Keeley Rankin, MA

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In this Episode, I highlight a key struggle many men face - the inability to be present, especially when it comes to s*x and relationships. We share wisdom on the importance of being in the moment to foster intimacy and connection with a partner.

So whether you’re seeking a more mindful approach to s*x and relationships, or simply interested in an introspective, calming discussion, this episode is a must-listen.

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This seems to be the million dollar question, how to make your s&x life more exciting, intimate and romantic?

S&x is supposed to be an act of LOVE and an important act of intimate connection with your partner. Oftentimes, as we stay with a partner long term that “spark” or “excitement” around s*x can fade or dim.

Swipe to learn 3 ways to reconnect with your partner and start to bring some romance back to your bedroom!

After years and years of research it has been determined that women are less likely to org&sm compared to men. The real question is why this true?

The answer may seem rather simple... The main reason women are struggling to achieve clim&x compared to men is because women require direct c**tor&l caresses to clim&x, and int is focused on the v@ginal pe*******on. Many women are not getting enough direct cl&t action to be able to achieve their org&sm. According to a lot of s&x research, the studies show that only around 25 percent of women are consistently org&smic from just p&nis-v@gina int&rcourse.

This means that in order for more women to achieve their org&sm they need to communicate THEIR needs with their partner to be able to get enough direct cl&t stimulation to org&sm. There are also A LOT of other factors that can be at play here. Is she relaxed enough? Is she turned on enough?

Some other ways to increase the chances of female org&sm beyond the c**t stimulation is:
-passionate kissing
-massage all over the body
-foreplay
-words of positive affirmations

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There’s an overwhelming societal expectation for everyone to excel as lovers in bed. S&x therapy is essentially a tool to help people understand and navigate the often complicated world of s&xuality.

S&x can be a source of joy and inspiration in our lives! And, it’s not always as easy as movies and magazines would like us to believe. When s&x becomes more stressful than fun, it might be time to seek professional help.

Swipe to learn some key ways s&x therapy ACTUALLY WORKS!

All advice is not GOOD advice.

While seeking advice can offer valuable insights and perspectives, not all advice is created equal.

It’s crucial to recognize that advice is subjective and often shaped by the individual’s own experiences, biases, and values.

By taking a moment to introspect and assess these questions before taking advice, you can sift through the opinions to find guidance that truly resonates with you.

It is also important to be open to advice that is not what you want to hear....

While listening to others can broaden perspectives, staying true to oneself will lead to the most genuine fulfillment and growth for you on your journey.

Who is your go to person for advice? Tag them below!

One of the major differences between the nice guy and the as*hole guy is how the area of rejection get handled.

The as*hole sees what he wants, goes for it, and doesn’t care if he gets rejected. If he does get rejected— he shrugs it off and moves on, viewing it as a detour, not a setback.

The nice guy get rejected and his whole night is thrown. He often has to build himself up to ask for what he wants, especially if it might not be safe or a clear ‘yes’ to the want. He is more attached to the outcome, usually because he cares more.

If you often feel pegged as the nice guy, YOU NEED TO ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT, regardless of potential rejection.

Asking for what you want is not only a perk for you, a lot of women get turned on by their partner voicing their desires and being strong in opinions.

Hears to being a man that knows what he wants, and goes after it what he wants while also being mindful of the others around him.

Do you ever feel a little....or a lot disappointed after s*x?

Many folks do and it doesn’t need to be this way!! In fact, the stats show us,1/3 of American’s and dissatisfied with their s*x lives...

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Whether you’re single or partnered, I’ve created a groundbreaking (and fun!) online S*x Class with surprisingly simple steps to unlock pleasure and blissed-out s*x.

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One major challenge of a long-term relationship is to keep the s*xual vibrancy alive.

Yet, while it is such a common issue, many couples do remain s*xually content and manage to maintain their passion.

Couples in healthy long-term erotic relationships share these 8 basic fundamentals!

Which one do you think is the most important?

I’m having a hard time choosing - I love them all!!

One of my favorite things to explore with clients in session is their relationship with their own body.

Something I have noticed in working with my clients and separately in learning about my own body, is that it can be difficult to fully accept and love our bodies.

We can be the most neglectful, spiteful, and judgmental critic of our own body.

This week I was working with a client who has a lot of body shame around hair; particularly hair on his face (he didn’t have much). He felt so betrayed by his face for not growing hair that he had actually stopped looking in the mirror. As we looked into the mirror together, and talked about how he had been rejecting his face all these years, it became very clear to us that he was holding himself hostage with negativity.

As we explored the landscape of his inner world, he started to soften and even experienced a brief moment of compassion and acceptance for himself.

Too often we look to the outside world to make us feel better about ourselves.

Some people in the world might still reject your body, but at least if you begin to accept yourself, that is one less person who isn’t. It’s a really great start.

Some people may ask, “What do you really do as an intimacy coach?”

Just like any other profession, there are a lot of different ways to answer. For me, I help individuals and couples explore their pleasure and how to have healthier and more satisfying relationships - with themselves and with others.

Here is a list of a few things I do as an intimacy coach:

-Providing Personalized Coaching: Offer one-on-one coaching sessions tailored to clients’ specific needs and goals related to intimacy and relationships.

-Online Courses: One-on-one coaching may not be right for everyone, some people like to explore in the privacy of their own homes. I create online courses to help solve intimacy problems and educate individuals.

-Establish Boundaries: Help clients establish and communicate boundaries in relationships to ensure mutual respect and understanding.

-Offer Support: Demonstrate empathy and understanding while addressing sensitive topics, helping clients feel heard and supported.

-Assist in Conflict Resolution: Teach conflict resolution strategies to manage disagreements and maintain intimacy in relationships.

- Help to Create Lifestyle and Relationship Enhancements: Offer strategies and techniques to enhance overall lifestyle and intimate relationship satisfaction.

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YOU ARE PERFECT FIT FOR MY RELATIONSHIP COACHING IF YOU...

1. You long to experience more s*xual pleasure!
2. You want a more intimate relationship with your partner.
3. You want to learn effective ways to last longer in bed without medications.
4. You want to improve your confidence during s*x and in relationships
5. You want to overcome s*xual dysfunction issues in a safe atmosphere.
6. You want to lessen anxiety and negative thinking that sabotages your s*xual performances.
7. You want to gain full control over your org*sms.
8. You want to overcome past s*xual trauma.

Your trust, safety and confidentiality are my #1 priority. If you are interested in learning more, visit my website through the link in my bio!

The ‘acceptability’ of self-pleasure within a committed relationship wildly varies. Our beliefs around self-pleasure are deeply personal and are influenced by our beliefs, values, religion and communication within the relationship.​

​Self-pleasure can be such a beautiful moment of turning inward.​ It is an act of self-care, self-awareness, self-love and self-discovery. ​Yet sometimes one person does not feel comfortable that their sweetie is getting down with themselves. ​

Couples can successfully navigate this topic by fostering open communication, understanding each other's perspectives, and working together to create a healthy and fulfilling s*xual connection.​

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Lately, I've been on a journey of self-discovery, and decided to revisit the five love languages! ​
When last have you checked your love language? ​

Revisiting the five love languages - Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch - I took a closer look at each one. ​

Which ones resonate with me the most now?
It's fascinating how our preferences can shift!​ I used to be physical touch and since having our little, have become acts of service person. Wild how we can change over the years. ​

❤️🧡💚💙💜🖤🤍

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It is more than normal to sometimes have a wondering mind while being intimate with your partner.​ Thinking about work, your to-do list, lunchboxes...the list can go on and on. ​

Not being able to stay present happens. Don’t beat yourself up – make a plan for getting back into the moment. ​

Here are some tricks you can try:​

> Take a few deep breaths​
> Tune into the sensations in your body​
> Try a mental anchor or mantra that you can repeat in your mind such as ‘I am here’ or ‘its ok to release’​
> Openly communicate with your partner about your thoughts and feelings if they are seriously getting in the way​
> Set an Intention before you begin​
> Synchronize your breath with your movements​
> Use visualization to create a mental image that keeps you focused​
> Relax and remind yourself the lists can wait​
> Prioritize Emotional Connection​

If you have any issues, reach out. We want to help you get out of your mind and into your body!​

https://www.keeleyrankin.com/contact

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Do you experience deep shame after you release more quickly than you wanted to? ​

This is one of the most common emotional experiences of men who struggle to last longer in bed. ​I get it – and did you know when you shut down inside, you are cutting your partner off. ​

Try to stay open in the situation, if you can, share with your partner your feelings and be open in the face of the fear you may feel. ​

I know this could seem counter intuitive, yet the most common complaint from partners of folks who release quickly, is feeling not connected after s*x. ​

You got this! And, check out the PE Video course for more support. ​
https://www.keeleyrankin.com/premature_ej*******on_video_course_sale

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Hey, wonderful souls! ​✨

​The Holiday’s is the perfect opportunity to welcoming in feelings of warmth, love, and togetherness.​

​As the air gets crisper and the lights start to twinkle, there's a special kind of magic that wraps around us. ​

May you experience a day full of love.​ ❤️❤️

Happy Holiday’s! ​
From my family to yours!

🎄

It is sometimes very difficult to keep your long-term relationship hot and steamy if you have been together for some time.​

​Maintaining passion and intimacy requires effort, creativity and openness. For most people, it does not just happen. ​

​Here are some tips and tricks to keep the flame burning:​🔥
+ Communication is key​
+ Quality Time​
+ Spontaneity and sense of humor is so important​
+ Maintain physical intimacy – this includes cuddles and gentle gestors also​
+ Created shared activities and hobbies​
+ Try romantic words or love notes and sending s*xy texts​
+ Explore new things together.​

Every relationship is unique, so it's essential to tailor these tips to fit your individual preferences and circumstances.​

Consistent effort, communication, and a willingness to adapt can contribute to a fulfilling and passionate long-term relationship.​

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𝗧𝗿𝘂𝘁𝗵𝟭𝟬𝟭​:
Can you get pregnant when your partner experiences Premature Ejc*ulation?​

𝗬𝗘𝗦, it is possible to get pregnant even if your partner experiences premature ej*culation. ​

​Premature ej*culation refers to when a man ej*culates sooner than he or his partner would like during s*xual activity. It's important to understand that pregnancy can occur if there is ej*culation and sp*rm is present in the reproductive tract.​ Sp*rm is released during ej*culation!​

If you're not trying to conceive and are concerned about unintended pregnancy, it's essential to use a reliable form of contraception. ​

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So, you are single.​..
You would love to date, right?​
You hate dating apps... so what now?​

​Don’t worry, many people find dating apps challenging or simply not to their liking. There are other alternatives – believe it or not.😜

What about joining hobby clubs, sports leagues, or community gatherings? You can also try attending local meetups or social events where like-minded people gather.​

​Join fitness classes, hiking groups, or other outdoor activities. It's a healthy and social way to meet people who prioritize a similar lifestyle.​ ​Join book clubs, go to lectures, cooking classes, any classes really – dancing? Pottery. ​🤸‍♀️🤸‍♂️🧘‍♀️🧘

The key is to engage in activities that align with personal interests and values.​

​Get out there and start meeting people. Oh, and tell everyone you meet you’re single and looking to meet someone. You never know who people know. ​

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Being single during the holiday season often comes with its own set of challenges and many complex feelings. ​

What can you do to give yourself an opportunity for self-reflection, self-care, and creating deeper connection with yourself?​
+Nurture your personal growth and pursue your individual goals ​
+Establish new holiday traditions that bring you joy and fulfillment​
+Let go of comparing your situation to others and lean into what brings you joy​

If possible, consider planning a trip or getaway to break from the routine and experience something new. ​

Set intentions for the upcoming year, focusing on self-love and growth.​

What are some of your s*xual desires? What do you want and need?​

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a toy or two to fulfill your s*xual needs 😉 ​

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Are you afraid to tell your partner your s*xual fantasies? ​😈😽😻

Communicating about s*xual fantasies can be a very sensitive topic, and open and honest communication is crucial for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship.​

​There is absolutely nothing wrong with having one or multiple fantasies. It is a healthy part of adult s*xuality!

​Fantasies are normal and yet sometimes folks report actually not having any...in that instance, we do a deep dive and help them explore what could be s*xy for them.​

If you and your partner are on the same page, and you guys understand each other without judgment or fear, just imagine the AMAZING things that can happen?​

​Communication is key when sharing – ask permission from your partner to share first, start with one and check in. ​

This can be a loaded place to explore – so feel free to reach out if you need more support. ​

https://www.keeleyrankin.com/

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Motherhood is such a big topic because it has so many layers. ​🧅🧅

One of the most common struggles that most of us as women experience is when you pick up some weight during pregnancy and struggle to lose it.​
I know I have not gotten back down to my pre-baby weight...and I may never get back. ​

Trying to raise a little one, run a small business and be a connected wife and friend leave very, very little time for exercise. ​

Although, what can make this more complicated is if your partner does not find you attractive anymore. ​

This post of the was super interesting and gives voice to some of the more hush hush sides of this experience.​

https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/husband-doesnt-find-me-attractive-weight-gain_uk_63593260e4b0e376dc1dd019

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I got cheated on... what now? How do I move on?

Getting cheated on can be a very painful and difficult experience. Moving on from infidelity is a challenging process, but it is possible with time and effort. Here are some steps to help you navigate this difficult situation:

# Allow yourself to feel
# Seek Support – friends or professional help
# Evaluate the relationship – is this relationship worth salvaging
# Invest in self-care and your wellbeing
# Set new goals
# Forgiveness – this will be hard
# Stay open to love once you have healed

I think this article by BRIDES is a goodie.

https://www.brides.com/get-over-being-cheated-on-4582758

Also, The State Of Affairs by Esther Perel is a great read!

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HELP, I am in love with my best friend❓❗️

Has this ever happened to you? What did you do? How did you navigate through this?​

relationship with your best friend, someone who may have interests and complement your personality, can be a meaningful and fulfilling part of life. It can be normal to feel close to them or develop non-platonic feelings. ​

Even if you and your best friend aren't initially interested in each other romantically, your feelings may change over time. ​

I remember falling for one of my besties and well, it went good for a while – and ultimately it didn’t work out and it did ruin our friendship. (This had a lot to do with how it ended.) ​

If you're developing a genuine romantic connection for your best friend, #1 congrats on feelings, yay! ​

And let's talk about how acting on your feelings could impact your relationship. ​

It is more complicated than just a pros and cons list. ​

Are you ok potentially losing this friendship at some point? Can you live without expressing your desire? Is it love, or lust? Are you lonely? How do you imagine they feel? Is this a trend for you in any way? Do you see yourselves together or just hooking up? ​

Love is a gambling game! ​

Whatever happens, I wish you luck and joy. 🤎❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤍

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Don’t know what to buy on 𝘽𝙇𝘼𝘾𝙆 𝙁𝙍𝙄𝘿𝘼𝙔???

Why not one of my Premature Ej*****te courses OR the new Shameless S-x book?​

I don’t even think that this is debatable, guys! You are missing out on amazing content.​

One of my clients' testimonials after purchasing one of my courses:​

“I am only part of the way through this course, and I am already lasting way longer than ever before in my life.” ​

So, what’s your excuse?​

Links in the comments.

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Inter*ourse injuries... yes people, this is more common than you think, and it can happen so fast.​🤼‍♀️🤼‍♂️🚑

Especially when you are in a hurry (lunch-time-quickie, before-the-kids-wake-up-quickie 😉)​

Here are some tips to prevent injuries on duty: 😋

+ 𝗟𝘂𝗯𝗲 is your best friend​!!
+ Make sure that you are both on the 𝘀𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝗽𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗳𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀
+ Start 𝗦𝗟𝗢𝗪​
+ 𝗞𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆 and its limitations​
+ Choose the 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗲𝗻𝘃𝗶𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁​

​Don't say I don’t look out for you guys 😀​

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Stress & s*x... the two S’s that don’t love working together.​

Stress is a normal (and healthy) part of life, and it will and does impact most people’s s*x lives.​👎

I would say 90% of my clients, when feeling stress, are not interested in getting down. There is about 10% of ya’ll that are down for it anytime. (I fall into the 90%).​

When things start to feel out of control, it’s important to first give yourself some grace and some space. You are normal! It is ok to not want s*x all the time. Communicate what is going on for you with your sweetie so they don’t take things personally. ​

If the stress persists, try some stress management techniques and prioritize self-care.​

Additionally, seeking professional help when needed can be extra beneficial.​

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Did you know there is a “thing” called the Erotic Blueprints and it helps you map your s*xual type?

We are not all the same – go figure. The idea with the erotic blueprints is you can place yourself into a category and hopefully make it easier to explore and communicate what gets you going. There are 5 types.

𝗘𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗴𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗰: This means that you are very sensitive to movement and touch. One tends to love eye contact and teasing. Anticipation and subtlety are the main route to arousal.

𝗦𝗲𝗻𝘀𝘂𝗮𝗹: Person T, likes feeling long and light strokes all over the body. Loves (and often needs) the space to feel together. Needs nice lighting, clean sheets, an organized and s*xy room.

𝗦*𝘅𝘂𝗮𝗹: This person s*x life is simple and straight forward. Loves to or**sm and jump right into ‘doing it.’

𝗞𝗶𝗻𝗸𝘆: You are turned on by anything that is seen as naughty. This could be getting down on the kitchen table to seeing a Pro Dom.

𝗦𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗲𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗿: T, want it all, expect it all and can do it all! You flow between energetic, sensual, s*xual and kinky with relative ease.

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