InnerDynamics Map

🧨 Anger frequently arises when our needs aren't met—need for boundaries, met expectations, emotional connection, physical safety, and more. It can be easier to express anger than to process and communicate other underlying feelings.

✨ Anger can also be a call-to-action, motivating us to make changes in our lives or in the world around us. It can inspire us to stand up for ourselves and others.

Reflect on this:
🟥 What unmet needs might your anger be advocating for?
🟥 What vulnerability are you afraid of revealing?
🟥 How can you create space to explore and address this emotion?

You sense that something in you is angry. Your muscles tighten, you can feel heat rising, and your jaw may clench.

Find ease by holding your middle finger until you feel a shift. Take your time. You're now self-regulating the meridians of liver and gall bladder.

While practising, see if you can keep this part company.

OPTIONAL reflective question when you feel calmer:
🍂 What boundary has been crossed that caused you anger?
🍂 What needs haven't been met or are challenging to communicate?
🍂 What deeper emotion might your anger be covering?

🙅‍♀️ Feeling tense, stuck, or overstimulated? Let go and let things be with the 4-7-8 breathing technique.

🍃 Know when to step back and pause. Things flow easier when we choose the path of least resistance and that often means mindfully choosing what is worth our inner resources.

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😮‍💨Take a few moments to remember a feeling of ease. This might be having your cup of coffee in the morning, listening to some music, walking in nature... let that feeling of ease come to you.

🍃This breathwork recenters your mind and heart. It's essential to give yourself moments to pause throughout the day. I hope you take this few moments for yourself.

🧡 Follow for more breathwork every Monday throughout this month.

The 5-second Breathing Technique helps with anxiety and stress almost instantly.

Let's pause and take a moment to breath as we wind down for the evening. Save this for whenever you need it.

🦋 Letting go of past identities might bring clarity as outdated self-conceptions are stripped away, revealing more about our true desires, motivations, and values.

Alternatively, as old layers are shed, one might uncover more complexities within ourselves, such as unresolved emotions, new questions about our direction in life, or emerging aspects of personality that hadn’t been considered before.

I wonder what you've learned in your journey? Do share your insights in the comments.

Major changes and trials in life bring a lot of existential questions about ourselves. This can feel overwhelming and lead to a sense of being lost. Inner Relationship Focusing (IRF) is a gentle practice that involves deep inner work that helps us create new maps to navigate life through uncertainty.

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I saw this trend on social media and thought it was a great way to share invaluable life lessons.

This month's reflection is about shedding old identities which happens whenever we start over. Hearing or reading advice from people who have made it through the other side can bring comfort to those in the middle of uncertainty. I hope this little space can do that. I'm curious to see your comments and looking forward to how this unfolds.

Being open and continuing to listen to what's alive in us is about acknowledging and accepting our feelings, whatever they may be. This approach encourages self-awareness and self-compassion, allowing space for emotions without immediate judgment or solutions. It's a process that can lead to deeper understanding and, ultimately, more effective responses to our own needs and situations.

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Lasting change happens when we accept ourselves as we are, including our feelings and emotions. In Focusing, you learn to be in the fullness of your inner world without judgment or rushing the need to change things. It's a powerful yet gentle practice for self-regulation, self-inquiry, and growth.

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Shift the way you approach major challenges and roadblocks

Schedule: 8 Thursdays, starting May 2nd, 2023
Time: 7 - 9 PM SGT
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What identity have you been keeping for far too long?
What would happen if you let go of it?
What could emerge once you set that part free?

Peeling away attachments to outworn identities involves a process of introspection, acceptance, and action. It's about recognizing the parts of your identity that no longer serve you and allowing yourself to let them go in favor of growth and new possibilities.

Tara Brach's book is a highly recommended reading for anyone going through big shifts in their life. The perspective she shared encourages us to embrace experiences without resistance or denial. It's acknowledging that our struggles, pain, and challenges do not signify that something is inherently wrong with us or our lives. Instead, these experiences are part of the human condition—unavoidable and often beyond our control.

It's a powerful invitation to break the cycle of endless dissatisfaction and self-criticism by accepting that "real life" is always changing and that there's profound strength and wisdom in embracing the present moment as it is, not as we wish it to be.

Share other book recommendations in the comments.

This is a commonly used chant for healing by invoking the blessings of the Medicine Buddha, known as Bhaisajyaguru. Beyond sickness, it is also chanted as a way to dissolve the root of suffering, which goes beyond the mental and physical.

What the mantra means:
May the many sentient beings who are sick be quickly freed from sickness.
And may all the sicknesses of beings Never arise again.

Take care of yourself.

Developing equanimity is a journey that often involves various practices and principles in mindfulness, meditation, and stoic philosophy. These practices help cultivate a balanced mind, one that is neither overly reactive to external events nor indifferent but maintains a serene engagement with life. It's about finding a middle ground where one can acknowledge one's emotions and the reality of situations without being overwhelmed.

The benefits of equanimity are profound. It allows for a greater resilience to stress, enhances decision-making abilities, and fosters a sense of peace and well-being, even in the face of adversity.

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Anxiety often carries important messages about our needs, boundaries, or unresolved issues. Spending time with the anxious part allows us to understand what it is trying to communicate, which can be critical for our personal growth and addressing underlying concerns.

By spending time with anxious parts and listening to them, we build trust within ourselves. Parts that feel neglected or pushed away can create more noise to be heard, but those that are listened to tend to soften and integrate more fully into our being, enhancing overall self-trust and coherence.

Making life-changing decisions is as much about knowing ourselves as it is about the choices we make. It's finding the harmony between gut and reason. The hope is that each step is guided by our instinctual understanding and reasoned judgment.

Whether we lean more towards intuition or rationalism, the key is to embrace the process with self-awareness, openness, and the courage to accept that, sometimes, the best decisions come from a place where the heart and the mind meet.

Focusing is such a reliable resource to have during these moments. Approaching a decision the focusing way helps gain a deeper understanding of unconscious concerns and needs. Only when we have a better idea what parts want to protect us from or want for us, can we come to decision that "feels right". Focusing also encourages us to be 'self in presence', which means being able to stay present with anything that arises without getting lost in it.

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As you accept accountability, be mindful of taking on the responsibility for other people's happiness. Self-blame is unhealthy and will burn you out.

While processing your situation, check in on yourself and ask:
Is this something that I had control over?
Did I act on someone else's expectations?
Does the other person recognize their responsibility?

Balance is key and practicing accountability is a lifelong process. Be firm yet compassionate with yourself through it all.