UCLA CARE Program

Interested in how you can show your support to a survivor? Join CARE for week 3 of Domestic Violence Awareness Month to learn about advocacy!

ntering the dating world, especially one dominated by online dating, as a survivor can be difficult. Here are a few tips to help you get started!

When was the last time you got tested for STIs? Have you talked to your partner about their STI status? Starting an open dialogue around STIs can increase trust and prioritize the health of you and your partner. Swipe for info about when and how to get tested and practical tips for talking to your partner!

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Slide 1 reads: Sexually transmitted infections (STI) & starting a dialogue with s*xual partners
Slide 2 reads:
What is STI Stigma?
• STI stigma is bias or shame related to STIs.
• While there is stigma around many diseases, the stigma surrounding STIs is particularly strong due to transmission being via s*xual contact.
• Society holds judgements and opinions on s*x & s*xual behavior which are imposed on these illnesses.

The CARE program will be hosting a processing space for international students on May 11th from 5 pm to 6 pm at Covel Commons South Bay Room. We aim to create a space for international students to examine cultural nuances in our responses to harm as well as strategies for healing from s*xual trauma. But the topics and activities are not limited to gender-based violence!

Sharing is always your choice, and we'd appreciate you for being present and listening to others as well.

Register for the processing space by scanning the QR code or from the direct link here: https://qfreeaccountssjc1.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_aVKNIqaBGwQjyF8

Processing Space For International Student
Date: May 11th, 2022​​​​​​​​
Time: 5 pm - 6 pm ​​​​​​​​
Location: Covel Commons South Bay Room

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Join UCLA CARE's first educational workshop specifically for international students on May 9th from 5 pm to 6 pm via Zoom! We will address gender-based violence, intersectionality, and resources/options for international students!

Register for the workshop by scanning the QR code or from the direct link here: https://qfreeaccountssjc1.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_aVKNIqaBGwQjyF8

Gender-Based Violence and International Students at UCLA
Date: May 9th, 2022​​​​​​​​
Time: 5 pm - 6 pm ​​​​​​​​
Location: Zoom


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EMDR is a common ther**eutic practice that survivors of s*xual harm and other traumatic events may benefit from. Swipe to learn more about what EMDR is and where you can find out if it might be beneficial to you!
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Slide 1:
Two hands with an eye between the pointer finger and thumb on each side. The background is a greenish blue. The text states “EMDR; Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing; Swipe to learn more about this ther**eutic healing practice —>, Content Warning; We will be discussing trauma and healing in this post. EMDR is used to support survivors of trauma but is not for everyone!”
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Eyes in each corner and stars lining the left and right side. The text states “EMDR IS PSYCHOTHERAPY THAT ENABLES PEOPLE TO HEAL FROM SYMPTOMS AND EMOTIONAL DISTRESS THAT ARE THE RESULT OF DISTURBING LIFE EXPERIENCES”
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A tan background with the title in a green box “The Science Behind It”. Next to this above an eye it states “The process of EMDR works to reprocess and desensitize the memories associated with a disturbing or traumatic event.” And below this is the quote: “Highly disturbing or traumatic events are stored differently than every day, moderately stressful or positive events. The emotions, images, physical sensations, and beliefs that occur in what could be an instant or more ongoing, get stored, linked in a non-cohesive, fragmented or dysfunctional way, and get stuck." - Clinical Professional Counselor”

Protest against the victim blaming and r**e culture myths by wearing denim tomorrow for Denim Day! Swipe to learn more about what Denim Day is -->
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Slide 1: An image of jeans in the background with the words: "April 27th is Denim Day, Swipe to learn why we wear denim tomorrow. Content Warning: Sexual assault "
Slide 2: Jeans in the background with the words: "Why we wear denim; In 1998 the Italian supreme court ruled that someone was not actually assaulted because they wore tight jeans. In a protest against the conviction, people in the Italian PARLIAMENT wore denim the following day.
We wear denim to stand against victim blaming and myths SURROUNDING s*xual harm. There is no justification for s*xual harm."

Sexual intimacy is often talked about as person-to-person contact. But the digital realm is no stranger to s*xual intimacy whether it be long-distance partnerships to risqué banter on various dating apps. Although the fundamental idea of consent remains the same, transitioning from in-person exchanges to various platforms in the digital world can add a new level of nuance. How can our understanding of consent help us navigate s*xual intimacy on the digital terrain? If you enjoy this graphic, be sure to check out our upcoming CARE cafe on this topic! Info can be found on the last slide.

Looking into consent in regards to giving personal information, age restrictions, non consensual s*xual videos and pictures being shared

Parties often create an environment that normalizes people harming others and themselves. In order to minimize the harm while still having fun it is important to look out for one another and hold each other accountable. Swipe to learn more about how we can do this!

Join us next week for an informational event designed to address navigating healthcare, legal, and campus systems as a survivor of s*xual assault, recognizing situations that violate your rights, and knowing resources available to advocate for your rights.
Snacks and treats will be provided!!

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Text reads: Do you know your rights? Most survivors don’t. UCLA CARE presents Survivors’ Rights, an event for Sexual Assault Awareness Month.
When: April 18th, 3:30pm - 4:30pm
Where: Student Activities Center Rooms 1 & 2
Who: This event is open to all UCLA students (survivors and allies alike)
Event Description: An informational event designed to address navigating healthcare, legal, and campus systems as a survivor of s*xual assault, recognizing situations that violate your rights, and knowing resources available to advocate for your rights.
Snacks and treats will be provided

Join CARE in Carnesale Malibu to learn about how to support survivors in the healthcare system next Tuesday at 6pm! This care cafe presented by care peer educators is a great opportunity for those entering the healthcare field to learn about trauma informed practices and trauma.

Work environments are difficult to manage. Power dynamics are even worse. Join CARE as we seek to better understand what it means to develop ourselves in a professional setting with our best interest and mental health at heart.

Join CARE advocates on Wednesdays from 12-1:30pm for Trauma Informed Yoga! ​​​​​​​​
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Yoga as Healing is a program series designed to support healing from trauma and invite reconnection to the body and spirit. The core of the program is creating a supportive space through the use of invitational language that emphasizes choice, empowerment, and safety. Each week of the program will center on a different theme, such as self-care, boundaries, mindfulness, trust, and strength. Collectively, the facilitator and participants will discuss elements of yoga philosophy, journal, create art, and engage in physical yoga practices. Participants are invited to show up as they are, bringing their full selves and identities into the space. ​​​​​​​​
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A person doing yoga with UCLA CARE PROGRAM written above them. Under the person it says "Trauma Informed Yoga". The background is yellow, blue and pink blobs.

All of your feelings are valid, beautiful and important 💕💕 Description: Affirmation reading "My feelings are valid". Blue background with mountains and grass. CARE Program logo on bottom left.

Join CARE and Rainbow services for a joint IG live this Thursday at 1pm to talk about power dynamics within domestic violence relationships!

Join us on feb 22 at 5-6pm PST for a discussion about what power dynamics are, how they can manifest in the workplace or other professional spaces, and how to navigate them! The zoom link can be found in the linktree in our bio!

Join CARE, BLSA, and WOC Collective for a peer-to-peer, roundtable discussion around anti-blackness, gender-based violence, survivorship, and advocacy. In conversations with experts in the field, this space will explore what misogynoir looks like systematically, culturally, and in our interpersonal relationships. Engage in discussion around how we can intervene as a community and advocate for survivor-centered, trauma-informed spaces on the individual level and within the criminal justice system.​​​​​​​​
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LINK TO REGISTER IN BIO​​​​​​​​
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A red background with the text "Presented by the Black Law Students Association, Women of Color Collective, and The Campus Assault Resources and Education Program, Misogynoir and Law; A discussion about anti-blackness, gender-based violence, survivorship and advocacy. ​​​​​​​​
Date: Thursday, February 24, 2022​​​​​​​​
Time: 6 pm - 7:30 pm ​​​​​​​​
Location: Kerkhoff Coffeehouse Patio​​​​​​​​
Guest Speakers and Refreshments"

Last Wednesday, the Asian American Studies Center anonymously received a flyer in the mail that contained hateful comments against the AAPI, Black, and LGBTQ communities. Although we recognize these communities’ continued resilience in the face of hatred, we also acknowledge the deep distress that communities of color experience when these incidents occur. The UCLA CARE Program firmly condemns the racist, violent, and harmful ideologies expressed in the flyer. We remain committed to social justice and the eradication of xenophobia, racism, homophobia, and all forms of oppression. We understand that we cannot effectively do our work in the fight to end s*xual and gender-based violence without also working to dismantle all systems of oppression and we stand with all survivors of violence.

UCLA Resources
CARE Advocates
[email protected]
(310) 206-2465
UCLA Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS)
310-825-0768
[email protected]
UCLA Evening Es**rt Services
(310) 794-WALK
[email protected]
UCLA Black Bruin Resource Center
[email protected]
UCLA LGBTQ Resource Center
[email protected]
Community Resources
Center for the Pacific Asian Family (CPAF)
Nurturingchange.org
1-800-339-3940
Santa Monica R**e Treatment Center
uclahealth.org/rtc
424-259-7208
Stop AAPI Hate
stopaapihate.org
Asian Mental Health Collective
asianmhc.org

Join CARE Peer Educators this Thursday at 5pm to talk about how to support survivors in the healthcare system! The zoom link will be in our bio

Through spoken word, dialogue, and community, join us as we celebrate and honor the life and legacy of extraordinary Black Feminists, Audre Lorde and Toni Morrison. . Bring your favorite poem, spoken word piece, song, or speech by these extraordinary writers or feel free to share your own! ​​​​​​​​
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**LINK TO REGISTER IN BIO**​​​​​​​​
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A black background with a picture Toni Morrison and Audre Lorde in the right corner. The text reads "In honor of Toni and Audre: A celebration of the lives of Toni Morrison and Audre Lorde. Register at carepgorram.ucla.edu/events, Date: February 18th, 2022, Time: 4-6pm, Location: BBRC. As well as the above caption

With Valentine's Day right around the corner come join CARE as we watch The Notebook and breakdown different relationship dynamics and boundary setting!

Having a loved one confide in you about their experiences with s*xual violence can be a very delicate and complicated conversation. Here are some tips on how you can support them and show you care during a vulnerable time

In celebration of Black History Month, CARE will be doing spotlights on Black activists working to eradicate s*xual harm. Our first spotlight is of Luz Marquez Bendow an Afro-Latina activist. Swipe to learn more about her!* 

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*A background with yellow and light red blocks. There is a picture of Benbow smiling. The captions read; “Black History Month Activist Spotlight: Luz Marquez Benbow , Afro-Latina survivor, advocate against s*xual harm and BLM activist. “We live in a world that blames and isolates survivors.* However, with unconditional love and support in sister/brotherhood we can change this reality for many survivors and leverage our collective power to end child s*xual abuse"

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This slide has a white box with words that say “Her Work: Benbow has been an activist against s*xual harm related issues for over 15 years. She founded the International Alianza de Mujeres Negrx ( ), worked ojn policies for communities of color in the Violence Against Women Act, was a committee member for the National Center on Criminal Justice and Disability with the Arc's National Branch, and was the Associate Director and Co-Founder of the National Organizaiton of sisters of Color Ending Sexual Assault (SCESA). She also co-founded Troy4BlackLives. Currently, she works as a Senior Training and Development Specialist at The Act of Rensselaer helping connect young adults with disabilities to their community resources.” There is a picture of her smiling in the bottom right corner.

Join CARE throughout the quarter for our CARE Peer Educator Community Circles! Register online at careprogram.ucla.edu

Join us for our upcoming community circle as we discuss strategies for feeling at home within yourself!

Boundaries can sometimes get a bad rep. While boundaries do require assertiveness, they also provide clarity and understanding about the kind of treatment you deserve – and that shows compassion to yourself! 

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Slide 1 reads, “Boundaries can be an act of compassion to yourself and others.” 
Slide 2 reads, “Setting boundaries ≠ witholding or punishing. Boundaries allow you... 
• to pursue other opportunities 
• to find new joys 
• to let go of hurts & burdens... and you’re giving all of these things to the person you’re setting the boundary with too!!”
Slide 3 reads, “Do not feel guilty for setting boundaries. Many people feel guilty for setting boundaries with people who “still love them” or used to love them. However, setting boundaries is not an act of harm, but rather an act of self-care. Boundaries give space and time to you and others to find clarity and understand priorities. (This is especially true if you decide to stop contact or block someone!)
Slide 4 reads, “How to set boundaries: 
• Develop an understanding of your values and rights. (Examples include: the right to respect, the right to make your needs as important as the needs of others, the right to say no without feeling guilty)
• Be assertive and clear. (Remember: clear is kind, unclear is unkind)
• Trust your gut. (Ask yourself: Do I actually want to do this thing or am I scared of disappointing or upsetting someone?)
• Say no when you don’t want to do something. (If something is making you uncomfortable, anxious or scared, that might be an area where you need a boundary.)
Slide 5 reads, “Block, Block, Block: Blocking is often seen as a ‘harsh’ boundary, and many people feel guilt or shame about blocking someone. However, blocking or ending communication is not not an act of harm and does not require justification to the person you are blocking. When someone repeatedly violates boundaries, it is an indication that communication may need to stop. In some situations (particularly abusive ones), blocking may be the only way protect your boundaries.”

Boundaries can sometimes get a bad rep. While boundaries do require assertiveness, they also provide clarity and understanding about the kind of treatment you deserve – and that shows compassion to yourself! 

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