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THERE WILL BE SOME VERY PAINFUL MOMENTS IN YOUR LIFE

There will be some very painful moments in your life my friend.
There will be moments, days even,
when the sun doesn’t seem to rise in your sky
and the breath feels sucked right out of your lungs.
When food has no taste, the world has no joy
and everything seems like an effort too far.
Yes, my friend, there will be very painful moments in your life.

But you will get through them,
‘This too shall pass.’
Because life has a way of throwing you a rope,
just at the very moment when you thought,
you couldn’t swim another stroke.
All you have to do is grab it.

And one day, as is the way of this life,
the sun will suddenly beat down on your face again
and the air will feel fresher than it ever did.
And there will be laughter.
And love.
And joy.
So much joy.
And life will be sweet, like summer after a long winter.
A winter that was so dark each colour that appears,
feels like the first time you are seeing it.

This is when you must live, really live.

For, just as the bad times do not last forever,
neither do the good,
‘This too shall pass.’
But that is life.
So, embrace the joy when it comes and let fear slide away.
And when the dark times come around again,
and they will,
remember you have what you need to survive.
And you will survive my friend, you really will.

Keep the important people close,
focus on what truly matters
and you will find yourself dragged to safety,
each and every time the storms come.

And on those days,
when your sun is high in the sky
but you notice another facing bad weather,
you drop your raft and you go to them.
And if they won’t climb in with you, to safety,
you simply stay with them in the stormy water,
till the sun rises again.
And it will.
it always does.

Donna Ashworth
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A wonderful piece (and feature project) by Kate Snow.

Volunteering in your community could help with depression Throughout the Covid-19 pandemic, many people around the world struggled with feelings of isolation from the loss of human connection. NBC News’ Kate Snow shares how volunteering in your community can reduce the risk of mortality and lower feelings of depression.

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And this *especially* applies to kids.

Worse than teaching them to *hide* their mistakes, it teaches them to be *ashamed of* their mistakes... to be ashamed of being human. It's pretty awful and unfair if you think of it that way.

Instead of getting angry... express your distress over how the mistake impacted you. This will teach them that their actions can hurt others, even if they don't intend for them to.

And, if the mistake was due to the way their brain is wired (e.g. due to neurodivergence... like sensory processing disorder, autism, or adhd) for the love of god... give them some grace. And instead of getting mad, help them come up with strategies that can help them not repeat the mistake in the future.

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Anger and Mistakes

"Getting angry at people for making mistakes doesn't teach them not to make mistakes.

It teaches them to hide their mistakes."

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Learning to Feel Again After Childhood Abuse Loss produces pain, so using the term “numbing out” is not a coincidence. So many of the survival strategies used by abused children are meant to do just that—provide a way to numb the pain. You may think you’re avoiding the pain, but you’re not. The pain is still there, affecting what you...

Polyvagal Techniques For Numbness & Dissociation Learn to heal the overwhelmed nervous system after trauma by integrating Dr. Porges’s Polyvagal theory into 10-minute therapies that gently tone the vagus nerve and release trauma from the body.

It's time for everyone to accept that all parents are imperfect flawed human beings. Forgive your parents for their missteps in raising you; they did the best they could.

Science keeps telling us to our children. It's interesting how many scientists are now focusing on the thinking that happens not in your but in your . You have spread through your innards, and there's increasing attention on the vagus nerve, which emerges from the brain stem and wanders across the heart, lungs, kidney and gut.

The nerve is one of the pathways through which the body and brain talk to each other in an unconscious conversation. Much of this conversation is about how we are relating to others. Human thinking is not primarily about individual calculation, but about social engagement and .

Stephen Porges is well-known for his “Polyvagal Theory,” which focuses on how the concept of is fundamental to our mental state. Porges tells us that those who have experienced have bodies that are highly reactive to perceived threat. They don't like public places with loud noises. They live in fight-or-flight mode, stressed and anxious. Or, if they feel trapped and constrained, they go numb. Their voice and tone go flat.

Physical reactions shape our way of seeing and being. When we're really young we know few emotion concepts. Young children say, “I hate you!” when they mean “I don't like this” because they haven't learned their culture's concepts for hatred vs. badness. But as we get older we learn more emotional granularity. The emotionally wise person can create distinct experiences of disappointment, anger, spite, resentment, grouchiness and aggravation, whereas for a less emotionally wise person those are all synonyms for “I feel bad.” A wise person may know the foreign words that express emotions we can't name in English: tocka (Russian, roughly, for spiritual anguish) or litost (Czech, roughly, for misery combined with the hunger for revenge). People with high emotional granularity respond flexibly to life, have better mental health outcomes and drink less.

Cuddles help develop emotional granularity. If bodily reactions can drive people apart they can also heal. Martha Welch of Columbia University points to the importance of loving physical touch to lay down markers of .

Under the old brain-only paradigm, we told people to self-regulate their emotions through conscious self-talk. But real emotional help comes through co-regulation. When a caregiver and a child physically hold each other, their bodily autonomic states harmonise, connecting on a level. Together they move from separate distress to mutual calm.

When we step back and see the brain and body thinking together, the old distinction between reason and emotion doesn't seem to make sense. Our very perceptions of the world are shaped by the predictions our brains are making about our physical autonomic states. And we can also see how important it is to teach emotional granularity, starting from birth.

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Trauma makes you live in 'backwards world.' — Gretchen Schmelzer Normal 0 false false false EN-US JA X-NONE

Another descriptive post about RSD:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/rejection-sensitivity

Rejection Sensitivity Feeling rejected by a friend, family member, or romantic partner is a universally painful experience. Some individuals, however, feel the sting of rejection much more acutely than others and also have an exaggerated fear of being rejected by those around them. These people are said to be high in a t...

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/i-hear-you/202109/why-some-people-are-so-sensitive-rejection
RSM or Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria is more commonly experienced among individuals with ADHD and Autism. It is not a diagnosis you will find in the DSM 5, but take some time to read about this newer label that is helping to organize an internal experience that can shape many behaviors moving forward.

Why Some People Are So Sensitive to Rejection What is rejection sensitive dysphoria, and what can you do about it?

"One of the challenges of life is to become comfortable being uncomfortable as we expand and move into new experiences."
—Sue Krebs

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If trying new things is hard for you, you dislike uncertainty, prefer to be in control of as many variables as possible, and have a very strong desire to be pretty good at something even if it is your first time doing it- you have a lot in common with other people who have too much of a good thing. Over-Control or (OC) folks have high self control, so much so, we are good at letting the world only see our good parts.....no vulnerability, no sir! We are in Week 5 of Radically Open DBT class learning the skill that helps us engage in a new behavior. This blog lays out the elements.

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Judgy Face | Radically Open Lesson 14 in RO-DBT mindfulness teaches awareness of harsh judgments and encourages us to notice our judgmental social signal towards self and others. It asks questions like, “How do I express my harsh judgmental thoughts about others? For example, do I exhibit a flat face, scowl, look away, laugh...

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