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The Beauty of Giving

When we looked at the photo, we would probably smile or laugh of the child’s innocent gesture. We may also describe this little child as someone who is sensitive to the needs of others, loving and self-giving. But, let us stop for a while and think on when was the last time we reach out to others? How does it feel reaching out to others? Is there any benefit reaching out to others in any way we can to help or support?

Truly, giving can boost our hearts and minds. In giving, we do not only receive smiles or a thank you from others but chemical reactions inside our bodies occur. In giving, we secrete chemical hormones such as …

Serotonin that is responsible of regulating our mood.

Dopamine that gives us a sense of pleasure, accomplishment and/or achievement.

Oxytocin that creates a sense of connection with others.

As Psychologist, Dr. Susan Albers (healthcleavelandclinic.org) says, “When we do things for other people, it makes us feel much more engaged and joyful. That’s good for our health and our happiness.” Health benefits of giving can lessen stress, lower blood pressure, may have longer lifespan, and gives us this sense of high … of happiness … and eventually combats extreme loneliness or depression.

Giving is also a powerful tool for personal growth and social change. Giving allows us to impact our family, community and society we belong to. No matter how small just like what is seen on the photo of giving a tissue paper. Our act of kindness to others can create a ripple effect regardless of the time, money, or resources we give.
Moreover, giving can help us develop a better sense of purpose and meaning in our lives, increase our mental stability and creates our happiness.

The benefits of giving include (Understanding the True Purpose Of Giving: The Joy in Generosity):

Personal Growth: Giving can help individuals develop greater empathy, compassion, and understanding of others, leading to personal growth and self-awareness. Giving also allows one to step outside of one’s comfort zone and take on new challenges, further fostering personal growth.

Improved Well-being: Studies have shown that individuals who give regularly experience decreased stress levels and improved physical health. The act of giving produces a positive impact on one’s well-being, reducing the risk of depression and increasing overall happiness.

Enhanced Relationships: Giving can also strengthen existing relationships and foster new connections within the community. The act of giving promotes a sense of unity and purpose, bringing individuals together around a common cause.

Hoping that this article will make us more mindful of giving, more active in giving, and inspiring others.

Lucia Jemima M. Ata
MBS Psychological Services

Best Marriage Advice EVER...✍🏾

1. Choose to love each other, even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.

2. Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling. When possible, try to keep your phone off when you're together with your spouse.

3. Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the "currency of relationships," so consistently invest time into your marriage.

4. Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage. Remove yourself from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.

5. Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy. And even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh.

6. In every argument, remember that there won't be a "winner" and a "loser." You're partners in everything so you'll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.

7. Realize that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It's usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.

8. Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than s*x to build a strong marriage, but it's nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it.

9. Remember that marriage isn't 50/50— divorce is 50/50. Marriage has to be 100/100. It's not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they've got.

10. Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you've given your best to everyone else.

11. Learn from other people, but don't feel the need to compare your life or your marriage to anyone else's. God's plan for your life is masterfully unique.

12. Don't put your marriage on hold while you're raising your kids or else you'll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.

13. Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.

14. Never lie to each other. Lies break trust and trust is the foundation of a strong marriage.

15. When you've made a mistake, admit it and humbly seek forgiveness. You should be quick to say, "I was wrong. I'm sorry. Please forgive me."

16. When your husband/wife breaks your trust, give them your forgiveness instantly. This will promote healing and create the opportunity for trust to be rebuilt. You should be quick to say, "I love you. I forgive you. Let's move forward."

17. Be patient with each other. Your spouse is always more important than your schedule.

18. Model the kind of marriage that will make your sons want to grow up to be good husbands, and your daughters want to grow up to be good wives.

19. Be your spouse's biggest encourager, not his/her biggest critic. Be the one who wipes away their tears, not the one who causes them.

20. Never talk badly about your spouse to other people or vent about them online. Protect your spouse at all times and in all places.

21. Always wear your wedding ring. It will remind you that you're always connected to your spouse and will remind the rest of the world that you're off-limits.

22. When you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, say nothing every time.

23. Never consider divorce as an option. Remember that a "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

Source:
Sire Apm Lukwesa

TO PONDER: What is your life’s resilience that lies in the ordinary?

A lovely message from Pope Francis ...

What exactly is Christmas?

Christmas is usually a noisy party: we could use a bit of silence, to hear the voice of Love.

Christmas is YOU, when you decide to be born again each day and let God into your soul.

The Christmas pine is you, when you resist vigorous winds and difficulties of life.

The Christmas decorations are you, when your virtues are colors that adorn your life.

The Christmas bell is you, when you call, gather and seek to unite.

You are also a Christmas light, when you illuminate with your life the path of others with kindness, patience, joy and generosity.

The Christmas angels are you, when you sing to the world a message of peace, justice and love.

The Christmas star is you, when you lead someone to meet the Lord.

You are also the wise men, when you give the best you have no matter who.

Christmas music is you when you conquer the harmony within you.

The Christmas gift is you, when you are truly friend and brother of every human being.

The Christmas card is you, when kindness is written in your hands.

The Christmas greeting is you, when you forgive and reestablish peace, even when you suffer.

The Christmas dinner is you, when you gave bread and hope to the poor man who is by your side.

You are, yes, the Christmas night, when humble and conscious, you receive in the silence of the night the Savior of the world without noise or great celebrations; you are a smile of trust and tenderness, in the inner peace of a perennial Christmas that establishes the Kingdom within you.

A very Merry Christmas for all those who look like Christmas.

- Pope Francis

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