The Relationship Loft

In *healthy* partnership, there’s zero room for double standards. Whatever standards you hold your partner to, you must hold yourself to. Whatever you ask of your partner, you must ask of yourself. Healthy marriage is about the being the actual embodiment of the values you say you have and becoming the person who is in alignment with the powerful, unshakeable marriage you say you want. You must Become the person you’re asking your partner to Be. You can only ask for what you yourself are willing to become.

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Extreme pain instills a fear of death within you.

And therefore, it transforms you. (If you allow it to.)

That includes any kind of pain. We want to avoid it at all cost in this life but the fact of the matter is: we can't.

Pain is a part of life. And we are going to experience it. There's no escaping it.

The best thing we can do with it is allow it to transform us.

No matter what kind of pain it is.

Physical pain.
Emotional pain.
Mental pain.
Spiritual pain.
Relational pain.
Marital pain.

All lead you to a very dark night of the soul.

Where the fear of death of some kind, gut-punches you. At least temporarily.

The death of your physical body.
The death of a loved one.
The death of your health as you knew it.
The death of your life as you knew it.
The death of your mind.
The death of a religious practice.
The death of the old version of you.
The death of a relationship.
The death of a marriage.

The fear takes over and the mind and body are a slave to that fear until you come out of it.

How do you come out of it?

You pray.
You ask for help.
You receive help.
You cry.
You rest.
You meditate.
You practice self hypnosis.
You rest some more.
You cry some more.
You learn some new skills, tools, and modalities to implement that will help you.
You hire an expert to help you.
You journal.
You make sense of it all.
You ask yourself the question of: "how is this serving me and what am I learning from this?" (You WILL be able to come up with several ways, I promise you.)

You practice patience with yourself and the people around you. (Because these time periods are hard for everyone going through it with you, and you will all struggle with nervous system dysregulation more than usual during these time periods of pain.)

You tell yourself that you are powerful and that you love yourself on repeat - through the tears whenever the fear comes up for you - allowing yourself to FEEL everything, let it move through you, and at the same time remind yourself that you are safe, you're going to figure this out, and that this too shall pass. (Because it always passes.)

And once it passes, you unpack it, and you learn all of the lessons to carry fourth with you into the rest of your lifetime as knowledge and wisdom that nobody can take away from you.

Your pain is a gift in the end. And it is an inescapable one.

Allow it to change you for the better.
Allow it to serve you.
Allow it to teach you.
Allow it to make you the next best version of yourself.
And allow it to teach you how to love yourself and the ones you love even better.

Allow the transformation. Because it's why you're here after all.

This week for spring break, people will invest THOUSANDS on travel, and come home and invest ZERO on the healing, restoration, and transformation of the one thing that effects every area of their life and their children's lives: THEIR MARRIAGE.

Thing that makes no sense 👆🏼👆🏼👆🏼

I don't know who needs to hear and see this reminder, but, Happy Sunday!

Remember, your healing is the most important work in your lifetime and for the evolution of your soul.

There are LOTS of ways to heal yourself. You just have to find the teachers, the modalities, and the healing work that resonates with You!

Here's a hint: whatever is calling to you in your heart and spirit - is always right! It is also the stuff that will heal you❤️

When you look through the lens of sucking at everything in life, and you constantly question yourself, that's no way to live. When you look through that lens, you can't enjoy life at all and you're going to constantly be looking outside of yourself for approval, for affirmation, for love, for dopamine and oxytocin hits, and everything and anything that makes you feel good.

Because you don't value and love yourself.

It's why so many people stay busy.
It's why so many people drink alcohol.
It's why so many people take drugs.
It's why so many people have affairs.
It's why so many people gamble.
It's why so many people watch p**n.
It's why so many people overeat.

It's why so many people are absolutely anxiety ridden, depressed, doing way too much, and overwhelmed in life.

Because they have something to prove.

And that something is their value and their worth.

You. Must. Heal.
You. Must. Learn. To. Love. Yourself.

It's not optional if you want to create a life and relationships you absolutely love and are happy inside of.

Each day that you keep putting off the work of healing and loving yourself, is another day you've spent in internal misery that you can never get back.

Create Joy in your life! That's what it's all about!! The days of you questioning yourself, your value, your talent, and your amazingness 24-7 gotta go, gotta go!

Shoot me a DM if you're ready to heal yourself and heal your marriage❤️

YOU MUST PLUG INTO LOVE IF YOU EVER WANT TO TRULY EXPERIENCE IT

When you plug into the frequency of love, you attract it❤️ And it’s the most powerful, wonderful thing in the world.

If you’re doing it right, you are constantly becoming newer, better versions of yourselves TOGETHER. Healing, growing, and building TOGETHER.

We were just two normal people, both single parents when we met, we were both working hard to take care of our kids as the breadwinners.

We both had a real love for our love and for personal development.

Which is why our world-class coaching company is all about relationship and marriage development. Our whole entire lives are devoted to this mission which has become our lifestyle.

We have been healing and growing together side by side for over 12 years, pouring everything into ourselves and our craft.

We have sacrificed and built this thing from the ground up and have been in mentorship training and practice nearly the entire time together.

What we’ve learned in the last 12 years together is astounding. The world needs to know what we know because it would literally save thousands of families and probably lives.

None of us are taught how to have healthy, happy relationships. We are taught how to have toxic, dysfunctional ones.

None of us are taught how to be happy, let go of, and heal our trauma. We are taught how to be stressed, anxiety ridden, addicted, and hold onto our past until we are sick.

So we have to learn how to heal ourselves and our relationships. On a daily basis. With practical tools that work.

Which is what our love teaches others how to do❤️❤️

Book an appointment with us today here: https://therelationshiploftbooknow.as.me/60minutes