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🚨 New Podcast Episode Alert! 🚨

Ever feel like you hate your spouse?

It’s a tough emotion to admit, but it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed.

Often, it’s a sign of deeper issues like unmet needs and toxic communication patterns that have built up over time.

In this not-to-be-missed episode, we’re unpacking:

➡️ Why feelings of resentment take over

➡️ The harmful communication habits that drive emotional distance (think: criticism, defensiveness, and contempt)

➡️ How to break the cycle and reconnect with your partner ❤️

If you’ve ever felt stuck in your relationship or wondered how to rebuild after tension, this episode is for YOU.

🎧 Ready to listen? Click on the link in comments or search “Love Each Other Better” on your favorite podcast platform.

Love this!!!

Elise Gravel - English ❤ ❤

My next podcast will be on the #1 mistake I see couples make (as a longtime couples therapist and coach). Any guesses about what the #1 mistake is?

If you want it to work, you gotta do the work.

What’s the opposite of collaboration?

Conversations can become a lot more connecting when we ask, “WHAT are you feeling?” rather than, “HOW are you feeling?”

My colleague Jodi Geline put together an online event called the Heal From Within Series 2.0! Create the healthiest you mentally and physically by joining us and learn to heal your body, raise your frequency and eliminate chronic health issues naturally! We start on July 22 and my interview airs on July 26. I'll be talking about Nonviolent Communication for Better, More Intimate Relationships.

Register for free at https://healfromwithinseries.com/alm

This was so much fun, talking about and parenting with Stefanie Fernandes on her amazing podcast!

‎Raw and Real with Stefanie Fernandes: Peaceful Parenting: The Power of Nonviolent Communication with Ali Miller. Episode 52 on Apple Podcasts ‎Show Raw and Real with Stefanie Fernandes, Ep Peaceful Parenting: The Power of Nonviolent Communication with Ali Miller. Episode 52 - Jul 9, 2024

Have you watched this yet? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZSmknFURLXo

Non Violent Communication: How to Communicate Effectively In this episode, Ali Miller, a marriage and family therapist specializing in nonviolent communication, discusses the importance of compassionate and heart-ce...

This will literally change the world. This is everything right here.

Imagine how your relationship with yourself and your own emotions would be different if you had received this as a child?

Imagine how your relationship with your partner would be different if you both had received this as a child.

I’d have to find a new career. This is everything right here.

How else would things be different?

Ooh how fun to get to talk about on The Connected Community Podcast!

The host asked such engaging questions and we did some role-plays, so you’ll see NVC in action here and learn a ton!

This one was on video as well as audio, so you can check it out at this YouTube link or at the audio link in comments.

Non Violent Communication: How to Communicate Effectively In this episode, Ali Miller, a marriage and family therapist specializing in nonviolent communication, discusses the importance of compassionate and heart-ce...

“People do not hear our pain when they believe they are at fault.”

~Marshall Rosenberg

🌟 Tune in to the latest episode of the Love Each Other Better podcast: "From Reactive to Responsive: The Key to Transforming Your Relationship." 🌟

Ever felt the sting of regret after reacting impulsively to a loved one?

Have you yearned for the freedom to respond with calm and clarity instead of reflexively lashing out or withdrawing?

You're not alone.

Inspired by Viktor Frankl's timeless wisdom, "Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom," we dive deep in this episode into how to navigate our emotions and interactions more mindfully.

In this episode, discover how to:

✨ Shift from reacting out of habit to responding with intention.

✨ Find that crucial space between stimulus and response to transform your communication and your relationships

✨ Utilize Nonviolent Communication (NVC) tools to slow down, identify your thoughts and feelings, and understand both your needs and those of your partner.

✨ Make empowered requests that foster connection and mutual understanding.

Hear personal stories, including my own moments of regret, while I guide you on the powerful (and humbling!) journey towards becoming more responsive.

Packed with insights and actionable advice, this episode will help you build stronger, more loving relationships.

🌸 Search "Love Each Other Better" on your favorite podcast app and tune in to Episode 12 today!

I’m so excited about this episode.

‎Love Each Other Better: 12: From Reactive to Responsive: The Key to Transforming Your Relationship on Apple Podcasts ‎Show Love Each Other Better, Ep 12: From Reactive to Responsive: The Key to Transforming Your Relationship - Jun 7, 2024

Happy pride month! 🌈

I’m aiming for love, not perfection.

My religion is your arms around me, mine around you,

and the willingness to remain like this and do nothing

while our hearts murmur to each other about how

hard and simple it is to ask for love.

~from I KNOW MY DOG IS DREAMING by Fred Lamotte

https://saintjulianpress.com/i-know-my-dog-is-dreaming.html

My 4-year old just asked me, “Mama, can you give me something that shows me you love me?“

I said, “Yes, of course! Would you like me to make you a card?”

She said, “Yes!”

I wonder 🤔 what stops us adults from making such direct and bold requests?

If you are longing to receive more evidence of your partner’s love, I challenge you to follow my kid’s lead and make a direct request:

“Hey (partner’s name), can you give me something that shows me you love me?”

Let us know how it goes! 💕

I had a blast talking to Kate Champion on her podcast - Living Big Mindfully - and am so excited to share this episode with you!

Here’s what Kate wrote to describe the episode:

We take a deep dive into all things communication: what it is, why it’s undervalued, and how most of us suck at it (including me😊)

We talk about the shame, blame, & judgment cycles – and how we can shift the spotlight onto ourselves to uncover our own needs and feelings – a game changer!

Ali shares the core principle of Non-Violent Communication and gives us some powerful tips and strategies…

No surprise, Ali wraps up with some heartfelt sage advice!

You know… Ali is a gifted communicator, even with my background and training as a therapist, I learned so much and had some aha moments. If anything, please download Ali’s list of needs and feelings – you can be sure, I’ll be grabbing a copy! Links in the show notes!

I learned so much from Ali today… this might be an episode you bookmark, listen to again, and share with a friend😊

Listen here: www.katechampionauthor.com/podcast

A Letter from Your Mother

My Dear,

I know I wasn't the perfect mother for you. Maybe there are no perfect mothers, but you deserved one. You were born perfect, and you deserved unconditional love and support. I apologize that I didn't know how to give you that. I hadn't gotten what I needed in childhood, you see, and I was so wounded. I know that's no excuse. I wish I had had the support and courage to change for you. I so wish I could go back now and give you the childhood you deserved.

All those ways in which I was unable to be the mother you needed? They weren't about you. They had nothing to do with you. They were about me. I am so sorry I wasn't able to be the mother you deserved.

I'm afraid you concluded that maybe you weren't good enough. But you were more than enough, exactly as you were. You were so beautiful, so wonderful, so alive. Any mother would have been blessed to be your mother. And you are more than enough, right now, today.

This year for Mothers Day, please give yourself the gift of unconditional love that I wish I could have given you. There is nothing you need to do to deserve that love. It is there in your heart. You may need to get past some tears to find it, but your heart is full of love. Please bask in that love every single day for the rest of your life.

You are a treasure. Please treasure yourself as I wish I could have treasured you. You are a jewel. Let yourself shine.

with great love,
Your Mother

"What you do for yourself- any gesture of kindness, any gesture of gentleness, any gesture of honest and clear seeing toward yourself, will affect how you experience your world. In fact, it will transform how you experience the world."
Pema Chödrön

Edward Robert Hughes - Twilight Fantast, 1911.

Does your kind voice ever take the mic inside your head?

Mine just did, and it was such a relief.

My critical voice was getting mad at me for staying up so late when I’m so tired.

I heard that voice and felt sad, mad, irritated with myself.

Then I heard my kind voice say something like: you’re processing a lot and holding a lot on your own.

I heard that voice and felt my body relax and a quiet happiness arose, a sense of being loved.

So grateful I can end the day with self-kindness, self-love.

Have you ever noticed that shift happen in your mind?

I’ve done a terrible job promoting my most recent podcast episode (9) and it’s such a good one, IMHO!

I want it to reach more people but I’ve been swamped and my podcast promotion hasn’t been what it needs to be. 😬

Working on changing that. 💪🏼

In the meantime, if you’ve ever been turned off by Nonviolent Communication ( ) because it seems too awkward or unnatural or slow or formulaic, this episode is for you! Take a listen and please help me out by:

1. Rating and reviewing the show
2. Sharing the episode
3. Letting me know if you listened and what you think

Much love and appreciation,
Your newbie podcast host pal ☺️

‎Love Each Other Better: "But NVC is so unnatural." on Apple Podcasts ‎Show Love Each Other Better, Ep "But NVC is so unnatural." - Apr 26, 2024

New epsiode of the Love Each Other Better podcast is out! I’ll tell you more about it later, but didn’t want to wait to let you know 😁 Link in comments.