Anne-Marie Cade

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We’ve gone through a bit of re-brand and have a fresh new look. If you are going through a challenging life transition like a Divorce and are looking for help with Mediation, Divorce Coaching or Parenting Coordination, our team can help.
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We've gone through a bit of re-brand and have a fresh new look:)
If you are going through a challenging life transition like a Divorce and are looking for help with Mediation, Divorce Coaching or Parenting Coordination, our team can help.

Divorce Right Australia’s Leading Divorce Coach & Parenting Coordinator Guiding you through life’s toughest challenges with holistic hands-on support Let's Chat 2023 AUSTRALASIAN MEDIATOR OF THE YEAR WINNER 2024 AUSTRALIAN DISPUTE RESOLUTION CONFLICT COACH OF THE YEAR 2024 AUSTRALIAN DISPUTE RESOLUTION PROJEC...

Last week, the Victorian medallion ceremony took place at Government House, bringing together the Fellowship community and friends to honour fourteen Churchill Fellows. The medallions were presented by the , Her Excellency Professor the Honourable Margaret Gardner AC, in recognition of their completed Fellowships.

Congratulations to all for your remarkable achievements!

🏅Andongwot Manyoul
🏅Aimee Cooper
🏅Anne-Marie Cade
🏅Cameron Paterson
🏅Hayley Russell
🏅James Brown
🏅Kate Crowe
🏅Dr Laura Anderson
🏅Lindsay Bent
🏅Louise Fuller
🏅Natalie Graham
🏅Nick Coxon
🏅Rachel Kennedy
🏅Susan Carland.

It was such an honour to be hosted by the Governor at Government House. Such a wonderful ceremony. Thank you to the Victorian Governor for hosting us and thank you to the AU too.

Being a Fellow I have to say has been one of the most incredible experiences of my life and I am incredibly grateful to be part of such an inspirational community. If you have an innovative idea that you think will benefit the Australian community I encourage you to apply for a Fellowship.

It was such a pleasure to present today to the South African Association of Mediators on International Best Practice in Parenting Coordination. Thank you for having me.

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Are you finding it challenging to manage ongoing parental conflicts post-divorce or separation? Do traditional dispute resolution methods seem inadequate?

Imagine being equipped with advanced tools to resolve high-conflict situations efficiently, improving your mediation practice and supporting families more effectively.

The South African Association of Mediators is excited to announce their upcoming webinar on July 12, 2024, featuring Anne-Marie Cade from Melbourne, Australia. This 3 hour webinar will focus on the best practices in parenting coordination as a dispute resolution tool after divorce or separation.

Topics Covered:
* Understanding Parenting Coordination
* International Best Practices
* Role of the Parenting Coordinator
* Impact on Children
* Ethical and Practical Considerations

About the Speaker:
Anne-Marie Cade is a highly respected lawyer, nationally accredited mediator, family dispute resolution practitioner, and parenting coordinator based in Melbourne, Australia. With a Master’s in Law specialising in family dispute resolution and negotiation, Anne-Marie is also a certified divorce coach. She has extensive experience working as a family mediator and divorce coach, assisting parents in managing inter-parental conflict to co-parent peacefully. Her expertise and practical insights have helped numerous families achieve better outcomes post-divorce.

Register now to secure your spot and earn CPD points. Improve your mediation skills and support families more effectively.

In Australia, the Divorce Coaching industry remains unregulated so it is essential that if you are considering engaging a Divorce Coach you must ensure that they have training in alternative dispute resolution processes, conflict management and coaching. Divorce coaching is not life coaching.

Also Divorce Coaching is different to counseling and therapy. The American Bar Association recognises Divorce Coaching as a dispute resolution process and defines it as a flexible, goal-oriented process designed to support, motivate, and guide people going through divorce to help them make the best possible decisions for their future, based on their particular interests, needs, and concerns.
So, what skills and qualifications should you look for in a divorce coach?

Listen to the podcast to hear more- https://www.abc.net.au/listen/programs/lifematters/divorce-coaching-institute/104084026?utm_content=link&utm_medium=content_shared

⭐️Thank you Hilary Harper from for having us on your show Life Matters and for giving me and Nikki Bould the opportunity to discuss the Divorce Coaching industry in Australia and New Zealand.

⭐️We talked about the importance of engaging a Certified Divorce Coach who has training in dispute resolution and coaching to help clients navigate divorce with less stress and less cost.

⭐️ Connect with us at the to learn more about our Divorce Certification program and how you can engage a Certified Divorce Coach. I will post a link to the podcast as soon as it is out.

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I had the opportunity to chat today with Colin Tyrus from about what’s happening around Glen Eira.
You can check out the link to listen to the conversation.

https://www.southernfm.com.au/show/newsman/glen-eira-mayor-anne-marie-cade-july-2024-podcast/

Can’t wait get started on this and bring kindness, care, compassion and a voice of reason to politics. Thank you and University of Melbourne for giving me the opportunity to be part of this program.

BULLIES - how to spot them and how to stop them. Recognize the patterns that are right in front of you. Then, pull the plug on the bully. Are you helping them? Set limits and expose consequences. Educate yourself so you can recognize the patterns. And lastly, stand with others against bullies.

If you want to find out more about how to spot the bullies in your life and how to stop them you have to listen in to this week’s episode of “Cut the Conflict in Council” where I chat with the world’s leading high conflict expert, the one and only, Bill Eddy!

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It’s kinda cool to be kind in political conversations. This is the change we need to get great outcomes for our communities. Words matter.

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⭐️I recently attended the AFCC | Association of Family and Conciliation Courts | annual conference in Boston, and it was an incredible experience. The AFCC truly feels like one big family. I had the opportunity to share insights in my presentation on “Managing conflict
using neuroscience- think differently.”

⭐️During my presentation, I delved into the brain’s response to conflict and highlighted the importance of controlling our emotions to avoid making unhelpful decisions in stressful situations.

⭐️Did you know that emotions are not triggered but made, and each of us experiences them differently? Learning to manage our emotions and self-regulate empowers us to make better decisions, foster collaboration, and navigate change effectively.

⭐️If you’re intrigued by this topic and wish to explore it further, feel free to reach out. I’d be delighted to collaborate with you.

         
    

 
 
   
     

So thrilled that Susan Guthrie Chair- Elect of the American Bar Association (ABA) DR Section recommends the DCA Divorce Coaching course. I absolutely love the work Susan does in the dispute resolution space and had the pleasure of meeting her yet again at the AFCC conference yesterday.

If you can’t resolve conflict, you can’t get to agreement and finalize your divorce.

That’s why DCA specifically trains divorce coaches with a conflict management focus. Our coaches save families time, money and emotional energy by helping clients communicate, negotiate, and make informed, intentional decisions.

The next cohort begins the week of June 24th and our program is designed for busy professionals. You can accomplish the majority of your learning on your own schedule, then join us for any one of our scheduled calls to discuss and debrief.

We are professional divorce coaches and mediators and we understand what it takes to support clients through the divorce process so they can get on with their new life.

Learn more about becoming a professional ADR divorce coach and schedule a 1-1 call with us at https://lnkd.in/gbesNM7k.

⭐️Collaborating with Parenting Coordinators (PCs) Yoa Sorek (Phd), Elena Giudice & Idit Honigman from Israel and Italy for our presentation at the upcoming AFCC | Association of Family and Conciliation Courts conference in Boston in June.

⭐️I’ll be sharing insights on managing conflict informed by neuroscience to achieve better outcomes for parents. Excited to discuss strategies on navigating the irrational brain to foster collaboration and reduce resistance.

Taking accountability for conflict resolution in leadership involves actively addressing issues, listening to all parties involved, and implementing solutions. Acknowledge the conflict, communicate openly, and work towards a collaborative resolution.

Listening is one of the most important skills in conflict management.

     
   

 
 
   
     

Working collaboratively an ADR trained Divorce Coach can support the work of a Parenting Coordinator in several ways:

⭐️Emotional Support: Divorce can be emotionally challenging for parents. A divorce coach can help parents navigate their emotions, reducing conflict and making it easier for them to engage constructively with the Parenting Coordinator.

⭐️Communication Skills: A divorce coach can teach parents effective communication techniques, helping them better express their concerns and needs during interactions with the Parenting Coordinator.

⭐️Conflict Resolution: By helping parents develop conflict resolution skills, a divorce coach can minimize disputes and make it easier for the Parenting Coordinator to facilitate agreements between them.

⭐️Understanding the Process: A divorce coach can educate parents about the role of a Parenting Coordinator, the purpose of their interventions, and the importance of cooperation, which can lead to smoother interactions.

⭐️Goal Setting: Divorce coaches can assist parents in setting realistic goals for co-parenting and family dynamics, aligning these goals with the objectives of the Parenting Coordinator and facilitating the implementation of agreed-upon plans.

⭐️Overall, the support and guidance provided by a ADR trained divorce coach can contribute to a more efficient and productive working relationship between parents and the Parenting Coordinator, ultimately benefiting the children involved.

So we are hearing more and more that there is a mental health crisis. The system is not meeting the increasing needs of teens. The pandemic has exacerbated the situation.

Separated parents will often have disputes about the mental health care needs of their children, what services are needed, who pays, which professional is best etc. These are but a few of the issues that give rise to conflict between parents.

In Minnesota a PC follows a uniform appointment order that permits the PC to require independent evaluations and also requires a child to participate in therapy. This approach benefits adolescents because we all know that interparental conflict is a source of mental health issues for teens and when parents can’t agree children may not get the help they need.

In Australia if there is a PC appointed, that PC can work with the parents to help the parents resolve disagreements that arise. These disagreements can be around treatment plans etc if children require mental health care. When parents learn the skills on how to manage their own conflict they can then have the conversations and make informed decisions together.

PCs serve a unique role in managing adolescent mental health issues by providing psychoeducation to parents about addressing a child’s mental health problems so they get the required treatment says Mindy Mitnick a psychologist and PC from the US. She says that the role she plays is critical in helping parents cooperate, getting them to agree to consult with the school, the doctor so they can obtain more information and then agree on a treatment plan.

She goes on to say that the agility of the PC in responding to these issues in a timely manner in critical and something that a Court typically cannot provide. The adolescent can also meet with the PC to discuss concerns. The PCs role is solution focused here and parents communicate far more effectively with each other without the need for motions and affidavits.

Getting adolescents the help they need in a timely manner is essential and PCs play a critical role here by intervening and helping manage these complex issues.

American husband and wife researchers Drs John and Julie Gottman have carried out research with couples over a period of more than 40 years and found that this is the percentage of problems that are unsolvable. The problems couples face may be things like personality traits one partner has that rub the other person the wrong way, or long-standing issues around spending and saving money. While these issues may not be resolvable they are most definitely negotiable. So leaning good conflict management skills is vital to a healthy relationship.

There is power in a “Pause.” It gives you the time to gather your thoughts, to take a deep breath to compose yourself and it gives you some time to gather the information you want to convey.

These are just some of the emotions people feel when they are going through a divorce. When feeling this overwhelmed it is difficult to make decisions that will impact the rest of your life.

But there are so many decisions that have to be made relating to the family home, the children, the money and the future. I often find that clients are paralysed by shock and fear and unable to make the decisions that have to be made.

You may have great family and friends who listen and help you out but it is difficult for them to be impartial and objective. What you need at this time is help from someone who is independent, non-judgmental who can help you to imagine a new future so you can move towards a new vision.

Divorce is a catalyst for change, which may be painful or scary. But it also offers opportunity to grow and to learn if approached correctly. When you invest in Divorce Coach you can move through your separation or divorce with resilience, strength and dignity, and ultimately redefine yourself.

A divorce coach will help you develop a roadmap and prepare a strategy to manage the separation process that will save you a lot of time, stress and money which will in turn lessen the emotional toll the divorce can take on you. A plan is all important and working with a Divorce Coach helps you make the best decisions and avoid the pitfalls.

A Divorce Coach will teach you the skills to manage the conflict and improve communication. There is role-playing and scripting too which will help you nail these conflict management skills.

You can then move on from an intimate relationship to a really effective co-parenting relationship ensuring that the kids are going to have clarity and stability.


 
 

Whether it is in the office, on social media or in your personal relationships, people are stuck when they are in conflict and disputes can turn nasty and creates so much misery too. Well, it does not have to be that way because when people have the vocabulary and basic skills on how to manage conflict it changes everything. If you are curious to know more about how we can help you manage conflict effectively get in touch.

Tips to navigate conflict respectfully💡

1. Be clear ✨
2. Use “I” Statements when communicating and/or setting personal boundaries. 🗣️
3. Take deep breaths and count to three in your head if you are feeling upset. 🌬️
4. Listen attentively and don’t interrupt. 👂
5. Don't feel obligated to respond in the moment. ⏳
6. Take your time to think things through. 🤔

Woo hoo and we are live. I could not be more excited to be part of this event - the Save Your Sanity Divorce Summit brought to you by Divorce Coaches Academy.

If you are going through divorce this is the resource you need. Get FREE access to more than 25 professional divorce coaches ready to share their best tips. We'll be talking about:
🌟 Preparing to divorce
🌟 Working with attorneys
🌟 Negotiating a settlement
🌟 Parenting plans and co-parenting
🌟 Managing conflict
🌟 Narcissists and safety
🌟 Navigating big emotions
🌟 Creating a new life you'll love
🌟 and lots more...

You can register for the summit here. https://save-your-sanity-divorce-summit.heysummit.com/

Family lawyers, Mediators and those working in the family law space. Please share the link to register with your clients who will get access to these phenomenal divorce coaching resources.

Divorce Coaches Academy® is the global leader in training and educating professional divorce coaches that are prepared with excellent conflict management and coaching skills to lessen the financial and emotional impact of divorce on families. As the Director Learning for Australia I am so proud to partner with them to bring this revolutionary and exceptional course to Australia and train Divorce Coaches.

Save Your Sanity Divorce Summit Divorce doesn’t have to wreck your mental health or empty your bank account. Learn how.

Let's talk about a harsh reality: sometimes lawyers can unintentionally inflame divorces. 🔥💔 Emotions are already running high, and legal battles can add unnecessary fuel to the fire. It's crucial to seek peaceful resolutions and prioritize amicable solutions whenever possible. Let's work together to find common ground and navigate divorce with empathy and understanding.

Sleeping over disagreements can be a game-changer! 😴💬 Taking time to rest and reflect before resolving a conflict allows emotions to settle and perspectives to clarify. Let's embrace the power of patience and understanding in our relationships.

When you work with a divorce coach the negotiation part does not take long and does not cost that much either. You learn the skills on how to negotiate effectively taking into account your interests and needs. Once  you have identified a goal you can find common ground easily and move your divorce along.