Sheila Hudson

To those who are celebrating, Happy Mother's Day. To those who are not, Happy May 12th. And to those who are struggling, you are seen.

Opinion: Mother’s Day is painful for many of my clients. Here’s how we all can help. “Words of gratitude, cards, flowers and gifts on one special day are wonderful, however, what many women want is practical support in everyday life.”

I've been thinking a lot about self-compassion lately. Hoping you will think about it too.

The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self Compassion: Kristin Neff at TEDxCentennialParkWomen In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TED...

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I appreciate Jimmy on Relationships ability to present interpersonal concepts in a really concrete way. I'm really interested to see what he and the Gottman's are cooking up.

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My boundaries are about my behavior.

As a principal, I utilized several of these.

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I just happened on this tedTalk today. I think it is an amazing perspective on the choices we can make in our interactions with other. I hope it is helpful to you.

Own Your Behaviours, Master Your Communication, Determine Your Success | Louise Evans | TEDxGenova This speech is a call to action. We spend about eighty percent of our day at work, the rest is at home. If we have a bad day at work we are likely to take th...

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I really like this. The idea of 'finding yourself' troubles me because it implies that 'you' are static. You aren't...none of us are. We are always changing...evolving...and hopefully having some say in the direction that evolution takes.

And…when you learn manage your emotions you have huge capacity to help your kid learn to self-regulate.

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Boundaries...they don't keep you from being kind to others. They allow you to also be kind to yourself.

There is lots of truth to this.

No one makes it through life without experiencing grief.

I love these suggestions for providing little ones with direction instead of correction. Guiding children with ideas about what TO DO instead of focusing on what NOT TO DO is far more effective both in the moment and in the long term by equipping their own inner guidance systems with tools they can use in the future and build on over time. Offering guidance instead of criticism and correction also helps to avoid inadvertently triggering defensiveness and resistance and keeps our connection intact and our lines of communication open and available.💞
-L.R.Knost

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Fighting a rare, incurable cancer, but I'm still here!💞 L.R.

So very true!

What may be below the surface of relationship conflict.

What we often see or share:

• Behavior - This is what we say or the actions that we take when we’re in conflict. It’s more visible and is often based on reactive emotions.

• Perception/story - This is the narrative that emerges for us in response to what’s happening in the moment. Here are some examples:

✨ “My partner is being selfish.”
✨ “My partner doesn’t care about me.”
✨ “My partner thinks my I’m being unreasonable.”

• Reactive emotion (aka secondary emotion) - This is often an emotion about or in response to our more core emotion. Examples include jealousy, anger (which can also be a primary emotion depending on context), resentment, disappointment, frustration, etc.

What we may not often see or share:

• Core emotion (aka primary emotion) - This is the emotion behind the reactive emotion. Examples include fear, sadness, hurt, loneliness, anger (which can also be a reactive emotion depending on context), etc.

• Unmet attachment need - This is often the core of the conflict. It’s the need behind behaviors and emotions. Examples include:

✨ I need to know that I matter to you.
✨ I need to know that I’m safe with you.
✨ I need to know that you care about me.
✨ I need to feel connected to you.
✨ I need to feel heard.

This is based on Emotion Focused Couples Therapy by Dr. Sue Johnson. If you want to learn more about EFT, I recommend reading the book, Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson.

Please note, this post is not referencing situations of abuse or domestic violence.