Maggie Claydon Counselling

Calling all People-Pleasers out there...check out the latest episode of the Wild Soul Psychology Podcast on people-pleasing. And make sure to "follow" to not miss an episode. Enjoy!

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This is pretty great! I would switch 'walk' and 'breathe' though. When you're burnt out, just rest and breathe. And when you're anxious, move you lower body to process the extra energy. I would also add for sadness, "cry"...it's a great way to decrease cortisol and process loss. Great list of ideas for regulating :)

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My first podcast episode: Burnout

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For a long time I wore the patch of people pleaser. I told the story that I “hated letting people down” and “wanted to make people happy” but the reality is it was about me.

I wanted to make people happy SO I DIDN’T FEEL GUILTY.

I don’t want to say no SO I DON’T FEEL AWFUL AFTERWARDS.

I want to be there because if I’m not I’LL HAVE PEOPLE TALKING NEGATIVELY ABOUT ME.

At the end of the day people pleasing is about ourselves.

And not wanting to feel uncomfortable emotions.

In working with people there’s always a “ah ha” moment when someone understands that they’re not really pleasing— they’re controlling. They’re trying to control how someone perceives them. And how they feel.

Once you understand this, you can start breaking the pattern.

The truth is: adults are capable of being disappointed. And you aren’t here to please everyone around you. You’re here to be authentically yourself. That’s how you have resentment- free relationships

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The trick about understanding... 💭

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How does Judgment serve us?
By Maggie Claydon

There is a primal part of us that judges. This is not a good or bad part of us, simply an essential part. There is no way to dismantle this part from our primitive cognitive circuits. However, we can use this to our individual and collective advantage. Historically, this part of us kept us alive, it kept us safe. We had to make fast and decisive choices to survive. Speed of mind and body empowered us. Certainty and shrewdness gave us strength of character and power of will. Yet, there is a type of judgment in our current social landscape that has bled into self-righteousness. This is the judgement that shames and moralizes. This is the voice that is entitled and authoritative. These are the words that compare and separate us. This judgment is destructive, and doesn’t serve us without the counterpart of creation. There is another type of judgement, which is closer to discernment. This is the voice which shares and connects us. These are the choices which understand what works and what doesn’t for us collectively. This is force of enlightenment and creativity. This is the cultivation of wisdom and insight. This is where novelty of ideas and creation of systematic change will be born from. While it may be necessary to burn away certain beliefs, practices or systems that no longer serve us as a community, the collective creation of something that empowers us and inspires us and a vision of something better is fundamentally how practicing our power of discerning (judgment) can take us somewhere new!

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In my last spiritual journey, my intention was to explore the feeling and expression of anger. I have seen in myself and many others, how distorted anger can become. Sometimes we suppress our anger (and it comes out covertly) and sometimes we take our anger out on others with aggression. Yet, there is a mindful balance with anger that is essential to find, whereby we are feeling it fully and expressing it whole-heartedly. The first step can be tapping into what it actually feels like in our body and understanding it’s function to protect and enliven us. There is beauty in anger if we are willing to find it.

A love letter from anger
By Maggie Claydon

I am fiery and bold
I am blood pumping and clenched fists
I am the internal fight within all of us.
I am roaring passion and expanding intensity
I am the heat rising in your throat.
I am the snarl and the growl
I am the wolf, I am the lion
I am the gritted teeth and the downcast brow
At times, I see blood red.
I am the perceiver of threat and the helper of survival
I desire engagement through action and voice
I am the leaning in
I am the catalyst forward.
I am caring and full of heart
I am more vulnerable than at first glance.
I am the protector from pain and fear
I am the guardian of boundaries
I am the speaker of needs.
I command attention
And I ensure being seen and heard.
I will not be unfairly controlled or forcefully suppressed, not for long
I will bubble up with explosion, when not appreciated
I will not be contained.
I reclaim power when feeling powerless
I am the lion’s breath
I am a force of nature.
I am red fury and unbridled rage
I am fierce compassion.
I am the yearning to sing out, to roar and to howl at the moon
I am the Queen of Fire.

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This image really spoke to me as a story of our times. Mental health issues are more pervasive than ever, and two huge reasons why are the detachment from nature and the level of isolation/loneliness that is grossly normalized in our independent-minded, connection-deprived, capitalist culture. I imagine the pandemic has actually served as the best loneliness experiment ever conducted! Loneliness is the BIGGEST predictor of mental and physical health issues as well as early mortality. If you have felt lonely/disconnected/isolated in the last two years, you are certainly not alone (ironically enough), and if you have experienced more anxiety, depression or emotional dysregulation on any level - that is a completely normal response to isolation! We are social creatures who have lived in tribes most of our existence, and we are meant to be talking, singing, playing, dancing, and laughing with each other. We are meant to be in the trees and in the ocean, connecting to ourselves, each other and this beautiful earth we share. With the world opening up again - join a social group or activity of some kind, and get out into the world more - your mind, body and spirit will thank you - and you will be shocked at how fast you bounce back once you feel a sense of connection again.

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Some interesting articles for women!
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Blood + Milk by Cora Blood and Milk is a community and resource for the awakening woman wishing to live an authentic lifestyle.

Great inforgrahic from NICABM.
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