even larger conscience that includes all - The Spiritual Conscience or Greater Love.

And to know the Spiritual Conscience, we need to know and deepen into the phenomenological path. It is different from a scientific path. It requires and asks us to see the totality of things, people and situations instead of individual parts, and to have our attention wide open and to perceive what is essential, and to leave behind the details.

Today I will be hosting a session on binds and bonds of the conscience at 6pm IST. Msg me.

Bert Hellinger (16 Dec , 1925 - 19th Sep, 2019).

I have read the most insightful stories in the writings of Bert. His stories open you to silence. It takes you deep quietness. There is nothing more to be said.

Something inside has moved beyond your understanding and comprehension.

I am sharing one such story on FREEDOM that I go to again and again. Now the phrases from this story echo on its own in my inside when I am at a crossroads or grappling with the binds and bonds of conscience.

***** Freedom *******

A disciple asked his teacher,
"Tell me what freedom is."
"Which freedom?" asked the teacher.

"The first freedom is foolishness. That's like a horse that throws its rider with a triumphant whinny, only to feel the saddle girth pulled tighter.

"The second freedom is remorse. Remorse is like the helmsman who goes down with the ship after he has sailed it onto a reef, rather than seek safety in
the lifeboat with the others.

"The third freedom is insight. Insight comes, alas, only after foolishness and remorse. It's like a shaft of wheat that bends in the wind, and because it bends where it's weak, endures."

The disciple asked, "Is that all?"

The teacher said, "Many think they're seeking the truth of their own soul, but it's the Greater Soul that thinks and seeks in them. Like nature, it tolerates
many deviations, but replaces with ease those who dare to violate its truth. But to those who allow it to think in them, it allows in turn a little freedom,
helping them like a river helps a swimmer cross to the other shore if he surrenders to the current, and allows himself to be swept along.”

Today is the 98th Birthday of Bert Hellinger, discoverer of Family Constellation philosophy and the founder of constellation practice of connecting with the knowing field in a way that is phenomenological and in the here and now.

Even though I have never met him, I feel a deep kinship with his spirit and I gather and receive the flow of his blessings everyday in a way that moves me, nourishes me, and supports me to be on my path of discovery and to continue to move forward in life forever on the journey of walking ones inner truth.

His life journey has supported me to find deep peace and agreeing with who I am and my own life path of continuously choosing to leave behind groups, professions, communities and theories when outgrowing their boundaries, always swapping a lesser conscience for a bigger, more inclusive one - that which unites rather than separates.

The greatest gift of his work has been staying rooted on the ground, in awe of ordinary doing, and in agreement with life exactly as it has come to me thru my parents, my system, my land, my country.
I am guided everyday to see the whole picture - the multidimensional truth where there are no rights or wrongs - everything is as is, and I bow down to that which I cannot comprehend, that which is painful, that which is too much.

I drop again and again my need to understand.

Thank you Bert for showibf me the way to myself, showering me with your blessings and Including me just the way I am.

I continue to walk further in and on my life path.
I will continue to meet life in the way it meets me.
I will continue to expand and deepen rooted on the ground.

I am grateful to be on this earth at this time, and will do my bidding while here and when it is time to leave, I will also, say Farewell Life - it was absolutely an honour knowing and living you.

Blessed be.

Join us today at 6 PM IST for the last constellation seminar I am hosting for the year, 2023.

REGISTER & GET THE LINK
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZUsdeiorzMrGtATEVC_1vERuoy3pfhma9pF

The deep-rooted threads of Desi Happy Childhood/Happy Family are held within the cultural - godly myths of our land. Till we begin to unpack it there, we will not be able to meet it in our own inside and in those around us.

Today I am opening this with you... the Myth of Desi Happy Childhood/Happy Family....the consequences, and the price we pay to keep this myth alive and functioning

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Highlight of this was creating a podcast. Over the last few months I have not been consistent with it. Still, I am so proud of myself for putting my voice out there.

For everyone who listened and became a fan,

THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART.

I am coming back stronger, clearer and in my Power with so much more to share.

*reposting again with change in date from 9th to 16tj December.

16th December is the Birthday of Bert Hellinger, founder of Constellation work, and it is my hearts wish to host it on that day thus session on Bonds and Binds of Conscience.

Conscience is one of my most favorite topic. It exerts deep pull and push in our inside influencing our belonging, balance of giving and taking and finding safety and connection within order.

Now more than ever before we need to understand the binds and bonds of conscience that grip our soul tightly within our family systems, groups, countries in the experience of belonging, giving and taking and experience social structure and stability.

We will feel it's pangs as Guilt when we feel our inclusion, our ability to give or take and safety within our systems may get compromised in anyway. And to avoid that and feel innocent again, we might choose to exclude, behave with indifference, even feel justified in acts of annihilation of those outside of our system/groups. Conscience is a powerful force when Unacknowledged and unrecognised.

Look around you right now.
Can you recognise the binds and bonds of conscience playing out?

What are the levels of conscience?
How do we mature the experience of conscience to see and include beyond our systems and groups?
What does that look like?

We will explore some of these questions and experiences in this series.

To attend, email to [email protected] for zoom link.