Joanne Groves Counselling Services

Stop walking through the world looking for confirmation that you don’t belong. You will always find it because you’ve made that your mission. Stop scouring people’s faces for evidence that you’re not enough. You will always find it because you’ve made that your goal. True belonging and self-worth are not goods; we don’t negotiate their value with the world. The truth about who we are lives in our hearts. Our call to courage is to protect our wild heart against constant evaluation, especially our own. No one belongs here more than you. ~Brené Brown

(Book: Braving the Wilderness https://amzn.to/3s5Q2DR)

(Art: 'Lady at the Window', painting by Vincenzo Irolli)

Emily Dickinson 💔

''If I can stop one heart from breaking,
I shall not live in vain;
If I can ease one life the aching,
Or cool one pain,
Or help one fainting robin
Unto his nest again,
I shall not live in vain.''
By Emily Dickinson
( Poetry Book: https://amzn.to/3ZEhCne )

COUNSELLING SPACE IN EXETER TO RENT……………………………
Are you looking for a Therapy space to rent?
Need to find a suitable location without the pressure of taking on a full time lease?
Want somewhere in Central Exeter? Half day, Fully day and Evening available.
Office 2, Gandy Street, Exeter, EX3 4LS

Available;
Monday; morning til 12.00pm Tuesday; morning til 12.00pm
Wednesday; all day/evening Thursday; all day/evening
Saturday and Sunday; all day/evening
Please contact me for further details if interested….
Jo Groves Phone; 07505707385 (please leave a message or voicemail) Email; [email protected]

Love this from Nate Postlethwait 💚

When that inner critic starts talking at you, pause and ask yourself "who's voice is this?" 💚

As with most things learnt in childhood (not just from parents but all caregivers and primary role models), we can unlearn them 💚

Parents and caregivers- if this is what you’re seeing at home, keep doing what you’re doing.

But don’t panic if your children don’t do this. Start with recognizing times you might have hurt their feelings, approach your child about it, and apologize. Then, when we notice patterns--such as yelling or criticizing our children-- we begin implanting strategies to regulate ourselves and not repeat patterns.

A child who is distressed, whether they’re whining or crying, has a need that is not being met.

We frame that however we would like- but the more room we give their feelings and we start decoding the behaviour and seeing underneath it. This is needs that are not being met. The sooner we can intervene appropriately, the less room that emotion is going to take.

Learn about Compassionate Discipline take our 6.5 hour certified course as part of our membership! Link in bio.

Divorcing your toxic parents Samantha Flanagan shares how to recognise toxic parents and how to navigate a relationship with them

5 Ways To Deal With Toxic Family Members Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Sometimes, however, it’s the place where we find the deepest heartache. Letting go of (or breaking up with) a toxic friend, boyfriend or girlfriend is one thing, and there’s plenty of advice out there for doing so, but what about letting go of a toxic fam...

Avoidant attachment and feelings about self Danielle Corbett discusses how an avoidant attachment style is created and what this can feel like

Children who have experienced trauma, experience a disconnection from themselves from the world. They learn that the world is harsh disregarding, and painful. They learn to protect themselves from others instead of connecting. These children need predictability, consistency, and most importantly, love to heal-- not more pain.

Defend Survivors

Repetitive behaviors and ‘stimming’ in autism, explained Restricted interests and repetitive behaviors constitute one of two criteria that define autism in the diagnostic manual for psychiatry.

Nothing is ever a simple conversation.

12 Signs You Grew Up With A Narcissistic Mother & How It May Affect You Today A narcissistic mother sees her children as an extension of herself rather than as their own individual people.

It's important to keep educating.

A child's "talking back" or "bad attitude" is not indicative of their lack of respect.
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A child can deeply love and revere their family and simply be expressing their overwhelming feelings or beliefs which would not seem so overwhelming if they felt free to share.
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When we take attitudes personally we miss out on the opportunity to grow and to help our children grow.
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Seeking to understand objectively and empathize sincerely is a vital skill to sustain healthy relationships.
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When we model how to share our opinions and feelings respectfully our children learn how to do the same.
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Learning how to communicate respectfully requires a good example, practice, and maturity.

Conscious Communication may look something like this:

🔸Be present! Put down your phone or whatever you're doing so you can focus.

🔸Breathe slowly.

🔸Listen. Truly listen.

🔸Look for an unmet need, unheard feeling, or limiting belief beneath the behavior. (behind your child's and your trigger)

🔸Sincerely care. Empathize and Validate. With yourself internally and your child externally.

🔸If you feel calm communicate your feeling, need, or request clearly without using threats, shame, blame, or criticism.

🔸If you don't feel calm, ask to have some time to think. [🔸Connect to yourself. It’s good to feel all your emotions & validate them for yourself. 🔸 When reconnected to yourself go and help your child do the same.]

🔸Reconnect with your child. Find time to be together (Play, read, walk, create a meal or artwork together....anything you will both enjoy)

✨Most of the time connection replaces the need for correction.✨

🔸 When your child and you are both regulated you can problem-solve together.
(This may mean you change your mind now that you have a better understanding but it doesn't mean going against your core values or intuition. Hold your boundary empathetically.)

🧡 Lelia.

[The heart & science behind parenthood & childhood 🔗 in comments]

❄️ Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD, is a form of depression that can occur during the colder winter months
✅ Dr Sarah Brewer explains what this is & what can help

❤️ Please Share ❤️

National Su***de Prevention Helpline UK offers supportive listening and information to anyone having thoughts of su***de, including family, friends and carers of those having thoughts.

We are open every day of the year on 0800 689 5652. Anybody is welcome to call us if you need to talk, or want support.
Our helpline is here to support you when you feel you need us. This can be different for everybody – some people can reach that point daily, and for some people it is a rare occurrence.

Our helpline volunteers are empathic and non-judgemental, providing a space and time for you to talk about how you are feeling or somebody close to you.
The helpline is a confidential service for those aged 18 or over.

I love the details referenced under the water...

Depression
Hyperfixations
Difficulty forming friendships
Social confusion
Auditory processing disorder
Executive dysfunction
Anxiety
Masking
Sensory processing disorder
Emotional dysregulation
Perfectionism
Meltdowns
Difficulty with change
Stimming
Difficulty with conversations
Sleeping issues
Rejection sensitive dysphoria
Strong emotions

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