One Step Forward Counseling

Such a wholesome story

Thoughts?

This is a common one I hear from clients, a clinician who doesn't remember their story. How can we be more present for our clients? For me, it's keeping my caseload small and not scheduling too many appointments in one day.

How do we shift this?

Clinicians, how would you tackle this clinical issue? It's a common sentiment from Veterans & First Responder clients.

Clinicians, are you screening all clients for a history of military service? You should. Considering the high rate of su!c!de, this is important info for you to have.

I was informed today that Community Health Network has made the “strategic” decision to close their Family and Internal Medicine Care in Speedway by June 2025. I personally use this clinic and have referred many clients there. Care will be expanded to Westfield. I am very disappointed by this decision. The west side needs this medical support. I was told 20,000 people are served by this location.

If you wish to voice your opinons:

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Contact Community CEO, Bryan Mills
https://www.ecommunity.com/about/leadership/bryan-mills

"A repair attempt is any statement or action — verbal, physical, or otherwise — meant to diffuse negativity and keep a conflict from escalating out of control."-The Gottman's ⁠
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"They're (you're) a narcissist" is thrown around a lot lately. As a human, we all have the capacity to exhibit (and you probably have!) narcissistic or self-centered behavior but that doesn't mean you have NPD (narcissistic personality). Dr. Ramani has a lot of great videos about what narcissism actually is.

4 Types of Narcissism Leading psychologist and author of "Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship With a Narcissist" Dr. Ramani Durvasula walks us through the 4 typ...

I recently read Life Code and loved the parts about identifying toxic people or who he calls BAITERS (Backstabbers, Abusers, Imposters, Takers, Exploiters and Reckless people). If you have a gut feeling about someone, don't give them the benefit of the doubt. Listen and start collecting relevant data about their behavior (just observe them and keep your boundaries!). They're going to show you who they are pretty quick and then you know why you had that off feeling about them. Two things I notice about these types: as soon as I uphold a boundary with them, I am the problem and have mistreated them. These folks also give nuggets of inflated view of self that makes you go, hmm that's weird. They also sometimes brag about "taking someone down" or "making them pay" or "justified (in their mind) going off" on someone. People who are not toxic, don't do that stuff.

"Gaslighting is an insidious form of manipulation and psychological control. Victims of gaslighting are deliberately and systematically fed false information that leads them to question what they know to be true, often about themselves. They may end up doubting their memory, their perception, and even their sanity. Over time, a gaslighter’s manipulations can grow more complex and potent, making it increasingly difficult for the victim to see the truth." - From Psychology Today

To be honest, I’m not at all surprised by these findings and I noticed the same when required to do this in the military.

“Although individuals tend to report that debriefing is helpful short after it has been administered, the medium- and long-term effect of psychological debriefing on response to trauma is highly questionable. In fact, one meta-analysis found that psychological debriefing following a traumatic event was associated with increased post-traumatic symptoms relative to no treatment (Van Emmerik et al., 2002).”

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It's unfair to compare your past self's decisions to present self who has more maturity and skill.

I will return on May 24. I will not be checking emails, texts, calls or portal messages. Emergency: dial 988 or go to the ER.

It's always ok to try again when we show up poorly!⁠
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What do you think your role is in your blend?

What helped our blend was when I understood my role as a stepmom is not to be a mother to my stepkids or to parent them.

I am their Dad’s wife, an extension of him.
That’s what my role is.

-Lori Sims, Nacho Mama
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🔵SICK OF HEARING "YOU KNEW WHAT YOU WERE GETTING INTO"?
🔵FEELING GUILTY FOR NOT LOVING YOUR STEPKIDS LIKE YOUR OWN?
🔵ALWAYS FIGHTING WITH YOUR PARTNER ABOUT THEIR KIDS? OR THEIR EX?
🔵FEELING UNAPPRECIATED?
🔵READY TO THROW IN THE TOWEL?

NACHO KIDS ACADEMY HAS HIGHLY EFFECTIVE TOOLS TO SAVE YOUR SANITY, YOUR RELATIONSHIP, AND BUILD A BOND WITH YOUR STEPKIDS.

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This is one I have been learning!! Many boundaries are boundaries with yourself.

https://youtu.be/RIWfH3iEgXU

Iraq War Veterans, 20 Years Later: ‘I Don’t Know How to Explain the War to Myself’ | Op-Docs Months after the United States invaded Iraq in 2003, I began filming the U.S. Army’s 2nd Battalion, 3rd Field Artillery Regiment (known as the Gunners) in Ba...

I will be back on March 20. For emergencies, contact the National Crisis line at 988 or go to the ER.

Treat them like someone you love. Not someone you can’t stand.

Nacho Kids is what I frequently recommend to my clients. It is not simply "disengagement."

It’s also ok to pull out of the thing you didn’t really want to do. Try, “I know I agreed to this previously but I (changed my mind, can no longer participate, am unable to attend, etc).” You don’t have to explain further.

https://www.lauriebmorse.com/neurodiversecouplesworkshop.html

Your Relationship Roadmap: A Workshop Series for Neurodiverse Couples Your Relationship Roadmap is psychoeducational workshop series that brings neurodiverse couples together for education, conversation, and hands-on problem-solving . We engage in learning together in...

If you are in a blended family, this is an excellent book for stepmoms and their partners.

Stepmonster: A New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel, and Act the Way We Do Half of all women in the United States will live with or marry a man with children. And what woman with stepchildren has not—in order to defuse the often overwhelming challenges and anxieties she experiences—referred to herself as a “stepmonster”? What Hope Edelman’s book has done for moth...

I will be out of the office until January 3, 2022. If you have an emergency please dial 988 or go to the ER.