A Better You LLC

Summer is a unique opportunity for summer therapy sessions--at a discounted rate! Due to college student clients leaving the area for the summer, I have some openings in my schedule. I would be honored to work along side school-aged students with some extra free time this summer, or college students returning area for the summer. Contact me with any questions and to get started!

I’m all moved in to the new office and grateful to be sharing this space with such a passionate practitioner. Resilience Acupuncture & Wellness

Summer is a unique opportunity for summer therapy sessions--at a discounted rate! Due to college student clients leaving the area for the summer, I have some openings in my schedule. I would be honored to work along side school-aged students with some extra free time this summer, or college students returning to the area for the summer. Contact me with any questions and to get started!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/matt-stanley-bloomington-in/1062003

I have some spots which just opened up.

Matt Stanley, Counselor, Bloomington, IN, 47404 | Psychology Today Matt Stanley, Counselor, Bloomington, IN, 47404, (812) 432-1353, Life is hard. Sometimes we all need some support and guidance to get us to a healthier/happier place. I use a values based approach to help my clients take steps toward aligning their life with their true values. I believe that when ou...

I was reminded this morning to look at “bad” or “hard” times as “interesting” instead. This simple change in perception allows us to not only anticipate the good things that come from difficulty, but to also be grateful for the opportunity to grow. Replacing frustration with gratitude makes all the difference.

I had a few spots open up recently. If you or anyone you know are looking for a therapist in the Bloomington, IN area, hit me up!

Matt Stanley, Counselor, Bloomington, IN, 47404 | Psychology Today Matt Stanley, Counselor, Bloomington, IN, 47404, (812) 432-1353, Life is hard. Sometimes we all need some support and guidance to get us to a healthier/happier place. I use a values based approach to help my clients take steps toward aligning their life with their true values. I believe that when ou...

It’s easy to read this and pretend this does not happen often, but here is where it happens on the regular:

-In the family with secrets, where a scapegoat is finding their way out.

-In a church with secrets when survivors are speaking up about being abused.

-In a company with secrets when the employee has had enough.

Two factors: Secrets and scapegoats.

The secrets protect others who perpetuate the harm.

The scapegoat is being asked to remain the scapegoat, so no one else pays for their pain.

By reconciling, the scapegoat is offered a false sense of security with a slice of manipulation:

“This is what is best for you.”

“You don’t want to hurt everyone, do you?”

“If this is just between us, I will make sure you have what you need.”

There is a time, place, and process for how stories are told. And, with those, is the risk of the person telling their story, not finding people who believe and support them. This is often when enablers appear, intent to make it all go away. That intent is not for genuine reconciliation, but for the scapegoat to be silenced.

Reconciliation should be on the survivors’ terms.

Reconciliation does not heal trauma.

Reconciliation is when TWO parties have reflected and done work on themselves and feel their lives are more valuable with one other in them, than not.

Reconciliation should never be presented to a person who has escaped abuse.

Instead of “I’m just sorry you won’t give them another chance.” Be sorry, you weren’t there to protect the survivor from getting hurt to begin with.

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Via Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life

This is spot on! We do not have to dwell on thoughts that do not serve us well.

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