The 4th Trimester with Enedina Robles, LCSW

Sharing another great parenting resource (especially for our own inner child). Its a great audio book for parents who already are super busy and may not have the time to read a physical book. It’s truly a guide book for feeling good inside and raising little humans who will also learn to feel good inside. ❤️

Book - Good Inside Parenting strategies robust enough to tackle your biggest challenges, but simple enough to remember. #1 New York Times Bestseller

Not my image, but definitely my story. Yours?

If I Had Given Him Just One Bottle, He Would Still Be Alive - Her View From Home Written By: Jillian Johnson with commentary by Dr. Christie Del Castillo-Hegyi Article originally published on fedisbest.org Landon would be five today if he were still alive. It’s a very hard birthday–five. It’s a milestone birthday. Most kiddos would be starting kindergarten at this age. But...

Wow!

It takes a lot of energy to create life, and now, scientists are saying it takes significantly more than they originally believed.

Research shows that demands 50,000 dietary calories over the course of nine months, 96% of that energy is required entirely from the mother. FYI, that’s roughly 50 pints of Ben & Jerry’s 🍦

Mamas and soon-to-be-mamas? Take a nap—this. is. not. easy!

👉 Study published in the journal Science, reported by The New York Times

To all mothers, Happy Mother’s Day!

A beautiful event taking place this morning zia Zoom. A replay will be available for those who cant attend live.

May this Mother’s Day provide healing, warmth, and be all that you need.

Healing for Motherless Daughters: Finding Comfort & Support Amidst Loss Experience love and support with others like you. Connect with your Mother, Inner Child, and learn how to Mother the child within.

I see you. I was you. I made meaning out of my postpartum depression and anxiety by working thru it and now sitting with others to support them in doing the same.

If you need help, please reach out.

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66% of parents feel isolated or alone in their experiences. Would you agree? How do you combat parenting isolation/loneliness?

New Data Reveals The Unexpected Feeling 66% Of Parents Experience Regularly A survey has shed light on the demands of parenthood and why some parents find it isolating.

The finished cycle notification sound on my new dryer sounds like an ice cream truck from the 80s. My conditioned brain is disappointed that its just clothes needing to be folded. 🤦🏽‍♀️ Hope your day is filled with glimmer memories.

Anyone else?

100%

After having a child, I realized that society often believes mothers can't:

- Complain (Who told you to have kids?)
- Cry (Why are you crying? Did you think it would be easy?)
- Get tired (Of what? You do nothing!)
- Sleep (You're lazy!)
- Rest (You'll have plenty of time for that after they grow up.)
- Get pregnant again (Are you crazy? How many more kids do you want?)
- Quit work (How will you support your child?)
- Work (Who will take care of the child?)
- Leave them at nursery (Don't let others raise your child!)
- Be a housewife (Poor husband, who works hard while his wife stays at home!)
- Be single (No one wants a woman with children.)
- Go out for fun (Why are you leaving your child with grandma to have fun?)
And you know what's worse?
90% of these phrases are spoken by other women.

Let's learn to be more supportive of each other. I'm human, and I love my kids, but I've felt all these emotions at some point.

Credit: A Woman's Mind

Light it up!

I just spit out my coffee!

Doomscrolling?

Keep reading….

Q: "How is doomscrolling protective? I can't seem to stop."
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A: Doomscrolling is a way of perpetuating the disconnect and disconnect is a self-protective mechanism.
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Why is this?
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At any given moment, the system intelligently assesses
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- your needs (including the unmet needs)
- your emotions (including emotional wounds)
- your embodied resources ( awareness, perspective, presence, self-regulation)
​..and decides that what is present internally (mentally, emotionally, somatically) is too much for the level of resources the system has or it can process.
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When the system is low on resources to modulate the internal experience, it disconnects through doomscroling, binge eating, etc. These behaviors compensate for the lack of embodied resources.
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From the perspective of your mind, doomscrolling might be an unhealthy behavior that you rationally know is not good and want to stop.
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But from the perspective of your nervous system, doomscrolling is a temporary way to soothe, cope with overwhelm and pain and gain a temporary sense of control.
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Doomscrolling protects your nervous system from not being completely shuttered by the internal experience.
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While a coping behavior might help the system cope, it is also the primary way of perpetuating the pain.
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PRACTICE
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Notice what you feel in your body when the urgency to doomscroll appears and while doom scrolling. What is the dominant feeling or emotion in your body? Bring awareness to that. That is the emotion/experience that the behavior protects your nervous system from. The nervous system needs more attunement, resources and safety to start feeling that...little bit at a time.
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The book Embodied Healing has a whole chapter on The Protective System, offering insights and tools to work with the system and not against it. Link in bio to get your copy.
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Love,
Ally.

Such a great episode on Mom rage. This episode will have a greater impact if it is shared with your parenting partner.

‎We Can Do Hard Things: 274. What Is Our Rage Telling Us? with Dr. Becky Kennedy on Apple Podcasts ‎Show We Can Do Hard Things, Ep 274. What Is Our Rage Telling Us? with Dr. Becky Kennedy - Jan 22, 2024

Such a beautiful reminder for all of us.

2011 Lesson #2 : Don’t Carpe Diem Every time I’m out with my kids – this seems to happen:An older woman stops us, puts her hand over her heart and says something like, “Oh- Enjoy every moment. This ...