Confessions of an Alienated Father

Today of all days check on your Alienated Friends. Especially the Fathers. Many will sit alone in silence, pain, anger, depressed and possibly suicidal. Remember you're Not alone! We're in this together.

Well as if I haven't heard it before it's been slammed in my face again. Let me clarify, I self medicate using Ma*****na. I've been doing so over half of my life. I have valid reasons and illegal or legal it's safer than prescription pills. Bottom line my Youngest sons Mother smoked as well. It was never an issue until she began alienating me from our Special Needs son. NOW She wants to be a hypocrite and say I'd rather be high than see our son. This is an example or Narcissistic Alienation she's got to have CONTROL of the situation. She has to find fault to feel her own approval. She could care less that our Special Needs son who doesn't understand is heart broken or not. All she cares about is hurting me, but it doesn't hurt me, this isn't my first rodeo with Alienation. It just began a little over a year ago from her. Why?? She got married, now she wants to make her new a husband Daddy and he is all to Happy to accept and play the role. Helping her in a plot to Alienate and replace me in Our son's life. She's never been able to communicate any kind of schedule or even keep up with phone calls.. She'd rather blame me and make me the bad guy and our son the victim. Parental Alienation is Abuse and should be illegal. I pray my son knows I have NOT stopped loving him or even praying his Mother would Grow up . She's only Hurting Him.... Here is my son.. Timothie Rion. Has Cerebral Palsy and his Mother Nova Phipps Varner is a Liar and Alienator. Daddy Loves You Timothie.. Always have and Always will.

Possibly one of the hardest things I've ever suffered as an Alienated Father is having my own son tell me to stay out of his life. How can I begin to do that? I've never given up and I can't start quitting now. But how do I respect his freedom of choice. The Lies and Manipulation of Alienation is trauma that can not be repaired easily. You can't just apologize or wave a magic wand, to make things different or the way you want them to be. Its so hard and today is his 20th birthday.. I just want him to know I always cared.... I NEVER GAVE UP.. I DONT KNOW HOW...

Keep in mind my page is for everyone Male and Female if you're an Alienated parent or a victim of Alienation. Or even a Child that has suffered the abuse of Alienation you're welcome here. Thank you and remember you're not alone in this Together we can Win if we make our voices heard.

Finally broke 1K followers.. I'm so grateful for each of you! Because of you I know my Voice is being Heard! My Message is being Spread! We're not in this Alone and together We can Make a Difference! Don't be afraid to speak your Truth! Speak up on the pain Alienation has caused you or those you love. There's still so much that needs to change to end this Horrible Corruption being Forced on us all by Family Courts.. They're no longer serving the children they claim to protect! They're Creating Victims of the Families they've torn and kept apart.

Wish I'd never dropped my case, my Alienation would have been avoided. However I fell for the lies and also considered all My children had already suffered. Afraid of causing them more pain, or risking them hating me for my actions. I decided not to press charges or take them from their Mother. Regret isnt a word I'd use often however I'd be lieing if I said I dont.. 13 years later One of my Alienated children back in my life 3 to go . One day at a time.

My page isn't about my Faith or God it's about the Pain and separation issues brought on by Alienation. With that being said if you don't like I give my Problems to God and ask for or Offer Prayers, I could care less. I'm not here for your approval or to lead you to God. But Faith and choice has brought change in the matter to my life. What has doubt brought to yours other than a hateful attitude and weak mind? Regardless I am here for you as well yes even the Sinners as I am one myself all have a place in God's Creation. Don't like my Christian views? Don't Follow and don't Complain. That simple.

So I know I haven't been very active lately. It's not for lack of being Alienated my battle and struggle continues. I still have two sons from my First Marriage. Now my youngest son's Mother who got married and has all but replaced my DNA in our son. The really sad part is he has Cerebral Palsy. He knows me and absolutely Loves me. Her new Husband is Proud to play Daddy to My son. Acting as if I'd never been a part of his life. But that's far from the truth. I'm not Blaming him though it's my son's Mother's choice to Not communicate with me about our son. She would like to blame me saying it's My responsibility to call and make all the effort. However how do I go about that when I do not even know his schedule or the best times to call and arrange anything? She doesn't realize and want to admit that as his Parents, we have an obligation to communicate. That way he can have Both his Parents and a wonderful step father I will admit he's a good addition in His Life. I blame Her, if she would just communicate with me our Son wouldn't be getting Alienated from my life. It's very painful when your child has special needs knowing they don't understand anything about where Daddy went or why. Also knowing he loves and asks about me yet she refuses to communicate with me. I thought she was better than that, time is proving to show otherwise. But of course she'll say I'm the Deadbeat... I wish this world wasn't so Ugly and people in it still had better morals. This is Real Life Confession... It was Father's Day 2023 I'm patiently waiting for a text or video call from her so He can talk to me. Meanwhile what are they doing making everything about her New Hubby as "Daddy" As a Father that tries so hard to be there and be in their child's life how much more can you do when the mother of your child deems you irrelevant. It takes Five minutes to take time out to video chat.. I wasn't even worth that anymore.. Not to her .. This is Shameful Ugly Behavior... No Child deserves to have one of their Parents ripped from their Lives because the other married and moved on. This is a True Story of My experience with Alienation...

Happy New Year to all you bringing in 2024 home alone. You're NOT the ONLY One!!

If you were an alienated child, how old were you when you finally realized you were being lied to?

For me, it started when I was 22. There were several events, conversations and statements that peeled the layers of the lies back and revealed, not the truth, but that I was being lied to.

Update on rebuilding the relationship with my children.

It's been a month now and I'm still getting use to it. I am still praying that my other children will soon want to build relationships as well. The effects of Alienation aren't easily overcome. We're still tip toeing and side stepping a lot of subjects and questions. That doesn't change the fact that I'm still thrilled to be experiencing this. I know there are still so many Alienated parents that are praying for a miracle. Let me assure you don't Give Up. Hope is all we have and if we give it up. We can't blame anyone but ourselves. Be patient and kind is all I can tell you and don't pressure them to move faster than they're prepared to. Take each conversation as a Blessing and Cherish it as you would any memory. Because that's what you're making now. Memories for them to look back on to see for themselves, that you only ever cared about them and their well being. I'm happy to be able to share this with you all and hope that my journey can help someone with theirs.

It's still so New I am still learning how to deal with the new emotions of Happiness. Finally an Answer to my prayers and an opportunity I've waited for what seems a lifetime for is here. The Road to recovery and rebuilding the relationship we once had. There's still so much emotion and even some pain. But if you stay Positive and look to the future without dwelling on the past. This and so much more can be accomplished. It may not give back the years you've lost, but it gives you something so much better. A Future to build, rekindle, remember, and make so many more memories that you've always wanted... Don't hold your own misery against the opportunity that presents itself when it comes. Don't spoil it. Treasure it and Grow it.

Not every story has a happy ending some are stuck in living nightmares.. Some fighting to survive the struggle just to make through each day. That's my story. The one nobody wants to hear or to tell. Because it's just that painful... I wonder when my Nightmares will end....

Not entirely sure what I posted or why I'm receiving this but This Page may soon be locked because of this. Thanks for all the support. If I get locked out I don't know if I'll start another.

Why is it that so Many children are weaponized and used against their Parents? I'll never understand how anyone could or even would do something so vile just to cause Pain. They don't see beyond the Target and realize that same Pain extends to the Children themselves causing so Many more Problems.. When is it enough, how many Children have to suffer before Change is Implicated and Enforced?

I wish there were Words that described this pain in detail so well that People could feel it.. Then maybe more people would understand. There's not a Single person in the world I would wish it on either.

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