Emerge Therapy NZ - Ellie Fourie, Counselling Psychologist

Love the Brain Badge initiative, which is about empowering people with neurodiversity in the workplace.
Difference does not mean disability, but that everyone has different needs. Accommodating these needs means that everyone wins.

https://www.newsroom.co.nz/news/i-always-felt-like-an-alien-tackling-neurodiversity-in-the-workplace

'I always felt like an alien': Tackling neurodiversity in the workplace A group of neurodiversity advocates are launching a certification programme they hope will change the world for neurodiverse people at work.

Maternal mental health is important, the ripples of which can be widespread

We're going to teach those that don't have BPD, what it actually is. I am working on it, for you. Im actually thankful for the opportunity to talk about the disorder, openly, honestly, and compassionately. This isn't how most of us act, live, treat other's who are in any kind of relationship with us, or what actions/reactions we do.

Take the little wins, and give yourself credit for them too!

These were recently released and could provide help and support to those who need it.

is an issue which people have been raising in my What Matters Most caravan weekend meets. There is a good potential for digital mental health tools to complement local practitioner-based services and offer 24/7 support. New services Groov and HABITs Messenger will help with day-to-day mental wellbeing, as well as times of increased stress or distress.

Groov is designed to support people 19 years or older 👉 https://www.groovnow.com/

HABITs Messenger is aimed at our younger 12-18 year-olds 👉 https://appadvice.com/app/habits-messenger/1550723158

𝘗𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘦, 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘨𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦𝘯 𝘰𝘶𝘵𝘴𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘊𝘖𝘝𝘐𝘋-19 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴

Having a toolbox of strategies for communicating with abusive people is useful.

Something for us all to learn from and reflect on. I love the helpful strategies to overcome them.

All this month, we're focusing on The Four Horsemen. It's a foundational Gottman concept, and understanding the horsemen can have a huge impact on your interactions. If you want more information about each of the Four Horsemen, you can explore:

The Gottman Relationship Blog: https://bit.ly/3IFj94o

Our Marriage Minute Email: http://bit.ly/2qB8FAc

The Four Horsemen Webinar: https://bit.ly/3HEKm5W

So so accurate.... Is it the koala or something else going on??

“When a flower doesn’t bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower.” —Alexander Den Heijer

A lot of people get confused about what gaslighting is, and how to recognize it. Sometimes it's not until after the interaction that we can recognize these signs.

Introvert Doodles

Exactly this. This is the "fawn" or appease response - one of the lesser known threat responses.
The danger is in never respecting our own needs ,it can create resentment, anger, and ultimately lead to us feeling inauthentic and fake in our lives.

Food for thought...

Thanks to my friend Beating Trauma with Elisabeth Corey for posting 💜

Always a great way to start these conversations. Taking ownership for yourself and what you need is key.

"Gentle startups help couples to have conflict conversations.⁠
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Using a gentle start up improves the likelihood that the conversation will go in the right direction. It reduces both criticism and defensiveness. "

Words and graphic by Certified Gottman Therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT. Read more about improving your conflict conversations on the Gottman Relationship Blog: https://fal.cn/3mnOa

This is an absolute skill

This can sometimes be a really difficult conversation to have with parents but can also be an amazing opportunity for growth on both sides. This post outlines some excellent strategies and thoughts.

You don’t need to be in a relationship to live a life full of love ♥️

The balance of fierce and tender self-compassion, created by the amazing Johnine Byrne from See Your Words 🙏🏽

The image visually tells the story of the need to balance tender acceptance with fierce action in order to alleviate our suffering. When we do this, we have the sense of wholeness that spurs inner healing and outer change. 🦋

This is brilliant

Women's Refuge The Shielded Site provides support for victims of abuse, and it won’t stay in their browsing history for anyone else to find.

Beautifully said!

Positively Present

Be a cycle breaker!
Sometimes these things seem like just your dysfunctional family- but they can actually be about the unhealed trauma they are carrying.
This does not just mean abuse, but it can be emotional invalidation, people pleasing, inability to set boundaries for yourself, and many other such things.

Break the cycle. 💪
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Posted • Happy Tuesday. 🌻

I have been fascinated by Intergenerational Trauma and this idea that trauma can be passed down on through generations. I’ve been reading a lot about epigenetics and neuroplasticity recently.
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We all inherent DNA from our parents. The genes within our DNA control how our body works. This is Genetics. We can also inherit the effects of our parents lifestyle and exposures in the form of tags on our DNA which is called Epigenetic’s.
For example, your child will inherent your DNA, the effects of your lifestyle choices and exposures. They will also be exposed to different environmental exposures which lead changes to these epigenetic tags. The way we choose to live our life, influences our tags and improves our overall health. Epigenetic’s is studying how life factors affect the expression of those genes but it doesn’t do anything to your DNA.
By choosing to break the cycle and unhealthy patterns, you are choosing to influence you tags and improve your mental health. This will be passed down to your children.
If trauma can be passed down through generations, so can healing. Do not underestimate the impact you’re making.
Note: I didn’t get a chance to correct this on my original post as IG doesn’t let us make corrections without completely reposting, but given the Bangladesh Liberation War was in 1971 it would more appropriate to add it to the parent section of this infographic as opposed to the grandparents box. It will definitely be reflected in the future updated version of this post. 🌻


HT Brown Girl Trauma

Very true

.self.care.diaries

All of these things ❤

Gifts I would give you if I could.

Exactly

Most definitely. A lot of people feel massive pressure around this time of year - to be the "perfect" family, buy the presents. Remember the important things, and remember yourself somewhere in there

Always important to have your own plan, and to make those things you need available (e.g. could you go and do your hobby now, do you have a mindfulness track ready to play that you like?)

make sure you take care of yourself KangaCrew

Always important to have a plan!

make sure you take care of yourself KangaCrew

Wonderful advice

👋Hey there I’m Bryce .therapist I share about motherhood and everyday mental health. ⁣⁣

Today I'm re-sharing this collaboration I did with Dr Hina from where we share these parenting mindsets that can grow with us as our kids grow.⁣⁣

This post came about after Hina and I were reflecting on the similarities in developmetnal stages & milestones in the toddler/young child years & tween years.

So much of the independence seeking, big emotions, physical growth, explorations and finding-oneself is paralleled.

⁣⁣As a teen provider she shared these great thoughts to carry with us through all the stages. Hope you enjoy! ⁣⁣

Do you have a teen? How is it going? If not, are the tween/teen years something you’re looking forward to or nervous about? ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

Accurate