Counseling with Kailey

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Being resilient doesn’t mean not experience stress and suffering, it’s more so the ability to work through such experiences & allowing it to shape you for the better

There is great power in feeling understood, seen, and accepted by someone, even more so by the creator. There is so much more to experiencing God’s peace than we often realize, but its there and available, a matter of training our brains to attune to it. Thanks .brainskills for continued resources to learn these kinds of transformative skills!

It’s one thing to think it, then to write it, then to hear yourself speak it! We are made to share our experiences with others, and sharing the experiences that bring you peace and joy with others who celebrate that with you, can maximize the benefits of dwelling in things that are good, pure, excellent, worthy of praise and thinking on! Dwelling on the good stuff with others who want to dwell on that too, does something really good for your brain. It’s the fuel your brain needs to function it’s best!

Empathy is a skill that can help heal, mend, and repair broken hearts, grieving hearts, and relationships in need of remedy

Fixed mindset leads to a dead end, growth mindset leads to opportunity and possibility. Example: “this is too hard verse this is a challenge I can overcome” see the difference?

I was talking with someone who shared this short, but impactful insight. What if we took a little more time to believe in each other? Let’s not underestimate the act of “I believe in you” or actions that tangibly live out a message to another person of “I believe in you”

Thank you for this inspiration. We need more of this good stuff to spread.

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Friends, we need more humility and vulnerability like this. Immaturity is not to be ashamed of, so much of our maturity depends on what influences we had around us growing up. Have compassion and grace on yourself and others, be the person who values personal maturity growth and self awareness. It will pay off :)

“Peaceful rest” Jewish culture continues to practice rest from sundown to sundown on a weekly basis. There are studies that show giving yourself a day of rest increases joy, helps with mental/emotional well-being. Practicing a rest day once a week Friday sundown to Saturday sundown is a rhythm I am incorporating into my weekly routine and can hardly wait to get started. Tomorrow I look forward to peaceful rest. What does peaceful rest practically look like to you?

Research shows that people respond much more to nonverbal communication than literal words. Woah! How you “communicate” with your body language matters

Our brains are neuroplastic meaning, able to adapt, grow, and change! It doesn’t matter how much hurt or trauma you’ve experienced, it doesn’t matter what habits you have going on, positive growth and change for the better is possible with the right nourishment and pruning on what you think, how you behave, and what you believe 🤍

Becoming outward focused is a form of behavioral activation, a type of therapy method that truly does help us move out of the pit of depression. Perhaps it’s being a listening ear to a friend, maybe it’s cooking a meal for someone else. God has created you in such a way where loving others is truly a form of natural medication for yourself, too. How cool is that?

secure relationships are crucial for healthy character development. We need communities and relationships that share “chesed” love, a love that is abounding in mercy and grace, where brokenness is welcomed, and people are seen not for what broken behavior they have, but for who they’re created to be, where relationships stay bigger than the problem behavior, that’s where character growth can flourish

One way we have opportunity to deepen character through perseverance is to pay attention to how God is shaping you through it all. In a similar fashion we learn a skill, by paying attention to the details and what is required, we also form our character 🤍

sometimes we let our thoughts run without realizing the impact of it on our daily functioning. this can either help us move forward or hinder the forward movement. When it comes to pain, uncomfortable memories, suffering, those can be exasperated into more pain, discomfort, and prolonged suffering if we aren’t careful to pay attention to what we are dwelling on. When I see scripture encouraging us to focus on truth, honorable things, just things, pure things, lovely things, commendable things, excellent things, things worthy of praise, there is a brain science reality to this, too. Dwelling on these things helps us move through the joyous and long suffering times, building a perseverance and hopefulness if we allow for it. It’s hard work, and worthy of pursuing. Something I would like to mature and grow into more, too 🤍

we aren’t made to numb, we’re made to move through. We are made to move through suffering with community that soothes and perseveres with us

Sitting with someone in their distress can help “lift” some of that heaviness. The experience of not being alone in one’s suffering is a a gift we can give to each other

We call it box breathing because you count by 4’s, 4 times like a square.
4 seconds inhale, 4 seconds hold your breath, 4 seconds exhale, 4 seconds hold your breath. Keep that up for two minutes straight and your nervous system will reset to a more rested and calm state 🤍 try it before you sleep or during the day and notice how your body feels after

Practical way to start increasing your capacity for joy is to practice gratitude for a few minutes a day - it makes a big psychological difference over time, friend!

Let’s be quick to listen and slow to assume!